Tenaj Posted December 2, 2021 Share Posted December 2, 2021 Received word yesterday that my younger brother (53) has been hospitalized with Covid. He and his wife are unvaccinated. His wife and adult son who still lives at home were the first to get sick early last week. I found out that my brother visited my elderly parents on Wednesday knowing that two people in his house had Covid! I'm trying not to be furious. And my mom's explanation when I expressed horror was, "oh, he doesn't have Covid, just a bad cold". His adult daughter who lives at home also has Covid but is fully vaccinated (she works at the hospital) and has a mild case. I'm waiting for an update this morning. When they headed to the ER his oxygen stats were at 84. At least my mom and dad were boostered about two weeks ago. Hopefully that was enough to protect them from the exposure. I'm so full of mixed feelings. . 73 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
freesia Posted December 2, 2021 Share Posted December 2, 2021 I’m so sorry. What a mess! I also hope your parents are fine. So close to the booster they are likely we’ll covered. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MEmama Posted December 2, 2021 Share Posted December 2, 2021 I’m so sorry, that sounds both scary and maddening. 😞 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Spryte Posted December 2, 2021 Share Posted December 2, 2021 I’m so sorry. I hope he improves quickly, and that your parents stay negative. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Faith-manor Posted December 2, 2021 Share Posted December 2, 2021 I am so very sorry! This is just so discouraging. Hugs! 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kassia Posted December 2, 2021 Share Posted December 2, 2021 I am very sorry about him being so sick and also the concern over your parents. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CTVKath Posted December 2, 2021 Share Posted December 2, 2021 Yikes. I'm sorry and hope everyone recovers especially your brother and that your parents don't get it. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BlsdMama Posted December 2, 2021 Share Posted December 2, 2021 I’m so sorry. 😞 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SKL Posted December 2, 2021 Share Posted December 2, 2021 Praying for your family. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Amethyst Posted December 2, 2021 Share Posted December 2, 2021 Oh my! So sorry to hear this. I hope he recovers quickly, and that your parents vaccines are enough to protect them. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Corraleno Posted December 2, 2021 Share Posted December 2, 2021 I'm so sorry! I hope everyone recovers quickly. (((hugs))) 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Scarlett Posted December 2, 2021 Share Posted December 2, 2021 I am so sorry. It is doubly upsetting when someone you want to be angry with is ill! Mixed emotions for sure. 6 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MooCow Posted December 2, 2021 Share Posted December 2, 2021 I'm very sorry and I pray he gets better soon! 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
desertflower Posted December 2, 2021 Share Posted December 2, 2021 I’m so sorry. Sending hugs and prayers. Hope he feels better. Glad your parents were boosted. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lady Florida. Posted December 2, 2021 Share Posted December 2, 2021 Oh I'm so sorry. I hope he recovers quickly and that he didn't pass it on to your parents. I'm sure you're glad they're vaccinated and boosted. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kbutton Posted December 2, 2021 Share Posted December 2, 2021 I am so sorry, and mixed feelings are utterly appropriate right now! I would try to have a conversation with your parents about monoclonal antibodies. You have to get them before you require oxygen. Needing oxygen makes you ineligible. You want their path to antibodies to be smooth and uncomplicated should the need arise. What a mess! I am glad they were boostered recently! 9 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pam in CT Posted December 2, 2021 Share Posted December 2, 2021 I'm so sorry. I hope they all recover. I'm glad your parents were recently boosted. It's totally understandable and OK to have mixed feelings. Echoing @kbutton re discussing monoclonal antibody protocols with your parents. If they experience even a teeny tiny hint of something that might be a symptom, they should test ASAP. If testing is difficult to obtain or results are slow in returning in their area, they should discuss with their doctor strategies including showing up at the ER with their teeny-tiny symptoms along with their known exposure to a family now known to be infected. 11 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tenaj Posted December 2, 2021 Author Share Posted December 2, 2021 30 minutes ago, kbutton said: I am so sorry, and mixed feelings are utterly appropriate right now! I would try to have a conversation with your parents about monoclonal antibodies. You have to get them before you require oxygen. Needing oxygen makes you ineligible. You want their path to antibodies to be smooth and uncomplicated should the need arise. What a mess! I am glad they were boostered recently! My mom's Dr. Is on top of this and has told mom repeatedly that they should contact her immediately if they have any symptoms. My mom just let me know that they had to increase my brother's oxygen from 2 to 6. I not sure what that means exactly but know it's not good. 21 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kbutton Posted December 2, 2021 Share Posted December 2, 2021 11 minutes ago, Tenaj said: My mom's Dr. Is on top of this and has told mom repeatedly that they should contact her immediately if they have any symptoms. My mom just let me know that they had to increase my brother's oxygen from 2 to 6. I not sure what that means exactly but know it's not good. I am glad your mom's doctor has this in hand! That's great! Things can go either way with this, but it's not good news. Hopefully they are watching for pulmonary embolism too (common complication). It's so, so hard to watch and not know what to feel except for rage that it doesn't have to be this way and that people we love are forcing us to watch it happen. There just isn't a nice way to put it. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
WildflowerMom Posted December 2, 2021 Share Posted December 2, 2021 I'm so sorry, tenaj! Sending prayers and hugs! 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pam in CT Posted December 2, 2021 Share Posted December 2, 2021 Holding your brother in the light. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Catwoman Posted December 2, 2021 Share Posted December 2, 2021 I'm so sorry, Tenaj, and I absolutely understand your mixed feelings! Praying for your brother, your parents, and you and your whole family as you go through this. Many hugs!!! 😞 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Melissa in Australia Posted December 2, 2021 Share Posted December 2, 2021 Hugs 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ausmumof3 Posted December 2, 2021 Share Posted December 2, 2021 I’m sorry 😞. I hope he pulls through and your parents stay clear. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
melmichigan Posted December 2, 2021 Share Posted December 2, 2021 i am sorry. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ditto Posted December 3, 2021 Share Posted December 3, 2021 I'm so sorry. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JustEm Posted December 3, 2021 Share Posted December 3, 2021 Sorry to hear that. Hope he pulls through and everyone else stays healthy 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Junie Posted December 3, 2021 Share Posted December 3, 2021 Hugs and prayers. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ottakee Posted December 3, 2021 Share Posted December 3, 2021 Sorry to hear that. Glad your parents doctor is on top of stuff in case they develop symptoms. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TravelingChris Posted December 3, 2021 Share Posted December 3, 2021 Praying for your family. And yes, you can be sad, frustrated, angry, etc all at the same time. Hugs for you, Tenaj. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tenaj Posted December 3, 2021 Author Share Posted December 3, 2021 Update:. He may be heading home today with Oxygen. He is texting me and feels a lot better. He's been getting Remesdivir but has decided no more because he struggles to breath after those doses. 33 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
WildflowerMom Posted December 3, 2021 Share Posted December 3, 2021 Good news!! I hope he can get home and rest and recover quickly! How is your mom? 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pam in CT Posted December 3, 2021 Share Posted December 3, 2021 That is great. Thanks for the update. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tenaj Posted December 3, 2021 Author Share Posted December 3, 2021 37 minutes ago, WildflowerMom said: Good news!! I hope he can get home and rest and recover quickly! How is your mom? So far so good 🙂 13 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tenaj Posted December 4, 2021 Author Share Posted December 4, 2021 (edited) Another update: Yesterday they tested him for going home with oxygen so they left him sitting in a chair in just the hospital gown with oxygen but his call button was nowhere near him and they left him there for two hours with no one coming back in the room. My sister-in-law finally called the nurses desk to alert them but by that time he was chilled and having a hard time breathing again which set him back (that was yesterday morning). They tried again this morning but every time they get him up and moving his oxygen levels drop too far so they are making him stay put until at least Monday. Thanks for all who are praying. This has also caused a rift in the family because of a very vocal aunt who basically called him stupid (on facebook) for not getting the vaccine. She deleted it eventually but everyone saw it. Maybe she's right and I'm wrong, but I tend to think that out of courtesy I don't need to say publicly every thought that goes through my head. Both my aunt and my sister-in-law are trying to draw people into sides over it and even though I agree with the aunt, I don't agree with the timing and public nature of it. Grrrr . . . . its just one more thing that's happening because of stupid Covid . . .there I will happily call the virus all kinds of names! Edited December 4, 2021 by Tenaj 1 29 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Catwoman Posted December 4, 2021 Share Posted December 4, 2021 Ugh! I was hoping you were updating us to tell us he was home! On the other hand, if he's still having trouble breathing, the extra time in the hospital may turn out to be a blessing. Your aunt has terrible timing! Now was NOT the time to criticize your brother!!! 10 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pam in CT Posted December 4, 2021 Share Posted December 4, 2021 (( Tenaj )) It is not necessary to express every fleeting thought that scampers across our minds. Some thoughts better deserve expression, than others. When someone is hospitalized = an excellent time to exercise restraint. I'm sorry for all that your family is enduring, and hoping your brother stabilizes enough to return home soon. 7 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MercyA Posted December 4, 2021 Share Posted December 4, 2021 Oh my goodness, I am so sorry! Praying here. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kbutton Posted December 5, 2021 Share Posted December 5, 2021 17 hours ago, Tenaj said: Both my aunt and my sister-in-law are trying to draw people into sides over it and even though I agree with the aunt, I don't agree with the timing and public nature of it. I have very strong feelings about vaccines and about people who make us watch them sicken and sometimes die, but I can't imagine using it as a wedge in the family, especially while someone is sick. I hope he improves. I am glad they are keeping him a little longer--it seemed kind of soon to have him go home. 7 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Spryte Posted December 5, 2021 Share Posted December 5, 2021 I’m so sorry he’s still unwell, but glad he is staying where they can best care for his needs. I, too, am strongly pro-vaccine but when someone is ill — it’s not the time to call them out on being unvaccinated. I hope he improves quickly, and that things in your family settle down soon. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MEmama Posted December 5, 2021 Share Posted December 5, 2021 I’m hoping you get better news soon. ((Hugs)) 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MooCow Posted December 5, 2021 Share Posted December 5, 2021 Sorry about all the fb drama, I'm keeping him in my prayers. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
melmichigan Posted December 5, 2021 Share Posted December 5, 2021 I hope he improves and is able to go home soon. I'm sorry for the family drama. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tenaj Posted December 5, 2021 Author Share Posted December 5, 2021 And to add to the saga:. My mom fell last night. Fractured her C2 vertebrae, fractured her nose, stitches on her face. My dad wasn't home at the time so she was down for two hours before he found her. Her cell phone was being charged and she couldn't reach it. So she and my brother are now in the same hospital! She's in a neck brace for at least 12 weeks but because of her mobility issues we are hoping they send her to a rehab/ nursing home instead of back home. My dad turns 88 next week - I don't think he can handle this by himself. We shall see. No word on my brother because my sil is refusing to answer any questions about his condition. 🙁 50 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Eos Posted December 5, 2021 Share Posted December 5, 2021 11 minutes ago, Tenaj said: And to add to the saga So sorry for all this, sending you peaceful navigation. 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KSera Posted December 5, 2021 Share Posted December 5, 2021 Oh no! I'm so sorry about your mom. That sounds awful and what difficult timing. I hope they get her into a good placement where she is well cared for and that she heals up quickly. I've been considering some kind of fall alert thing for my mom, and your post reminds me I should get on that. 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JennyD Posted December 5, 2021 Share Posted December 5, 2021 52 minutes ago, Tenaj said: And to add to the saga:. My mom fell last night. Fractured her C2 vertebrae, fractured her nose, stitches on her face. My dad wasn't home at the time so she was down for two hours before he found her. Her cell phone was being charged and she couldn't reach it. So she and my brother are now in the same hospital! She's in a neck brace for at least 12 weeks but because of her mobility issues we are hoping they send her to a rehab/ nursing home instead of back home. My dad turns 88 next week - I don't think he can handle this by himself. We shall see. No word on my brother because my sil is refusing to answer any questions about his condition. 🙁 Oh good heavens, OP, what a nightmare of a week your family is having. I hope that your mom and your brother both make full recoveries very soon. 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Catwoman Posted December 5, 2021 Share Posted December 5, 2021 I’m so sorry to hear about your mom!!! 😞 And what’s up with your SIL? Is she a Covid denier or something? I think it’s awful that she isn’t forthcoming with information about your brother's condition! 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tenaj Posted December 6, 2021 Author Share Posted December 6, 2021 2 hours ago, Catwoman said: I’m so sorry to hear about your mom!!! 😞 And what’s up with your SIL? Is she a Covid denier or something? I think it’s awful that she isn’t forthcoming with information about your brother's condition! I think she is so mad at our aunt that she just isn't responding to anyone at the moment. I directly texted my brother a few minutes ago. He says he is doing ok, just needs to get his lungs to behave so he can get out of there. He said, "I'm two floors below mom. We're taking over the place - lol!". I was glad he had the energy to type and the energy to have some humor about the situation 🙂 36 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tenaj Posted December 7, 2021 Author Share Posted December 7, 2021 So, my brother is still in the hospital! Eight days so far. He cannot keep his oxygen levels at an acceptable level for discharge even with oxygen going home with him. Mom still hospitalized also. She can't swallow for some reason so there is talk of a feeding tube 🙁. Funny story:. My mom managed to drink about a fourth of a cup of tomato soup through a straw last night and my brother (the one in the same hospital) called during that time. He was jealous because he had been requesting tomato soup all last week and the hospital was out of it. He finally gave up and then finds my mom drinking tomato soup. He is almost directly below her room, two floors away. He thought maybe she could pour her leftovers out the window and he could catch them. 🤣. At least he still has his sense of humor! 13 12 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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