Jump to content

Menu
Giving You and Your Child a Road Map to the Best Possible Education
The Well-Trained Mind Community

Tackling Wednesday Together

mom31257

By mom31257,
in The Chat Board

 Share

Recommended Posts

mom31257

mom31257

Posted
Posted (edited)

Good morning!

Dh is off to school with his breakfast and lunch in tow. 

  • food for me and dinner out?
  • 5 Zoom sessions today
  • prep for classes tomorrow
  • church tonight
  • laundry of any items to take on trips
  • pack things for tomorrow's trip (going to my older sister's house for one night)
  • watch something and relax

 

Edited by mom31257
  • Like 2
ScoutTN

ScoutTN

Posted
Posted (edited)

I do feel better after a good night’s sleep.

Leaving momentarily to take Ds to school, get milk and bagels.

Blood sugar numbers consistently too high in the mornings. 
 

Later:

shower ✔️ 

Tutor one student ✔️ 

Prep lesson for tonight

piano ✔️ 

Church

 

 

Edited by ScoutTN
  • Like 2
SKL

SKL

Posted
Posted

Howdie, happy Wednesday!

It's gonna be a really busy one, and I hope a good kind of busy only!

I'm worried about how the pup is going to handle this day.  He does not like people coming to our house, even to walk down our sidewalk.  He even gets mad at squirrels and cats who dare to do this.  Today, we have 2 garbage trucks, the lawn guys, and the maids all coming (at different times), in addition to whatever random people walk around the block, visit our neighbors, deliver packages, etc.  We've begun training with a shock collar, and I've had to zap him two or three times already today.  I hate doing it.  But he has to learn not to freak out on people we say are OK.

Done:

  • Got a good night's sleep, which was really needed!  Yay!
  • Took out the garbage.
  • Got the kids to school on time, yay!
  • Pup duty / training.
  • Some house cleaning, still more to do.
  • Second laundry load is in the washer.
  • A little bit of client work.
  • Caught up on emails, news, calendar, social media, and electronic school stuff.

To do:

  • Lots more client work.
  • Lots more house cleaning, especially kitchen and 3 bedrooms.
  • Several more loads of laundry.
  • Take the dog to the park for the beginning part of the house cleaning.
  • Pick kids up from band practice.
  • Make the kids do some chores/homework and eat between band & CERT class.
  • CERT class with the kids.
  • Evening pup duty.
  • Whatever else gets done.
  • Like 3
mom31257

mom31257

Posted
  • Author
Posted

@MooCow, I'm so very sorry!! I pray you stay safe and get home safe, too. Hopefully things will be better soon. 

@ScoutTN, praying for your numbers and your mom!

@SKL, Sorry you are having to use the collar and I pray he responds well and gets better about visitors.

All my Zoom sessions are done and went well.

  • Like 1
  • Thanks 1
ScoutTN

ScoutTN

Posted
Posted

Texts, calls, and emails trying to get care for my mom. Hopefully done with that for today.

Children’s ministry is cancelled for tonight due to weather, so I will just take my kids for youth group and eat dinner there. Not really up for sitting in a Bible study tonight. 

Did several AHG things before we left for piano. 

  • Like 2
TheReader

TheReader

Posted
Posted

MooCow, praying for you guys. 

Had class today -- that went well; we did our evacuation drill for the Weds crew, so that was good. Done - yay!

Came home, napped briefly.  

Checked on kids -- one was up, but not doing school (remedied); one was napping (up now, doing well) (third had come home with me)

Checked on laundry -- oops. Left sheets in the washer overnight. Thankfully, we are in the rare and brief part of year when that can happen and not mildew the sheets. Whew. Folded towels, put sheets in the dryer, came downstairs. Realized I forgot to turn on the dryer. Went back up and remedied that. 

Answered a text from a Kindergarten mom that came in during class; needs help with reading. Many texts and a detailed email later, I'm printing up some materials for her to use and an alternate schedule/adjusted schedule to follow. I think that is done with and went well. 

So now it's 5:30, I've been home since 1:30, and I'm just now finally done. Whew. Going to eat dinner (DH made bean soup), then hopefully get time to veg out while he takes DS to church. 

 

  • Like 1
  • Thanks 1
ScoutTN

ScoutTN

Posted
Posted (edited)

@MooCow Are you home yet?

Yummy salad for dinner. Ended up in the Bible study bc Dh and some friends were going.

eta: Home now. About to make some tea and read. Raining again. Ugh.

Edited by ScoutTN
  • Thanks 1
SKL

SKL

Posted
Posted

Well I did all the things in preparation for the maids to come, including taking the pup to the park so they could get started working without him being all frantic and barky.

But the maids never showed up.

Apparently another customer had a need they deemed more urgent, so they went to the other house.  It didn't occur to them to let us know.

Sorry but the individual responsible for this is ... well I don't know what word to use.  This is a longstanding pattern.  I guess WTM folks would say she has extremely poor executive function.  That's being kind about it.

So supposedly the maids are coming Thursday morning.  I'll go through much of the same stuff in preparation, but I won't know if they are really coming until/unless they actually get here.

  • Like 1
MooCow

MooCow

Posted
Posted (edited)
On 10/6/2021 at 6:35 PM, ScoutTN said:

@MooCow Are you home yet?

Yummy salad for dinner. Ended up in the Bible study bc Dh and some friends were going.

eta: Home now. About to make some tea and read. Raining again. Ugh.

Yes! I'm so sorry I didn't respond sooner, we were all just trying to decompress and just deal. Thank you so much for everything y'all!

Edited by MooCow
  • Like 2
bolt.

bolt.

Posted
Posted

Wow, that's a lot of story about a little bit of caffeine! (Lots of toddlers end up with little slurps of fancy coffee drinks at some point in their childhoods. And even a lot of that kind of drink would do nothing worse than make a kid fussy for a while.)

It sounds like everybody over-reacted... but I think it does matter what was said. And that's the part you skipped.

On the one hand, I think it's lovely of you to recognize that people do say things they don't mean when they are angry -- and especially when they are defensive. It does no good to hold them accountable as if a fit of temper is their deepest truth and the way they normally live is a lie. In reality, people lose brain function when they are dysregulated, and they really aren't fully themselves.

On the the other hand, things *were* said. Things bad enough that you cry uncontrollably when you think about them, and you don't ever want your youngest child exposed to them. That's serious stuff. You might be trying to get past it so fast because it hurts too much to dwell where it feels real and raw. I'm cautious that that might be a mistake. If you really are going to overlook this and 'fall back in love with her' it's got to be by processing what happened not by skating past it and trying not to look. Does that make sense?

In your shoes, with your goals, I'd try some kind of firmly expressing to myself the true reality of the things that were said. To try this, you would sit with yourself, maybe even with paper, and say to yourself, "DIL said to me, '(exact quote)'." -- then feel all the feelings. Then say it again, and feel again. And again until that quote feels fully expressed. Then work through the rest of the things that were said in the same way. As you are processing each quote add in things like, "It's possible that my DIL really (thinks/feels) (what she seemed to express) about (me/others)." -- and feel all the feelings.

After all of that, once you can truly think about the quotes and the event in a genuinely settled way, contact her and say something like, "That went really badly. I'm so sorry that my perspective about what (youngest) said about the coffee drink caused all of that mess! This kind of thing just happens in families sometimes. I wanted you to know that I'm feeling better about some of the things that were said, and we can talk about it if you want to." -- This opens the way for an apology (or an implied apology like, "Yeah, it got out of hand." or something) which could add closure to the situation.

I also recommend no more joint vacations!

  • Like 3
  • Thanks 1

Join the conversation

You can post now and register later. If you have an account, sign in now to post with your account.

Guest
Reply to this topic...

×   Pasted as rich text.   Paste as plain text instead

  Only 75 emoji are allowed.

×   Your link has been automatically embedded.   Display as a link instead

×   Your previous content has been restored.   Clear editor

×   You cannot paste images directly. Upload or insert images from URL.

×
 Share
Go to topic listing
×
×
  • Create New...