happi duck Posted September 6, 2021 Share Posted September 6, 2021 Background:. I'm not the type of person to call acquaintances friends. I say stuff like "a lady at my church" even if it's someone I see and like a lot. I reserve the term friend for people I know especially well. I reference the Hive frequently as "an online message board that I participate in" or similar. It gets awkward. I feel like we all know a lot about each other. Do you mind if I say "my online friends"? Such as "I have some online friends who've had experience with overcrowded ERs" etc. I've lately been especially referencing the Hive as backup in covid conversations. So, are we friends? 😁 40 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jean in Newcastle Posted September 6, 2021 Share Posted September 6, 2021 We won't protest if you call us friends. And yes, I consider the Hive a place where I have found friends. Some I text with daily. . . . 17 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AmandaVT Posted September 6, 2021 Share Posted September 6, 2021 I call people here my friends, so I say go for it! I am your friend. 2 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tanaqui Posted September 6, 2021 Share Posted September 6, 2021 You can call everybody else your friend, but please refer to me as Her Imperial Majesty, the Wondrous Tanaqui 😄 Or call me your friend, I don't mind. If you hadn't posted this, I would not have even known to care! 3 28 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kassia Posted September 6, 2021 Share Posted September 6, 2021 Yes, using friends is absolutely appropriate! 🙂 3 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
teachermom2834 Posted September 6, 2021 Share Posted September 6, 2021 Well, I call y’all my friends. But the full truth is that I call you my “imaginary friends”. My family knows who I am talking about! 4 7 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Moonhawk Posted September 6, 2021 Share Posted September 6, 2021 (edited) Yes, I leave out the "online" part because it seems to qualify the word "friend" and I don't really feel a qualification towards y'all, so just "friend" is more accurate for me than "online friend." Maybe if you have a good irl friendship network the qualification makes sense, but I have no need for it personally. eta: though I have to randomly make up names for you guys sometimes. "The other day my friend Happiduck said..." can sometimes distract the conversation lol Edited September 6, 2021 by Moonhawk 8 9 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Garga Posted September 6, 2021 Share Posted September 6, 2021 “You know that homeschool resource group I belong to? The one with the mathematicians and doctors and statisticians from all around the world? Yeah, a lot of them are reporting back about overcrowding in the ERs. This is all across the US right now.” That’s how I do it. 20 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mlktwins Posted September 6, 2021 Share Posted September 6, 2021 I have on-line homeschooling friends and on-line stitchy (needlework) friends. I text and message with some of them quite often (a few from here). I say go for it! 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fraidycat Posted September 6, 2021 Share Posted September 6, 2021 9 minutes ago, teachermom2834 said: Well, I call y’all my friends. But the full truth is that I call you my “imaginary friends”. My family knows who I am talking about! This is what I use, too. "My imaginary friends online said..." 😁 I prefer not to say where online, because this is my space and I don't care to share it with real life people. 13 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pawz4me Posted September 6, 2021 Share Posted September 6, 2021 50 minutes ago, happi duck said: So, are we friends? 😁 Absolutely! 5 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Katy Posted September 6, 2021 Share Posted September 6, 2021 Yes! 2 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted September 6, 2021 Share Posted September 6, 2021 I say, “my online friends,” “my cyber friends,” “my homeschool ladies (sorry, @Spy Car,” or even, “my WTM/Hive people.” Mostly the first two, though, except for the small group whom I actually have met IRL. 5 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted September 6, 2021 Share Posted September 6, 2021 PS.: This community is so significant to me that I literally have instructed my daughter to post here if something drastic happens to me that I would want known. Like, it’s actually in my folder with my Will and POA. 🤭 26 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
marbel Posted September 6, 2021 Share Posted September 6, 2021 Sure, I sometimes say "my friends" or "my online group" or similar. But, even if we minded you using the term "friends".... how would we know? 1 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Carrie12345 Posted September 6, 2021 Share Posted September 6, 2021 I tend to call my online friends my “invisible friends”. My mom used to think I was nuts, but I had a very tight group of invisible friends almost 20 years ago, and dragged my mom to lunch with one from her area when I visited. I know a few other people in her area, and have brokered advice exchanges and helping hands over the years, lol. She thinks it’s less nuts now! With this much larger group, I might be more vague when talking to an IRL acquaintance, but people who know me well don’t flinch at “someone from one of my groups” or “an invisible friend.” They’re probably just thrilled that I have other people to talk randomness with, lol. 5 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Spryte Posted September 6, 2021 Share Posted September 6, 2021 (edited) Sure! Friends it is. I mean, we’ve known each other how many years?! I usually call you all people in my homeschool group, or if I’m talking to someone who knows I post here I’ll call you imaginary friends. I could go with friends, too, if it’s a casual conversation about Covid experiences. There are times you don’t want to head into details, it’s just not pertinent to the conversation. So, “oh, I have a friend in X state, who says the Covid surge has created hospital overwhelm, but no one is masking.” I could see that happening, too. You all are real people in my head, not random Twitter peeps or whatever. And some of you have moved offline into IRL friends, and I’m so glad we met! Waving at you. Edited September 6, 2021 by Spryte Clarity. I’m not coherent tonight. 6 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Not_a_Number Posted September 6, 2021 Share Posted September 6, 2021 Hmmm, interesting. I love the forum and talk about you often (as "my online homeschooling community" or something), but I don't exactly consider online acquaintances friends. My online relationships have always been a really big part of my life, but the fact that I'm missing SO MUCH of the context (no aural or visual cues) means that I don't have a "feeling" for people online like I do with people in real life... even though I often know just as many facts about them!! But of course, I don't mind if you say "my online friends" 😄 . I absolutely understand saying that. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
WildflowerMom Posted September 6, 2021 Share Posted September 6, 2021 (edited) I call y'all my online friends. 🤷🏻♀️ I used to be FB friends with a few people here but I shut that page down because of family being crazy. Edited September 7, 2021 by WildflowerMom 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Wheres Toto Posted September 6, 2021 Share Posted September 6, 2021 Dh refers to this place as -my boards. I tend to say "on my forum". I have a few friends here and on Facebook (that were originally through here) that I just refer to as "my friends". Sometimes dh will ask if they are friends I've ever met IRL or talked to on the phone. But most of my IRL friends I've never talked to on the phone so I don't know why that should be a requirement. 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hjffkj Posted September 6, 2021 Share Posted September 6, 2021 I call anyone from the Hive my imaginary friends. And then there are the special Hive members who I have met in real life and I call them my real imaginary friends 1 7 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sneezyone Posted September 6, 2021 Share Posted September 6, 2021 (edited) I have connected with people offline from time to time and definitely did 15 years ago with adoption.com forums…then we all migrated away to a birth/first mother friendly site and then Facebook…no anonymity there. I think I would need more people to know my real name and daily family foibles to be true friends but I certainly value the people I’ve come into contact with here. I reference PamCT a lot in particular. *waves* Edited September 6, 2021 by Sneezyone 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Indigo Blue Posted September 6, 2021 Share Posted September 6, 2021 Happy Duck, you won’t believe this, but I was actually thinking just today how wonderful it would be if we could all be one large group of “friends” rather than just “people online”. I love the idea. Like Garga, when I’m talking about this board, I always say “it’s full of smart people, they are talking about xyz thing, and they do their research. It’s the exact opposite of Redd🙂t and Facebo😒ok.” However, I do have a confession that I probably shouldn’t make, but now might be a good time: I feel so paranoid! I’m aware that some here PM, text, etc. I always wonder if some are talking about others, whether good or bad, and that maybe they think I’m nuts, too. I get an uneasy feeling after I post sometimes that what I said was stupid, and I regret doing it. I post too much personal stuff here, and most people IRL don’t know all these things. I find myself hoping that no one is behind the scenes rolling their eyes at me. So there it is. This may be irrational, and I may be this way because of my life experiences. I don’t know. I try to ignore that, but that feeling is just there sometimes. I try to ignore it and participate anyway. I’m not accusing anyone! I think it might just be a me problem. I do think there is no other place online like this and it would be great if we could all consider ourselves friends. Goodness knows, right now, more than ever, we need that. 8 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GracieJane Posted September 6, 2021 Share Posted September 6, 2021 Haha! I know this issue. It is especially problematic when it concerns forums that don’t technically relate at all to you and you feel like you have to qualify: “on this online forum about fundie drama, someone posted something about someone they and you and I don’t know, but it was crazy”. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hjffkj Posted September 6, 2021 Share Posted September 6, 2021 1 hour ago, teachermom2834 said: Well, I call y’all my friends. But the full truth is that I call you my “imaginary friends”. My family knows who I am talking about! me too! 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
happi duck Posted September 7, 2021 Author Share Posted September 7, 2021 @Indigo Blue I feel that way too! 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mrs Tiggywinkle Posted September 7, 2021 Share Posted September 7, 2021 At this point ya’ll are my only friends. 😂 10 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
happi duck Posted September 7, 2021 Author Share Posted September 7, 2021 When I first started here I especially wanted to be anonymous because I didn't like my local homeschool scene and was afraid to be found out. It's been forever so probably no longer a concern, lol! 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Indigo Blue Posted September 7, 2021 Share Posted September 7, 2021 8 minutes ago, Mrs Tiggywinkle said: At this point ya’ll are my only friends. 😂 As crazy as things are out there, I believe it. 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
WildflowerMom Posted September 7, 2021 Share Posted September 7, 2021 22 minutes ago, Indigo Blue said: Happy Duck, you won’t believe this, but I was actually thinking just today how wonderful it would be if we could all be one large group of “friends” rather than just “people online”. I love the idea. Like Garga, when I’m talking about this board, I always say “it’s full of smart people, they are talking about xyz thing, and they do their research. It’s the exact opposite of Redd🙂t and Facebo😒ok.” However, I do have a confession that I probably shouldn’t make, but now might be a good time: I feel so paranoid! I’m aware that some here PM, text, etc. I always wonder if some are talking about others, whether good or bad, and that maybe they think I’m nuts, too. I get an uneasy feeling after I post sometimes that what I said was stupid, and I regret doing it. I post too much personal stuff here, and most people IRL don’t know all these things. I find myself hoping that no one is behind the scenes rolling their eyes at me. So there it is. This may be irrational, and I may be this way because of my life experiences. I don’t know. I try to ignore that, but that feeling is just there sometimes. I try to ignore it and participate anyway. I’m not accusing anyone! I think it might just be a me problem. I do think there is no other place online like this and it would be great if we could all consider ourselves friends. Goodness knows, right now, more than ever, we need that. I do the same thing. I do it most of the time I make a post here and I do it all the time IRL. I just assume people think I'm an idiot most of the time. 🤷🏻♀️ Fwiw, I've never thought you sounded like an idiot. Actually it's very rare that I think that about anyone, even if I greatly disagree with them. But, I won't lie, there have been a couple... 😆 6 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pawz4me Posted September 7, 2021 Share Posted September 7, 2021 26 minutes ago, Indigo Blue said: I do think there is no other place online like this and it would be great if we could all consider ourselves friends. Goodness knows, right now, more than ever, we need that. Truth 7 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Indigo Blue Posted September 7, 2021 Share Posted September 7, 2021 2 minutes ago, WildflowerMom said: I do the same thing. I do it most of the time I make a post here and I do it all the time IRL. I just assume people think I'm an idiot most of the time. 🤷🏻♀️ Fwiw, I've never thought you sounded like an idiot. Actually it's very rare that I think that about anyone, even if I greatly disagree with them. But, I won't lie, there have been a couple... 😆 Thanks. Same goes for you! My eyebrows go up only when there’s the occasional one who is being very mean and deliberate. It’s always interesting to read the different viewpoints. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Spy Car Posted September 7, 2021 Share Posted September 7, 2021 1 hour ago, Quill said: I say, “my online friends,” “my cyber friends,” “my homeschool ladies (sorry, @Spy Car,” or even, “my WTM/Hive people.” Mostly the first two, though, except for the small group whom I actually have met IRL. No hard feelings. I'm here to provide "diversity." LOL. Bill 2 1 9 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SoCal_Bear Posted September 7, 2021 Share Posted September 7, 2021 (edited) 16 minutes ago, Spy Car said: No hard feelings. I'm here to provide "diversity." LOL. Bill You are uber chill about it. I appreciate it. There's a guy on a local group I moderate who likes to "lecture" every time someone posts about anything about moms or women. I smh because that's not going to win you any friends IRL or get you included. Being chill and casual while asking if dads are welcome will win you points IMO. Edited September 7, 2021 by calbear 6 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Spy Car Posted September 7, 2021 Share Posted September 7, 2021 (edited) 5 minutes ago, calbear said: You are uber chill about it. I appreciate it. There's a guy on a local group I moderate who likes to "lecture" every time someone posts about anything about moms or women. I smh because that's not going to win you any friends IRL or get you included. I'm just grateful that I have not been ejected. LOL. Bill Edited September 7, 2021 by Spy Car 1 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Not_a_Number Posted September 7, 2021 Share Posted September 7, 2021 Just now, Spy Car said: I'm just grateful that I have not been ejected. LOL. Bill 🥾 😛 1 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Spy Car Posted September 7, 2021 Share Posted September 7, 2021 2 minutes ago, Not_a_Number said: 🥾 😛 😭 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Slache Posted September 7, 2021 Share Posted September 7, 2021 I call y'all my imaginary friends, too. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Wildcat Posted September 7, 2021 Share Posted September 7, 2021 (edited) 1 hour ago, Mrs Tiggywinkle said: At this point ya’ll are my only friends. 😂 Same. 57 minutes ago, Spy Car said: No hard feelings. I'm here to provide "diversity." LOL. Bill When I talk about things on this forum, I say "the homeschool ladies said..." unless it's something you or @Lanny have posted and then it's "Bill or Lanny on the homeschool forum said..." As for the topic of friends, I figure friends help each other out. Friends wish each other well. Friends will cry with you. Friends are there for each in times of need. I have seen all of that here on the forum over the years. This place is full of wonderful people and I have no qualms about calling you all my friends. Edited September 7, 2021 by Wildcat 7 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Spy Car Posted September 7, 2021 Share Posted September 7, 2021 I have decided that it more politic to refer to the hundreds of women I might converse with on a near-daily basis as "my sources." As in, "Oh, I will check on that with my sources. I think my wife understands the code, but.... Bill 3 17 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Wildcat Posted September 7, 2021 Share Posted September 7, 2021 20 minutes ago, Spy Car said: I have decided that it more politic to refer to the hundreds of women I might converse with on a near-daily basis as "my sources." As in, "Oh, I will check on that with my sources. I think my wife understands the code, but.... Bill That's probably a lot safer than saying "all of my lady friends...." 1 13 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
happi duck Posted September 7, 2021 Author Share Posted September 7, 2021 (edited) 3 minutes ago, Wildcat said: That's probably a lot safer than saying "all of my lady friends...." ...that I met on the internet... 😜 Edited September 7, 2021 by happi duck 2 15 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Wildcat Posted September 7, 2021 Share Posted September 7, 2021 14 minutes ago, happi duck said: ...that I met on the internet... 😜 Oh my. I'm dying!! 🤣 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SeaConquest Posted September 7, 2021 Share Posted September 7, 2021 4 hours ago, Tanaqui said: You can call everybody else your friend, but please refer to me as Her Imperial Majesty, the Wondrous Tanaqui 😄 Or call me your friend, I don't mind. If you hadn't posted this, I would not have even known to care! I normally go by la Principessa Monique. 😎 Yes, the Hive are good people. Happy to be among my internet friends. 🥰 1 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MercyA Posted September 7, 2021 Share Posted September 7, 2021 I talk about you all daily and usually say, "one of my friends on the forum said..." I do consider you true friends and hope the feeling is mutual. 😉 You all know me much better than most of my "real life" friends. 6 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MercyA Posted September 7, 2021 Share Posted September 7, 2021 @Indigo Blue, no one thinks you're nuts! Me, on the other hand... 😉 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
EKS Posted September 7, 2021 Share Posted September 7, 2021 I call the folks here my "invisible friends." Someone here came up with that term, and I've used it ever since. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Indigo Blue Posted September 7, 2021 Share Posted September 7, 2021 (edited) @MercyAYou are definitely NOT nuts!🙃 Edited September 7, 2021 by Indigo Blue 2 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Spy Car Posted September 7, 2021 Share Posted September 7, 2021 5 minutes ago, EKS said: I call the folks here my "invisible friends." Someone here came up with that term, and I've used it ever since. I'm at the age where if I referred to you all as "my invisible friends" it would only give weight to pre-existing doubts about my mental competency. Bill 9 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
***** Posted September 7, 2021 Share Posted September 7, 2021 Sure, as long as you don't mind that I continue to stay anonymous. In case, just in case... my kids ever homeschool and join this forum, I would not want them to come across old posts and put 2 and 2 together. I am just private in that way. 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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