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I'm normally a socialise-once-a-month kind of person.  My mother, who lives in a care home near me, had a health crisis last week (now resolved) and the doctor suggested that people should visit if they possibly could.  It was lovely so see both my brothers and their families but it was a lot.  My cousin wants to visit my mum next weekend so will be staying with us too (this was fixed a long time ago) - Mum is the last of her generation.  And my half-sister emailed me yesterday out of the blue to say that she and her family are visiting from Brazil and would like to meet up next week.  All these requests seem reasonable to me, so I haven't felt able to refuse them.

I'm not particularly worried about Covid risk - people have been careful (my sister quarantined after arrival in the UK) and everyone is fine about having Covid tests to come into our house (required by the care home in any case).  But it's a lot of people for me in normal times and an enormous number of people after the quiet of the past sixteen months.

And this is the busiest time of year in my job, when I regularly work through weekends to prepare for the new University semester.  Aaaargh!

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That is a lot. 😞 

This month we’ve had my family visit from California, have visited with out of state friends who have a lake cabin nearby, and now my in-laws are visiting (and they are not careful and everything is political so it’s even more emotionally draining). We haven’t been out and about or seen this many people since the beginning of Covid and it’s been *hard*. DH and I are definitely feeling the overwhelm and looking forward to a return to quiet— we desperately need to recharge before our next big life change.

I hope you can find some space in your schedule to take care yourself. 

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I get it!!!  We are now dealing with a health crisis for my dad and 24/7 caregiving in his home for the time being.  Too many people and I am a social introvert and need time alone (and without crisis preferably) to recharge.

Find that time and space for you somewhere!!!

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50 minutes ago, mlktwins said:

I get it!!!  We are now dealing with a health crisis for my dad and 24/7 caregiving in his home for the time being.  Too many people and I am a social introvert and need time alone (and without crisis preferably) to recharge.

Find that time and space for you somewhere!!!

Sorry to hear about your dad.

I'm going for a run this afternoon.  That will help a bit.  And I might go no-news for the weekend.  I suspect that I need that too.

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17 minutes ago, wintermom said:

You are so sweet for hosting! It's a lot of work, but it will be worth it to have those visits. Hopefully your dh can help juggle the tasks. 

He's brilliant at all that. Last weekend when we were hosting my motor-mouth but very sweet eldest brother, we took it in turns to take him to see Mum and also to see the sights.

Each party so far was partly vegan, however,  so I was doing the cooking- Husband cooks well and often, but that's not his style.

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It is so exhausting and I like to have people around. I stayed with friends to watch their child's wedding online, Another you can't get there from here story, and lunch for 12. By 5:00 we were crashing on couches and someone said it felt like we had been away all day at a big wedding and were back at the hotel. When I got home a few days later I was totally exhausted. 

Company and working now would be hard. Plan some good retreat time !

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You've got to start drinking or something.

Yeah, when we fly back to the western US we have so many people to see in such a short period of time. We opted this time to see each friend/family unit/group once, not the usual twice, regardless of their grumbling. Don't like it?  Then fly out to visit me on the east coast for once-get a hotel or Air BnB, my guest room if for the select few and only on occassion. We even fit in a couple of down days where we saw no one and spent that time in our Air BnB with a pool, tasty leftovers and snacks, our preferred libations, and our ebooks. We haven't told them we're not flying back in Dec. or Jan. like we usually do even if the Delta variant isn't a problem. 

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