Tenaj Posted July 12, 2021 Share Posted July 12, 2021 My dh's aunt has been increasingly showing signs of age or dementia or something else. She is unmarried and is a "snowbird" so lives far away from us during the fall/winter/spring and then moves up here for the summer months to be near the rest of the family. We've had some casual to serious discussions about some alarming symptoms we've seen going on with her. This is new territory for my generation so I thought that I could get some input from some of you who know more than I. Some examples: (1) Mistaking her key fob (she still drives) for her garage door opener when trying to open the garage door for my son. She repeatedly pressed the "trunk" button even when he pointed out to her that it wasn't going to open the garage. Finally in disgust she threw the keys into a draw and walked around to push the button on the inside of the garage. My son told me about this and then several days later she was disgusted with my son for trying to tell her that her key fob (in her hand at the time she was telling me) wasn't her key? I'm assuming from this that she realized that something was wrong with the conversation because there was really no reason for her to bring it up to me. (2) I was driving her and asked her to call someone else in the family to tell them we were running late. She rummaged in her purse, pulled out her cell, laid it in her lap, rummaged some more and pulled out the cordless phone from her house. Then she picked up her cordless phone and explained she couldn't call anyone because she didn't have any service. I joked with her that she had to use her cell phone to call and she argued saying that she uses the cordless all the time when she is out and about. This explained a few incidents where she claimed that no one was answering different phones at different times when we knew she was in her car at different appointments. (3) Trying to take a picture with her cell phone (which she has had for at least 5 years) and instead of using the screen she turns it over to the back and tries to "push" the lens in order to turn the camera on. This has been a repeated problem this summer. She mutters about the camera never working on this thing. There's lots of other forgetting and misplacing that are more common. Some time issues, some keys lost. Oh, one other thing was that she was here for two weeks before she mentioned that her headlights on her car weren't working. We discovered that she had forgotten how to turn them on! That one was scary. So, is this normal aging stuff (she is turning 83 this year) or is this something more? Most of it seems to be centered around technology which is probably short-term memory? I seem to have been elected as the one in the family most likely for her to listen to so I've been researching and there is memory clinic nearby that could do an evaluation but how do I convince her. She really sees no problem . . or at least hasn't admitted it at this point. We are up against time . . she's talking about returning to FL at the end of August/early September. My kids are adamant that we shouldn't let her go back to FL where she has good friends but no family . . but I'm not sure how we stop her? Plus, being in Florida is good for her in general because she can get out and about easily because of the good weather. We did find out from one of her good friends (who is 95!) that the friend has to direct our aunt around driving in Florida because she can't remember how to get to places and she has noticed other memory issues. The friend and I both identify the start of the problems going back two summers ago when she suffered a bad fall during which she had a small fracture of her neck. That seems to have healed fine but the memory issues that started then are definitely getting worse. Thanks for any help or experiences you can give. 4 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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