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[popmom]

Never mind. I’ll figure it out. 

 

 

 

 

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[Shoeless]

Much love to you. ❤️ My family of origin has some similar dynamics. I would like to give you a more thoughtful answer on what I do to handle them, but I need some time to gather my thoughts.

For what it's worth, you aren't crazy. Your mother uses emotionally manipulative language, and it's not surprising that you flipped your lid after the news you received. 

Are your children grown and out of the house? If you don't have to worry about facilitating a relationship between kids and grandma, I would probably put visits with mom on hold for awhile.  Whey give her an audience for her Woe-is-me one woman show?  Let your sister handle it. That's the price of admission when you are the golden child, as far as I am concerned. 

[prairiewindmomma]

!!
 

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[popmom]

1 hour ago, MissLemon said:

Much love to you. ❤️ My family of origin has some similar dynamics. I would like to give you a more thoughtful answer on what I do to handle them, but I need some time to gather my thoughts.

For what it's worth, you aren't crazy. Your mother uses emotionally manipulative language, and it's not surprising that you flipped your lid after the news you received. 

Are your children grown and out of the house? If you don't have to worry about facilitating a relationship between kids and grandma, I would probably put visits with mom on hold for awhile.  Whey give her an audience for her Woe-is-me one woman show?  Let your sister handle it. That's the price of admission when you are the golden child, as far as I am concerned. 

 

thanks for the encouragement. I’m just having a bad day. I deleted.

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[popmom]

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[prairiewindmomma]

!!

 

 

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[popmom]

31 minutes ago, MissLemon said:

 

Are your children grown and out of the house? If you don't have to worry about facilitating a relationship between kids and grandma, I would probably put visits with mom on hold for awhile.  Whey give her an audience for her Woe-is-me one woman show?  Let your sister handle it. That's the price of admission when you are the golden child, as far as I am concerned. 

3 out of 4 children are grown. I have discovered that when one of my adult children visits her, she uses them to gather ammunition against me or my husband or another one of my kids who may be on her bad list. Yet another topic to figure out with a counselor!

[popmom]

48 minutes ago, prairiewindmomma said:

 

 

 

Thank you for that. Eta: I’m sorry you have to experience that! But I’m grateful for others who have been there and can give me some guidance. That’s really what I needed to hear tonight. I need someone with me at all times to tell me I’m not defective or crazy! At least until I can retrain my brain to do that for me. 🙂

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[prairiewindmomma]

@popmom, would you mind deleting the quote and I will go in and clear out quotes too? 
 

Thanks!

[popmom]

40 minutes ago, prairiewindmomma said:

@popmom, would you mind deleting the quote and I will go in and clear out quotes too? 
 

Thanks!

Sorry! I was on autopilot! 

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