Okay. I’m crying uncle.

[Terabith]

I haven’t been feeling great for a few days, but I’m giving up.  I’m sick.  I feel crappy.  Watching tv makes my head hurt more.  Reading has very little appeal.  Food has almost none.  Mostly what I want to do is sleep, but I’m having trouble doing so.  I can’t get warm no matter how many blankets I use.  What do you guys do when you feel lousy and everything sounds awful? Would staying in bed be self indulgent?

[Carrie12345]

Staying in bed lets your body do the hard work of recovering!  Stay in bed, and get well soon!

Edited October 13, 2020 by Carrie12345

[Ausmumof3]

Stay in bed.  Saves sharing germs to the rest of the house anyway.  
 

drink some herbal teas or lemon and honey and watch a movie if you’re well enough.

[Ausmumof3]

Also just in case you need some extra encouragement last week I had some kind of bug.  I actually went to bed and rested and was fully fully better within three days instead of it taking a week or two.  Might have been all the extra supplements or just a mild bug.  But I’m sure the rest helped.

[Terabith]

My guess is more likely small bug than covid.   

[mommyoffive]

Stay in bed and rest.  I am sorry you feel so bad.  I hope you feel better soon. 

[Not_a_Number]

I'm really sorry you aren't feeling better 😞 . Get some rest and feel better soon! Even small bugs suck. 

[MercyA]

Goodness, Terabith, of course you should be in bed! If you can't get warm, it's probably because you have a fever. Take some ibuprofen, get in some comfy pj's, set up your nightstand with water and whatever else you might want, and stay in bed today! No guilt! Dr. HIve's orders.

[Spryte]

Bedtime for Terabith!  Seriously, give yourself permission to be sick, to rest, to heal.

Feel better soon!

[Ditto]

32 minutes ago, MercyA said:

Goodness, Terabith, of course you should be in bed! If you can't get warm, it's probably because you have a fever. Take some ibuprofen, get in some comfy pj's, set up your nightstand with water and whatever else you might want, and stay in bed today! No guilt! Dr. HIve's orders.

This!

I hope you feel better very soon. 

 

Edited October 13, 2020 by Ditto

[Carol in Cal.]

The only way I can warm up when I feel like that is in a warm bath, which also tends to help clear out my sinuses, so that’s good.  Rest up!

[Terabith]

Have stayed in bed all day.  Feel a lot better.  Got up to do some minor stuff and started feeling crappy again, so I guess I’ll keep resting and taking my vitamins.  This does seem to be more along the lines of small bug/ bad cold than flu or anything major though.   

[Shoeless]

Sleep and water. Honestly, those are the two biggest helps when I have colds.  I always underestimate how much better I will feel if I drink more water. 

[bethben]

Warm bath.  Getting out is bad because you get the shivers, but it feels good when you’re achy and cold.

[Tanaqui]

Doing the best thing for your body is not "self-indulgent". I'm sure you're only asking that because you're so sick. It's not like you're washing in wine and eating bonbons while your children starve. You're taking care of yourself!

[Terabith]

18 minutes ago, Tanaqui said:

Doing the best thing for your body is not "self-indulgent". I'm sure you're only asking that because you're so sick. It's not like you're washing in wine and eating bonbons while your children starve. You're taking care of yourself!

Well, I'm not SO sick.  I'm just annoyingly, whiningly sick.  I am well enough that I could get up and do whatever needs doing.  I just feel a lot better not doing so.  

[Acadie]

Glad to hear staying in bed helped. That's absolutely what you need!

With what you describe I'd take a hot shower, get in my warmest pj's plus layers and socks, make hot herbal tea, bring the heating pad to bed with me with extra blankies, and stay there as long as I could sleep or comfortably rest. Get up for bathroom, meals, or whenever energy or antsiness required me to move.

Ask dh or teens to bring me hot soup or smoothies and prep simple meals for the rest of the fam. Citrus, hibiscus tea, vitamin C, Cold-Eeze or other zinc supplements.

[Acadie]

Just now, Terabith said:

 I am well enough that I could get up and do whatever needs doing.  I just feel a lot better not doing so.  

That's your answer, then. Rest and recuperate.

You don't need to earn the right to take care of yourself by being on your deathbed first--the whole idea is to prevent more serious symptoms and if rest is making you feel better, then have at it!

[Kassia]

Rest is the best medicine!  Hope you feel better soon.  

 

[Tanaqui]

52 minutes ago, Terabith said:

Well, I'm not SO sick.  I'm just annoyingly, whiningly sick.  I am well enough that I could get up and do whatever needs doing.  I just feel a lot better not doing so.  

 

That's more than sick enough. Nobody likes a martyr, so why make yourself one?

[Harriet Vane]

Absolutely stay in bed. I would take a hot bath first to fight off the chill that is plaguing you, and then crawl into bed with tea, perhaps some movies. Just lay there and let your body work on healing.

Sorry you feel so crummy.

[*****]

4 hours ago, bethben said:

Warm bath.  Getting out is bad because you get the shivers, but it feels good when you’re achy and cold.

With epsom salts of course to help draw it out of your system and maybe some essential oil as well!

Feel better soon, and yes, it is more than ok to take care of yourself!

[Terabith]

Covid test negative.  Embarrassed and ashamed that I still don’t feel entirely well.  On the verge of tears because I should be fine, and I feel guilty and ashamed for getting sick, but I just still feel tired and crummy.  

[RootAnn]

I think your response (feeling guilty that you feel crummy) is additional reinforcement that you are sick enough to stay in bed. No one should feel ashamed for staying in bed & taking care of themselves unless they purposefully, intentionally made themselves sick in order to get out of doing something. (And even then, they still should stay in bed!)

Dr. Hive has already prescribed staying in bed & taking care of yourself. As Dr. Hive's assistant, I suggest you continue following those orders until Friday, checking in at least once a day. Dr. Hive will recheck you on Friday.

If you over do it, you might be in bed until next week at this time!! 

Edited October 14, 2020 by RootAnn
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[Not_a_Number]

19 minutes ago, Terabith said:

Covid test negative.  Embarrassed and ashamed that I still don’t feel entirely well.  On the verge of tears because I should be fine, and I feel guilty and ashamed for getting sick, but I just still feel tired and crummy.  

Do NOT, and I repeat, do NOT feel embarrassed that you're sick!! COVID is not the only illness you're "allowed" to feel cruddy with. 

[Spryte]

So glad you are negative for Covid!

 

Now your job is to let go of embarrassment, and just get well.  

[mommyoffive]

I am so glad you are negative.   There's no shame in being sick.  None.  It happens to everyone.   Rest, rest, rest, rest.   Enjoy some down days.  Nobody is allowed to bug you.  Binge on some shows.  Nap.  Enjoy some silence. 

[Terabith]

Yeah.  I kinda want to read and watch tv, but honestly, it all pretty much makes my head hurt and makes me feel queasy.  So I feel like I can’t even take advantage of the opportunity.  
 

And yes, I know this is stupid and probably more evidence that I should rest.  It’s hard to tell if I’m sick or depressed or both.  And I’m frustrated that I can’t get warm.  

[mommyoffive]

Ugh, sorry you are still feeling so bad.  I think it is a lot harder getting sick now.  The stress of worrying if it is covid and then just another bad thing at a hard emotional time.  Sending some gentle hugs.

[Terabith]

1 minute ago, mommyoffive said:

Ugh, sorry you are still feeling so bad.  I think it is a lot harder getting sick now.  The stress of worrying if it is covid and then just another bad thing at a hard emotional time.  Sending some gentle hugs.

Yeah, and this is my bad ptsd time of year.  Most years, I do a stint at day treatment in October in hopes of avoiding inpatient psych, but pandemic makes me reluctant to do that.  

[Tanaqui]

14 hours ago, Terabith said:

Yeah, and this is my bad ptsd time of year.  Most years, I do a stint at day treatment in October in hopes of avoiding inpatient psych, but pandemic makes me reluctant to do that.  

 

Oh, that sucks 😞