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2 hours ago, Spryte said:

DH works closely with a guy in Switzerland, whose whole family is now in quarantine.  Wife works from home but went to a work event.  They followed recommendations to the letter, plus some. They were all masked the entire time, spaced 3 - 4 meters apart (so more than 6 feet), opened all windows every 20 minutes.  Hand washing and sanitizing.  6 of the 9 people in attendance are now positive.  Wife is on Day 8.  It’s one of the new variants.  Super spreader was present, maybe.

And today I'm seeing photos of family and friends who are at the movies - photo was of kids with no masks sitting in theater seats eating popcorn - or having a mom's brunch with nearly a dozen people crowded around a table full of food, no masks, indoors. Sigh. 

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My mother in law died of covid related stuff this afternoon. 

Thank you.   I wish I had a good update to give.  Michelle's family made the decision to discontinue life support today.  Her lungs were sustaining damage while on the ventilator, but were not he

Our friend in Manaus, Brazil did not make it. He died this morning. I am confident he is in a place of no more suffering and death, but am so sad for his precious family. He leaves behind 12 children,

13 hours ago, ktgrok said:

And today I'm seeing photos of family and friends who are at the movies - photo was of kids with no masks sitting in theater seats eating popcorn - or having a mom's brunch with nearly a dozen people crowded around a table full of food, no masks, indoors. Sigh. 

I was thinking about this earlier today and trying to figure out what the actual thought is with this approach. Do people think they’re invincible and the virus is never going to touch them? Do they not believe in it period? I mean, what do they think will happen with everything fully open and people not wearing masks? I’m pretty sure the governors are smart enough to know cases will very likely surge again in the next month or so, before enough people can be vaccinated. Are they gambling that the political pay off of opening things up will outweigh any surge in cases? I’m trying to understand how they think this is going to play out. 

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3 hours ago, kand said:

I was thinking about this earlier today and trying to figure out what the actual thought is with this approach. Do people think they’re invincible and the virus is never going to touch them? Do they not believe in it period? I mean, what do they think will happen with everything fully open and people not wearing masks? I’m pretty sure the governors are smart enough to know cases will very likely surge again in the next month or so, before enough people can be vaccinated. Are they gambling that the political pay off of opening things up will outweigh any surge in cases? I’m trying to understand how they think this is going to play out. 

Where I am the feeling is that it is basically just a cold and if you get it no biggie. I know a lot of people who have been doing all these things all along. As far as I know, most of them or a significant number of them have had Covid. It was minor and they feel vindicated in not giving up all their lives over what was a very mild illness. 
 

We’ve been pretty much open all along. My family is about the most careful of anyone I know. The only people that really have seemed to take it seriously are the hospital workers who had to deal directly with the ongoing overcrowding and death. Outside of that group, people have been pretty content living normally. I know a lot of people that had it who acknowledge it is real but just not a big enough deal to worry about. For them, they were right. They lived their lives, had a mild illness, and went right along living their lives. 

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1 hour ago, teachermom2834 said:

Where I am the feeling is that it is basically just a cold and if you get it no biggie. I know a lot of people who have been doing all these things all along. As far as I know, most of them or a significant number of them have had Covid. It was minor and they feel vindicated in not giving up all their lives over what was a very mild illness. 

The sad thing is that we already knew it’d be mild for most people. That was clear from the start. That wasn’t why people were worried — it’s no Ebola.

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20 hours ago, ktgrok said:

And today I'm seeing photos of family and friends who are at the movies - photo was of kids with no masks sitting in theater seats eating popcorn - or having a mom's brunch with nearly a dozen people crowded around a table full of food, no masks, indoors. Sigh. 

My neighbor just had a get together with 8 cars parked along the road. It must have been a kid's birthday. Their house is tiny and it was 28 degrees yesterday, so nobody was distancing outside! Ugh. 

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3 hours ago, teachermom2834 said:

Where I am the feeling is that it is basically just a cold and if you get it no biggie. I know a lot of people who have been doing all these things all along. As far as I know, most of them or a significant number of them have had Covid. It was minor and they feel vindicated in not giving up all their lives over what was a very mild illness. 
 

We’ve been pretty much open all along. My family is about the most careful of anyone I know. The only people that really have seemed to take it seriously are the hospital workers who had to deal directly with the ongoing overcrowding and death. Outside of that group, people have been pretty content living normally. I know a lot of people that had it who acknowledge it is real but just not a big enough deal to worry about. For them, they were right. They lived their lives, had a mild illness, and went right along living their lives. 

This has exactly been my experience, unfortunately. I have a few doctor/nurse friends and unfortunately here they seem to be the same way. It seems to be consistent, though, with the mindset I saw pre-Covid. I live in an area where there's not a lot of diversity in all meanings of the word and I think people are pretty insular.

We have been one of the most careful out of our peers (and I got Covid) and have faced some light ridicule for it. 

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Just now, importswim said:

This has exactly been my experience, unfortunately. I have a few doctor/nurse friends and unfortunately here they seem to be the same way. It seems to be consistent, though, with the mindset I saw pre-Covid. I live in an area where there's not a lot of diversity in all meanings of the word and I think people are pretty insular.

We have been one of the most careful out of our peers (and I got Covid) and have faced some light ridicule for it. 

Yes. I have known all along if we got covid I was going to be mocked. I've dealt with getting mocked for wearing a mask. My 12 yo dd has had a very real lesson in doing what she thinks is right even when no one else is. 

We got hit bad here (our numbers are still pretty high relative to other areas) and the attitudes never did change. I guess the change was from "it's not real" to "it is real but no biggie". 

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7 minutes ago, teachermom2834 said:

I guess the change was from "it's not real" to "it is real but no biggie". 

It's kind of odd, because there's definitely plenty of evidence that it's terrible for older folks 😕

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18 minutes ago, Not_a_Number said:

It's kind of odd, because there's definitely plenty of evidence that it's terrible for older folks 😕

I agree- but if all their old folks got it and were just fine they aren't going to change their minds. It just gives them more vindication that they were right all along.

Now..."just fine" is going to be subjective here. I think that surviving doesn't equal that it was no biggie. But if someone didn't believe it was a big deal, then Grandma got it and recovered, they really aren't going to change their minds now. 

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2 hours ago, teachermom2834 said:

We got hit bad here (our numbers are still pretty high relative to other areas) and the attitudes never did change. I guess the change was from "it's not real" to "it is real but no biggie". 

Do you think they don’t believe the hospitalization and death statistics, or that they just don’t understand them to know what that means?

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28 minutes ago, kand said:

Do you think they don’t believe the hospitalization and death statistics, or that they just don’t understand them to know what that means?

I have some friends who have been very blase about covid and I wish I could ask them about it, because I just don’t understand where they’re coming from at all. But if I bring up the subject, I’m pretty sure they’ll be able to see my judgement and the friendships will get weird.   

I think they feel that the huge majority of cases are mild and that it’ll be like getting a bad flu and then they’ll be fine. 

 

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6 hours ago, teachermom2834 said:

Where I am the feeling is that it is basically just a cold and if you get it no biggie. I know a lot of people who have been doing all these things all along. As far as I know, most of them or a significant number of them have had Covid. It was minor and they feel vindicated in not giving up all their lives over what was a very mild illness. 

How is vaccine uptake in your area? It seems decent here in that getting appointments is challenging, but I still see a lot of negative social media posts about the vaccine (even after snoozing lots of people). Also, we have a split between older and younger “open things up” people here as the older ones are more likely to vaccinate.

 

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On 3/7/2021 at 6:26 AM, teachermom2834 said:

I know a lot of people that had it who acknowledge it is real but just not a big enough deal to worry about. For them, they were right. They lived their lives, had a mild illness, and went right along living their lives. 

What sucks is they can't grasp that they may have spread it to others, who died. And that although they are living their lives, others are not, because of their actions. UGH. 

(just was reading ANOTHER person posting how they are traveling and having parties and just don't lick the furniture and you will be fine so I'm a bit spiteful right now)

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Just now, ktgrok said:

What sucks is they can't grasp that they may have spread it to others, who died. And that although they are living their lives, others are not, because of their actions. UGH. 

(just was reading ANOTHER person posting how they are traveling and having parties and just don't lick the furniture and you will be fine so I'm a bit spiteful right now)

It seems like everyone's attitudes have kind of... solidified? People who were being careful are still being careful -- like, we've had Zoom classes for our friends for ages now, and everyone's mostly staying home or has a pod. People who had decided to throw caution to the wind are still doing so. People who are kind of in the middle are still in the middle. 

At this point, it feels like everyone is just going to ride out their attitude until the end of the pandemic, which hopefully is in sight. 

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22 hours ago, Not_a_Number said:

It's kind of odd, because there's definitely plenty of evidence that it's terrible for older folks 😕

Not in my church.  Just found out several others have had it,  They feel it is like the flu. You don’t want it, but you will be ok.  Seriously, I have felt like chicken little in my. community.

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5 minutes ago, TexasProud said:

Not in my church.  Just found out several others have had it,  They feel it is like the flu. You don’t want it, but you will be ok.  Seriously, I have felt like chicken little in my. community.

Well... I’m sure there are anomalous subgroups, but even in DH’s relatively careful family, an older uncle died from it. But his wife was fine! It’s really random.

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I honestly believe there will be no "over".  My state moved into other tiers when they struggled to get more 65+ to get it. The more conservative district north of me only has 52% of 65 and up vaccinated. But they had to move on. It may be more people will be willing as time goes on but the way things are looking right now people will simply have to get yearly Covid shots much like they get yearly flu shots and many will choose not to ever anyway. I don't know how to change that. My guess is some of the people who have strong and painful immune responses after one shot may also become hesitant to get another one while others become more open to the idea as they know lots of people who are vaccinated. 

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2 hours ago, TexasProud said:

Not in my church.  Just found out several others have had it,  They feel it is like the flu. You don’t want it, but you will be ok.  Seriously, I have felt like chicken little in my. community.

Reading between the lines, this is how it is here too. I am not in the in crowd enough to get things directly, and my views are known, so I am sure some people have opted to leave me out of the information flow on purpose. There are just enough people telling on themselves on FB with their words and actions (pictures of close events and no masks) for me to know people don't care. I suspect a few think that being in the middle is virtuous and above the fray, but they don't realize that supporting things like masking on the way into church, and then taking them off while seated (and while singing) defeats the entire point. And that is when they are on their good behavior--most pictures show no masks.

2 hours ago, Not_a_Number said:

Well... I’m sure there are anomalous subgroups, but even in DH’s relatively careful family, an older uncle died from it. But his wife was fine! It’s really random.

I suspect that in my circles, the key phrases are, "It was their time," "It was God's will," and "we shouldn't be sorry for them because they are surely not sorry to be waking up in glory." I would also guess there is a heavy dose of, "they had pre-existing conditions."

I might be more harsh than what is really happening, but since people have opted to say horrid things on FB and keep hush-hush, I think they shouldn't be surprised at whatever conclusions people draw. After all, my church is still LYING on its own website. I check periodically to see if their proclamation that masks are required for all services is still there, and it is. 

My old church is even farther down this line of thinking--masked people are welcome, but their church is not changing anything for the virus. 

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1 hour ago, frogger said:

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I honestly believe there will be no "over".  My state moved into other tiers when they struggled to get more 65+ to get it. The more conservative district north of me only has 52% of 65 and up vaccinated. But they had to move on. It may be more people will be willing as time goes on but the way things are looking right now people will simply have to get yearly Covid shots much like they get yearly flu shots and many will choose not to ever anyway. I don't know how to change that. My guess is some of the people who have strong and painful immune responses after one shot may also become hesitant to get another one while others become more open to the idea as they know lots of people who are vaccinated. 

I think it'll be "over" in the sense that things will reopen, people will decide what risks they are wiling to take, and everything will resettle. Right now, we're in a state of suspended animation over here, and that will end. But I think you're right that we won't eradicate this virus. It's really hard to see that happen given the vaccination rates and the fact that immunity doesn't last. 

As for what happens in the longer term... I really can't predict. I wouldn't be surprised if the world became more unstable, period, and I have no idea if COVID is going to be the determining factor for that. 

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This isn’t exactly “personal experience”, but I wanna share.

Dh (fully vaccinated) is in TX working on insane amounts of commercial insurance claims with pretty much his whole national team. Today ends the mask mandate, and they’ve already had issues with other people refusing to mask over the past few weeks.

Someone from a different company/aspect of the process flew in WHILE not feeling well. Like, got on a plane sick, then went to a job location with two people from dh’s company. And then tested positive.

So now Dh is down 2 people who have to quarantine, and the company has to pay for one of them to be there. (The other is local.) This poor guy is away from his family and terrified due to multiple major risk factors.

Work is slowed, unbillable expenses accrued, emotional stress added, and potential severe illness is possible. Because someone decided they were special.

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update on neighbor - day 8 of being sick - bad headaches, loss of taste and smell, sinus congestion, and nausea. Cough is better but she feels terrible and has barely eaten in days. She's I think 30 yrs old, right about that, no pre existing conditions, works out, healthy. 

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13 minutes ago, ktgrok said:

update on neighbor - day 8 of being sick - bad headaches, loss of taste and smell, sinus congestion, and nausea. Cough is better but she feels terrible and has barely eaten in days. She's I think 30 yrs old, right about that, no pre existing conditions, works out, healthy. 

That doesn’t sound good.

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It's the lack of thought for others that drives me crazy. No empathy for what medical professionals go through because too many people think it's no big deal. THEY don't see what life is like for an ICU nurse (had a friend post a recent documentary video about the daily burden of the ICU nurse--work a small windowless room with 11 patients all on vents, typically all are there to eventually die and they're not that old--40's and 50's because older patients can't handle vents, nurse staffing goes from 1 on 1 to 1 on 3 because there aren't enough nurses, can't eat all day long because you don't want to risk taking gear off, caring for people through death--you're there when their family can't be, a bed empties and is immediately filled again--it was all so horrible). I don't think you live any Christian values if your primary focus is what's convenient for you and you don't think at all about others. You get no bonus points for being in church if you don't even try to live its values. End rant.

The young teacher I work with who had a relatively mild case around Thanksgiving was telling me she still can't smell right and she's worried that's permanent. Everything has the same smell to her, and it's not pleasant.

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Dh had an old friend call yesterday. The friend’s wife had COVID and fainted. By the time he found her, she was turning blue. The ambulance took her to the hospital, and she was in an oxygen tent. They were getting ready to put her on a ventilator when she took a turn for the better and avoided it. 
 

Meanwhile, Friend is home taking care of 4 little boys and worrying about his wife when he notices he can’t taste anything. He gets very sick and is in bed when his boss calls. Yup. They laid him off. He was calling Dh for job leads. 
 

How sad is that? They are in their 40s. The only reason he was laid off was because he made more money than his coworkers. I brought up an age discrimination suit, but I don’t know if it is worth it. 

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12 minutes ago, Amy Gen said:

Dh had an old friend call yesterday. The friend’s wife had COVID and fainted. By the time he found her, she was turning blue. The ambulance took her to the hospital, and she was in an oxygen tent. They were getting ready to put her on a ventilator when she took a turn for the better and avoided it. 
 

Meanwhile, Friend is home taking care of 4 little boys and worrying about his wife when he notices he can’t taste anything. He gets very sick and is in bed when his boss calls. Yup. They laid him off. He was calling Dh for job leads. 
 

How sad is that? They are in their 40s. The only reason he was laid off was because he made more money than his coworkers. I brought up an age discrimination suit, but I don’t know if it is worth it. 

Oh, that is just a terrible story.

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41 minutes ago, Amy Gen said:

Dh had an old friend call yesterday. The friend’s wife had COVID and fainted. By the time he found her, she was turning blue. The ambulance took her to the hospital, and she was in an oxygen tent. They were getting ready to put her on a ventilator when she took a turn for the better and avoided it. 
 

Meanwhile, Friend is home taking care of 4 little boys and worrying about his wife when he notices he can’t taste anything. He gets very sick and is in bed when his boss calls. Yup. They laid him off. He was calling Dh for job leads. 
 

How sad is that? They are in their 40s. The only reason he was laid off was because he made more money than his coworkers. I brought up an age discrimination suit, but I don’t know if it is worth it. 

Oh that poor family.  This just breaks my heart.  I can't imagine the stress that dad is under right now.   

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53 minutes ago, ktgrok said:

She seems very surprised to be feeling so badly, so long. (long being a week, mind you). 

It's a really really random disease. I wish people got that through their thick skulls. You might have no symptoms, and you might have a mild cold, and you might feel like you have the flu, and you may feel crappy for 6 months, and you may have to be hospitalized, and you may die. 

And for many age groups, quite a few of those options are fairly likely... with flu or mild cold the likeliest outcomes, but by no means not the ONLY likely outcomes. 

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This might not be the right thread for this so sorry if not. 
We are doing really good at work right now. We haven’t had an acute Covid patient in our ICU for a couple of weeks. We’ve had a couple of people who had it a few months or so ago and have come in with complications caused later on but not acute patients. I seemed sort of ok during the busy, seemingly endless time when we had lots of patients, but for the last little while I have really been struggling with feeling depressed. Not sure what’s going on with me. My parents are far away and I don’t know when I’ll see them but they have had the first vaccine dose so that’s a relief. I haven’t felt this bad in a long time. 
Not really a personal Covid story but maybe sort of related.

I did work a mass vaccine clinic last weekend and that was actually really nice and raised my spirits a bit.

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2 minutes ago, TCB said:

This might not be the right thread for this so sorry if not. 
We are doing really good at work right now. We haven’t had an acute Covid patient in our ICU for a couple of weeks. We’ve had a couple of people who had it a few months or so ago and have come in with complications caused later on but not acute patients. I seemed sort of ok during the busy, seemingly endless time when we had lots of patients, but for the last little while I have really been struggling with feeling depressed. Not sure what’s going on with me. My parents are far away and I don’t know when I’ll see them but they have had the first vaccine dose so that’s a relief. I haven’t felt this bad in a long time. 
Not really a personal Covid story but maybe sort of related.

I did work a mass vaccine clinic last weekend and that was actually really nice and raised my spirits a bit.

I am so sorry you are feeling depressed.  Sending lots of good thoughts your way.   Do you think it could be post traumatic stress?   I hope you are able to see your parents soon.  Them having their first dose is such a positive step in that direction.   

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On 3/8/2021 at 10:08 AM, Not_a_Number said:

I think it'll be "over" in the sense that things will reopen, people will decide what risks they are wiling to take, and everything will resettle. Right now, we're in a state of suspended animation over here, and that will end. But I think you're right that we won't eradicate this virus. It's really hard to see that happen given the vaccination rates and the fact that immunity doesn't last. 

As for what happens in the longer term... I really can't predict. I wouldn't be surprised if the world became more unstable, period, and I have no idea if COVID is going to be the determining factor for that. 

I hope you are right about the things resettling, but every time I talk to DH, I just get depressed. He is working with several companies that developed the Covid rapid test and keeps telling me how they are planning to ramp up production, because they are expecting a greater need for testing in the future, because of variants 

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14 minutes ago, mommyoffive said:

I am so sorry you are feeling depressed.  Sending lots of good thoughts your way.   Do you think it could be post traumatic stress?   I hope you are able to see your parents soon.  Them having their first dose is such a positive step in that direction.   

Although we had a busy time, we weren’t completely overwhelmed like hospitals in NY etc. so I don’t think it’s ptsd, but maybe just the change of pace or something. I’m so relieved about my parents vaccinations. Hope I get to fly over and see them before too long. 

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19 minutes ago, TCB said:

I seemed sort of ok during the busy, seemingly endless time when we had lots of patients, but for the last little while I have really been struggling with feeling depressed.

I am sorry.   I am in no way any kind of expert on psychology, but my limited understanding is that this is a very common response to an extended trauma.  And I have heard some mental health experts say that they expect a massive need among health care workers after the worst of the covid crisis is over, for precisely this reason.  

Are there any counseling or other psychological services available through your work?  

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2 minutes ago, JennyD said:

I am sorry.   I am in no way any kind of expert on psychology, but my limited understanding is that this is a very common response to an extended trauma.  And I have heard some mental health experts say that they expect a massive need among health care workers after the worst of the covid crisis is over, for precisely this reason.  

Are there any counseling or other psychological services available through your work?  

There is the option of a few counseling sessions through a work scheme and I’ve been thinking about looking into that. 

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Just now, TCB said:

There is the option of a few counseling sessions through a work scheme and I’ve been thinking about looking into that. 

That sounds like a good idea.  Your experience has been so specific to your job, it seems like counseling in that context could be very helpful.  

 

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@TCB, you’ve been through a lot. Simultaneously, large swaths of our population has acted like it’s no big deal. I think the devil may care response from some segments of society could reasonably compound the difficulties.

Some people also process more deeply after the experience while others respond earlier or explain things away. 

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1 hour ago, TCB said:

I haven’t felt this bad in a long time. 
Not really a personal Covid story but maybe sort of related.

I did work a mass vaccine clinic last weekend and that was actually really nice and raised my spirits a bit.

Hope your spirits continue to go up. Thank you for all you're doing! Probably going from so busy to less busy is giving you extra time to dwell on everything...

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3 hours ago, kbutton said:

@TCB, you’ve been through a lot. Simultaneously, large swaths of our population has acted like it’s no big deal. I think the devil may care response from some segments of society could reasonably compound the difficulties.

Some people also process more deeply after the experience while others respond earlier or explain things away. 

I think at least a part, maybe a big part, of why I’m feeling down is because of the way people around here have been behaving, especially my church friends. That part feels so disheartening, and almost feels like grieving a loss. Also, it’s hard to look into the future because of that, as I feel really out of place here now. 

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3 hours ago, Kanin said:

Hope your spirits continue to go up. Thank you for all you're doing! Probably going from so busy to less busy is giving you extra time to dwell on everything...

Yes time to dwell on things is part of it. I guess you just keep going while you have to. There’s also a bit of dread that it’s going to happen again.

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10 minutes ago, TCB said:

I think at least a part, maybe a big part, of why I’m feeling down is because of the way people around here have been behaving, especially my church friends. That part feels so disheartening, and almost feels like grieving a loss. Also, it’s hard to look into the future because of that, as I feel really out of place here now. 

I think it IS grieving a loss. And it's not just grieving the loss of one friend... it's grieving the loss of a community. 

I think that's a terribly hard place to be in. I understand why you are depressed 😞 . 

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2 minutes ago, Not_a_Number said:

I think it IS grieving a loss. And it's not just grieving the loss of one friend... it's grieving the loss of a community. 

I think that's a terribly hard place to be in. I understand why you are depressed 😞 . 

I saw this kind of loss termed as "ambiguous loss." 

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8 minutes ago, TCB said:

I think at least a part, maybe a big part, of why I’m feeling down is because of the way people around here have been behaving, especially my church friends. That part feels so disheartening, and almost feels like grieving a loss. Also, it’s hard to look into the future because of that, as I feel really out of place here now. 

I've heard this from a # of people, both here & in other circles I'm in. And it does seem to hit Christians (who aren't supported by their churches) the hardest. Maybe because the people you thought would always have your back ditched you at the first sign of a paper mask? (note: I'm not saying that's what they did, but I imagine this is what it might feel like.) That's a HUGE loss. And there's no going back, not unless you choose to pretend it all never happened or it all doesn't matter. So you can't go back, but it's also not clear how to go forward.

Tough times.

Hugs.

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Just now, Ali in OR said:

This just amused me. "Precise" definition for "ambiguous" loss.

Well, I guess I don't have a feeling for when it applies! What makes it ambiguous, exactly? Because you aren't sure if you lost it or not? 

So, yes, I need more precision, so I can understand the term 🙂 . 

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31 minutes ago, Not_a_Number said:

Hmm, never heard that term before. What does it mean, precisely? 

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ambiguous_loss#:~:text=Ambiguous loss is a loss,often results in unresolved grief.

https://www.ambiguousloss.com/about/

Quick google search answer. I don't know if I have the article I saw that discussed it in terms of the pandemic, differing responses to the pandemic, and/or politics, but that is where I first heard of it. Apparently our current situation is rife with ambiguous losses. 

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Just now, kbutton said:

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ambiguous_loss#:~:text=Ambiguous loss is a loss,often results in unresolved grief.

https://www.ambiguousloss.com/about/

Quick google search answer. I don't know if I have the article I saw that discussed it in terms of the pandemic, differing responses to the pandemic, and/or politics, but that is where I first heard of it. Apparently our current situation is rife with ambiguous losses. 

Ah-ha. Quick and perhaps imprecise answer: loss without closure. Got it, thank you. 

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50 minutes ago, TCB said:

I think at least a part, maybe a big part, of why I’m feeling down is because of the way people around here have been behaving, especially my church friends. That part feels so disheartening, and almost feels like grieving a loss. Also, it’s hard to look into the future because of that, as I feel really out of place here now. 

It is disheartening, and as a person who often looks to the future and makes choices for today based on that future, I am at loose ends. It would be so much worse if my entire livelihood was spent caring for people who are suffering from something that has been trivialized by a big margin of my personal acquaintances.

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