DawnM Posted December 1, 2019 Share Posted December 1, 2019 He says he needs at least a quarter off. The truth is, with the way the senior project works, he will have to take about a year off. But we are leaving it be for now. I am sad, but today this is the least of my stressors. Sigh. 1 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
school17777 Posted December 2, 2019 Share Posted December 2, 2019 (((Hugs))) Going through this with our ds too. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
katilac Posted December 2, 2019 Share Posted December 2, 2019 I hope a break is what he needs! 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Innisfree Posted December 2, 2019 Share Posted December 2, 2019 Hugs, Dawn. I know you've got so much going on right now. Maybe this is what he needs for now. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PeterPan Posted December 2, 2019 Share Posted December 2, 2019 Saw in your other thread he's between counselors. That sounds like something to resolve. That way he can have some support as he takes his next steps. It's highly probable, given his interests were technical, that he can get a job and move forward, with or without this degree. The timing, the whether, that's not the end of the world at this point. But getting him some support so he can navigate job expectations, interviewing, working for employers, etc., that would be really important. My dd flubbed an interview for something she really wanted a few years ago, and it took her some time (and a class on doing interviews, haha) to realize what she had done. It's just so easy, even when you have the skill, to flub it on the social level. He clearly has the brains and probably enough technical, so it's just the social skills support that will be the question. Sorry it's piling on top of everything else. You need a cruise after this. 1 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DawnM Posted December 2, 2019 Author Share Posted December 2, 2019 He isn't between counselors, his counselor is on maternity leave. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PeterPan Posted December 2, 2019 Share Posted December 2, 2019 I don't know, we've had multiple people change out with maternity leave. They think they know how they'll feel and then they come back and change things. And 6-8 weeks can be a long time if he needs help now to navigate. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DawnM Posted December 2, 2019 Author Share Posted December 2, 2019 7 hours ago, PeterPan said: I don't know, we've had multiple people change out with maternity leave. They think they know how they'll feel and then they come back and change things. And 6-8 weeks can be a long time if he needs help now to navigate. Not really sure he needs help right now. He has made the decision. Going to therapy won't change that for now. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DawnM Posted December 2, 2019 Author Share Posted December 2, 2019 I am trying to withdraw him as the payment was due by midnight yesterday. I am having a hard time clicking the buttons. A very hard time. I can't do it. 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Innisfree Posted December 2, 2019 Share Posted December 2, 2019 31 minutes ago, DawnM said: I am trying to withdraw him as the payment was due by midnight yesterday. I am having a hard time clicking the buttons. A very hard time. I can't do it. Remember this isn't necessarily for all time, just for now. (((Dawn))) 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lecka Posted December 2, 2019 Share Posted December 2, 2019 It is really too bad. I think autism can be really tough with things like this, where all the potential is there but there are still things that keep it from happening. 1 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mumto2 Posted December 2, 2019 Share Posted December 2, 2019 Dawn, just plain old hugs. I really wish I could do something to make today easier. You are in my thoughts and prayers. Way too much stress has come your way in the last few days.💐🙏 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DawnM Posted December 2, 2019 Author Share Posted December 2, 2019 2 hours ago, Innisfree said: Remember this isn't necessarily for all time, just for now. (((Dawn))) I keep telling myself that the college will still be there next year if he wants to go back. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DawnM Posted December 3, 2019 Author Share Posted December 3, 2019 Ok, it is done. 😪😭😩 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PeterPan Posted December 4, 2019 Share Posted December 4, 2019 On December 2, 2019 at 9:07 PM, DawnM said: Ok, it is done. 😪😭😩 You're very brave. We'll look forward to hearing how it goes. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DawnM Posted December 4, 2019 Author Share Posted December 4, 2019 10 hours ago, PeterPan said: You're very brave. We'll look forward to hearing how it goes. I am not brave, just resigned. Sigh. It is painful. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
City Mouse Posted December 11, 2019 Share Posted December 11, 2019 My DD (Diagnosed just a couple of years before) withdrew with only 2 or 3 semesters left. I tried to convince her to change her major to anything just to finish, but she could not be persuaded. The last few years have been rough. She had a series of seasonal part-time work. Her first full time with benefits job ended badly. She probably could have fought her firing, but by that time she did not want to wrk there anyway. That led to another year of job disappointments. In October she got another full time job. It seems to be working out, but we will see. 1 1 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ktgrok Posted December 12, 2019 Share Posted December 12, 2019 Hugs. My son still hasn't gone back to school and it is killing me. I get it. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DawnM Posted December 16, 2019 Author Share Posted December 16, 2019 On 12/11/2019 at 6:52 PM, City Mouse said: My DD (Diagnosed just a couple of years before) withdrew with only 2 or 3 semesters left. I tried to convince her to change her major to anything just to finish, but she could not be persuaded. The last few years have been rough. She had a series of seasonal part-time work. Her first full time with benefits job ended badly. She probably could have fought her firing, but by that time she did not want to wrk there anyway. That led to another year of job disappointments. In October she got another full time job. It seems to be working out, but we will see. Yeah, I am not holding out hope at this point. He needs to be moving forward, and although he says he is going to keep learning and working on his own to pursue his career (and he doesn't necessarily NEED a degree to pursue his field) I worry that without a degree, he will flounder. He is working about 4-5 hours per week for a guy doing some freelance and he has been doing that for about 3 months, so he does have a small job. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PeterPan Posted December 16, 2019 Share Posted December 16, 2019 2 hours ago, DawnM said: He is working about 4-5 hours per week for a guy doing some freelance Is there a way for him to increase that? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DawnM Posted December 16, 2019 Author Share Posted December 16, 2019 15 minutes ago, PeterPan said: Is there a way for him to increase that? Not at this job, no. That is all the work there is. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PeterPan Posted December 16, 2019 Share Posted December 16, 2019 36 minutes ago, DawnM said: Not at this job, no. That is all the work there is. Fooey. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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