fairfarmhand Posted October 18, 2019 Share Posted October 18, 2019 I need a mother of the bride dress since my dd is getting married in December. Her colors are dark red and yellow. She suggested that I wear one of those colors but I don't look good in yellow (nor do I want to look like big bird) And I don't want to look like I'm trying to be a bridesmaid either. None of my other kids are in the wedding. We're going to have lots of pictures, and I want to complement the wedding party. My girls don't want to look like they're trying to be bridesmaids. So what colors will look nice with dark red and sunflower yellow in pictures? Suggestions for dresses? Nothing too matronly. Most MOB dresses look rather matronly. But I don't want to look like I'm trying to be 20 either. And I'd prefer the dress to have sleeves because the wedding is in December and our church is typically chilly. And none of these "cold shoulder" dresses that are in style right now. I sound so picky. I hate shopping. In other news: And how does one respond when people say "Congratulations" to me upon hearing of this wedding. I know what they're saying. "Yay! Good for your dd." But congratulations seems weird and I'm always like "Thanks?" because I am not sure how to answer this because I'm not the one getting married. Snarky me wants to say "Yeah, can't wait to unload the rest of these kids one of these days too!" but that would probably be rude. :) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
prairiewindmomma Posted October 18, 2019 Share Posted October 18, 2019 They are congratulating you because it is a milestone as a parent to have a child marry in addition to the joy (one hopes) of adding a SIL/DIL. “We’re so excited for her!” (Only if that is true) Is the deep red cool or warm toned? I would be looking at taupe, personally. A deep green (with a lot of brown in it) could also work. 6 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
prairiewindmomma Posted October 18, 2019 Share Posted October 18, 2019 Navy could also work. 6 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
maize Posted October 18, 2019 Share Posted October 18, 2019 Dark blue would be my first pick as a complementary color. Anything earth tone would also look good, doesn't strike me as particularly celebratory but I'm not great at wedding stuff. Pale yellows would be fine. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fairfarmhand Posted October 18, 2019 Author Share Posted October 18, 2019 3 minutes ago, prairiewindmomma said: They are congratulating you because it is a milestone as a parent to have a child marry in addition to the joy (one hopes) of adding a SIL/DIL. “We’re so excited for her!” (Only if that is true) Is the deep red cool or warm toned? I would be looking at taupe, personally. A deep green (with a lot of brown in it) could also work. I'd say warm toned. Would taupe look odd with gray groomsmen suits? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DoraBora Posted October 18, 2019 Share Posted October 18, 2019 What colors make you look your best? Can you wear warm tones, or are cool tones better? If you can wear navy or a deep blue, that won't clash with red, yellow, or gray. Nordstrom has nice mother of the bride dresses that don't seem too matronly. So does Amazon. Something from Modcloth might work for the right person. You could also find a long skirt and pair it with a dressy top if you crave versatility. When people say congratulations, they are telling you that they are happy for your daughter and for your family. A simple "Thank you." in reply is all that's needed. 😊 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
prairiewindmomma Posted October 18, 2019 Share Posted October 18, 2019 Yup, that would look odd, imo. I would lean towards navy then. 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
catz Posted October 18, 2019 Share Posted October 18, 2019 I think shades of grey or silver would be fine if the suits are grey as long as they weren't too matchy, but would blend. Black would be ok if the bride oks that. We did a lot of black at our wedding. Navy blue. I think other red/fushia/pink tones may work if you have a sample of the red to make sure it works, or darker gold as long it is clearly different than the yellow. Though I probably wouldn't mix silver and gold. If suits are clearly grey, I probably wouldn't go with taupe. I think "Thank you" is a perfectly appropriate response to "Congratulations". Depending on who it was I might say something like "We're looking forward to welcoming Name_Here into the family". 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PrincessMommy Posted October 18, 2019 Share Posted October 18, 2019 Would any of these be too matronly? https://www.macys.com/shop/product/alex-evenings-sleeveless-jacquard-sparkle-dress-jacket?ID=1316944&CategoryID=5449 This style you have several color options: https://www.thedressoutlet.com/collections/mother-of-the-bride-dresses/products/short-vintage-lace-modern-mother-of-bride-plus-size-formal-boho-cocktail-dress I wore this in plum at my son's wedding last year: https://www.thedressoutlet.com/collections/mother-of-the-bride-dresses/products/r-m-richards-2-piece-short-mother-of-the-bride-dress I don't know why they don't have it in plum now though. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
alisoncooks Posted October 18, 2019 Share Posted October 18, 2019 (edited) Navy was my first thought. If the groomsmen are wearing gray, maybe silver? (Though I don't think of silver and yellow being friends...) Edited October 18, 2019 by alisoncooks Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BusyMom5 Posted October 18, 2019 Share Posted October 18, 2019 I'd do navy with red accents. For your DDs, let them pick something in the burgundy family, maybe navy, possibly cream. For the sunflower weddings I've scene, mothers are wearing casual dresses, skirts, and it does not have to be super matchy. I hate yellow, so I'd be looking at navy, cream and red. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
happi duck Posted October 18, 2019 Share Posted October 18, 2019 I'm another vote for dark green or gray. My late sister wore a gray dress for her daughter's wedding...so beautiful! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
May Posted October 18, 2019 Share Posted October 18, 2019 Good luck shopping. I think I ordered about 5 and tried another 10 on in various stores. I put off shopping for it because how hard can it be, I live in NOVA, after all🙄 I choose a lacy dark grey, which was lovely. Daughter’s bridesmaids wore a dark purple, groomsmen wore black tuxs. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fairfarmhand Posted October 18, 2019 Author Share Posted October 18, 2019 1 hour ago, BusyMom5 said: I'd do navy with red accents. For your DDs, let them pick something in the burgundy family, maybe navy, possibly cream. For the sunflower weddings I've scene, mothers are wearing casual dresses, skirts, and it does not have to be super matchy. I hate yellow, so I'd be looking at navy, cream and red. I wish this was a casual wedding but it's not. 😞 My other 2 daughters continually state : "When I get married, nobody will have to wear anything that has a slip." "When I get married, everyone should wear jeans.": "When I get married, I'm going barefoot." So I think they're figuring out what they DON'T want from this! 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fairfarmhand Posted October 18, 2019 Author Share Posted October 18, 2019 Beige, cream, and taupe would be nice, but my complexion is such that I really need a brighter color near my face. Especially in photos I look washed out in lighter shades. I'm thinking navy or silver. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chris in VA Posted October 18, 2019 Share Posted October 18, 2019 3 hours ago, PrincessMommy said: Would any of these be too matronly? https://www.macys.com/shop/product/alex-evenings-sleeveless-jacquard-sparkle-dress-jacket?ID=1316944&CategoryID=5449 This style you have several color options: https://www.thedressoutlet.com/collections/mother-of-the-bride-dresses/products/short-vintage-lace-modern-mother-of-bride-plus-size-formal-boho-cocktail-dress I wore this in plum at my son's wedding last year: https://www.thedressoutlet.com/collections/mother-of-the-bride-dresses/products/r-m-richards-2-piece-short-mother-of-the-bride-dress I don't know why they don't have it in plum now though. These are pretty! I thought of navy right away, too. The yellow would be the tricky bit--it is hard to go with silver/grey then. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tap Posted October 19, 2019 Share Posted October 19, 2019 Dark green would be great! Most greens would likely work. Navy, only if it is very dark. Otherwise I think it may look like primary colors (red, yellow, blue.) Dark grey with silver to lighten it a bit if that suits your skin tone would be pretty too. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HS Mom in NC Posted October 19, 2019 Share Posted October 19, 2019 Here are images from googling "color palette red yellow". https://www.google.com/search?q=color+palette+red+yellow&client=firefox-b-1-d&source=lnms&tbm=isch&sa=X&ved=0ahUKEwin7N3TkKflAhXvV98KHWHfCfYQ_AUIESgB&biw=1505&bih=889 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HS Mom in NC Posted October 19, 2019 Share Posted October 19, 2019 Maybe you could discourage the formality by claiming to want to wear this dress with a built in cape....because those never go out of style: https://www.amazon.com/Ellenhouse-Womens-Mermaid-Evening-Dresses/dp/B0778C4F9R/ref=sr_1_6?dchild=1&keywords=cape+dress+silver&psc=1&qid=1571447447&sr=8-6 1 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pen Posted October 19, 2019 Share Posted October 19, 2019 Another mother of bride I know got something along these lines which she thinks will work for multiple events and MOB weddings. https://www.jjshouse.com/A-Line-V-Neck-Ankle-Length-Chiffon-Lace-Evening-Dress-With-Sequins-Pleated-017211397-g211397 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AK_Mom4 Posted October 19, 2019 Share Posted October 19, 2019 Both of my two older kids got married this year. One April wedding and one in October. i wore this dress to both (in navy). For the April wedding, I had a navy shawl because my arms were cold. The October wedding was in California and it was 80F so no shawl required. With Red/Yellow, I would look for a brown or navy dress. https://m.jcpenney.com/p/onyx-nites-short-sleeve-applique-shift-dress/ppr5007813533?pTmplType=regular&country=US¤cy=USD&selectedSKUId=22917050125&selectedLotId=2291705&fromBag=true&quantity=1&utm_medium=cse&utm_source=google&utm_campaign=shift dresses&utm_content=22917050125&cid=cse|google|008 - womens apparel|shift dresses_22917050125&kwid=-adType^PLA&gclid=EAIaIQobChMIkNCnoaKn5QIVxx-tBh2TFgQzEAQYDCABEgIKtvD_BwE Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Laura Corin Posted October 19, 2019 Share Posted October 19, 2019 Jumpsuits are very in in the UK at present. I wore this to my son's graduation https://www.boden.co.uk/en-gb/romilly-jumpsuit-navy/sty-t0298-nav?ef_id=Cj0KCQjw6KrtBRDLARIsAKzvQIEgDdG7Et0f2cmwodB0fLcN3nD3g52-YySHZ-pFhvk25EEEU6eVTKwaAnJMEALw_wcB:G:s&s_kwcid=AL!8125!10!331554465806!!!g!536705597012!&cm_mmc=PLA-_-Google1706109278-_-66694157655-_-40123833&gclid=Cj0KCQjw6KrtBRDLARIsAKzvQIEgDdG7Et0f2cmwodB0fLcN3nD3g52-YySHZ-pFhvk25EEEU6eVTKwaAnJMEALw_wcB 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fairfarmhand Posted October 20, 2019 Author Share Posted October 20, 2019 I think this is what I will buy. https://www.eshakti.com/shop2/Dresses/Floral-vine-embellished-dupioni-dress-CL0063019#divProductDetail 4 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
May Posted October 20, 2019 Share Posted October 20, 2019 6 minutes ago, fairfarmhand said: I think this is what I will buy. https://www.eshakti.com/shop2/Dresses/Floral-vine-embellished-dupioni-dress-CL0063019#divProductDetail I’m sure you will look lovely🌺 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PrincessMommy Posted October 20, 2019 Share Posted October 20, 2019 That is beautiful. You will look lovely. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fairfarmhand Posted October 20, 2019 Author Share Posted October 20, 2019 oooo.. Actually, I just found another dress on the site on sale that I like just as well. What do you think of this one? https://www.eshakti.com/shop2/overstock/Quincy-dress-CL0061313_OS#signinform Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sunshine State Sue Posted October 20, 2019 Share Posted October 20, 2019 22 minutes ago, fairfarmhand said: I think this is what I will buy. Wow!!! I love it. I have never seen that website either. I am a very bad shopper. I am a terrible clothes shopper. I always want things that do not exist. Like pockets. I'm gonna bookmark this one. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fairfarmhand Posted October 20, 2019 Author Share Posted October 20, 2019 2 minutes ago, Sue in St Pete said: Wow!!! I love it. I have never seen that website either. I am a very bad shopper. I am a terrible clothes shopper. I always want things that do not exist. Like pockets. I'm gonna bookmark this one. Lots of their dresses have pockets and many can be custom sewn for your measurements to ensure a good fit. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
May Posted October 20, 2019 Share Posted October 20, 2019 1 hour ago, fairfarmhand said: oooo.. Actually, I just found another dress on the site on sale that I like just as well. What do you think of this one? https://www.eshakti.com/shop2/overstock/Quincy-dress-CL0061313_OS#signinform I’d probably get them both, see which one looked the best and send the other back. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
alisoncooks Posted October 20, 2019 Share Posted October 20, 2019 1 hour ago, fairfarmhand said: I think this is what I will buy. https://www.eshakti.com/shop2/Dresses/Floral-vine-embellished-dupioni-dress-CL0063019#divProductDetail I like this one best. The colors are gorgeous! 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kareni Posted October 20, 2019 Share Posted October 20, 2019 2 hours ago, fairfarmhand said: oooo.. Actually, I just found another dress on the site on sale that I like just as well. I think they both look lovely. I hope your daughter and her husband will be very happy and that you'll have a wonderful time at the wedding. Regards, Kareni Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lilaclady Posted October 20, 2019 Share Posted October 20, 2019 I love the one with the yellow but both are pretty. Wishing your daughter and her fiancé a happy married life. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
goldberry Posted October 20, 2019 Share Posted October 20, 2019 (edited) I wore this dress but in a dark purple available at the time. The dress on the model looks very tight. I got my usual size and it fit very nicely, not tight like the photo, but still form fitting so it didn't look like a sack. https://www.macys.com/shop/product/thalia-sodi-lace-sheath-dress-created-for-macys?ID=4831912&lid=pdp_details Dress was super comfy and stretchy for all the moving around I was doing all day. Oh, also the neckline looked really nice in pictures. Edited October 20, 2019 by goldberry 1 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kassia Posted October 20, 2019 Share Posted October 20, 2019 2 minutes ago, goldberry said: I wore this dress but in a dark purple available at the time. The dress on the model looks very tight. I got my usual size and it fit very nicely, not tight like the photo, but still form fitting so it didn't look like a sack. https://www.macys.com/shop/product/thalia-sodi-lace-sheath-dress-created-for-macys?ID=4831912&lid=pdp_details Dress was super comfy and stretchy for all the moving around I was doing all day. Oh, also the neckline looked really nice in pictures. I love this! Now I just need one of my sons to get married so I can wear it... 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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