DawnM Posted July 25, 2019 Share Posted July 25, 2019 I admit I have a few types of people I am envious of, but right now, I am the most envious of those who do not have trouble sleeping. I am a super light sleeper, can't sleep well often, and I am super envious of those who can sleep with noises happening, movement of a spouse or people in the room, basically anyone who is a great sleeper and can sleep wherever/whenever. How about you? What are your envies? 5 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
scholastica Posted July 25, 2019 Share Posted July 25, 2019 10 minutes ago, Æthelthryth the Texan said: I envy those Moms that can always speak calmly and softly to their kids no matter what the kids are doing. Those only exist in public. Just kidding. I know what you mean. 2 5 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SKL Posted July 25, 2019 Share Posted July 25, 2019 I envy people who can wake up bright and early, prioritize well, do all their work without a million distractions, and then have time for guilt-free personal time before drifting to sleep at a reasonable hour. 14 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jentrovert Posted July 25, 2019 Share Posted July 25, 2019 I envy people who are high or normal energy. I have always been a very low energy person and, even when hormones and thyroid are doing great, need more sleep and downtime than average. I could accomplish so much more with an extra 3 hours of productive time each day. 9 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Moonhawk Posted July 25, 2019 Share Posted July 25, 2019 I envy people who can focus on their work/hobby/current task without being interrupted over and over and over and over. Bonus envy if their non-existent interruptions do not have a periodic "Oh, I'm sorry, am I interrupting you?" 4 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kassia Posted July 25, 2019 Share Posted July 25, 2019 I envy people who don't have eating disorders and don't waste every moment of their precious lives and sacrifice relationships obsessing over food/weight/size/hunger/calories. 6 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PrincessMommy Posted July 25, 2019 Share Posted July 25, 2019 1 hour ago, SKL said: I envy people who can wake up bright and early, prioritize well, do all their work without a million distractions, and then have time for guilt-free personal time before drifting to sleep at a reasonable hour. Oh man, this is me. Added with the sleeping ability - I swear it must be a super power. Writing this after having had a terrible night of sleep and only wanted to be a blob in front of the TV today. It's almost 3 and, so far, I've done 15 min of Yoga and gone out to lunch with my dad. I'm killin' it today. 😉 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Selkie Posted July 25, 2019 Share Posted July 25, 2019 I envy parents who can send their kids out into the world with minimal anxiety. I’ve heard people say, “Oh, it’s so great when you send your kids off to college because you don’t have to lay awake and worry about what they’re doing and how late they’ll be out.” And I wonder - how do you do that? Because I’m still worrying, people!! This parenting-of-young-adults thing is kicking my butt! 13 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fairfarmhand Posted July 25, 2019 Share Posted July 25, 2019 I envy people who don’t have mentally ill family members. On a lighter note, I envy People who Can stay slim easily. 8 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mathnerd Posted July 25, 2019 Share Posted July 25, 2019 I envy my own younger self who had high energy and who could never gain enough weight no matter how much I ate that doctors put me on special diets for weight gain. I was so physically active that it was hard to get enough calories in. But now, I struggle with losing even 5 pounds and insomnia makes me gain more and I am on a diet to lose weight as exercising is becoming hard. 4 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
stephanier.1765 Posted July 25, 2019 Share Posted July 25, 2019 I am also envious those whose entire head space isn't wrapped in up food. You would have thought those of us lucky enough to live in a world (personal - not at large) where hunger isn't an issue could have evolved past thoughts focused on when to eat, what to eat, how much to eat. I have eaten so why am I still thinking about food? I'm also extremely envious of those who live near their grandchildren. 5 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DawnM Posted July 25, 2019 Author Share Posted July 25, 2019 42 minutes ago, Selkie said: I envy parents who can send their kids out into the world with minimal anxiety. I’ve heard people say, “Oh, it’s so great when you send your kids off to college because you don’t have to lay awake and worry about what they’re doing and how late they’ll be out.” And I wonder - how do you do that? Because I’m still worrying, people!! This parenting-of-young-adults thing is kicking my butt! ME TOO! And a student of mine just lost her 22 year old sister in a boating accident yesterday, which just raises my anxiety level even more. 5 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Garga Posted July 25, 2019 Share Posted July 25, 2019 (edited) Nm—decided it sounded sadder than I meant for it to. 🙂 Edited July 25, 2019 by Garga 5 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BarbecueMom Posted July 25, 2019 Share Posted July 25, 2019 I’m envious of people who like kids, not just their own. Oddly enough, the hardest part of homeschooling so far for me has been the willingness to deal with other people’s kids. I don’t want to teach/watch/talk to/invite/spend time with kids, unless they are my own, but sometimes I have to. And it’s harder than it should be. 6 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Scarlett Posted July 25, 2019 Share Posted July 25, 2019 53 minutes ago, StellaM said: I envy people whose kids don't struggle with mental illness, and people who own their own beautiful home. So much of what brings me down is related to my kids' struggles and housing issues. Mostly I am just envious of those people for their ability to make good decisions that led to their 'luck'. Kids mental health is a huge deal for sure.... it sometimes I feel shallow for caring about my home. Living in a fixer upper for the last 7 years has really affected me. So I get it. 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted July 25, 2019 Share Posted July 25, 2019 Right now I envy people who just take life as it comes instead of obsessively thinking and worrying about What’s Going to Happen. #shutupstupidbrain 14 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
happi duck Posted July 26, 2019 Share Posted July 26, 2019 I relate to everything about anxiety and young adult kids but my big one is: I envy adults with moms. It is almost exactly 25 years and I miss her so much. Dh visited his mom in another state recently and I felt like I could die of jealousy. 7 5 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
FriedClams Posted July 26, 2019 Share Posted July 26, 2019 I envy people who LOVE driving shotgun with emerging drivers. Oh my. I am NOT one of them. 1 5 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fairfarmhand Posted July 26, 2019 Share Posted July 26, 2019 10 minutes ago, happi duck said: I relate to everything about anxiety and young adult kids but my big one is: I envy adults with moms. It is almost exactly 25 years and I miss her so much. Dh visited his mom in another state recently and I felt like I could die of jealousy. YES! Mines been gone 8 years and I so wish she was stull here. 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lmrich Posted July 26, 2019 Share Posted July 26, 2019 I envy people without food allergies. I really want to eat without being scared. Also envious of good sleepers. I would fail a sleep study. 4 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Farrar Posted July 26, 2019 Share Posted July 26, 2019 I envy people with even, organized focus. Mine is all over the place. Sometimes I'm hardcore on. Other times I struggle to get anything done at all. But also the moms who can speak softly and kindly all the time. I am just so blunt. I know it's not always good for my kids. 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Frances Posted July 26, 2019 Share Posted July 26, 2019 I envy people who are passionate about a few select hobbies, especially those that result in great fitness or beautiful handmade items. I also envy those with good family health histories. 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Scarlett Posted July 26, 2019 Share Posted July 26, 2019 4 hours ago, Garga said: Nm—decided it sounded sadder than I meant for it to. 🙂 No it didn’t. I understood what you meant completely. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Janeway Posted July 26, 2019 Share Posted July 26, 2019 (edited) I am a super light sleeper. I take hours to fall asleep. I wake up repeatedly. I also have a weight problem. I just gain weight. I hate hate hate it when people smugly say it is as easy as watching your food intake vs your exercise. It is not. I have had where I was on a 500 calorie a day diet and worked out 4 hrs a day, as in, serious work out, and still gained. So no, it is not about food intake vs outtake. I also have lung problems and I envy people without. And people who have these big families and plenty of people to spend time with on holidays and such. Edited July 26, 2019 by Janeway 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HeartString Posted July 26, 2019 Share Posted July 26, 2019 I have 2. People who are eloquent and always say just the right thing. And never put their foot in their mouth. People who are outgoing and make friends instantly. 5 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
EKS Posted July 26, 2019 Share Posted July 26, 2019 9 hours ago, Æthelthryth the Texan said: I envy those Moms that can always speak calmly and softly to their kids no matter what the kids are doing. The question is, how do those kids turn out? I'm actually serious. We have created a world, at least in certain communities, that doesn't push back when kids are being annoying, weird, or worse. What effects does that have long term? 7 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PrincessMommy Posted July 26, 2019 Share Posted July 26, 2019 4 hours ago, Quill said: Right now I envy people who just take life as it comes instead of obsessively thinking and worrying about What’s Going to Happen. #shutupstupidbrain Especially when this happens at 3am. !!!! 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted July 26, 2019 Share Posted July 26, 2019 1 minute ago, PrincessMommy said: Especially when this happens at 3am. !!!! 100% me last night. 🙄 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
teachermom2834 Posted July 26, 2019 Share Posted July 26, 2019 Close families where everyone is supportive and gets along and enjoys spending time together. My extended family is small and even when we get together for holidays it is short. Like people will drive two hours just to eat dinner and rush off. I’d like to think my kids will be different as adults but I’m not sure. Definitely the stuff about struggling with weight. of course I would love to be able to stay slim but I am also envious of larger ladies who don’t let it bring them down and who can just accept that they are bigger. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
moonflower Posted July 26, 2019 Share Posted July 26, 2019 I envy religious people, who have a built-in community when they move to a new place, a ritual social gathering they can participate in weekly with communal singing, and a sense of place in the universe that is hard to replicate with secular groups. 7 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Scarlett Posted July 26, 2019 Share Posted July 26, 2019 29 minutes ago, EKS said: The question is, how do those kids turn out? I'm actually serious. We have created a world, at least in certain communities, that doesn't push back when kids are being annoying, weird, or worse. What effects does that have long term? One of my dh’s bosses has a wife with a voice that is like gentle rain all the time. So soothing but at the same time she does actually parent their 3 small children (1, 3 and 5). I would like to be a fly on the wall to see if she ever yells. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PrincessMommy Posted July 26, 2019 Share Posted July 26, 2019 14 minutes ago, Scarlett said: One of my dh’s bosses has a wife with a voice that is like gentle rain all the time. So soothing but at the same time she does actually parent their 3 small children (1, 3 and 5). I would like to be a fly on the wall to see if she ever yells. I have a family member like this. It is amazing. Her kids have turned out fine. I don't know if they yell at their kids or not. I don't see them much anymore. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dirty ethel rackham Posted July 26, 2019 Share Posted July 26, 2019 Gosh, I have a long list. Like others have mentioned, I envy people who do not have children with mental illness. I envy adults who do not struggle with mental illness. I envy people who feel accepted and valued by their family of origin. I envy people who are glass half-full types ... who can see the positive in any situation rather than obsess about everything that could go wrong because experience has told that Murphy's law is true. I envy people who have the energy and self-discipline to get halfway through their to-do list without an imposed outside structure. I envy people who have the mental energy and fortitude to declutter and get rid of things. I feel guilty about all the stuff we have that we don't need or have room for, but I just can't find the energy to deal with. 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
solascriptura Posted July 26, 2019 Share Posted July 26, 2019 What an interesting question... I "envy" people that can learn and retain languages easily. My parents immigrated when I was a baby, and I no longer use the language of my birth. It makes me sad. I've also learned more than a few languages over the years and .... have forgotten them all. I stink at languages. 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Farrar Posted July 26, 2019 Share Posted July 26, 2019 1 hour ago, EKS said: The question is, how do those kids turn out? I'm actually serious. We have created a world, at least in certain communities, that doesn't push back when kids are being annoying, weird, or worse. What effects does that have long term? When I seconded it, I was definitely not picturing parents who have no boundaries or pushback. Rather, parents who can do it without ever yelling, losing their cool, nagging, pushing way too hard... I know some really strict (and some not so strict parents but who still have clear boundaries) who just never break their calm parent persona. I’m not constantly yelling or nagging or anything. But I do go too far and do those things sometimes and have to pull myself back. 5 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BakersDozen Posted July 26, 2019 Share Posted July 26, 2019 At this time every year I find myself fighting really ugly envy toward those who have parents/grandparents, etc. who gift them money. Not a loan, no strings attached. Just a gift of funds for home school curriculum, extracurricular activities, etc. Seems most of my friends have someone in their life who offers to pay for one activity for each kid each year. Another gets $500/kid for school stuff from her parents. Another not only gets money but a month-long vacation at her parent's place in Idaho (gorgeous estate) each summer. Her kids play while she relaxes and plans for the coming school year. I also envy those friends (ironically, the same ones with the wealthy family members) who have family involved in their lives in a healthy way. Yeah, I envy those people big time. 2 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Donna Posted July 26, 2019 Share Posted July 26, 2019 15 hours ago, DawnM said: I admit I have a few types of people I am envious of, but right now, I am the most envious of those who do not have trouble sleeping. I am a super light sleeper, can't sleep well often, and I am super envious of those who can sleep with noises happening, movement of a spouse or people in the room, basically anyone who is a great sleeper and can sleep wherever/whenever. How about you? What are your envies? Actually, I am with you on this one. I am such a light sleeper and I have trouble falling asleep. Some nights I feel like I forget how to fall asleep and I lay there for hours and hours with my brain thinking about everything all at one time. No matter what time I fall asleep, I wake with the sun in the morning. So frustrating. So, yeah, I envy those who can sleep and especially those who can sleep in. 1 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DawnM Posted July 26, 2019 Author Share Posted July 26, 2019 (edited) 6 hours ago, solascriptura said: What an interesting question... I "envy" people that can learn and retain languages easily. My parents immigrated when I was a baby, and I no longer use the language of my birth. It makes me sad. I've also learned more than a few languages over the years and .... have forgotten them all. I stink at languages. I know the wording was a bit off, and maybe I should have said, "What do you wish you had/could be like" but I just went for the envy word! 😁 And as far as languages, I have a friend who is so gifted at learning languages that he can literally meet anyone in the world, even if they don't speak any English, and can have enough grasp of their language within an hour that he can have semi-conversations with them. Give him a week or two and he can have some real conversations. He is absolutely amazing. I have never met anyone like him. Edited July 26, 2019 by DawnM Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DawnM Posted July 26, 2019 Author Share Posted July 26, 2019 Oh, and get this (sleep issues related). Yesterday I spent a lot of time on the phone making doctors appointments for me and the 3 kids, trying to get us all to the dentist, eye doc, and physicals, and one to therapy before I have to go back to school. I made multiple days' worth of appointments, etc.....and I had me down for 8am eye doc today (Thur). I got some news last night that had me up thinking and thinking and thinking until after midnight. I got up at 6 to shower and get ready. Just remembered they called me yesterday to change it to the same day/time as my kids and said they could squeeze us all in, so I didn't have to get up early at all this am! ARGH! But now youngest has a dental appt at 9:30 so I can't go back to bed, and besides, my mind is racing. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DawnM Posted July 26, 2019 Author Share Posted July 26, 2019 (edited) 14 hours ago, fairfarmhand said: I envy people who don’t have mentally ill family members. On a lighter note, I envy People who Can stay slim easily. Right there with you on both, although I know people have far deeper mental illness issues in their family than I do. And slim? Sigh, I just hope to get down into the "overweight" category right now. Edited July 26, 2019 by DawnM 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Carrie12345 Posted July 26, 2019 Share Posted July 26, 2019 So many bits and pieces of what others have mentioned! But mostly, I envy the people who can juggle responsibilities well. I can do things well, but I drop other, equally important things to do so. I envy people with solid emotional support systems. And I envy people who can find the sweet spot between being “friends” with their kids and being a hard@ss. I tend to veer hard! I also envy people with excellent health care benefits and those who purchased their homes after the real estate bust! 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LMD Posted July 26, 2019 Share Posted July 26, 2019 I know one of those never-yellers. She's amazing. She has more than twice the number of children that I have, and darn it if they aren't all lovely and mild mannered too! They are very strict in many ways but seem to enforce their boundaries with kind, measured voices and coaxing discussions. The children - some adults now - are all helpful, so kind, great playmates with every other child. Oh, but don't assume they are all doormats with no personality! No way, they - parents and kids - have strong opinions and love a good meaty discussion, they are just so loving about it all. I am, in contrast, an absolute ogress... 4 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LMD Posted July 26, 2019 Share Posted July 26, 2019 I envy people who are naturally organised and able to live productive lives 😄 I'm allergic to busy. More than 1 or 2 things a day and I need a lie down! My sister in law and best friend are like that, they're up at 6am with a skip in their step and have accomplished 6 impossible things before breakfast. I need a lie down after reading their 'what did you do today' texts 😄 2 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kassia Posted July 26, 2019 Share Posted July 26, 2019 My youngest is almost 17 and I've never yelled at her. I think I've only yelled at one of my four kids and I deeply regret it. He's an Aspie and I didn't know it until he was a teen and I let him get to me at times when I should have remained calm. People (including my own kids) have always commented on how patient I am with my own kids and others (when my kids were in ps I volunteered in the classrooms a lot). I don't notice it because it's just who I am but it's been mentioned to me many times. 4 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DawnM Posted July 26, 2019 Author Share Posted July 26, 2019 1 minute ago, Kassia said: My youngest is almost 17 and I've never yelled at her. I think I've only yelled at one of my four kids and I deeply regret it. He's an Aspie and I didn't know it until he was a teen and I let him get to me at times when I should have remained calm. People (including my own kids) have always commented on how patient I am with my own kids and others (when my kids were in ps I volunteered in the classrooms a lot). I don't notice it because it's just who I am but it's been mentioned to me many times. I have had to apologize to my Aspie over and over again. I didn't know he was an Aspie and I would get so mad at him, and it was horrible now that I look back. I remember once I told him he had to sit in the living room, on the sofa, until he apologized to me for being a pain (and he had been!) and he sat there for 8 hours! I would go in and ask if he was ready to apologize and he would cross his arms and look away. I did let him read and draw (and eat and use the bathroom) but he refused to say he was sorry. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Shellydon Posted July 26, 2019 Share Posted July 26, 2019 Envious of those that can lose weight. 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pawz4me Posted July 26, 2019 Share Posted July 26, 2019 I'm envious of those who can maintain a good weight w/o enduring significant, constant hunger. I'm envious of people who aren't zapped by socializing. A lunch or dinner out with a friend is great, but wipes me out so much I need 24 hours or more to recover. The recovery time makes me shy away from socializing, and that's not good. 7 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DawnM Posted July 26, 2019 Author Share Posted July 26, 2019 Sitting in the dentist office waiting room with a mom speaking softly. Unfortunately it isn’t working. The child in whining and whining. it Has been going on for 30+ minutes. Poor mom is breastfeeding baby and trying to get other child to not whine and act out. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DawnM Posted July 26, 2019 Author Share Posted July 26, 2019 1 hour ago, Shellydon said: Envious of those that can lose weight. Definitely! When I was within a semi normal weight range I never touched certain foods and I was hungry a LOT! I can’t seem to do that anymore. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TechWife Posted July 26, 2019 Share Posted July 26, 2019 I’m envious of those who have local friends. I just have acquaintances. By bff lives five hours away. 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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