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My spouse snores really loud and it causes me to barely sleep and constantly be sleep deprived. I keep trying to get him to do something like look into getting tonsils out, a mouth guard or the apnea machine etc but he will not hear it. Last year he traveled for work for a month and it was so nice to be able to sleep that month. Recently my kids had a sleep over in each other's room so I used the extra room to sleep and it was so nice. He falls asleep immediately and it takes me forever to fall asleep and poking him to change positions does not stop it. We do not have any extra bedrooms but I need to sleep separately. What is some sort of comfortable long term sleeping option that can be moved every day? We can't have a bed taking up space in another room.

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There are inexpensive foam mattresses on Amazon that are comfortable enough for me; I would just put one I'm the floor at night then move it in the morning. There are also folding mattresses if that makes storage easier.

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At that point, I'd sleep in a different room.  I prefer to sleep w/ my dh but if it is him or sleep, I'm choosing sleep, you can't function without it, just b/c he wants to be stubborn you shouldn't be punished. My mil often slept in a different room than my FIL and perhaps that will push him to get the sleep study done, if not at least you will get some sleep. 

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maize is right.  he really needs a sleep study.  I have sleep apnea - wish I didn't!  I didn't have it until 15 years ago when I started gaining weight with age.  I've been trying hard to lose weight but it isn't budging.  Still, I'm going to keep trying.  Sleep apnea can cause many different health issues and since I'm sure he wants to be around for you the kids, he needs to think of protecting himself and his family that way!!!

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Get an inexpensive foam mattress that you can push under one of your kids beds. Alternatively, buy bunk beds for one room and put kid on top and you take the bottom. There are also some nice day beds that look like couches that you could put in a living area. 

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Does he have any weight to lose? My dh cleaned up his diet and lost 40 lbs. He is very fit now and doesn't snore at all - the difference is pretty amazing!

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I usually just poke and shove DH til he rolls off his back, as he doesn't snore when he's on his side or stomach 😁

But DH also heard of a pillow that somehow detects when you snore and automatically inflates/deflates to such a position that makes you stop snoring that he is considering buying. Sorry I don't have a link, he was looking into it, not me. 

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A former coworker put a tennis ball in a long sock and sewed it on the back of her husband’s shirt. It kept him from sleeping on his back. 

Seriously though, get a sleep study. You can do them at home now. The sleep apnea machine has helped both my husband and me sleep better. I didn’t realize how poorly I was sleeping until he got the apnea machine. 

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Do you have a large closet in which you could store a folding bed, something like this?

https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B008BWESBQ/ref=oh_aui_search_detailpage?ie=UTF8&psc=1

I encourage you to sleep separately! My husband and I have separate bedrooms for the same reason. Ear plugs just weren't cutting it and I was tired of sleeping on the sofa. You will feel so much better when you start getting a good night's sleep every night.

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We are pretty certain that it was Sleep Apnea that killed my Grandfather.  So, I am a huge supporter of getting a study at least.   I had to insist on DH getting a study.  His Apnea was so bad they put the machine on his the first night and did the calibration then because they were literally worried he would die in their bed.   Instead of 'Wakes per hour', they used 'Wakes per minute'.   
If he still insists on not getting a study done, I'd kick him out of the master bed.   This is his problem to solve.  If he doesn't have Apnea, THEN you look into the other things.    

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My Xh and my current husband both snore.  Xh much worse.  Somehow I was always able to sleep though. .  One time on a camping trip he fell asleep near the picnic table.  His brothers were in a tent and I was in a camper and I woke up to his brothers yelling at him, ‘Go get in the camper with Scarlett’.  Apparently he was snoring so loudly it woke up the entire camp except me.  

But not sleeping is horrible.  I would definitely sleep elsewhere. Can your kids share a room?  Or how about a futon? Ours is fairly comfortable for one person and very easily pops up and down. 

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1 hour ago, soror said:

At that point, I'd sleep in a different room.  I prefer to sleep w/ my dh but if it is him or sleep, I'm choosing sleep, you can't function without it, just b/c he wants to be stubborn you shouldn't be punished. My mil often slept in a different room than my FIL and perhaps that will push him to get the sleep study done, if not at least you will get some sleep. 

This is what we do.  It isn't perfect, but neither is being so sleep deprived from a spouse.    I used to end up on the couch most nights, but now that most of the kids are out of the house, we have separate bedrooms.  Back in the day I actually bought a couch with the specific idea of it being slept on.  It was big and long and very comfortable. I loved that couch.   DH is in the guest room now (I was in the guest room at the old house).   It's pretty tough when we have visitors, because we have to go back together again.

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Those foam earplugs worked pretty well for me as long as he made an effort to stay awake until I was asleep. Then I started getting outer ear infections and could no longer use them.  He finally did a sleep study and got a machine, and it has helped both of us really.  Now he wouldn’t be without it whether I’m around or not.

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1 hour ago, maize said:

I would continue to push for a sleep study though, the detrimental effects of untreated sleep apnea can be pretty devastating:

https://www.healthline.com/health/sleep-apnea/effects-on-body#1

I agree with this. I finally convinced my dh to go. He got a monitor - He had way too many episodes in the timeframe and was not breathing for up to 90 seconds at a time - and he only had moderate to severe. I can't imagine severe!  He got a CPAP machine, and he feels SO much better. I was a little weirded out at first because there was no noise coming from his side of the bed, but it is all good now. 

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I'm sorry he's stubborn about digging into it even though he knows it is keeping you from sleeping well at night.  But I guess it is what it is.  In your case, I'd probably get a fold-up bed as recommended above or a nice comfy couch.  After everyone is in their bedroom at night, you can set up bed in the living room.

Another thought, have you tried really good earplugs?  My kids have gotten ones where you somehow mold them to fit your particular ears.   They seemed to be really good at blocking out sound.  

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Same issue here.  I sleep in a different room.  I put a loft bed into our home office room. 

I also sleep well on a thermarest basecamp inflatable camping mattress, which is small to store (even fully inflated) and very easy to move.  I used this before we had the loft bed.

I find earplugs uncomfortable, but will use them occasionally (especially when camping).

Another emergency measure for when we have to be in the same bed:  one of us sleeps wrongway in the bed (feet to head), so maximum distance between snorer's head and my ears.

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People who snore heavily most often have issues with sleep apnea.

Not treating sleep apnea is dangerous to a person's health.

A sleep study is in order. It is the only reasonable option.

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4 hours ago, MistyMountain said:

My spouse snores really loud and it causes me to barely sleep and constantly be sleep deprived. I keep trying to get him to do something like look into getting tonsils out, a mouth guard or the apnea machine etc but he will not hear it. Last year he traveled for work for a month and it was so nice to be able to sleep that month. Recently my kids had a sleep over in each other's room so I used the extra room to sleep and it was so nice. He falls asleep immediately and it takes me forever to fall asleep and poking him to change positions does not stop it. We do not have any extra bedrooms but I need to sleep separately. What is some sort of comfortable long term sleeping option that can be moved every day? We can't have a bed taking up space in another room.

Can I ask why he's so resistant about treatment?  Snoring is not just an annoyance to others.  If it's sleep apnea, it can have devastating consequences.  

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Maybe a good quality blow up mattress you can use a few nights a week to get the sleep you need?  It will take a few minutes morning and night to set up and put away but may be worth it.  

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A lot of people snore without having sleep apnea.  My DH does not have it, but snores like a champ.  His snoring is directly related to his weight.  His weight is high right now and snoring is at it's worst, but he has to want to make changes, and he's just not there yet- despite some pretty earnest badgering from his family. 

The camping scenario? We go camping with extended family every summer for a week.  No one puts their tents near ours because no one can sleep if he's nearby. 

My solution?  I took a middle of the night job delivering newspapers since I was awake anyway.    I go to bed early every night now so I get a nice head start on sleep.  He comes in later, and we try to co-sleep for a while before I get up and go do my deliveries, and when I come home I go back to bed and usually that's when he's getting up for work and I get several more hours of sleep in.    It's not perfect, but it works for us.  When he doesn't work or the snoring ramps up early, I move to the couch where I sleep REALLY good.   I keep blankets tucked behind a piece of furniture just for this reason. 

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Can you record him snoring so he hears how bad it is? 

DH snored terribly for years. I suffered through it until we had kids, then he moved to the couch. When the girls were little, he had a sleep study done. Sure enough, it was apnea. The cpap machine totally cleared up the snoring, but more importantly: he's not exhausted during the day, he has fewer sinus infections, and he's mentally sharper. 

I'd nag DH. If he won't do it for his own health, he should at least do it for yours. Sleep deprivation is no joke. 

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My dh refuses to get a sleep study too. Before my children grew up and moved out (and I was able to get my own room), I slept on an air mattress. It was easy to put up and out of the way and easy to inflate. Throw a quick fitted sheet on it and a blanket and I was ready to go.

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1 hour ago, alisoncooks said:

Can you record him snoring so he hears how bad it is? 

This reminded me, there’s an app for that. I installed an app called SnoreLab for just this purpose.  The idea is for it to be used by the snorer, so they can track what changes help reduce their snoring episodes. 

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27 minutes ago, stephanier.1765 said:

My dh refuses to get a sleep study too. Before my children grew up and moved out (and I was able to get my own room), I slept on an air mattress. It was easy to put up and out of the way and easy to inflate. Throw a quick fitted sheet on it and a blanket and I was ready to go.

I notice a trend (and it applies to me too) that seems unfair. Why is it always the non-snorer (who is almost always the woman) who is getting up and moving out of the bed at night? 

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1 hour ago, kand said:

I notice a trend (and it applies to me too) that seems unfair. Why is it always the non-snorer (who is almost always the woman) who is getting up and moving out of the bed at night? 

 

For us, it was because I'm smaller in weight and height thus feeling much more comfortable on a inflatable mattress. And at first, I was also more likely to go to bed last so if he slept in the living room I would bother him with my noise.

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2 hours ago, kand said:

I notice a trend (and it applies to me too) that seems unfair. Why is it always the non-snorer (who is almost always the woman) who is getting up and moving out of the bed at night? 

I am dealing with this and I think it is unfair (as does my snoring dh). The reasons why I have started moving out of the room are, first, because I’m wide awake and frustrated at the snoring and he is in deep sleep. In the light of day he eagerly says he will get up and move but in reality when he is snoring he is hardly coherent to think clearly and follow through. Second, he is the sole provider and he is the one who has to work all day with an hour commute in heavy traffic. So, selfishly I do not want him dead or fired, so I have been moving on weeknights.

But I am not happy with this solution and we are having an ongoing discussion about it (it is a pretty recent development). It is totally unfair and we are seeking some other solution than me leaving. I love my own bed! 

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It's true you can snore and NOT have s.a. but do you want to make that call?  Many people who snore have s.a.  Let the professionals at the sleep clinic test for that.  Also, with all due respect to the posts offering suggestions for "things" to help, such as pillows, or whatever - that will not get to the root issue.  He needs a sleep study to determine IF he has s.a.  If so, he NEEDS a machine.  Maybe he doesn't have s.a. then other options should be considered at that time AFTER s.a. has been ruled out.  

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10 hours ago, Selkie said:

Does he have any weight to lose? My dh cleaned up his diet and lost 40 lbs. He is very fit now and doesn't snore at all - the difference is pretty amazing!

The same happened in our family for both dh and I.  We started following  Eat to Live about five months ago  ( with significant weight loss ) and the changes have been dramatic.  We both sleep well and wake up not tired.  Neither of us snore anymore either.  

 

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Earplugs only go so far. My dh snores even on his side, so a tennis ball on his back does nothing.  He was tested and has sleep apnea and uses a cpap now.  I wish that I’d pushed the issue harder, earlier.

OP how much have you pushed the issue? This is one of those hills to die on, in my opinion.  It’s ridiculous that he is snoring so loudly that you’re looking for new beds and will end up on a flimsy mattress on the floor while he’s lolling about in a soft bed and he’s not willing to be tested.  It’s a jerk move.  Have you called him on it?  

Sleep apnea can cause a host of issues and death.  It’s important to rule it out or to treat it if he has it.

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Eeks, I didn't read all the answers but I feel for you.   Mine snores, wants noise from his computer ALL. NIGHT.  
Sleeps with lights on.  I couldn't take it.  We now have separate bedrooms.  I don't even pretend to sleep there.  Moved all my clothes, took my favorite furniture, etc.  I still "visit' but I love my own room.  Me and my cat, him and his.  

My health was suffering.  I was exhausted.   Now I can sleep and he brings me morning coffee.  Do what you have to do.

Of course, all our kids are out and we've got four bedrooms so it's easy.  Hope you find a solution.

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My dh sounds like Darth Vader when he sleeps. After years of putting up with that, I was done. Plus there came the night when I gently woke him and asked him to turn over (at that time he could breathe a bit less noisily sleeping on his side) and he snapped at me, "YOU TURN OVER!!" I had just had a baby, I was so tired and emotional...yeah, I was done. He had two chances to see a doctor for absolutely no cost (we had fantastic health insurance) but refused. So he has slept on a mattress in the living room since 2009. No hard feelings on his end (thank goodness) because he knows he breathes crazy loudly (even the kids have complained) and he knows he is the one choosing to not seek help. So I get to sleep well which makes for a much happier wife/mom and a much happier household.

Another great thing is that I have my own room which has become my sanctuary. I go in at night and it is so calming. No one else in there, just my space. So I no longer pressure dh to seek help for his Darth Vader breathing, lol.

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Dh snores and is embarrassed by it.  He won't mention it to the doctor.  I keep asking him to have it checked out.  I know it can be serious so I'm going to keep asking.  I'm not sure why he feels so embarrassed.

 

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He used to fall asleep with th tv a lot and end up in the living room all night but lately he has not. He actually did offer to sleep elsewhere but he has back issues from a car accident so I figure I can sleep elsewhere for now. I have bought up going for a sleep study or to look into why since it could be sleep apnea but he does not like going to doctors and did not want to. Right now we have high deductible insurance and lots of costs come up at once. A car is on the fritz, a bathroom is being repaired, and our boiler just went out plus other stuff. We just get by as it is. When I mentioned sleeping elsewhere he dd say maybe when other things get taken care of he will go in for it.

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I'm just gonna throw it out there that when my husband was waking me up a lot *he* was the one that moved out of our room. It was ultimately temporary, but it was for a long time. So he figured out something else to sleep on, and where to put it. 

Incidentally, after we did that, I found out that fully half of my friends happily slept in separate rooms from their husbands. And the other half found the idea absolutely ghastly. Sacrilege. A direct route to divorce. A sure way to never be touched by a man again 🤣

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3 hours ago, MistyMountain said:

He used to fall asleep with th tv a lot and end up in the living room all night but lately he has not. He actually did offer to sleep elsewhere but he has back issues from a car accident so I figure I can sleep elsewhere for now. I have bought up going for a sleep study or to look into why since it could be sleep apnea but he does not like going to doctors and did not want to. Right now we have high deductible insurance and lots of costs come up at once. A car is on the fritz, a bathroom is being repaired, and our boiler just went out lus other stuff. We just get by as it is. When I mentioned sleeping elsewhere he dd say maybe when other things get taken care of he will go in for it.

 

The back issues are probably contributing to the sleep problem.

I got to the point that I was absolutely furious that DH thought it was OK for me to not be able to sleep. And he was taken by surprise that I wasn't just teasing him about it 😑. Like he was some cute little puppy have a dream for the first time lol. 

DH did stop snoring like crazy on his own, fwiw. Ho got really big into training himself to stop breathing through his mouth, in the day and the night.  

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4 hours ago, OKBud said:

Incidentally, after we did that, I found out that fully half of my friends happily slept in separate rooms from their husbands. And the other half found the idea absolutely ghastly. Sacrilege. A direct route to divorce. A sure way to never be touched by a man again 🤣

 

Sometimes we have to sleep apart (someone has a bad nighttime cough, someone has a back issue and sleeps on the lazyboy) and BOY O BOY, do I LOVE it.  I love sleeping alone.  

But DH is like the second half of your friends and figures it's the highway to divorce.  I pretend to miss him when we sleep apart because he would be shaken to know that I prefer the bed all to myself and would take it to mean I don't love him.  

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I got to the point that I was absolutely furious that DH thought it was OK for me to not be able to sleep. And he was taken by surprise that I wasn't just teasing him about it 😑

 

After DH got his Cpap, he would lie down in bed and play on his phone until he dozed off.  By then, I would be asleep.  And then he'd start snoring because he hadn't put on the CPAP, which would wake me back up.  

I remember feeling enraged when this would happen.  He would say, "Oh, just wake me up and tell me to put it on."  And I'm like, "SO...you're ok with me falling asleep, and then being woken by your snoring, so that I can have the honor of waking you up to put on your cpap so that the both of us can go back to sleep?"  And half the time, he'd fall back to sleep without putting it on, so I'd get to wake him up AGAIN to remind him a SECOND TIME to put it on. (Yes, I'm a little bit shouty about it.)  He still doesn't get how angry it would make me and he still does it from time to time. 

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13 hours ago, MaBelle said:

Eeks, I didn't read all the answers but I feel for you.   Mine snores, wants noise from his computer ALL. NIGHT.  
Sleeps with lights on.  I couldn't take it.  We now have separate bedrooms.  I don't even pretend to sleep there.  Moved all my clothes, took my favorite furniture, etc.  I still "visit' but I love my own room.  Me and my cat, him and his.  

My health was suffering.  I was exhausted.   Now I can sleep and he brings me morning coffee.  Do what you have to do.

Of course, all our kids are out and we've got four bedrooms so it's easy.  Hope you find a solution.

That is my dream!! I want my own room for me and my cat!. DH snores. He wants his blinky lights and computer noises all night. He drops to sleep literally within 10seconds of hitting the pillow most nights so none of that bothers him and I'm awake for hours without silence and darkness. I'd love to have the rich people set up of adjoining rooms with separate sleeping areas and bathrooms. I sometimes go to the guest room when it's really bad but it's not an option when we have guests. 

I have listened carefully to DH and I don't think he has apnea but who knows. He doesn't think he needs a sleep study. My Dad has apnea and I think DH doesn't want to use the machine since he's seen it. He usually quits snoring once he hits deep sleep so I will stay awake for hours downstairs and go up only when I no longer hear snoring. I hate it when DH stays up late because it means I'll be up really late but he gets offended if I try to imply he should be going to bed. My MIL snores really badly too and she's not overweight so I wonder if there's something genetic about it. 

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No advice to the OP other than to continue to encourage her husband to get a sleep study, but I just wanted to take this opportunity to say that it always astounds me that it is the non-snorer who is expected to move or otherwise deal with the snorer's noise.  In any other aspect of life, a person making a racket in the middle of the night would go to sequester themselves so as not to wake those sleeping.  

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5 minutes ago, EKS said:

No advice to the OP other than to continue to encourage her husband to get a sleep study, but I just wanted to take this opportunity to say that it always astounds me that it is the non-snorer who is expected to move or otherwise deal with the snorer's noise.  In any other aspect of life, a person making a racket in the middle of the night would go to sequester themselves so as not to wake those sleeping.  

 

I also went sleep deprived for years because of the snoring and moving around at night. Even when he finally got a CPAP, the moving around meant that I got maybe 4-5 hours of sleep a night. When we went on vacation and had to share a bed, I knew that I wouldn't sleep much. Eventually I also got a CPAP because my asthma was affecting my nighttime breathing. Weight loss didn't resolve it for me.

The husband of a friend commented that he got a CPAP for his wife when I got mine. It came up because he commented that I looked more rested. That's when I realized the truth of what EKS said. I should not have been the one to suffer for so long.

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I want my own room but it would definitely rock dh’s boat. I’m sure he would think me moving out of the master bedroom would be a step out the door. He is adamant about sleep being a precious commodity, but he does not at all understand that people have different effective sleep patterns. 

He thinks (not aloud but by attitude) all should go to sleep at 930pm and rise at 5/530am. That we folks who can’t do that are simply undisciplined. But I personally know that (1) I am committed to being open to conversations with my young adults at the times they seem to prefer (10p-12a), when they are ripe for sharing, and (2) I find that my soundest, most restorative sleep seems to happen best between 5am and 8am. 

So, he goes to bed early and I lose access to plinking around in the master bedroom (laundry folding, reading with the light on, straightening dresser drawers, beauty regimens in the master bath). And then, partly because he is also the type that likes to tell me goodbye every time he leaves the house - which is of course very sweet - he sometimes wakes me up to say goodbye, or I’m just woken too early by his alarm clock or the lights and sounds of him moving around the room to get dressed for the day. 

I would love to express my need for separate sleeping arrangements, but I just know he’d take it the wrong way. I just wish he could realize how much more fun a not-sleep-deprived spouse would be. But, tradition of what a “good” marriage is “supposed” to look like is actually sort of bogging things down. 

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Sleep is worth fighting about imo! I've had years of not sleeping well because of my beloved children. I'm not going to make the same sacrifice for him when it can be helped by him simply bedding down across the hall. If only all life's problems were so simple to solve! 

And, again, it didn't turn out to be permanent. You never know. 

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2 hours ago, Paige said:

That is my dream!! I want my own room for me and my cat!. DH snores. He wants his blinky lights and computer noises all night. He drops to sleep literally within 10seconds of hitting the pillow most nights so none of that bothers him and I'm awake for hours without silence and darkness. I'd love to have the rich people set up of adjoining rooms with separate sleeping areas and bathrooms. I sometimes go to the guest room when it's really bad but it's not an option when we have guests. 

I have listened carefully to DH and I don't think he has apnea but who knows. He doesn't think he needs a sleep study. My Dad has apnea and I think DH doesn't want to use the machine since he's seen it. He usually quits snoring once he hits deep sleep so I will stay awake for hours downstairs and go up only when I no longer hear snoring. I hate it when DH stays up late because it means I'll be up really late but he gets offended if I try to imply he should be going to bed. My MIL snores really badly too and she's not overweight so I wonder if there's something genetic about it. 

It could be the size of their adenoids. That’s behind a lot of snoring. 

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As far as me moving instead of him, we added on to the house and ended up with two master bedrooms.  I'm in my favorite so I'm happy.  Would be another story if I wasn't where I wanted to be.

 

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8 hours ago, OKBud said:

 

Incidentally, after we did that, I found out that fully half of my friends happily slept in separate rooms from their husbands. And the other half found the idea absolutely ghastly. Sacrilege. A direct route to divorce. A sure way to never be touched by a man again 🤣

Well, that might make some wives happy too.  

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1 hour ago, MaBelle said:

As far as me moving instead of him, we added on to the house and ended up with two master bedrooms.  I'm in my favorite so I'm happy.  Would be another story if I wasn't where I wanted to be.

 

 

Ok totally jealous now. 

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1 hour ago, MaBelle said:

Well, that might make some wives happy too.  

A very Scarlet Butler way to go about it!! Kicking him out of your bedroom. 

 

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I bought a new couch and kicked my husband out of the bedroom.  It took six months or so, but he eventually got the sleep study.  He wears CPAP now and I can only tell it's on when it's ramping up after he's been up out of bed at night.  Now he had become so dependent he takes it camping.

 

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This is not the question you asked, but maybe it will be helpful anyway.  My DH has a CPAP machine and it is loud.  So I've come up with several ways to block the noise.  1. Earplugs (Hereos extreme are the best I've found) 2. A fat and squishy pillow over my head (side sleeper here so only one ear needs blocked)  3. I sleep with my head at the foot of the ned to get further away from the machine 4. And he sleeps with a blanket over his CPAP (should muffle snoring too if you can convince your DH to do it).

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I move to the couch when dh is snoring(instead of him) for a few reasons.

I am half his size and that's less strain on the couch.  

I can sleep anywhere. 

He has a physically demanding job and needs sleep.  Not that I dont, but again. I can sleep anywhere. 

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