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Well y'all were right... I got in there, going through 18 years of dd's clothes, and a lot was stained and just not as romantic and beautiful as I had remembered. I bagged up most of it as trash and reserved out two totes of the very best of the very best. They're things I'd want if I have another (unlikely, but still) and they're ready to sell off in the spring or on a sale list, now that the stained and scraggly stuff is all decuttered out.

Next will be boys clothes, and then the real test--books! 

I kept repeating as I did it the mantra someone had posted here, that I wasn't throwing away the PERSON, only the clothes. It really did help. And what's cool is I found all the things I had made her over the years! I knew I had sewn for her, but I didn't realize quite how much. So that was fun. :smile:

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Congratulations! That’s quite the accomplishment! I can’t imagine what 18 years of clothes would look like. I’m always thrilled when the youngest child of either sex is done with a size of hand me downs and can’t wait to get them out of the house! My younger ds has passed his older brother in height and can no longer use hand me downs so they all went to Goodwill or St Vincent de Paul or wherever they go when dh takes a load out for me. 

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1 hour ago, sdobis said:

Good job! Honestly, after reading your other post, it didn't sound like you were ready to declutter.

Thanks! You're right, I wasn't. I sort of maxed out our storage area and got some help from dd (moral courage, she told me to throw everything away, lol) and just thought I'd try. I took out 8 garbage bags, a double stroller, a box of old cluttery books, a VCR and video tapes (yes, for real). It was just easy decluttering, not the really hard stuff. I was just looking for something where I could go in and make a radical difference, and it went better than I thought.

And yeah, I've still got this pile (two long totes worth) that are stuff I'm not quite ready to let go. Like 20-30 Hanna Andersson dresses, that kind of thing, stuff that's almost like new because only she wore them. They were so beautiful. I'm 42 1/2, will be 43 in the spring. I actually ovulated 2 of the last 3 months since starting thyroid meds, and I'm hoping a dose bump coming next week (labs tomorrow) will get me the rest of the way there. That's why I'm being so sentimental and stalling--it's really it, the end of the line. Either gonna get pregnant or let it go.

And, fwiw, I did crank up the Frozen soundtrack really loud while I was doing this. I thought there was something smart about a person singing LET IT GO while you let go of sentimental things, lol. It really did make it easier. And I decided that I could let go of a lot of those things, that they were replaceable, and that just these last two totes are the really valuable ones that I'll either give away or use. But I think I'm not quite ready to say it's not happening that they'll get used. I thought 43 might be my line on that, where I just go fine, let those go. That's in the spring, so it's not so long. 

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36 minutes ago, PeterPan said:

Thanks! You're right, I wasn't. I sort of maxed out our storage area and got some help from dd (moral courage, she told me to throw everything away, lol) and just thought I'd try. I took out 8 garbage bags, a double stroller, a box of old cluttery books, a VCR and video tapes (yes, for real). It was just easy decluttering, not the really hard stuff. I was just looking for something where I could go in and make a radical difference, and it went better than I thought.

And yeah, I've still got this pile (two long totes worth) that are stuff I'm not quite ready to let go. Like 20-30 Hanna Andersson dresses, that kind of thing, stuff that's almost like new because only she wore them. They were so beautiful. I'm 42 1/2, will be 43 in the spring. I actually ovulated 2 of the last 3 months since starting thyroid meds, and I'm hoping a dose bump coming next week (labs tomorrow) will get me the rest of the way there. That's why I'm being so sentimental and stalling--it's really it, the end of the line. Either gonna get pregnant or let it go.

And, fwiw, I did crank up the Frozen soundtrack really loud while I was doing this. I thought there was something smart about a person singing LET IT GO while you let go of sentimental things, lol. It really did make it easier. And I decided that I could let go of a lot of those things, that they were replaceable, and that just these last two totes are the really valuable ones that I'll either give away or use. But I think I'm not quite ready to say it's not happening that they'll get used. I thought 43 might be my line on that, where I just go fine, let those go. That's in the spring, so it's not so long. 

I'm 40 and am struggling with letting go of the idea of more kids. My youngest is almost 15. I really should just move on, but it's hard. If I could have more, I probably would. 

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I have had the hardest time letting go of Youngest's Hanna dresses as she's outgrown them. They are quite lovely, aren't they? Some went through all three of my daughters.

I think you're doing awesome at decluttering! Keep at it! In my experience (5 kids), it's when I declutter and get rid of baby stuff that I get pregnant. The Creighton method is good, but if you're near a Dollar Tree---go buy a bunch of their $1 ovulation tests. They are highly accurate and cheap enough to blow through.

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The age thing is so variable from one person to another.  I'm 45 and am as regular as clockwork.  I have a friend who naturally conceived at 49.  But on the other side another friend naturally went through menopause at 39.  It sounds like you are not ready to give up hope (and that is totally acceptable) so I would just hold on to those things longer.  A few more years isn't going to make much difference when you've already stored it this long.

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28 minutes ago, prairiewindmomma said:

Dollar Tree---go buy a bunch of their $1 ovulation tests.

I didn't realize they had these! LOL Sounds like fun!  I mean hey, after 20-some years of marriage, let's do something really different, lol. But seriously, that's a really great tip, thanks!

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14 minutes ago, Margaret in CO said:

I have saved every stinking page my kids have ever colored... 

Oh man, I didn't keep much of ANY of dd's school work, but I have every. single. thing. ds has ever done. He has so many more issues that I have to have paper trail for intervention specialists to look over, ways to track progress (changes in handwriting, etc.). And now that I'm going into my 3rd year of that pile, it's starting to get a little crazy. I don't really know if I should just DUMP his last year box or cull some interesting samples or what. I think maybe what I could do is cull two years back and only keep last year's pile and this year. I have enough space, and that takes less time than culling. Nothing he does is sentimental at all, but it's helpful to be able to see the data.

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17 minutes ago, Margaret in CO said:

after my last two losses at 45 & 46,

I'm sorry. :sad: So you're saying if my system is perking up that 42.5 is NOT too late? Interesting. Well maybe I'll make myself free to hold the beautiful stuff through 44 if I want. We'll see how it goes.

34 minutes ago, prairiewindmomma said:

I have had the hardest time letting go of Youngest's Hanna dresses as she's outgrown them. They are quite lovely, aren't they?

Thank you, I think that's it, and I'm glad to know someone else feels that way! 

 

55 minutes ago, cjzimmer1 said:

I would just hold on to those things longer.  A few more years isn't going to make much difference when you've already stored it this long.

Yup, exactly. And I do feel badly, because I think some of the things might have gotten used if I had donated them right away rather than waiting. But it is what it is, and I'm moving on. 

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3 hours ago, PeterPan said:

Oh man, I didn't keep much of ANY of dd's school work, but I have every. single. thing. ds has ever done. He has so many more issues that I have to have paper trail for intervention specialists to look over, ways to track progress (changes in handwriting, etc.). And now that I'm going into my 3rd year of that pile, it's starting to get a little crazy. I don't really know if I should just DUMP his last year box or cull some interesting samples or what. I think maybe what I could do is cull two years back and only keep last year's pile and this year. I have enough space, and that takes less time than culling. Nothing he does is sentimental at all, but it's helpful to be able to see the data.

 

Keep the 1-2 best examples of each subject for each year, toss the rest.  That way when you want to flip through them you will see progress rather than overwhelm.

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6 hours ago, Carrie12345 said:

Congrats!

I’m trying to tackle books now. It’s so hard!!! 

Thank you! And yeah, ds is so funny and off on his timetable that I don't know what we'll end up using. I could see us using in a few years things that I'm really tempted to declutter right now. So I'm just trying to hold back. It's really hard to predict with him. 

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4 hours ago, PeterPan said:

Thank you! And yeah, ds is so funny and off on his timetable that I don't know what we'll end up using. I could see us using in a few years things that I'm really tempted to declutter right now. So I'm just trying to hold back. It's really hard to predict with him. 

Same!  I mean, how am I supposed to predict which of 4 different Environmental Science texts my 11yo will prefer, let alone my 8yo??? (Yes, I am both poking fun at myself and agonizing over the issue, lol. I refuse to even discuss Language Arts. It's too embarrassing.)

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