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Is this beard thing going to be a multi-decade thing, do you think?

 

I was hoping the "women must be hairless down there" thing was a fad but it appears to be around for the long haul, and I'm curious where the beard thing is headed.

 

 

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Beards have been around for a long time. Do you mean the scruffy look or the goaties?

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No rule about having to follow any of that.

I don't see a lot of bearded guys.  And TMI, but I haven't been hairless down there since I was a little girl.  LOL

 

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Women have to be hairless down there?  LOL  I didn't realize so-called independent women were still bowing to the porn industry and the men who run it or get their preferences from it.

Anyway, another great thing about marriage.  Only one other person to please.  And my dh wears facial hair--and has for quite a while--because we both like it.  :)

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tbh- unless it's your dh, why does it matter?   as long as they're clean . . .

it's just a fashion - like long or short hair for women.

My dad grew a beard, and my grandmother would tell me to shave it off while he slept.   she'd also tell me to cut my brother's shoulder length hair while he slept.  (uh -no.)

I have one son with a beard - he's wavered with or without, but I think he's settled on with.   he keeps it neatly trimmed (and shaves his throat).  I've never felt it was my place to say anything - it's clean and neat and he's an adult.    he looks older with a beard - which helps with his baby face and being taken seriously.

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It takes a long time to grow a beard out and once they do grow it out, they aren't likely to shave it right away. Dh has been growing his beard for 17 months now. There's a lot of guys at the hospital he works at growing theirs out, too. I think the style will be around for a while. His isn't a full beard. He didn't like the sides long. I like it. He uses bands and sometimes beads to bundle it up and keep it neat. 

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My DH has had a beard for about 20 years now.  He originally grew it because he was tired of being mistaken for a middle schooler.  A couple years ago he tried shaving it off, but neither of us liked the clean shaven look on him.  He keeps it pretty short and it looks good on him.  He isn't doing it to be stylish or trendy. 

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I don't mind real beards, including goatees, but my adult son likes to shave only once every few weeks, which means that he looks unkempt most of the time.  

And I only recently found out about the hairless down there woman thing.  Insert freaked out emoji here.

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I think both are here to stay for a while, for good or ill.

 

I don’t mind most beards - as long as they are relatively intentional looking.  I view them like any haircut.  Though I confess that the ones that are grown out of not caring, and laziness - those turn me off.  We have a mentally ill family member whose beard is completely out of control when his illness is flaring.  I find the look disturbing.  But it might be bias on my part.

 

As for teA room carpet removal ... eh.  I pretty much don’t know/care what other RL women do.  I’m thinking it’s also a personal preference thing, and to each her own.  

 

I did freak out recently when I found out about a certain, ummm, bleaching practice that involves another, errrrr, teA room door.  Bleach belongs nowhere near those areas, aaaccck.

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I'm not a fan of the full bushy beard trend, but that's just me.  I see it quite a bit since dd is a rock climber and I spend a ton of time at the climbing gym.  Dh is clean shaven and I like that.  My oldest has facial hair, but he looks about 12 without it, so it is a good look on him.  He keeps it well-trimmed.  

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43 minutes ago, Liz CA said:

Beards have been around for a long time. Do you mean the scruffy look or the goaties?

yeah, see, I'm SO over that scruffy, days-old-but-not-really-a-beard thing. Either grow a beard or shave, for crying out loud.

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7 minutes ago, Spryte said:

I think both are here to stay for a while, for good or ill.

 

I don’t mind most beards - as long as they are relatively intentional looking.  I view them like any haircut.  Though I confess that the ones that are grown out of not caring, and laziness - those turn me off.  We have a mentally ill family member whose beard is completely out of control when his illness is flaring.  I find the look disturbing.  But it might be bias on my part.

 

As for teA room carpet removal ... eh.  I pretty much don’t know/care what other RL women do.  I’m thinking it’s also a personal preference thing, and to each her own.  

 

I did freak out recently when I found out about a certain, ummm, bleaching practice that involves another, errrrr, teA room door.  Bleach belongs nowhere near those areas, aaaccck.

 

Ugghh, I am thinking of possible medical issues resulting from that practice.

 

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1 hour ago, Orpington said:

Is this beard thing going to be a multi-decade thing, do you think?

 

I was hoping the "women must be hairless down there" thing was a fad but it appears to be around for the long haul, and I'm curious where the beard thing is headed.

 

 

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Do you raise chickens? I am curious why you picked your new name.

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Just now, unsinkable said:

Do you raise chickens? I am curious why you picked your new name.

 

 

I was wondering the same thing.  Orpingtons are my favorite chickens! 

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Beards have been growing out of mens faces since the beginning of men so I assume it's not a fad. And since not-removing-hair is the opposite of hair-removal, they aren't really comparable actions.  

Maybe the question is when will beards stop being sexy as hail? The answer that that is NEVAAAAHHHHH 

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4 minutes ago, unsinkable said:

Do you raise chickens? I am curious why you picked your new name.

and if yes, are you a Buff Orpington? Been hitting the gym? 

 

(I'm new to jokes)

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I like my men and women as hairy as they’re comfortable with.  Beards are big here but not in a hipster way, I honestly think a lot of guys got tired of shaving after years of the very hairless thing being popular.

 

Heck, I think women got tired of it on a lot of the guys, too!

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Ime, it has always been the case that some guys have beards and some don't.  The percentage seems pretty much the same as back when I was a kid and sometimes my dad would have a beard and sometimes he wouldn't.

I wonder if more beards are shown on television so it just seems prevelent? 

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DH has always had facial hair, specifically a bushy beard for the past decade. At least he fits in now, lol. Big beards are very popular amongst young, hip men in our area. 

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It's the mustaches sort of trying to come back that are concerning me. 

I sort of like beards on some guys & the scruffy couple days' growth look. But I really really do not like goatees. 

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My dh has had the short beard for 20 years cause I like it.  Plus he is the type of guy that had to shave twice a day for clean cut.  The first 10 years we were together he had the 80's mustache.  He would not get rid of the dang thing.  The beard is a wonderful improvement LOL   I do not like the now popular full bushing long beard that looks like pelvic hair.  It just looks unkempt nasty.   As for women hairless  bikini areas it seems to me the generation around 10 years younger than me. I'm 48 and been seeing the bare ladies young teen now almost 40  in the hospital.  The generation has aged and kept it bare so now upper 30's.   My dh supervisor  with all men in a industrial setting so the guy can be rather crude talking about their sex life's etc.   He said that his younger men say they have never seen a ladies part with hair LOL.    Yeah to much information LOL.    

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I guess when testosterone goes out of style?

Beards grow on their faces. Shaving is the fashion, but I wouldn't call "hair growing out of an adult male human's face" a "thing".

My partner can't really grow much of a beard so he's eager for clean-shaven to come in style again. I'll let you know!

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Do you mean the lumberjack type beards, or the sorta scruffy stubble look?

I’ve been with my husband over 30 years and have never seen him without a beard. Maybe I’ve said this before; he used to remind me of a sexy middle -eastern looking guy, darker skin with dark beard. Three decades later and it looks  like I’m married to a slightly-slim and pale Santa Claus.

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21 minutes ago, Tsuga said:

I guess when testosterone goes out of style?

Beards grow on their faces. Shaving is the fashion, but I wouldn't call "hair growing out of an adult male human's face" a "thing".

My partner can't really grow much of a beard so he's eager for clean-shaven to come in style again. I'll let you know!

 

Do you actually think that beards are the default and shaved men are atypical?  Do you live in a Millenium-heavy town?
It is extremely fashionable for guys in their late 20s-mid 30s to have beards these days. When I was that age, it wasn't.  I know it's all just what's in fashion.

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1 hour ago, unsinkable said:

Do you raise chickens? I am curious why you picked your new name.

 

The new forums just befuddled me :) We are looking to get chickens. I have the land just not the coop yet.  And  my 10  year old tells me that Buff Orpingtons are the "labrador retrievers of chickens" so seems like a safe bet!

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2 hours ago, gardenmom5 said:

tbh- unless it's your dh, why does it matter?   as long as they're clean . . .

it's just a fashion - like long or short hair for women.

My dad grew a beard, and my grandmother would tell me to shave it off while he slept.   she'd also tell me to cut my brother's shoulder length hair while he slept.  (uh -no.)

I have one son with a beard - he's wavered with or without, but I think he's settled on with.   he keeps it neatly trimmed (and shaves his throat).  I've never felt it was my place to say anything - it's clean and neat and he's an adult.    he looks older with a beard - which helps with his baby face and being taken seriously.

 

It doesn't matter, but, I have an opinion anyway... same as 99% of what gets discussed here LOL

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2 hours ago, 6packofun said:

Women have to be hairless down there?  LOL  I didn't realize so-called independent women were still bowing to the porn industry and the men who run it or get their preferences from it.

Anyway, another great thing about marriage.  Only one other person to please.  And my dh wears facial hair--and has for quite a while--because we both like it.  :)

 

It really & truly is common for women these days to be hairless or very very closely trimmed.  And, exactly like wearing make-up, they alllll say "I do it for me, not for him / not to impress men".  
Which, sure. I get that.  But I also roll my eyes.
 

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My husband started growing out his beard when he was on paternity leave when our first was born, so... coming up on 21 years and neither of us has ever looked back. Honestly, his chin is not awesome.  :-)

But he keeps it well-shaped. It's not a goatee; I guess it's a full beard?  Beard, mustache, sideburns all connected, I don't know the right word - but short.  Not a prophet beard (like the ZZTop or Judah and the Lion guys); I don't like that look and would object to it. 

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I do t think there are more beards than at another time. I think there are more Looooong beards (maybe not more than in 1850).  I don’t know about the trend.  I do find it interesting that there’s a trend towards long (ergo older looking) beards in men, and even more hairless (ergo younger looking) women’s bodies. 

I’m for wearing your hair how you like, as it is an extension of your body.  I prefer clean and attended to and not terribly long - just because I say I think you should wear your hair the way you like it doesn’t mean I have to like it.

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8 minutes ago, Orpington said:

 

The new forums just befuddled me :) We are looking to get chickens. I have the land just not the coop yet.  And  my 10  year old tells me that Buff Orpingtons are the "labrador retrievers of chickens" so seems like a safe bet!

She’s right. One of our buffs actually listens better than our dogs. Call her name and here she comes- waddling at top speed across the yard. :) 

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/shrug.  I like beards.  :)  But it's not something I get worked up over--especially when it's someone else's face.  :D  I guess I wouldn't like a beard on my face...

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3 hours ago, gardenmom5 said:

tbh- unless it's your dh, why does it matter?   as long as they're clean . . .

it's just a fashion - like long or short hair for women.

My dad grew a beard, and my grandmother would tell me to shave it off while he slept.   she'd also tell me to cut my brother's shoulder length hair while he slept.  (uh -no.)

I have one son with a beard - he's wavered with or without, but I think he's settled on with.   he keeps it neatly trimmed (and shaves his throat).  I've never felt it was my place to say anything - it's clean and neat and he's an adult.    he looks older with a beard - which helps with his baby face and being taken seriously.

One time my dad grew a goatee. My mother missed no opportunity to say she didn’t like it, but I thought it looked awesome! My dad is a very erudite man and he looked like an Ivy League professor with that grey facial hair. He eventually shaved it to please my mom, but all that while that he had it, I was such a fan.

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1 hour ago, Orpington said:

 

It really & truly is common for women these days to be hairless or very very closely trimmed.  And, exactly like wearing make-up, they alllll say "I do it for me, not for him / not to impress men".  
Which, sure. I get that.  But I also roll my eyes.
 

Well, I would be perfectly fine with it if that hair there fell out for good and not because DH likes it in a particular “style.” Hair can impede comfort and cleanliness. A little trim work is better, just as trimmed toenails are. 

 

And that’s all I’m gonna say about that.

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1 hour ago, Orpington said:

 

It really & truly is common for women these days to be hairless or very very closely trimmed. 
 

How do we know this?

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My oldest is very proud of his beard and I"ve heard guys complement him on it, so I'm saying it's here a few more years.

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11 minutes ago, cave canem said:

How do we know this?

Google it! There are surveys for everything, lol. I found varying polls, but yes it seems like a fairly common thing among some.

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Beards are nothing new. 

I quite like a good hipster beard.

I even like a hipster beard with a man bun.

 

 

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3 minutes ago, MooCow said:

My oldest is very proud of his beard and I"ve heard guys complement him on it, so I'm saying it's here a few more years.

Yes. Dh gets so many compliments on his beard I don’t think he’ll give it up. He’s had some form of beard ever since I’ve known him. He kept it short and trimmed,  but now that he’s grown it long, he’s all in.  I wasn’t sure how I felt about it at first. I always liked it short,  but I like it now and we are both curious to see how long it will grow.  So many of his coworkers beards just stopped growing after a certain length. Dh’s is down to the upper middle of his chest and still growing. 

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1 hour ago, StellaM said:

Beards are nothing new. 

I quite like a good hipster beard.

I even like a hipster beard with a man bun.

 

 

I can dig a man bun.  But I am so over the hipster beard.  But, then again, I'm not someone they have to please.  Hubby experimented with the facial hair in college, including the porn star mustache.  He did stop shaving over an extended vacation, but didn't like it since the grey beard made him look older.

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I don't really care what men do with their facial hair, but I have run across the whole "real men have beards" things more than once, and that seriously irks me. Your manliness is NOT dependent on your facial hair, and you don't get to judge other men based on theirs.

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2 hours ago, Orpington said:

 

It really & truly is common for women these days to be hairless or very very closely trimmed.  And, exactly like wearing make-up, they alllll say "I do it for me, not for him / not to impress men".  
Which, sure. I get that.  But I also roll my eyes.
 

How exactly can you understand that they do it for them and still roll your eyes? Those two things don't really seem compatible.  The eye rolling suggests you think they are lying about their intentions so really you don't get it.

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Eh, I think it might hang around a while longer, but each guy should do what works for him. Dh looks weird without a beard. I didn't used to like facial hair, but it suits him. His grows crazy fast and random people have complimented him before. We think that some guys struggle to grow full beards because it comes out all patchy or whatever. Dh doesn't have that problem but he's a werewolf lol. 

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I’ve never posted a photo on the new forums so I think this is a good place to test one. Behold my dh closing in on the age of 32 holding our third child. 

As with some previous posters, this is the reason why my dh grew a beard.431D911C-E340-4C7D-9E90-61CCCADCD75F.thumb.jpeg.c09cd8f2322c95c2895c2c4eca6bac8f.jpeg

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2 hours ago, Quill said:

One time my dad grew a goatee. My mother missed no opportunity to say she didn’t like it, but I thought it looked awesome! My dad is a very erudite man and he looked like an Ivy League professor with that grey facial hair. He eventually shaved it to please my mom, but all that while that he had it, I was such a fan.

well, he  probably wanted your mom to kiss him, so she would get a say.

5 hours ago, Ellie said:

yeah, see, I'm SO over that scruffy, days-old-but-not-really-a-beard thing. Either grow a beard or shave, for crying out loud.

then they'd have tomake up their mind.

36 minutes ago, Barb_ said:

I’ve never posted a photo on the new forums so I think this is a good place to test one. Behold my dh closing in on the age of 32 holding our third child. 

As with some previous posters, this is the reason why my dh grew a beard.431D911C-E340-4C7D-9E90-61CCCADCD75F.thumb.jpeg.c09cd8f2322c95c2895c2c4eca6bac8f.jpeg

if you hadn't said anything, i'd think he was the teenage brother.

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My dh has a beard down to his mid chest. It's basically capped out in length. When he first started growing it really long, about 12 years ago, people would make rude comments about it. Now he gets people complimenting it because it's trendy. Women sometimes even compliment it, even in front of me. Who does that? I can't imagine complimenting another woman's husband on his appearance, especially in front of her.

Random trivia for the day... Did you know that Russia at one point had a beard tax? Tsar Peter I instituted the tax in order to pressure the culture to conform to European ideals.

My 14 yo ds is working on a beard. It's blond but it's definitely there. It makes him look older. He's says he's never going to trim it ever. Power to him!

Most of our friends have full beards. We're also in a city that has a very dense Sikh population. The men as a rule have long beards. I'm really used to it. Now sometimes when I see men in public without a beard I sometimes do a bit of a double take. I find it effeminate. I don't mean that with judgment though.

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I don't mind beards. But dear god, if you're a man with a very long, scraggly, greasy beard and you work in food service, put that thing in a net. I was at Arby's the other day and the cook in the back had a beard long enough to tickle the sandwiches he was making. *hork* 

Beards are definitely popular here. At the manufacturing plant my dh works at, all the guys in their twenties have been growing out beards for the last year or two. 

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2 hours ago, hjffkj said:

How exactly can you understand that they do it for them and still roll your eyes? Those two things don't really seem compatible.  The eye rolling suggests you think they are lying about their intentions so really you don't get it.

The idea that they did the exact same thing as their peers all coincidentally "for me" is what makes me roll my eyes.  

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1 hour ago, rose said:

My dh has a beard down to his mid chest. It's basically capped out in length. When he first started growing it really long, about 12 years ago, people would make rude comments about it. Now he gets people complimenting it because it's trendy. Women sometimes even compliment it, even in front of me. Who does that? I can't imagine complimenting another woman's husband on his appearance, especially in front of her.

Random trivia for the day... Did you know that Russia at one point had a beard tax? Tsar Peter I instituted the tax in order to pressure the culture to conform to European ideals.

My 14 yo ds is working on a beard. It's blond but it's definitely there. It makes him look older. He's says he's never going to trim it ever. Power to him!

Most of our friends have full beards. We're also in a city that has a very dense Sikh population. The men as a rule have long beards. I'm really used to it. Now sometimes when I see men in public without a beard I sometimes do a bit of a double take. I find it effeminate. I don't mean that with judgment though.

 

Beards are not to my tastes, but, I never mean to imply they are bad.   Same as you.  Its' OK either way, truly.  I know ONE guy with a beard and I think, ewwww.  Two guys, now that i think of it.  But I bet if it was common in my circle / family, I bet I'd feel very differently. If my dad had a beard growing up I'm sure I"d feel different.  It's very subjective.

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I don’t know that it’s a thing, more like a sign of the times where we’re opening up less rigid ways for men to look. Why should clean shaven be the default? Dh has had a goatee for pretty much the last 17 years. At first it was by choice and then he was limited by his employer’s grooming rules which allowed mustaches, goatees, or nothing. Except dh has been shaving since late elementary school and the man can grow some serious facial hair, quickly. So clean shaven was never really a thing for him.

And did I mention the shaving? So much shaving for so many years. His employer updated their rules and allowed well trimmed beards so now he has a beard. It costs more money because this bald man of mine now needs periodic beard maintenance at the barber shop, but he’s happy so why should it matter?

It may not be your thing, but then maybe don’t grow a beard, eh? ;)

I’m just glad that dh is happy and has at least some control over this one choice in his life that is otherwise ruled by his very stressful job. Let’s face it, until late last year his employer was still fighting against the “lax grooming standards” of the hippies.

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