Laura Corin Posted February 24, 2018 Share Posted February 24, 2018 For budget and comfort reasons, we prefer to keep our thermostat low. We are not on mains gas and it costs a lot to heat the house. We wear lots of layers and run the wood stove (with our own wood) in the sitting room. For the last two years my mum has been living with us and we've needed to up the thermostat. She's moved out now and we are back to our more normal 15 degrees C (59F). It feels much cosier to pull out my thick wool sweater and fleece-lined trousers, and snuggle up with a dog on my lap. 12 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Laura Corin Posted February 24, 2018 Author Share Posted February 24, 2018 I hope the situation with your mom has turned out for the best! Thanks. She's moving into a care home after a spell in hospital. The family has reached the limit of its mental resources, so the move is the right thing. She's not happy, and who can blame her? She will have a lovely large room in an old mansion, with views over an estuary to the hills in one direction, and up the river in the other. The carers seem human and it's only 20 minutes from home, so I can keep an eye. 16 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Carol in Cal. Posted February 24, 2018 Share Posted February 24, 2018 That sounds like an excellent placement. You've done a wonderful thing the last couple of years, and now you can do a different wonderful thing that hopefully might be a little easier. Happy for you! 4 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Acadie Posted February 24, 2018 Share Posted February 24, 2018 The inside temperature sounds symbolic of all the ways you're now able to make lifestyle choices that genuinely suit you and your family. And I agree with Carol that stretching to meet your mother's needs for the past few years was a generous and beautiful thing to do, and that her new place really sounds exceptional. Amy 4 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
marbel Posted February 24, 2018 Share Posted February 24, 2018 I'm glad to hear you have your Mum settled, and your thermostat where you like it. Sounds like a great place; I hope when my time comes I can have a room with a view! 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
foxbridgeacademy Posted February 24, 2018 Share Posted February 24, 2018 Thanks. She's moving into a care home after a spell in hospital. The family has reached the limit of its mental resources, so the move is the right thing. She's not happy, and who can blame her? She will have a lovely large room in an old mansion, with views over an estuary to the hills in one direction, and up the river in the other. The carers seem human and it's only 20 minutes from home, so I can keep an eye. That sounds like a great choice for a difficult situation but I understand, new places always stress me out at first. Eventually I get used to it and grow to love it, wondering the whole time why I made such a fuss. Now as to the temp, I like it cool (around 68-69 F) 59 is what I would consider cold, brrrr. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Laura Corin Posted February 24, 2018 Author Share Posted February 24, 2018 The inside temperature sounds symbolic of all the ways you're now able to make lifestyle choices that genuinely suit you and your family. And I agree with Carol that stretching to meet your mother's needs for the past few years was a generous and beautiful thing to do, and that her new place really sounds exceptional. Amy Thank you. I think the past two years have been the worst of my life. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Miss Tick Posted February 24, 2018 Share Posted February 24, 2018 Thank you. I think the past two years have been the worst of my life. I hope you are able to fully recover. My mom struggled mightily even after my dad's brother moved to a care home. The relationship was not mother-daughter, obviously, but his years of living with my parents were particularly hard on my mom. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Laura Corin Posted February 24, 2018 Author Share Posted February 24, 2018 I hope you are able to fully recover. My mom struggled mightily even after my dad's brother moved to a care home. The relationship was not mother-daughter, obviously, but his years of living with my parents were particularly hard on my mom. The family is intact and I'm seeing a therapist. I think we'll be ok. 5 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Seasider Posted February 24, 2018 Share Posted February 24, 2018 Thanks. She's moving into a care home after a spell in hospital. The family has reached the limit of its mental resources, so the move is the right thing. She's not happy, and who can blame her? She will have a lovely large room in an old mansion, with views over an estuary to the hills in one direction, and up the river in the other. The carers seem human and it's only 20 minutes from home, so I can keep an eye. Laura, you have served her so well. Enjoy a season of self-care with no regrets! You have earned it. And her placement actually sounds marvelous. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fraidycat Posted February 25, 2018 Share Posted February 25, 2018 It sounds like a great place for your mom. I'm glad you and your family are able to move on to the next chapter in your life and begin your own healing processes as you move forward. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
prairiewindmomma Posted February 25, 2018 Share Posted February 25, 2018 Best wishes to you all! You made a huge sacrifice and I am glad you can feel comfortable in your own space again. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
8circles Posted February 25, 2018 Share Posted February 25, 2018 You did a good thing. You are doing a good thing. You will do good things. :001_smile: 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
katilac Posted February 25, 2018 Share Posted February 25, 2018 Meanwhile, across the pond, my air conditioner is on :laugh: Your mom will settle in, I'm sure, and it will be much easier for you to be positive and "on" when you visit her, not being dragged down by the day-to-day issues. Some people are truly just very hard to live with, regardless of age. I have a big family, so it's inevitable that there is frequently someone ill or hurt or old, lol. One thing I do is send cards and letters even when the person is very close by. I can do that more often than I can visit, and it can be a nice distraction. I do it even for the people who don't seem the type to particularly care about getting a card, because it's simple enough and at least they know I thought of them. If they roll their eyes and throw it out, no big deal. Enjoy your cold house! 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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