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:grouphug: I am so very sorry. Something very similar happened to a close friend of mine. It went on forever because she did every possible appeal. I am sending healing thoughts and prayers.

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I’m so sorry, Melissa. I feel so awful for you that I don’t even know what to say. :crying:

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What. WHAT. That is... just... bullshit. No, this can't be.

 

I'm so so sorry.

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Oh Melissa, I so wish I had something helpful or comforting to say.

 

The system is so broken.

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I’m so sorry to hear this. I hope something can be done to right this wrong. You and your family are in my thoughts.

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What a nightmare. I wish I knew someone in Australia who could help you. ((( )))

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I have finally got the results from our appeal.

 

decision upheld. Caused substantiated emotional abuse of a child in my care

 

 

:crying:  :crying:  :crying:

 

 

 

 

Never ever foster. It destroys your own children. It destroys relationships. It destroys your mind

 

I'm so sorry. :( What is going to happen?

 

I agree with you on never fostering. My parents took in foster kids and it was the worst thing that ever happened to our family. I'm so sorry you are going through this. :(

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:(  :(  :(  :banghead:

 

After everything you tried, after all that you and your family were put through, after working SO HARD EVERY.SINGLE.MINUTE.OF.EVERY.SINGLE.DAY to save this poor damaged child (who was damaged LOOOONNNNNNGGGG before being placed in your care) this is how it ends up?  Did they even actually investigate?   :boxing_smiley:

 

Sending hugs and hope for a miracle of some kind...I'm wishing with all my heart you could get some sort of a break.  

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I have finally got the results from our appeal.

 

decision upheld. Caused substantiated emotional abuse of a child in my care

 

 

:crying: :crying: :crying:

 

 

 

 

Never ever foster. It destroys your own children. It destroys relationships. It destroys your mind

I'm so angry for you right now.

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I'm so sorry.  I hope there is something you can do with an attorney.  The system abused that child and you.

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the main substantiated abuse:

 

Because I couldn't hug him after he was spying on me while I was having a shower,  I supposedly made him feel rejected, therefore I caused him long term emotional abuse that he is still having troubles with.

 

 

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Un fricken believable.

 

A friend of mine took on Vic docs a few years ago and won. Would you like me to talk to her?

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the main substantiated abuse:

 

Because I couldn't hug him after he was spying on me while I was having a shower, I supposedly made him feel rejected, therefore I caused him long term emotional abuse that he is still having troubles with.

Wow, that is unreal!

 

I’m so sorry. 😢

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the main substantiated abuse:

 

Because I couldn't hug him after he was spying on me while I was having a shower, I supposedly made him feel rejected, therefore I caused him long term emotional abuse that he is still having troubles with.

I’m speechless. (And angry!)

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I am so sorry Melissa.

The "charges" are completely ridiculous. For one, you cannot "require" someone hug someone else. What about your bodily autonomy? Not to mention the implication of having physical contact with a child who may have been trying to gain sexual pleasure in watching you. Hugging him would have been completely inappropriate.

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I am so incredibly sorry.

 

That is insane.

 

:grouphug:  doesn't really cut it.

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Sick buggers.  :cursing:  :cursing:  :cursing:  :cursing:  :cursing:  :cursing:  :cursing:  :cursing:  :cursing:

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Sounds to me like someone was scared that they had done the wrong thing and are preempting by taking you to court over it in stead. That's pretty bad!

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They are not taking us to court. Taking us to court would allow us to have representation  and be able to defend ourselves.

 

 

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Oh God Melissa, please tell us this won't effect the twins. That's all I've thought about following this whole thread. Permanent placement is not always permenant here, and they need you so badly.

 

I think fostering is so important but... I just couldn't ever do it in our current system, nor could I put bio children through it. It's so wrong because those kids need help too, I grew up around a lot of foster kids and a good home changes a life, but... It's an impossible situation, the system is beyond broken. At least the one saving grace here is that your kids are older and you're not supporting little ones through this.

 

If there's anything at all us Australians can do let us know. I'm not on here much anymore but I've been checking in on this thread regularly.

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Seriously cannot believe it. Your situation is even more unbelievable than my friend's. You were the one who was wronged so very clearly. In her case I could understand the mixed up weirdness of the logic if you believed the child. The case history showed the incredible history of destructive lies. They had documented them for years and still ripped her life apart. Totally messed up system. :grouphug:

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They are not taking us to court. Taking us to court would allow us to have representation and be able to defend ourselves.

Oh man...

 

Hope that something somewhere gets fixed! So unfair

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