Katy 20,506 Posted January 3, 2018 Report Share Posted January 3, 2018 (edited) We've had a medically fragile foster infant with multiple health issues here with us for a while. This week the court might decide to terminate parental rights. At that point the judge will have to decide whether the baby can be adopted by us or go live with a half sibling (who we've never met and whose adoptive family lives in a different state). We would rather adopt this baby ourselves. Having said that, please pray: That if the sibling's family can't handle the medical issues they were just informed of they back out now rather than stringing this out into a long legal battle. That the judge makes the best decision for this child. That our family be at peace with whatever decision is made, even if it is us losing this baby that we've all come to love. That if the judge decides that we are the best placement for the baby that the sibling's family be open to developing a relationship anyway. And if you don't mind a completely selfish prayer, pray we get to keep this baby ourselves. Thank you. UPDATE: TPR has been scheduled, and the process has begun to select an adoptive family. UPDATE 2: in 41 Edited January 5, 2018 by Katy 31 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
prairiewindmomma 32,474 Posted January 3, 2018 Report Share Posted January 3, 2018 ***praying*** 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
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Jean in Newcastle 174,775 Posted January 3, 2018 Report Share Posted January 3, 2018 praying 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
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OneStepAtATime 52,889 Posted January 3, 2018 Report Share Posted January 3, 2018 :grouphug: My thoughts, prayers and hopes are with you and your family. 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
maize 77,039 Posted January 3, 2018 Report Share Posted January 3, 2018 (edited) Prayers Katy. I'm praying you can keep the baby--that isn't selfish at all, baby and your family are bonded and breaking that bond would be traumatic for a baby who doesn't need trauma. Edited January 3, 2018 by maize 7 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Junie 49,773 Posted January 3, 2018 Report Share Posted January 3, 2018 Hugs and prayers. 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Heatherwith4 4,175 Posted January 3, 2018 Report Share Posted January 3, 2018 Praying :grouphug: 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
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mommyoffive 6,930 Posted January 3, 2018 Report Share Posted January 3, 2018 sending prayers 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Elizabeth86 2,680 Posted January 3, 2018 Report Share Posted January 3, 2018 Oh wow! That's a lot going on. I pray everything works out the best and hopefully the way you want it to. :grouphug: 2 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Spryte 17,277 Posted January 3, 2018 Report Share Posted January 3, 2018 Thinking of you, and sending love, one foster family to another. Having been there, I hope that the birth family sees their limitations and recognizes that the time to act in love is now. I hope they are open to forming a wonderful, supportive open relationship with you, as the parents of this baby. I hope the judge doesn’t have to decide more than, “yes, this is a great placement†because the birth family makes the choice. And I hope your family grows, not just by a baby, but by the addition of extended, supportive birth relatives, if you’re all open to it and it’s best for the baby. Pulling for you! Whatever happens, I wish you peace. 5 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Twigs 2,593 Posted January 3, 2018 Report Share Posted January 3, 2018 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
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creekland 41,102 Posted January 3, 2018 Report Share Posted January 3, 2018 Praying for you, the child, and the child's family - even for the judge who has to make a difficult decision. May it work out as best as possible. Thank you for being there for that child up to this point regardless of what happens. 5 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
ktgrok 74,787 Posted January 4, 2018 Report Share Posted January 4, 2018 Praying! 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
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3 ladybugs 1,795 Posted January 4, 2018 Report Share Posted January 4, 2018 Praying for you! That would be the worst to have a child for a while then have them go to a barely known relative! Prayers for whatever He wants to come and everyone to be at peace with it! 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
aaplank 1,045 Posted January 4, 2018 Report Share Posted January 4, 2018 Praying! 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
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Ottakee 16,938 Posted January 4, 2018 Report Share Posted January 4, 2018 Hopefully they will decide what is best for the baby. It could well be that the other family is not able to take on a special needs child. If you are able to adopt the baby, please try to get contact information for the adoptive family of the 1/2 sibling and make/keep contact as appropriate. My son has 7 siblings that he now has contact with but for many years, there was no contact with some of them and he missed out on that.My girls have 6 other siblings, 4 we found now as young adults, 1 deceased as a young adult, and 1 that we still haven't located. Finding their siblings has been a huge deal for them. I wish we could have done this more/sooner, etc. but it took us almost 20 years of searching to locate them.Even with 1/2 siblings there is a biological bond there and while in the cases of all 3 of my kids it was in their (and their siblings) best interest to not all be adopted together, it is a very positive thing that they have contact now. 3 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Melissa in Australia 13,604 Posted January 4, 2018 Report Share Posted January 4, 2018 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
readinmom 3,619 Posted January 4, 2018 Report Share Posted January 4, 2018 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
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mims 107 Posted January 5, 2018 Report Share Posted January 5, 2018 We just had to say goodbye to a baby we had for 10 weeks - so hard! 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Carol in Cal. 24,184 Posted January 5, 2018 Report Share Posted January 5, 2018 Praying! 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Catwoman 74,049 Posted January 5, 2018 Report Share Posted January 5, 2018 Praying here, Katy! 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Minerva 9,077 Posted January 5, 2018 Report Share Posted January 5, 2018 :grouphug: 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Pink and Green Mom 9,437 Posted January 5, 2018 Report Share Posted January 5, 2018 Praying. I have so much awe and respect for families that can do what you are doing. 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Katy 20,506 Posted January 5, 2018 Author Report Share Posted January 5, 2018 UPDATE: TPR has been scheduled, and the process has begun to select baby's adoptive family. 6 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
3 ladybugs 1,795 Posted January 5, 2018 Report Share Posted January 5, 2018 Congratulations!! I hope you are able to get the child and maintain contact with the family. Please keep us posted! 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Catwoman 74,049 Posted January 5, 2018 Report Share Posted January 5, 2018 UPDATE: TPR has been scheduled, and the process has begun to select baby's adoptive family. I don’t know anything about how this works, but does that mean you may be able to adopt the baby? Praying you get to be the adoptive parents! 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Katy 20,506 Posted January 5, 2018 Author Report Share Posted January 5, 2018 (edited) Um, well we spoke to the half sibling's adoptive parents and they want us to adopt. However, there's now been another huge complication so everything is up in the air. Please continue praying for us through the weekend and next week. ETA: I don't really know if we would be selected first had they decided to fight us. It would go to a board to decide, and the law says to give weight to the half sibling relationship but also ONLY if it's in the best interest of the child. Edited January 5, 2018 by Katy 7 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Catwoman 74,049 Posted January 5, 2018 Report Share Posted January 5, 2018 I’m so sorry this isn’t going smoothly for you. :( Praying that everything works out and you can adopt the baby. 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
kiwik 5,508 Posted January 5, 2018 Report Share Posted January 5, 2018 Praying. It seems nothing is ever straightforward. 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
3 ladybugs 1,795 Posted January 6, 2018 Report Share Posted January 6, 2018 Ugg! I am so sorry for complications! I know it must be hard. Praying that things turn out good for you. ((Hugs)) 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
OneStepAtATime 52,889 Posted January 6, 2018 Report Share Posted January 6, 2018 :grouphug: For the latest update. Not knowing is so hard. 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Amira 30,715 Posted January 7, 2018 Report Share Posted January 7, 2018 :grouphug: 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Catwoman 74,049 Posted January 7, 2018 Report Share Posted January 7, 2018 Still praying here and hoping you get good news very soon. 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Melissa in Australia 13,604 Posted January 7, 2018 Report Share Posted January 7, 2018 :grouphug: :grouphug: 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
mom@shiloh 1,611 Posted January 8, 2018 Report Share Posted January 8, 2018 Continuing in prayer for you. 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
nixpix5 4,770 Posted January 8, 2018 Report Share Posted January 8, 2018 Praying for you. 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Catwoman 74,049 Posted January 8, 2018 Report Share Posted January 8, 2018 Thinking of you today, Katy, and bumping your thread for more prayers. :grouphug: 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
gardenmom5 34,960 Posted January 8, 2018 Report Share Posted January 8, 2018 :grouphug: and prayers. 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Bensmom 558 Posted January 9, 2018 Report Share Posted January 9, 2018 Still praying. So sorry everything must be so complicated. Hopefully, you will have answers soon. 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
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