regentrude Posted December 31, 2017 Share Posted December 31, 2017 At least I invited over twenty people for a New Year's Eve party. Tonight at 7pm. It is 11 am. I have not received any RSVP, just a few non-committal "maybe"s. Will start making food shortly. There may or may not be any guests to eat it. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mrs_JWM Posted December 31, 2017 Share Posted December 31, 2017 I can't stand when people do that. I'm fine with other people hosting open house parties, but I could never deal with the wondering whether people would show up! NYE can be tough; people want to party-hop and staying at one party from 7 until midnight can make for a long night. But people should let you know if they're planning to drop by. I hope it works out well! Sent from my Moto G (4) using Tapatalk 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
regentrude Posted December 31, 2017 Author Share Posted December 31, 2017 NYE can be tough; people want to party-hop and staying at one party from 7 until midnight can make for a long night. But people should let you know if they're planning to drop by. They all know that they aren't expected to stay until midnight; most years we don't make it that long :) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kassia Posted December 31, 2017 Share Posted December 31, 2017 That is so rude! I would be going crazy wondering how to plan for it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
J-rap Posted December 31, 2017 Share Posted December 31, 2017 If you specifically said RSVP, then it kind of baffles me that people don't RSVP! I think people don't really know what it means anymore. RSVP means they need to let you know, either way. Regrets Only means they only need to let you know if they can't come. But maybe it's very casual and you do this every year and there's kind of a standing rule that they don't need to let you know ahead of time. In any event, I'm sure it'll be fun and at least a few people will stop by! And leftovers are always good the next day. :) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Night Elf Posted December 31, 2017 Share Posted December 31, 2017 Make foods you really love just in case you have lots of leftovers. :) 15 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Starr Posted December 31, 2017 Share Posted December 31, 2017 I've gotten so I get a couple of firm commitments and then wait and see. I hope it all turns out fun for you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Garga Posted December 31, 2017 Share Posted December 31, 2017 (edited) I’m so sorry. That’s so frustrating. You know from the other thread that I don’t host parties and usually go out to eat with friends instead of visiting in houses, but the few times I’m invited to someone’s house I always RSVP quickly because I know the host needs to know who’s coming right away. If these are people you know well, and if there’s a FB invite, then can you send around a light message asking for a head count? Tell them you’re about to make the food and need to know. Edited December 31, 2017 by Garga 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DoraBora Posted December 31, 2017 Share Posted December 31, 2017 Sigh... I often have to email/text friends individually to ask for a firm commitment "so I can plan the food". I think it just doesn't cross people's minds that it's helpful to the hostess to have an idea of the number who will attend. Don't know why... Besides, I think it's fun, as the hostess, to look forward to seeing friends who will be at my house for dinner or a party! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
marbel Posted December 31, 2017 Share Posted December 31, 2017 Ugh, I'm sorry. I do wonder if people know what "RSVP" means, and if they don't, don't bother to find out. I didn't have a party this year (I was sick for a month, just a lingering cold/cough) but in past years I think I've averaged about a 50% response rate. it drives me crazy. I hope you are pleasantly surprised. After reading here about your parties, dinners, recipe suggestions... I'd love to come to one of your parties and would certainly respond! 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mbelle Posted December 31, 2017 Share Posted December 31, 2017 Some of our good friends had this happen to them a few years back. The weather turned bad and about 40 people showed up. It was crazy. They revised their open invitations after that. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Reefgazer Posted December 31, 2017 Share Posted December 31, 2017 The lack of RSVPs drives me nuts. I've taken to leaving one key piece of information off of the invitation (like the time, or the address) so that if someone wants to come they have to call me for it and that's how I get a headcount these days. At least I invited over twenty people for a New Year's Eve party. Tonight at 7pm. It is 11 am. I have not received any RSVP, just a few non-committal "maybe"s. Will start making food shortly. There may or may not be any guests to eat it. 8 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SparklyUnicorn Posted December 31, 2017 Share Posted December 31, 2017 Oh well...have fun either way! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Liz CA Posted December 31, 2017 Share Posted December 31, 2017 I bet most will show up. RSVPing seems to have gone by the wayside. People appear to not be able to commit to an RSVP because after all there could be a minuscule chance they will be prevented from coming for some reason. It never used to be an issue. I'd make whatever food you had planned. If you have fewer guests, you can freeze and have delicious leftovers. You will likely have a full house. :) Enjoy! Happy New Year! 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Carol in Cal. Posted December 31, 2017 Share Posted December 31, 2017 So rude and annoying! 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Spryte Posted December 31, 2017 Share Posted December 31, 2017 I bet many show up! Have fun! Party here, too, but ours is a sleepover. Adults and kids. Full house! Love it! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
wintermom Posted December 31, 2017 Share Posted December 31, 2017 Is the weather really bad there? Perhaps people are waiting to see if they really want to leave their home tonight. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
itsheresomewhere Posted December 31, 2017 Share Posted December 31, 2017 So what time should we all show up?:) Drives me nuts that people don’t rsvp. 7 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
marbel Posted December 31, 2017 Share Posted December 31, 2017 (edited) I don't think most people wait to respond to an invitation because weather might prevent them coming, or some other thing might come up. I think there are other reasons. In the thread about hosting, a lot of people said they don't ever host. So I'm quite sure a large segment of the non-WTM population doesn't ever host either, and some percentage (not all) of those people probably don't get it that hosting takes planning, prep, and expense. So they feel free to wait till they see if they feel like going out, or if they get a better offer. Unless the invitation was sent very close to the date, people don't really know what the weather is going to be like so it shouldn't factor into their response. And any host who plans a party understands that weather might be an issue! Whenever we are having a big thing, we are watching the weather for days beforehand, to see if we should cancel, or change plans. (Like for a summer picnic that is supposed to be outside, but after the invitations have gone out the forecast is calling for thunderstorms - can we manage indoors or should we cancel?) If I get an invitation and I want to go but know of something that may prevent my going, I decline on that basis. "We'd love to come, but I've been sick for a month and still coughing, so have to decline." The host can then say "oh, sorry you can't make it, hope we can get together soon, feel better!" or "let's leave it at maybe and if you feel better, plan to come along." There's no good reason not to respond, unless the truth is "I think I might like to come, but something better may come up, so I want to be noncommital." Edited December 31, 2017 by marbel 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
regentrude Posted December 31, 2017 Author Share Posted December 31, 2017 (edited) I have now received one two cancellations for sickness. The weather is fine. It is cold, but beautiful and clear. This is a tiny town, so nobody would have to drive for more than five minutes to get here. I will make food. And we shall eat well, with or without guests. Edited December 31, 2017 by regentrude 19 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SparklyUnicorn Posted December 31, 2017 Share Posted December 31, 2017 My DH would enjoy your onion tart. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
regentrude Posted December 31, 2017 Author Share Posted December 31, 2017 My DH would enjoy your onion tart. LOL. And you'd gag, right? Still fighting with DD over the precise way of preparing said tart - with custard, or just with cheese. We ave a few hours. 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SparklyUnicorn Posted December 31, 2017 Share Posted December 31, 2017 I do it with custard. Yeah I wouldn't eat it, but my DH loves it. I often make it when I want to eat beef cuz he hates beef. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ThisIsTheDay Posted December 31, 2017 Share Posted December 31, 2017 At least I invited over twenty people for a New Year's Eve party. Tonight at 7pm. It is 11 am. I have not received any RSVP, just a few non-committal "maybe"s. Will start making food shortly. There may or may not be any guests to eat it. Wth is wrong with these people? You've had them over for years with no reciprocation, and they can't even RSVP? This must be some sort of obligatory party that you're throwing? I'm angry about these people for you! :( I wish you could host a WTM party. We all have great party food ideas, and we'd appreciate your hospitality. 6 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Spryte Posted December 31, 2017 Share Posted December 31, 2017 Onion tart... my DH would drool. Anyone else any to share a recipe? 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
regentrude Posted December 31, 2017 Author Share Posted December 31, 2017 (edited) Wth is wrong with these people? You've had them over for years with no reciprocation, and they can't even RSVP? This must be some sort of obligatory party that you're throwing? I'm angry about these people for you! :( Some people do reciprocate. It's just some (a rather substantial number) that never do. It's not obligatory at all - after being on our own for Christmas break, it would be nice to see some friends. many are out of town, so I am already not counting those. I am not angry, just a bit puzzled because, well, numbers. Edited December 31, 2017 by regentrude 6 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Catwoman Posted December 31, 2017 Share Posted December 31, 2017 I hope you have fun at your party, no matter how many people show up. How rude of people to not bother to respond, though!!! 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ausmumof3 Posted December 31, 2017 Share Posted December 31, 2017 We had a party. First time ever everyone we invited except one person came. I was tempted to invite a couple more but glad I didn't as it was full house and chaotic enough. The kids all had a great time and got along really well. The adults were all about ready to quit by 10.30! Some of us hung on till midnight. We watched the Sydney Nye fireworks live on tv. 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SparklyUnicorn Posted December 31, 2017 Share Posted December 31, 2017 Although to be fair I thought RSVP is IF one is going...it's only rude if you don't say you are going and then show up! It's still nice to say one way or the other though. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
regentrude Posted December 31, 2017 Author Share Posted December 31, 2017 Although to be fair I thought RSVP is IF one is going... RSVP literally means "please respond" . Without a disclaimer "only if you plan to attend". 10 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Liz CA Posted December 31, 2017 Share Posted December 31, 2017 (edited) RSVP literally means "please respond" . Without a disclaimer "only if you plan to attend". Yes, I thought it stood for "repondez s'il vous plait." Where is the recipe for the onion tart? I am about to leave here on way to friends' house but will be back tomorrow. :) Edited December 31, 2017 by Liz CA 4 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kanin Posted December 31, 2017 Share Posted December 31, 2017 I'd like to go to your party :-) I also like leaving at 10:30! :) 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cave canem Posted December 31, 2017 Share Posted December 31, 2017 I will make food. And we shall eat well, with or without guests. At least you won't have to deal with unplanned-for food arriving as house gifts! 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted December 31, 2017 Share Posted December 31, 2017 I brow-beat my guests before the Christmas party. I sent out an email telling them if I had not heard from them,I would assume they were not coming and I would not make a Lemon Tassie for them. That seemed to be key because that was when I got the bulk of the resoonses and many prople mentioned the Lemon Tassies because most people did not know what that was. :) I think, anymore, we must spell out the need for a response in a way that cannot possibly be misunderstood. I was beginning to have nightmares that I would prepare food for 18 people (who had replied to that point) but then 40 would come. Being ultra-clear worked out well and I think the little humor addition helped make it smoother. 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
regentrude Posted December 31, 2017 Author Share Posted December 31, 2017 I brow-beat my guests before the Christmas party. I sent out an email telling them if I had not heard from them,I would assume they were not coming and I would not make a Lemon Tassie for them. That seemed to be key because that was when I got the bulk of the resoonses and many prople mentioned the Lemon Tassies because most people did not know what that was. :) I think, anymore, we must spell out the need for a response in a way that cannot possibly be misunderstood. I was beginning to have nightmares that I would prepare food for 18 people (who had replied to that point) but then 40 would come. Being ultra-clear worked out well and I think the little humor addition helped make it smoother. so what IS a Lemon tassie? 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Miss Tick Posted December 31, 2017 Share Posted December 31, 2017 I'm drooling over the onion tart (and probably lemon tassies, have to look those up) and wondering if any of those flakes are showing up yet? 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sandwalker Posted December 31, 2017 Share Posted December 31, 2017 I want an onion tart recipe... 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
regentrude Posted December 31, 2017 Author Share Posted December 31, 2017 (edited) For the people who want onion tart recipe: here is one https://www.daringgourmet.com/zwiebelkuchen-german-onion-pie/ My DD ended up making something different; thin crust, no custard, just parmesan. But I'm also making a quiche. Edited December 31, 2017 by regentrude 7 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
luuknam Posted December 31, 2017 Share Posted December 31, 2017 (edited) Yes, I thought it stood for "repondez s'il vous plait." Which literally means "respond if it pleases you"... which apparently, it didn't. (and yes, I know it normally just means "please") So, anyway, where's the party at? Edited December 31, 2017 by luuknam 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gardenmom5 Posted January 1, 2018 Share Posted January 1, 2018 Which literally means "respond if it pleases you"... which apparently, it didn't. (and yes, I know it normally just means "please") So, anyway, where's the party at? that might be the literal translation (from back in a day when people were more, at least superficially, polite) - but it is expected people will *respond*. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted January 1, 2018 Share Posted January 1, 2018 so what IS a Lemon tassie? See? It worked on you, too! It is a small tart with a Lemon Curd filling. Almost like a tiny Lemon Meringue Pie, but without the Meringue. It is so dreamy. I still have some of the Lemon Curd left in my fridge...probably going to top some yogurt with it and call it dessert... 5 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PeterPan Posted January 1, 2018 Share Posted January 1, 2018 So did they come? LOL We called off the people we had coming to our house. We're all fighting a bug and the families who were coming were sick. But if I were in that position, I'd keep it simple and have a freezer full of appetizers to warm up (more or less depending on the number of people) or order pizza depending on how many came. No way would I cook and wonder, lol. But hopefully your people showed up! :D 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
luuknam Posted January 1, 2018 Share Posted January 1, 2018 that might be the literal translation (from back in a day when people were more, at least superficially, polite) - but it is expected people will *respond*. That's why I said I know what it normally means. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
xixstar Posted January 1, 2018 Share Posted January 1, 2018 I was curious if anyone came too.I don't host things because I am massively embarrassed of my super cluttery house - but my goal this year is to clean more and get past that. So I invited people over for playing games on New Years Day -- I figured it was a day that no one would have any plans. Well, either it's the most scheduled day of the year or my friends just don't actually like me - no one is coming over. So sad -- gonna have to work up a lot more energy to try and host something again. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
freesia Posted January 1, 2018 Share Posted January 1, 2018 I was curious if anyone came too. I don't host things because I am massively embarrassed of my super cluttery house - but my goal this year is to clean more and get past that. So I invited people over for playing games on New Years Day -- I figured it was a day that no one would have any plans. Well, either it's the most scheduled day of the year or my friends just don't actually like me - no one is coming over. So sad -- gonna have to work up a lot more energy to try and host something again. Aww we'd come! We seriously almost never get invited over to folk's house Like only one of our friends ever have us over as a family. So we are hosting a new group tomorrow. I think dh's allergies intimidate folks (although we can bring food). Or the 4 kids or that he's the pastor. Who knows and I'm not bitter about it or anything--I just kinda wanna go to someone else's house for dinner or games or brunch. So I'd come and make friends! But probably everyone is actually busy. Because we are having folks over (who probably will never invite us back. Lol) And OP--I'm with you. We have a huge boy scout Eagle Court of Honor next week and I'm having trouble getting RSVPs. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
athomeontheprairie Posted January 1, 2018 Share Posted January 1, 2018 We are at a party and I've secluded myself in a spare room to nurse the baby... I came here wondering if you had people. So, did they show up? Are you having a great time with just family? Or a great time with friends too. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lauraw4321 Posted January 1, 2018 Share Posted January 1, 2018 Also curious if you’re having a party or just eating well Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
regentrude Posted January 1, 2018 Author Share Posted January 1, 2018 Three people came. We had a lovely time, talked and laughed and ate, toasted at 10pm, and everybody went home. We will have food for days; I had cooked for twenty. 26 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
xixstar Posted January 1, 2018 Share Posted January 1, 2018 Aww we'd come! We seriously almost never get invited over to folk's house Like only one of our friends ever have us over as a family. So we are hosting a new group tomorrow. I think dh's allergies intimidate folks (although we can bring food). Or the 4 kids or that he's the pastor. Who knows and I'm not bitter about it or anything--I just kinda wanna go to someone else's house for dinner or games or brunch. So I'd come and make friends! But probably everyone is actually busy. Because we are having folks over (who probably will never invite us back. Lol) And OP--I'm with you. We have a huge boy scout Eagle Court of Honor next week and I'm having trouble getting RSVPs. Well if you happy to live in Maryland - you're absolutely welcomed to come anytime to play games. And we even accomodate allergies pretty well, usually! As for regenetrude - I expect she is having a great time with friends! In my little world, it'd be terribly rude to be online posting about a party while hosting said party. :) Though some exceptions could be allowed. 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
freesia Posted January 1, 2018 Share Posted January 1, 2018 Well if you happy to live in Maryland - you're absolutely welcomed to come anytime to play games. And we even accomodate allergies pretty well, usually! As for regenetrude - I expect she is having a great time with friends! In my little world, it'd be terribly rude to be online posting about a party while hosting said party. :) Though some exceptions could be allowed. Alas! I *wish* I lived in Maryland! I grew up in DC and met dh there and we would love to be in Maryland. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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