nixpix5 Posted October 27, 2017 Share Posted October 27, 2017 On a somewhat unrelated note (because it isn't related to race, but gender), I find this entire problem odd considering many of the same in my circle who do frequently assert that white people shouldn't dress in costumes that depict people of other races, because of systemic racism... are the same people who openly encourage their boy children to dress as girl characters for halloween. Because there's no history at all of men being considered superior to, and holding power over, women? I mean, if it isn't okay for my daughter to dress as a black character because white people have historically held power over black people, then why isn't the same true for my son if he wants to dress as a princess with a wig, dress, etc.? ETA: This is a sincere question -- not snark. I have legitimately scratched my head over this. I mentioned this earlier too. It is because nobody wants to even touch the rock and a hard place where appropriation and gender identify meet. It is similar to someone white growing up in a large ethnic community such as myself. At this point in our society I am so exhausted by the lightening fast changing of political correctness I can only tune it out, go with my heart and know I will probably offend someone at some point. I can live with that. 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bluegoat Posted October 28, 2017 Share Posted October 28, 2017 Bluegoat, I think part of your discomfort is that Halloween is sometimes, for some kids, about dressing up as what they'd like to imitate - a princess, or a superhero, or an animal they really like, or whatever. For others, it's about being scary - monster, zombie, etc. For others, there is an element of comedy. Zombie Ann Frank would be the comedy. Zombie Ann Frank is a little gruesome, and just on the edge (for me) of aaahhh, this is kind of funny and I'm laughing but I think it's probably funny because it's slightly socially transgressive in a way. Hard to describe the kind of humor I mean, so I'll give another example (unrelated, but same kind of humor). when I was at teacher's college in New Zealand, I'd just arrived in the country a few days before the first formal social intake event at the university. In New Zealand they have a native (nativish, anyway) population called the Maori - they're Polynesian, was my understanding. So the first major social event is a formal one based on a Maori tradition - most government institutions sort of adopt a fair number of Maori traditions, it's very different than with Native Americans here in the US or with our other minority populations. So we're at this formal Maori introduction welcome thing, although 98% of us are white of course, and we (the new students for this year) are standing in the back waiting to go into the thing, whatever it was. We're talking about the event, and during the course of the conversation I mispronounced Maori - I said it, evidently, in a way that made it sound something like Moriori. I knew nothing about anyone called Moriori, but it caused a lot of stifled, sort of somewhat uncomfortable laughter (but a lot of the laughter). Turns out there's a sort of weird cultural thing going on where, A. The Maori were cannibals, but it's pretty socially taboo to mention this, especially for kids and young people; B. The Moriori were maybe a tribe of people who lived in NZ before the Maori (although the theory is discredited, it's still a popular idea at least among teacher's school students of age 20-23 in Canterbury, NZ), whom the Maori ate. So referring, even obliquely and unintentionally as I did, to the Moriori, was to them kind of hilarious and embarrassing and transgressive. But the thing it was transgressing (a taboo on talking about or referring to, in a joking or irreverent manner, the idea that the Maori ate people) was something people were not necessarily unhappy to see transgressed - I got a sense (and some concrete statements) that the taboo was not perceived as wholly worthwhile or necessary, to this generation of kids. So anyway, I think something similar goes on with Ann Frank. She's venerated, revered, etc. - but it's been a while, and some people, especially I think younger people, don't really feel the need for the veneration, or even as much of the sorrow as we're expected to feel. The horror of the Holocaust is pushed constantly in school, or was when I was a kid, and while I agree that it is horrible, at some point it becomes less immediate, and you rebel against the insistence on the holiness of the sadness of the Holocaust and the holiness of the sadness of Ann Frank with a sort of transgressive humor. This is in contrast to other things that are not pushed as hard - say the extermination of intellectuals under Pol Pot, or people who were killed in the Rwandan genocide, or survivors of the nuclear bombs - none of those would be humorous to bring back as Halloween costumes, even in a transgressive humor sort of way. Oh, yes, I totally think that is the kind of humour that a dead Ann Frank costume would have. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bluegoat Posted October 28, 2017 Share Posted October 28, 2017 I mentioned this earlier too. It is because nobody wants to even touch the rock and a hard place where appropriation and gender identify meet. It is similar to someone white growing up in a large ethnic community such as myself. At this point in our society I am so exhausted by the lightening fast changing of political correctness I can only tune it out, go with my heart and know I will probably offend someone at some point. I can live with that. I think we are seriously fooling ourselves though, if we think the kids don't notice these contradictions. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lmrich Posted October 28, 2017 Share Posted October 28, 2017 I have not read the responses... so forgive me if I am off topic... When my oldest daughter was in pre-school she had a wonderfully diverse class. One Native American girl, a few girls from India, a few African Americans, a few brunettes, a few blonds, and one red-head. They played princess all the time. The Native American girl was always Sleeping Beauty, the Indian girl was Belle another was Peter Pan, at least one of the African American girls was Tinkerbell and another The Little Mermaid, the red-head was Tinkerbell, the brunette was Cinderella, and the blondes were Pochantas and Snow White. (this was before the more recent edition and diversity of the Disney Princesses). It was awesome. The girls did not care. I thought it was amazing that my daughter was in such a diverse class at 3, and I now know that she still has that attitude today - be who you want to be. 7 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Word Nerd Posted October 28, 2017 Share Posted October 28, 2017 I think we are seriously fooling ourselves though, if we think the kids don't notice these contradictions. I also think they “get it†better than adults think. Being kind to others isn’t as complicated or fraught with potential landmines as some seem to believe. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KungFuPanda Posted October 28, 2017 Share Posted October 28, 2017 I totally agree! But I'd really like some opinions on DD's particular costume for this year. Is it offensive for her to dress as Katherine Johnson? I think it’s awesome for a young girl to want to honor a female heroine. Girl Power! 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Osprey Posted October 29, 2017 Share Posted October 29, 2017 I told my black husband about this thread. His response? “So, white kids can’t dress up as a minority character, but if I was a kid, I could dress up as a white character? No. No, no, no. White people taking things too far.†13 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
shawthorne44 Posted October 29, 2017 Share Posted October 29, 2017 kap728, sending your DH a bit of platonic love. One thing that I just noticed. What started this was a Cosmo article. Cosmo! I think we've all given a Cosmo article too much credit. 5 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
scoutingmom Posted October 29, 2017 Share Posted October 29, 2017 I told my black husband about this thread. His response? “So, white kids can’t dress up as a minority character, but if I was a kid, I could dress up as a white character? No. No, no, no. White people taking things too far.â€I don't think it is the white people taking things to far..... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nixpix5 Posted October 29, 2017 Share Posted October 29, 2017 I told my black husband about this thread. His response? “So, white kids can’t dress up as a minority character, but if I was a kid, I could dress up as a white character? No. No, no, no. White people taking things too far.†This is almost verbatim what my friend's Jamaican husband said. Well, his exact words in his adorable accent was "white people are crazy" haha! 4 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Osprey Posted October 29, 2017 Share Posted October 29, 2017 I don't think it is the white people taking things to far..... Really? Then who is taking it too far? Minorities aren’t saying, “your white kid can only dress like white characters.†Minorities are saying, “Don’t take my culture and make a mockery of it or drag my people through the mud.†White people are the ones who take that statement and turn it into, “a kid dressing like a Disney princess from another race/culture is bad and should be avoided at all costs.†4 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DesertBlossom Posted October 29, 2017 Share Posted October 29, 2017 Really? Then who is taking it too far? Minorities aren’t saying, “your white kid can only dress like white characters.†Minorities are saying, “Don’t take my culture and make a mockery of it or drag my people through the mud.†White people are the ones who take that statement and turn it into, “a kid dressing like a Disney princess from another race/culture is bad and should be avoided at all costs.†I only know what I know about this subject from a few articles on the internet and this lovely thread, but I have assumed it was the minorities objecting to white kids dressing up as non-white characters/people. Now I'm confused. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bluegoat Posted October 30, 2017 Share Posted October 30, 2017 I only know what I know about this subject from a few articles on the internet and this lovely thread, but I have assumed it was the minorities objecting to white kids dressing up as non-white characters/people. Now I'm confused. This is just the issue. Who is "the minorities"? People have all kinds of different views. Including about pretty hot-button issues that we're told they are supposed to think a certain way about. Some don't care or are more conservative. And some might be very extreme and not representative. I often wish articles and individuals would be careful to think about who they are representing, and with what kind of mandate, and pitch the message honestly in that regard. And I wish when people saw someone claim to represent their view, they'd speak up if they didn't agree - not to be jerks, but just to make it clear when a position is not so universal. 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted October 30, 2017 Share Posted October 30, 2017 Racism is bigotry based on hatred, resentment, and broad negative stereotypes. If you want it to mean something else, you're going to have to find a different word or phrase. I love the variety of people in the U.S. and the fact that we've been sharing and enjoying each others' foods, customs, and clothing styles, etc. My mom was raised by the children of German-born immigrants. She never had spaghetti until our family moved into a neighborhood with an Italian-decent family. The only one I ever knew. The Italian-American mom taught my mom how to make meatballs and spaghetti sauce. I still use the recipes. Are some of you trying to tell me tht if I make this spaghetti meal and take it to a potluck, and there are Italian-American people there, that they have the right to get on my case for "culturally appropriating" THEIR cultural food? Am I supposed to apoplogize for the "microaggression" of eating pizza? a burrito? rice and stirfry vegetables? curry chicken? Is everyone who is wearing pants/trousers and a button-down shirt culturally appropriating white culture? Does everyone have to "stay" in their own cultural clothes/costumes? Some people think so. If you think that restrictions only apply to whites, and that minorities can do whatever they want, then you (no one in particular) have a racist/ bigot problem yourself, imho. Children should be able to wear any costume they want to. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
happi duck Posted October 30, 2017 Share Posted October 30, 2017 (edited) There is a lot of space between the people who see cultural appropriation everywhere and the people who want to do whatever they please. Imo, the kind and reasonable things are in that space. Thoughtful discussions about cultural appropriation don't include things that have been repeated in this thread. Yes, you'll find people who thinking enjoying food/dressing as a Disney character etc is CA but there are also flat earthers so I don't worry about some fringe voices. Regarding Moana, I linked earlier to an article by a native Fijian who was *not* suggesting that non-Polynesian kids couldn't dress up as Moana. She was suggesting to learn about Moana's culture and also not to fake things that have significant meaning to a culture that isn't yours. I think a NA headdress is an easier to accept example. Someone who is a part of NA culture would not wear a headdress in a frivolous way. People, not Native Americans, wearing headdresses to music festivals is wrong. It is disrespectful to a part of NA culture and taking something they were not invited to share. When you consider the idea of non-NA selling/profiting from headdress fashion you can imagine how this is not okay. This is just my two cents. And I'm very tired. . Edited October 30, 2017 by happi duck 5 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sandwalker Posted October 30, 2017 Share Posted October 30, 2017 My 4 year old son desperately wants to be Maui from Moana. I decided it would be ok as long as we didn’t try to darken his skin. Well, then I read online about the tattoos and how that also is cultural appropriation. Ugh. So I told 4 year old no. It’s just not worth it. It’s exhausting. I tried to explain it to him and I even got help from my oldest ds who is a senior anth major. He still doesn’t understand. He said, but I love him, I don’t hate his people... Completely exhausting. He would have made the cutest little giant. Oh, well. That's so sad. I don't think anyone would have felt dissed by a little kid emulating a character. What, would they think a four-year old who admires the character would somehow be a racist or a cultural appropriator for this? Then Disney shouldn't make any movies with characters who are of any actual race or culture. Make all the princesses purple aliens from space--and bald, so that no white people get upset about some other race's hair style being appropriated. 4 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sandwalker Posted October 30, 2017 Share Posted October 30, 2017 lol Yes, the Catholic Church has been so victimized.You are not aware of the rape and slaughter of nuns over the years? 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
EMS83 Posted October 30, 2017 Share Posted October 30, 2017 (edited) This is almost verbatim what my friend's Jamaican husband said. Well, his exact words in his adorable accent was "white people are crazy" haha! :lol: Have heard this on another board from other non-white people (men, to be precise). I do want to submit that perhaps this is (also?) a male/female divide, though, because the men in my life are white, and also think the fuss is ridiculous. Edited October 30, 2017 by CES2005 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
EMS83 Posted October 30, 2017 Share Posted October 30, 2017 (edited) I only know what I know about this subject from a few articles on the internet and this lovely thread, but I have assumed it was the minorities objecting to white kids dressing up as non-white characters/people. Now I'm confused. No, it was Cosmo objecting to white kids dressing up as non-whites. Or more accurately, Facebook people reacting to a Cosmo article on the subject. FTR, I've already encouraged us to consider the demographics of Cosmo's staff and readership. Plus...it's Cosmo. wth? Edited October 30, 2017 by CES2005 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MercyA Posted October 30, 2017 Share Posted October 30, 2017 (edited) Children should be able to wear any costume they want to. If we're only talking about Disney Princess costumes, I agree with you. I think the only culture being appropriated there is...Disney. ;) However, I do think we need to teach our children to be kind. If my child wanted to wear a Nazi costume, or a murder victim costume, or blackface, or a culturally significant Native American headdress, I would have to say, no, you cannot wear that. It isn't kind. Not talking specifically about you, Fifiruth, but an awful lot of people seem to be hell bent on insisting on THEIR rights--even when it is something as insignificant as the choice of a Halloween costume. God forbid someone might need to give up something to be kind to someone else. "All things are lawful, but not all things are profitable. All things are lawful, but not all things edify. Let no one seek his own good, but that of his neighbor." Edited October 30, 2017 by MercyA 4 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bluegoat Posted October 30, 2017 Share Posted October 30, 2017 Well, two of my kids are going as murder victims and the other as a murderer, so I guess we've crossed that line. 6 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bluegoat Posted October 30, 2017 Share Posted October 30, 2017 :lol: Have heard this on another board from other non-white people (men, to be precise). I do want to submit that perhaps this is (also?) a male/female divide, though, because the men in my life are white, and also think the fuss is ridiculous. You know, you may be on to something. If I think about people I know who get excited about this stuff, and examples of those I know who very much take the other view, it is pretty much along male/female lines. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Elizabeth86 Posted October 30, 2017 Share Posted October 30, 2017 If a non white girl wanted to dress up as Cinderella, I would not call it racist. We are not assigned our princesses by race. The mere fact that a child would want to dress up as someone not their own race shows that the child is not concerned with race, which is a good thing. If people want to break the race barriers, they need to stop telling kids they can only play pretend of their own race. My daughter has dolls of all races. And she loves Tiana and has a tiana costume. And this is OK. I agree. Wouldn't racist be a little white girl not wanting to be Moana because she isn't white. OMG our culture is so stupid sometimes. 8 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted October 30, 2017 Share Posted October 30, 2017 I think that it's beautiful that a child loves a character and doesn't care about the race of the character at all, and just wants to BE that character for a night of fun running around and getting a ton of candy. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted October 30, 2017 Share Posted October 30, 2017 (edited) You know, you may be on to something. If I think about people I know who get excited about this stuff, and examples of those I know who very much take the other view, it is pretty much along male/female lines. There are a lot of women who think that the fuss is ridiculous. The divide is more between common sense vs political correctness. Edited October 30, 2017 by Fifiruth Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MercyA Posted October 30, 2017 Share Posted October 30, 2017 Well, two of my kids are going as murder victims and the other as a murderer, so I guess we've crossed that line. Okay, you've piqued my curiosity. :D Are they going as general or specific murderers and victims? 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
EMS83 Posted October 30, 2017 Share Posted October 30, 2017 (edited) There are a lot of women who think that the fuss is ridiculous. The divide is more between common sense vs political correctness. To be fair, I brought that up first. And I agree with you; it's just in my experience, those things fall along male/female lines most of the time. Not all of the time, obviously. I've said what I've said and I'm female. Edited October 30, 2017 by CES2005 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
FaithManor Posted October 30, 2017 Share Posted October 30, 2017 All of this just makes me thankful that my youngest is seventeen, and my Two year old grandson wants to be a fire truck! Hopefully there is nothing culturally insensitive about being a fire engine. 10 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bluegoat Posted October 31, 2017 Share Posted October 31, 2017 Okay, you've piqued my curiosity. :D Are they going as general or specific murderers and victims? Well, general I guess. Dd12 is going as a dead bride with a skull face. Dd9 is a dead kid in a party dress. Ds7 is a chainsaw, though he is wearing a hockey mask so maybe people will think he is from those horror movies - ds is not aware of them. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Crimson Wife Posted October 31, 2017 Share Posted October 31, 2017 One of my youngest's classmates was wearing a Merida costume including a red wig. I guess I should have called her out for "appropriating my cultural heritage" as the little girl is Latina rather than Scottish like my mom's family :001_rolleyes: 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Word Nerd Posted November 1, 2017 Share Posted November 1, 2017 These Hidden Figures (along with a baby Dobby I just saw a few minutes ago) are my favorite viral costumes for this year: https://twitter.com/zellieimani/status/924821383330361346 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nixpix5 Posted November 1, 2017 Share Posted November 1, 2017 These Hidden Figures (along with a baby Dobby I just saw a few minutes ago) are my favorite viral costumes for this year: https://twitter.com/zellieimani/status/924821383330361346 Oh they are precious! I love the attitude :) so cute! 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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