Excelsior! Academy Posted October 11, 2017 Share Posted October 11, 2017 (not dh!) that lives with us and continually uses a specific product in which I am allergic? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bolt. Posted October 11, 2017 Share Posted October 11, 2017 Say, "I don't like it when you use (the product)." In an absolutely deadpan voice every time it comes up. Look them directly in the eyes (or focus on their eyebrows) and let the silence stretch for a moment, then smile and pretend it never happened. Repeat as necessary. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
katilac Posted October 11, 2017 Share Posted October 11, 2017 I'd be all, b*tch, seriously? Then I would throw it away. Repeat as necessary. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Junie Posted October 11, 2017 Share Posted October 11, 2017 I would explain to the person that you are allergic to *specific ingredient* found in *specific product* and it causes *specific symptoms*. And I would ask them to refrain. 7 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
marbel Posted October 11, 2017 Share Posted October 11, 2017 I would explain that you are allergic to the product and they need to stop using it. If they challenge you, explain the symptoms - if you feel so inclined. I assume this is a person living at your house, who could leave and get their own place, or move in with other people, if necessary. My husband is allergic to a bunch of stuff. It's a bummer sometimes that we can't have certain nice-smelling things. But, nothing he can do about it. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Petrichor Posted October 11, 2017 Share Posted October 11, 2017 Can the person use the product in a way that doesn't bother you as much? For instance, if it's a spray, can they refrain from spraying in common areas/common bathrooms? Can they apply it only outside of the house? Is the person using an excessive amount of product, and could reduce the amount they use in order to reduce or eliminate your reaction? Is your reaction an obvious one that you can use to try to explain it to them(i.e. a rash)? Maybe they think you just hate the smell of it, and don't understand that people can be allergic to scented products. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dsmith Posted October 11, 2017 Share Posted October 11, 2017 I had this problem with my in-lays using Febreze. It gives me a nasty migraine. Maybe they thought I was lying or something because they stopped using it in front of me but used it when I was out of the house. Eventually they stopped after a period of really severe migraines almost had me in the ER. They occasionally use it when I'm traveling so I remind them on our return trip to not use it. It takes about 3 days for it to wear off enough that I don't get a migraine from it. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
J-rap Posted October 11, 2017 Share Posted October 11, 2017 I think some people just don't understand how it can really be that bad. But my dh gets severe migraines from certain smells, and it really can be that bad. So, I think I'd be firm and just say that it absolutely cannot be used in the house, and thoroughly explain why. Have you tried to be direct? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OneStepAtATime Posted October 11, 2017 Share Posted October 11, 2017 Are you saying that you have explained your situation clearly and specifically asked them to find an alternative product and they refused? Or that you casually mentioned it and they haven't changed their pattern? Or that you are thinking of telling them but uncertain how to approach it? Or...? I'm not entirely clear from your post just how clearly you have stated you have an issue. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Χά�ων Posted October 11, 2017 Share Posted October 11, 2017 Projecting here. I would not be nice. My reactions are getting more severe and I now carry an epi pen. My life is more important. 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Catwoman Posted October 11, 2017 Share Posted October 11, 2017 (not dh!) that lives with us and continually uses a specific product in which I am allergic? If this adult knows you are allergic and still continues to use the product, I would be telling that adult that he or she needs to find a new place to live. Seriously. It's just plain mean and inconsiderate to use an unnecessary product when you know someone in the house is allergic to it. Why are you tolerating this incredibly inconsiderate behavior? 5 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
displace Posted October 11, 2017 Share Posted October 11, 2017 It depends on the relationship. Renter, grown child, in laws, other relatives? With a renter I'd just make it not allowed with notice. Grown child I'd explain/teach. In laws... would not be living here any longer. Other relatives, overwhelming repetition and prolonged speeches about allergies every half hour until usage stopped. Sometimes people may think/say they'll stop using products and then accidentally forget because they use them in the bathroom or bedroom and aren't thinking of you when they apply them. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Melissa in Australia Posted October 11, 2017 Share Posted October 11, 2017 We had this. It was not a immediate family member. It was shampoo that dh was allergic to. I bought her a shampoo that was ok and told her that while she was living here this is the product she needed to use as the other product smelt beautiful it was making dh very ill. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fairfarmhand Posted October 11, 2017 Share Posted October 11, 2017 Throw up on their shoes. (Kidding) Have them do all the chores that you can’t. (Seriously) That’s for an adult or older teen who insists upon this. Now if your sensitivities require their buying a more expensive product than they normally can invest in, it would be nice if you helped with that. Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fairfarmhand Posted October 11, 2017 Share Posted October 11, 2017 (edited) Oops. Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk Edited October 11, 2017 by fairfarmhand Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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