The Accidental Coach 7,886 Report post Posted September 27, 2017 I was at the elementary school this morning and ran in to my DS's 3rd grade teacher. I was struck by how things have changed between then and now. When she was a part of our lives there was no TS, no OCD, no depression, no suicide attempt. Life was easier - he was happy, outgoing, full of life, full of dreams. I think I'm mourning everything that has been lost for him, me, and our family and just needed to say something. 13 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
snowbeltmom 5,995 Report post Posted September 27, 2017 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Selkie 17,065 Report post Posted September 27, 2017 I'm sorry. :grouphug: 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
regentrude 77,577 Report post Posted September 27, 2017 I am sorry. Hugs. 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Lori D. 21,788 Report post Posted September 27, 2017 :grouphug: Scoutermom :grouphug: 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Jen500 1,289 Report post Posted September 27, 2017 :grouphug: 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
chiguirre 17,092 Report post Posted September 27, 2017 :grouphug: 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
freesia 6,685 Report post Posted September 27, 2017 I'm sorry {{{hugs}}} 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Sebastian (a lady) 9,334 Report post Posted September 27, 2017 I'm so sorry. I think it is quite normal to grieve the loss of the life you envisioned for him. 4 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Nancy in NH 587 Report post Posted September 27, 2017 Sending hugs. I definitely understand that type of grief. You're in my thoughts... :grouphug: 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Mom22ns 5,731 Report post Posted September 27, 2017 :grouphug: I remember when that kind of grief was fresh. I'm sorry. 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
mumto2 30,300 Report post Posted September 27, 2017 :grouphug: 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
creekland 41,101 Report post Posted September 27, 2017 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: I wish parents had magical powers. :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: 4 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Mabelen 1,024 Report post Posted September 27, 2017 I understand. So sorry for your pain and grief. 😠2 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
SeaConquest 7,907 Report post Posted September 27, 2017 I am so sorry. I know it must be heartbreaking for you. Sending love and prayers for healing. 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Frances 10,302 Report post Posted September 27, 2017 Thinking of you and yours. 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Denise in IN 467 Report post Posted September 28, 2017 :grouphug: 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
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Joules 5,842 Report post Posted September 28, 2017 :grouphug: :grouphug: 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
MerryAtHope 5,882 Report post Posted September 28, 2017 I'm so sorry. It's heartbreaking to watch our kids struggle and suffer. (((Hugs))) 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Hoggirl 4,361 Report post Posted September 28, 2017 :grouphug: 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
OneStepAtATime 52,888 Report post Posted September 28, 2017 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
8FillTheHeart 30,363 Report post Posted September 28, 2017 :grouphug: Parenting adult children can be heart-wrenching at times. :grouphug: :grouphug: 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
lmrich 3,183 Report post Posted September 28, 2017 :grouphug: 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Heigh Ho 8,312 Report post Posted September 28, 2017 (edited) Hugs to you. I too remember when it become obvious that my child didn't 'fit'. Its made it very easy for us to not continue to be a part of the local community or the extended family, 'cause rejecting our child is rejecting us, and our worldview of 'everybody is included'. We've found other communities. I hope your lad does too. It's tough watching the child go into hiding and then emerge so cautiously. How is his scouting family at college working out? Edited September 28, 2017 by Heigh Ho 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
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The Accidental Coach 7,886 Report post Posted September 28, 2017 Hugs to you. I too remember when it become obvious that my child didn't 'fit'. Its made it very easy for us to not continue to be a part of the local community or the extended family, 'cause rejecting our child is rejecting us, and our worldview of 'everybody is included'. We've found other communities. I hope your lad does too. It's tough watching the child go into hiding and then emerge so cautiously. How is his scouting family at college working out? It's not. I cannot determine whether it's his choice or just part and parcel of the college environ. I had hoped the number of Eagles at his school would help him find a tribe, that whole bond of friendship thing and all. It hasn't worked out. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
The Accidental Coach 7,886 Report post Posted September 28, 2017 Thank you for the hugs and the kind words. I made it through the day (thanks to a long day of driving and coaching) and was able to fully enjoy the beautiful sunset we had in Chicagoland yesterday evening. 8 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
linders 2,430 Report post Posted September 28, 2017 I'm sorry. :grouphug: 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
MysteryJen 14,877 Report post Posted September 28, 2017 :grouphug: I am so sorry. I well know that feeling. 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
Heigh Ho 8,312 Report post Posted September 29, 2017 It's not. I cannot determine whether it's his choice or just part and parcel of the college environ. I had hoped the number of Eagles at his school would help him find a tribe, that whole bond of friendship thing and all. It hasn't worked out. My thought was it was the college environment. It just took time to find similar people, the whole concept of rising tide lifts all boats is hidden among those who see the world as a network of favoritism and freeze out competitors. My Eagle met fellow Eagles first day at the dorm, but nothing came of it as he decided he'd rather work part time and that meant he couldn't participate in the service club activities. Outdoor club was being run by adults, so he ended up finding a lot of city kids who wanted to get outdoors, and led them, forming a friend group in the process. I hope your son will look into Independents, the group on my campus was pretty diverse and open to all. 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
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Bootsie 5,302 Report post Posted October 2, 2017 I am sorry; that is so difficult. 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
FriedClams 5,468 Report post Posted October 2, 2017 (((hugs)))) 1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites
