The Accidental Coach 8,142 Posted September 27, 2017 Report Share Posted September 27, 2017 I was at the elementary school this morning and ran in to my DS's 3rd grade teacher. I was struck by how things have changed between then and now. When she was a part of our lives there was no TS, no OCD, no depression, no suicide attempt. Life was easier - he was happy, outgoing, full of life, full of dreams. I think I'm mourning everything that has been lost for him, me, and our family and just needed to say something. Link to post Share on other sites
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Selkie 22,918 Posted September 27, 2017 Report Share Posted September 27, 2017 I'm sorry. :grouphug: Link to post Share on other sites
regentrude 83,038 Posted September 27, 2017 Report Share Posted September 27, 2017 I am sorry. Hugs. Link to post Share on other sites
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freesia 7,521 Posted September 27, 2017 Report Share Posted September 27, 2017 I'm sorry {{{hugs}}} Link to post Share on other sites
Sebastian (a lady) 9,538 Posted September 27, 2017 Report Share Posted September 27, 2017 I'm so sorry. I think it is quite normal to grieve the loss of the life you envisioned for him. Link to post Share on other sites
Nancy in NH 588 Posted September 27, 2017 Report Share Posted September 27, 2017 Sending hugs. I definitely understand that type of grief. You're in my thoughts... :grouphug: Link to post Share on other sites
Mom22ns 5,760 Posted September 27, 2017 Report Share Posted September 27, 2017 :grouphug: I remember when that kind of grief was fresh. I'm sorry. Link to post Share on other sites
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creekland 41,102 Posted September 27, 2017 Report Share Posted September 27, 2017 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: I wish parents had magical powers. :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: Link to post Share on other sites
Mabelen 1,040 Posted September 27, 2017 Report Share Posted September 27, 2017 I understand. So sorry for your pain and grief. 😠Link to post Share on other sites
SeaConquest 8,990 Posted September 27, 2017 Report Share Posted September 27, 2017 I am so sorry. I know it must be heartbreaking for you. Sending love and prayers for healing. Link to post Share on other sites
Frances 14,161 Posted September 27, 2017 Report Share Posted September 27, 2017 Thinking of you and yours. Link to post Share on other sites
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MerryAtHope 6,015 Posted September 28, 2017 Report Share Posted September 28, 2017 I'm so sorry. It's heartbreaking to watch our kids struggle and suffer. (((Hugs))) Link to post Share on other sites
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8filltheheart 34,853 Posted September 28, 2017 Report Share Posted September 28, 2017 :grouphug: Parenting adult children can be heart-wrenching at times. :grouphug: :grouphug: Link to post Share on other sites
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Guest Posted September 28, 2017 Report Share Posted September 28, 2017 Hugs to you. I too remember when it become obvious that my child didn't 'fit'. Its made it very easy for us to not continue to be a part of the local community or the extended family, 'cause rejecting our child is rejecting us, and our worldview of 'everybody is included'. We've found other communities. I hope your lad does too. It's tough watching the child go into hiding and then emerge so cautiously. How is his scouting family at college working out? Link to post Share on other sites
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The Accidental Coach 8,142 Posted September 28, 2017 Author Report Share Posted September 28, 2017 Hugs to you. I too remember when it become obvious that my child didn't 'fit'. Its made it very easy for us to not continue to be a part of the local community or the extended family, 'cause rejecting our child is rejecting us, and our worldview of 'everybody is included'. We've found other communities. I hope your lad does too. It's tough watching the child go into hiding and then emerge so cautiously. How is his scouting family at college working out? It's not. I cannot determine whether it's his choice or just part and parcel of the college environ. I had hoped the number of Eagles at his school would help him find a tribe, that whole bond of friendship thing and all. It hasn't worked out. Link to post Share on other sites
The Accidental Coach 8,142 Posted September 28, 2017 Author Report Share Posted September 28, 2017 Thank you for the hugs and the kind words. I made it through the day (thanks to a long day of driving and coaching) and was able to fully enjoy the beautiful sunset we had in Chicagoland yesterday evening. Link to post Share on other sites
linders 2,491 Posted September 28, 2017 Report Share Posted September 28, 2017 I'm sorry. :grouphug: Link to post Share on other sites
MysteryJen 17,234 Posted September 28, 2017 Report Share Posted September 28, 2017 :grouphug: I am so sorry. I well know that feeling. Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted September 29, 2017 Report Share Posted September 29, 2017 It's not. I cannot determine whether it's his choice or just part and parcel of the college environ. I had hoped the number of Eagles at his school would help him find a tribe, that whole bond of friendship thing and all. It hasn't worked out. My thought was it was the college environment. It just took time to find similar people, the whole concept of rising tide lifts all boats is hidden among those who see the world as a network of favoritism and freeze out competitors. My Eagle met fellow Eagles first day at the dorm, but nothing came of it as he decided he'd rather work part time and that meant he couldn't participate in the service club activities. Outdoor club was being run by adults, so he ended up finding a lot of city kids who wanted to get outdoors, and led them, forming a friend group in the process. I hope your son will look into Independents, the group on my campus was pretty diverse and open to all. Link to post Share on other sites
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Bootsie 7,392 Posted October 2, 2017 Report Share Posted October 2, 2017 I am sorry; that is so difficult. Link to post Share on other sites
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