Paige Posted September 8, 2017 Share Posted September 8, 2017 How can I teach my DD to wash all the soap out of her hair? In the past, the rule was if she couldn't wash the shampoo out, we cut her hair to a more manageable length so it was easier. She's 10, though, and really wants longer hair, and I don't want to be a big meanie, and I want to let her choose her hairstyle. I don't want to go in and watch her either, and sending her up to rinse again and again does not seem to be helping. When I sometimes rinse it out in the sink, there are SO many bubbles- I don't know what she's doing wrong. Her hair is baby fine and not very thick, so it shouldn't be hard. She claims to be using a reasonable amount like I've shown her, and when I complain, she sometimes gives up and tries to wash with no shampoo to avoid the problem, which doesn't help. Is there a type of shampoo that would be easier for her to use, or maybe some sort of tip I can give her to know when to stop rinsing, or how to rinse more effectively? It's creating unnecessary drama in the house. Don't tell me to just shut my mouth- her hair looks nasty/greasy/unclean when it's full of shampoo and she cares a lot about her appearance. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
EmseB Posted September 8, 2017 Share Posted September 8, 2017 (edited) I would watch and see how she's doing it and give pointers. Why don't you want to do that? If she's self conscious have her wear a bathing suit or something. I think it's the only way to tell what's going on. Edited September 8, 2017 by EmseB 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
regentrude Posted September 8, 2017 Share Posted September 8, 2017 (edited) Have you checked that she is not using too much shampoo? If it is really a problem, I would be in the bathroom and observe. Why don't you want to do that? Edited September 8, 2017 by regentrude 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Paige Posted September 8, 2017 Author Share Posted September 8, 2017 She really wants privacy in the shower. I will ask her if she's ok doing it with a bathing suit on. I hadn't thought of that. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Elizabeth86 Posted September 8, 2017 Share Posted September 8, 2017 No idea?? lol Probably too much shampoo. I always took a bath instead of a shower so I learned how to rinse my long hair by just laying in the tub and running my finger through it a bit until all the bubbles were gone. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Elizabeth86 Posted September 8, 2017 Share Posted September 8, 2017 She really wants privacy in the shower. I will ask her if she's ok doing it with a bathing suit on. I hadn't thought of that. Good idea. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Xahm Posted September 8, 2017 Share Posted September 8, 2017 This may be weird, but as a long haired kid I would test if I was done by putting the end of my hair in my mouth briefly. If it was soapy, rinse more. If it tasted like water, I was good. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SKL Posted September 8, 2017 Share Posted September 8, 2017 My kids have had this problem, especially my youngest 10yo. What helps here: 1. Tell her how much shampoo and conditioner to use - in terms of how much to pour into her hand or however you measure. Remind until that seems to be her habit. 2. While you are washing your own hair, notice how you rinse and then go demonstrate for her. You might consider buying a shampoo/conditioner combo that rinses easily. Or "leave in conditioner." I have stopped correcting my kids' hair washing unless there is a noticeable patch of conditioner shining on the hair when they come out. I can't police this forever, and it's not the end of the world if some conditioner stays and gets combed into the wet hair. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SKL Posted September 8, 2017 Share Posted September 8, 2017 PS as to what she may be doing wrong, my kid would not keep her head under the water long enough for rinsing. Kinda dumb since she will stay in the shower and sing for half an hour. :P I need to be very specific about how it's done and then remind her a bunch of times. She still isn't perfect about it. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Paige Posted September 8, 2017 Author Share Posted September 8, 2017 She only has shampoo stuck on the top of her head. Most of her hair is clean. I suspect it's because she's afraid of the water getting in her face. I don't know what to tell her except to suck it up, close her eyes, and let the water onto her face. She's not really the suck it up type, though... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JudoMom Posted September 8, 2017 Share Posted September 8, 2017 She only has shampoo stuck on the top of her head. Most of her hair is clean. I suspect it's because she's afraid of the water getting in her face. I don't know what to tell her except to suck it up, close her eyes, and let the water onto her face. She's not really the suck it up type, though... What about installing a handheld showerhead so she has a bit more control over the water? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MercyA Posted September 8, 2017 Share Posted September 8, 2017 I had to teach my daughter to tilt her head back far enough so the shower water was actually hitting the top of her head. If your daughter doesn't like getting her face wet, maybe suggest that she hold a washcloth over her face? When I was a little girl, my mom taught me to check my hair by running a few fingers firmly over it. If it "squeaked," it was fully rinsed. :) 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SKL Posted September 8, 2017 Share Posted September 8, 2017 I had to teach my daughter to tilt her head back far enough so the shower water was actually hitting the top of her head. If your daughter doesn't like getting her face wet, maybe suggest that she hold a washcloth over her face? When I was a little girl, my mom taught me to check my hair by running a few fingers firmly over it. If it "squeaked," it was fully rinsed. :) My kids' hair doesn't "squeak," but I told them to check if it feels "slimy." :P Whatever works! 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
J-rap Posted September 8, 2017 Share Posted September 8, 2017 I'd show her an exact amount to use. (Probably less than what she is using.) Also, I think baby shampoos rinse out more easily. This shampoo was reviewed as being one easy to rinse out: https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B004W99CD6/ref=as_at/?imprToken=zSfH5dGqpyoEgf5vHWymLg&slotNum=0&ie=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=9325&creativeASIN=B004W99CD6&linkCode=w61&tag=r10943-20&linkId=f2f615fcc33b091f144e105c11ff36aa Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Paige Posted September 8, 2017 Author Share Posted September 8, 2017 I'd show her an exact amount to use. (Probably less than what she is using.) Also, I think baby shampoos rinse out more easily. This shampoo was reviewed as being one easy to rinse out: https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B004W99CD6/ref=as_at/?imprToken=zSfH5dGqpyoEgf5vHWymLg&slotNum=0&ie=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=9325&creativeASIN=B004W99CD6&linkCode=w61&tag=r10943-20&linkId=f2f615fcc33b091f144e105c11ff36aa Thanks! I'll try going back to baby shampoo; especially since she's scared of soap and water in her eyes. It may help. She doesn't want to be a baby but I wonder if I can get some baby shampoo and put it in a different bottle so it doesn't say "baby" on it and just tell her it's a no tear shampoo. We've tried handheld shower heads and they all seem to break right away. I don't know why they break, but I'm kind of soured on them. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Paige Posted September 8, 2017 Author Share Posted September 8, 2017 I had to teach my daughter to tilt her head back far enough so the shower water was actually hitting the top of her head. If your daughter doesn't like getting her face wet, maybe suggest that she hold a washcloth over her face? When I was a little girl, my mom taught me to check my hair by running a few fingers firmly over it. If it "squeaked," it was fully rinsed. :) She already does but I don't think she gives it enough time. She's probably doing it as fast as possible to get away from the water quickly. She'll spend forever in the shower, but not with her face in the water. I think it's also hard to hold a wash cloth and use your hands on your scalp. I have been telling her to rinse until the hair no longer feels slippery. She doesn't seem to understand what that should feel like. She does a good job on everything from her crown down. I'll tell her to pay attention next time and make sure that the hair on the very top feels the same as the hair by her ears. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
J-rap Posted September 8, 2017 Share Posted September 8, 2017 Thanks! I'll try going back to baby shampoo; especially since she's scared of soap and water in her eyes. It may help. She doesn't want to be a baby but I wonder if I can get some baby shampoo and put it in a different bottle so it doesn't say "baby" on it and just tell her it's a no tear shampoo. We've tried handheld shower heads and they all seem to break right away. I don't know why they break, but I'm kind of soured on them. Clever! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fairfarmhand Posted September 8, 2017 Share Posted September 8, 2017 There are plenty of kids shampoos that are tear free. I like the bottles with a pump so I can say " use 1 squirt." Also, see if you can get a shower head with a more defined shower pattern so she can feel the limits of the spray on her head. I don't like water in my face but I've learned to tip my head back and let the spray tickle my forehead right up into my hairline. Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
EKS Posted September 8, 2017 Share Posted September 8, 2017 She really wants privacy in the shower. I will ask her if she's ok doing it with a bathing suit on. I hadn't thought of that. If she were my kid, I would simply inform her that she can either get it together and rinse her hair properly, or I will be observing. Then I wouldn't ask if she is ok with wearing a bathing suit, I would just give her the choice of wearing one or not. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Katy Posted September 8, 2017 Share Posted September 8, 2017 (edited) We have a suave kids no more tears shampoo that smells like apples. Sometimes requiring conditioner can help a bit too - extra rinsing and such. If she has fine hair as it grows out she might need conditioner to keep it from being too tangly. I would honestly give her some options - she can cut her hair short and try again next year, she can wash in front of you (bathing suit optional) to see what she's doing wrong, she can use baby shampoo, or all of the above. Having a continual issue with not being able to rinse properly at 10 would be a sign to me she's not ready for long hair yet. IE: I'd give her a deadline. 3 days or two weeks to figure out how to rinse properly or get a cut and try again in 6 months. Edited September 8, 2017 by Katy 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Carol in Cal. Posted September 8, 2017 Share Posted September 8, 2017 You could teach her to wash it in the kitchen sink leaning over. Less in your face like that. DD didn't wash or the top back crown part of her head, and it got to smelling bad, which of course she couldn't smell herself. I tried a couple of things but finally what worked was I guided her hand to that part of her head, and encouraged her to feel it from the inside of her head and to think about whether she felt that during washing or not before she finished up. Also, in a shower the water has to beat on all areas in turn for a little while. I told her to put her hand where she wanted to get rid of the soap and then move until she could feel the water hitting her hand while she got used to making sure that she was thoroughly rinsing. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
regentrude Posted September 8, 2017 Share Posted September 8, 2017 (edited) Does she tilt her head forward or backwards when she rinses? Backward has the advantage that you get only clean water on your face, not soapy. But she can also bend very far forward and get almost no soap on her face. Edited September 8, 2017 by regentrude Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lllll Posted September 8, 2017 Share Posted September 8, 2017 (edited) nm Edited September 21, 2017 by lllllll Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Junie Posted September 8, 2017 Share Posted September 8, 2017 If the problem of not rinsing is at the top of her head, cutting her hair won't help. Agreeing with the ideas of the bathing suit and the Suave shampoos/conditioners. This is what we do at our house. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Arcadia Posted September 8, 2017 Share Posted September 8, 2017 She only has shampoo stuck on the top of her head. Most of her hair is clean. I suspect it's because she's afraid of the water getting in her face. Many in my extended family use something like this for kids. Dollar store and Daiso sells them. Keeps most of the water out of the eyes. https://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/B00M0DQJMS/ We also use Johnson no tear baby shampoo for the whole family, even my late maternal grandpa. None of the adults mind and it is cheaper to buy a big pump bottle of baby shampoo for the family. My aunt would wash out hair over the sink when we were kids. Just like in a hair salon. We get red eyes from soapy water and we even tried wearing swimming goggles when washing hair in a shower :lol: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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