Alice Posted August 3, 2017 Share Posted August 3, 2017 I just sent an email reinforcing some boundaries with my Mom. I know that what I sent is truthful and I tried to also make it kind. However, I know it will be read the wrong way and I know it's bound to cause some problems. Now I'm sitting here dreading the fall-out. No real reason to post here, except that I know some people here understand and it's a place to get it off my chest. 14 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Liz CA Posted August 3, 2017 Share Posted August 3, 2017 Don't take the responsibility for her behavior (said in my best professional voice) :). You need not dread the fall-out because she may make the choice to react badly or she could make the choice to take it positively. Either way, it's not your responsibility. Sounds like you were kind and spoke in truth about some things that needed clarifying. Stand by yourself and your right to healthy boundaries! :grouphug: This hug means we are standing with you, not that something terrible has happened. :) 9 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Catwoman Posted August 3, 2017 Share Posted August 3, 2017 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: I'm sorry, Alice. Whenever you get upset about this, remember that you're doing the right thing -- and that you're setting boundaries with your mother for a good reason. If she hadn't behaved in ways that made you feel the need for boundaries, none of this would be happening, so it's not your fault if she gets upset. 5 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kassia Posted August 3, 2017 Share Posted August 3, 2017 :grouphug: :grouphug: Sounds like you are taking care of you while being respectful to your mom. That's the best you can do. I know that feeling of dreading the fall-out even when you've done your best. 5 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fraidycat Posted August 3, 2017 Share Posted August 3, 2017 :grouphug: :grouphug: You are not responsible for another adult's reactions/emotions. You did your best, trying to remain respectful and kind, while also staying true to yourself. Kudos to you. 4 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
displace Posted August 3, 2017 Share Posted August 3, 2017 (Hugs) 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gardenmom5 Posted August 3, 2017 Share Posted August 3, 2017 hugs. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nixpix5 Posted August 3, 2017 Share Posted August 3, 2017 *hugs* I understand. More than you know. Hang in there! 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mommyoffive Posted August 3, 2017 Share Posted August 3, 2017 I understand and it stinks. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ashfern Posted August 3, 2017 Share Posted August 3, 2017 :grouphug: :grouphug: 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mimm Posted August 3, 2017 Share Posted August 3, 2017 :grouphug: Been there. Everything I wrote was read dripping in sarcasm. And was reacted to accordingly. :( 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lllll Posted August 3, 2017 Share Posted August 3, 2017 (edited) nm Edited September 6, 2017 by lllllll 5 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
EMS83 Posted August 4, 2017 Share Posted August 4, 2017 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Alice Posted August 4, 2017 Author Share Posted August 4, 2017 Thanks everyone! 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Alicia64 Posted August 4, 2017 Share Posted August 4, 2017 Hugs. Sadly, I understand. You're not alone. Alley Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Miss Peregrine Posted August 4, 2017 Share Posted August 4, 2017 (edited) I call myself a boundary ninja. It feels like that's all I do some days. ITU. :grouphug: Edited August 4, 2017 by Miss Peregrine Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Seasider Posted August 4, 2017 Share Posted August 4, 2017 Setting boundaries is hard. Sticking to them when there's pushback is even harder. I hope the person you've drawn a line for doesn't push back too hard. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tanaqui Posted August 4, 2017 Share Posted August 4, 2017 Her behavior is her problem. If she wants to "cause problems", that's her fault - not yours. You were right to set boundaries, and you'll be right to enforce them. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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