CalicoKat Posted February 13, 2008 Share Posted February 13, 2008 My oldest dd, just turned 9, has always been impetious (according to my mother that's the word). She's the kid who rather than answer the opthamologist's questions about which viewing option was better or worse decided it was a game and answered each question opposite. The opthamoligst was very professional with her an at no time during the appointment gave her/or me the impression that he was playing with her. She's the kid who asks for help, from me or any other adult, and then proceeds to act completely silly or stupid when help is given. She loves to cook and I gave her a new cookbook for her birthday. And I invited her to make lunch today from a recipe in her cookbook. She was excited, but then she acted like she didn't know what to do -- not so! She acted like she couldn't read. She acted like she didn't know how to find ingrediants in our cupboard. And then when I helped she got silly and shut down--literally she laid down on the floor in front of the stove. She wouldn't answer my questions--are you OK? Am I doing too much? Is this too hard? Do you not want to do this any longer? Do you not want my help? It seems that you are upset. Are you upset? She's the child who will hide directly behind you, and turn to stay directly behind you, in public just when you call her name and start to panic because she's not visible. She convinced everyone that at 8 she still couldn't read--when she reads very well! My former elementary teacher MIL and special ed teacher Dad were both very concerned there for a while. She's the kid who can't find anything despite the directions you give her. And then when you get up to find it (in plain view) she acts offended. "The socks are in the basket next to the washer." I can't find them. They're usually right there. She behaves this way with all the people in her live, at Church or Homeschool Co-op, and in her interactions with our babysitter. I know my dh wants her to do standardized testing this year. But I'm afraid, from experience, that she'll see it as a game and answer everything opposite. Just because she can. I coach her on what her behavior makes the people around her think about her and perhaps about being around her. I tell her that when she's acting aloof, incommunicative, etc. that it makes people very uncomfortable. And that when they ask her questions to find out what's wrong they're truly interested in helping make things better--it's not a game--and the best thing she can do is it respond! Does your 9 yo act this way? Is there something you've shared with your little person that has helped them to understand that acting in these ways isn't good? She'd rather act contrary regardless of how her behaviour impacts her. thanks for your thoughts Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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