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If it rains cats and dogs suddenly outside a shop, and you've got an umbrellla and about to go when you see a man standing in the doorway and looking outside,

will you kindly ask him if he need help and share your umbrella with him or think it's none of your business and just go away?

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Probably not.  You don't see many umbrellas around here. (It isn't a high-walkability area.)  People generally wait out a downpour and brave anything less than that between a door and their car.  If I'm actually opening up my umbrella outside of a store, it's probably because I'm in a genuine hurry.

 

I usually forget mine at home or in the car, and mostly use it when walking the dog, because you can't sprint with a 7" chihuahua mix!

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Completely honestly, it's as likely I'd pass him by as just give him my umbrella...or whatever in between.  I have no idea what would make the difference.

I've noticed that most people around here (including myself) tend to decline offers of help, anyway, though.

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I would. I mean I'd probably make sure he saw my wedding ring or made sure my body language promoted "not trying to pick you up." It would also depend on the man, like I'd be more likely to share with someone elderly . Of course I'd probably have three kids with me so it would be irrelevant!

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I haven't carried an umbrella since I moved to Oregon.  No one there used one.  Here in PA people use them but since we've lived here 10 years now and haven't bothered to buy one, I guess I never will. :-)

 

But I probably would not offer to share my umbrella with anyone who was not elderly and/or frail.  I wouldn't accept an offer to share an umbrella.  Getting wet isn't a big deal to me. (Though I don't like what it does to my hair.)

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If it suddenly starts raining and I actually have an umbrella with me, then it must be an alternate universe in which I am endowed with powers not of this world. I would use my powers conjure an umbrella for the stranger and a hot chocolate for us both and maybe some rain boots just to be safe.

 

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I've had this happen where I live. I'm walking out to my car from shopping, and it starts pouring. Man walking into the store stops, turns around, and uses his umbrella to walk me out to my car. This isn't creepy here, just normal courteous behavior in east Texas.  Unless I got a super weird vibe, I'd share my umbrella too.

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Huh?? Why wouldn't I?? I actually have offered to share an umbrella with a stranger. Am I missing something?

 

Didn't you know that middle-aged men are all secret rapists just waiting to pounce on you and drag you off into the woods or kidnap your children? :001_rolleyes:

 

I would certainly offer to share my umbrella, but I almost never have one with me.

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If I still had my large umbrella, I might offer.  But I am often without an umbrella because I don't like carrying around umbrellas just in case and don't usually mind rain.  The umbrellas I am using now are small, I am fumbling around with the umbrella and my purse and any packages, bags, etc. plus I am not walking like a regular person since I am trying to be very careful and not break my leg and have arthritis in my feet which gets worse with wet weather, so I wouldn't now.

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I'm another who thinks umbrellas are usually more trouble than they are worth.  Exception might be if I was all dressed up for some reason.  Around here I'd probably have to chose which of the 5 other people without umbrellas I should offer it to since it seems a lot of people feel the way I do.   :001_rolleyes:

 

I'd probably offer first to a mom with a baby or toddler, then maybe to an older woman or man.   

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I'm trying to imagine a scenario where this would make sense.  The person would have to be headed to the same place.  How would one know that? 

 

This is what I was thinking. I don't have any concerns about sharing an umbrella with a stranger, but unless you're headed to the same spot, that just sets you both up for some awkwardness when you have to part ways. If I was heading out onto a pedestrian street or a parking lot, I probably wouldn't offer because odds are we wouldn't both be going the same way for the same length of time. If we were definitely headed to the same place--say, from a parking garage to the only office building door or something--then sure, I'd gladly offer. (This is, of course, assuming I even notice that someone is there, looking wistfully into the rain. I tend to be lost in my own head and oblivious to stuff like that.)

 

Like others, though, I never carry an umbrella. It doesn't rain enough here generally to make it worth the effort. And we don't suffer from aggressive magpie attacks :lol: We just pull our jackets over our heads and run!

 

If it suddenly starts raining and I actually have an umbrella with me, then it must be an alternate universe in which I am endowed with powers not of this world. I would use my powers conjure an umbrella for the stranger and a hot chocolate for us both and maybe some rain boots just to be safe.

 

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Honestly, unless there were circumstances (an older person, a person clearly holding something fragile, a person with a medical issue) then I don't think it would occur to me.

 

But also, I live in a very high density, high walkability area. Every time I leave anywhere with an umbrella when it's raining, I could presumably have my pick of dozens of umbrella sharers.

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Of course I would. It is really important to me to be courteous and kind to others. I try to make a conscious effort to be extra polite and helpful, especially when I see a need, to everyone. Lots of people here in Indiana have also been really helpful to me as a mother of five kids. And I think it is a great example for my kids as well.

 

Although, in this situation, I don't ever carry an umbrella even though it pours cats and dogs here because I am already trying to herd my little band of children and usually am carrying a carseat or baby and holding a toddlers hand while trying to make sure the three boys don't get squished while following me (and answering a thousand questions at the same time). :) But, if I had one, or was by myself I would totally offer to share.

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Not a man. My dh considers using an umbrella not manly. He was in the Marines and you cannot use an umbrella in uniform, so he has it in his mind to never use one. I'd offer it to an elderly woman or someone with a small child. But I never have one because I always 3 kids in tow so it us hard to carry one. On a side note, one time when my second was a new baby, I was grocery shopping amd as I was checking out it started to come a downpour. The checkout guy got a giant umbrella that goes on a picnic table and held it over me and my babies and helped us out to the car

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I probably would if I were not going too far, and I was in a decent area of town.  

 

I would keep my hand on the umbrella though--the last guy I let use mine (I had two, we were at a protest I think) BROKE it by not using it as he was told.  Argh.  

 

(My dh gives me expensive stuff for Christmas, so this is a sooper dooper umbrella that does tricks when you push a button.  But you don't shove one end into the other to close it...that breaks it.  Just in case how you were wondering how someone could break an umbrella.  The manufacturer replaced it free, though.)

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I think I'd be pretty uncomfortable to share an umbrella with a total stranger.

I'm boggled here. "Hey, I have an umbrella, do you need to get to your car?" Walk, walk, walk, dude gets in car, "thanks", "no problem", walk away. Why would that be uncomfortable? There is no touching or anything.

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If they needed to get something and come right back, sure. But if they were walking off to their car I wouldn't want to offer to escort them. Maybe they could drive past me and hand it back to me? If it was really bad I might offer in a case where they could just pass it back. But I don't think I'd offer where I have to walk with them. Elderly man more likely, yes. But as someone else said, middle age man... probably not.

 

 

They probably wouldn't want to use mine. Clear bubble umbrella with neon green accents. Dh doesn't like to use it but he did use it once and we almost moved without me getting it back. I had to make a special trip to his old job to get it back. Now I don't even trust dh with my umbrellas. Might trust a stranger more :laugh:

 

 

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All my coats/jackets have hoods for a reason. I won't buy a jacket or coat that doesn't have a hood. 20 something years ago it took me forever to replace a nice women's raincoat because they don't make them with hoods. I finally found a trench style coat with a hood.

 

So I don't carry umbrellas.

 

If it's suddenly storming there's probably lightning. I'm not going to hold up a metal rod in lightning.

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I'm boggled here. "Hey, I have an umbrella, do you need to get to your car?" Walk, walk, walk, dude gets in car, "thanks", "no problem", walk away. Why would that be uncomfortable? There is no touching or anything.

 

How big are your umbrellas?  I can barely share an umbrella with my kids without bumping shoulders.

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Yes, of course I would.

 

Forever ingrained in my mind was the time I took two small children into a grocery store -- when we went in, it wasn't raining; by the time we came out, it was a torrential downpour. A quite elderly man insisted me and the children come with him under his umbrella and he walked us to our car. 

 

Small kindnesses make big impressions. 

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Just some random person with no extinuating circumstances? Heck no. Absolutely not. Emphatically no.

 

It's just rain, not sky lava.

 

It just seems like a nice thing to do.  No, getting wet is not the end of the world, but isn't it nice to be helpful?

 

I mostly wear coats with a hood, but if I do carry an umbrella it's a massive, sturdy, golf-style brolly.  I 'rescue' people all the time.

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It just seems like a nice thing to do. No, getting wet is not the end of the world, but isn't it nice to be helpful?

 

I mostly wear coats with a hood, but if I do carry an umbrella it's a massive, sturdy, golf-style brolly. I 'rescue' people all the time.

It doesn't strike me as something anyone needs help with. I guess if we were all on our way to a ball.

 

It's hot outside, you get warm. It rains outside, you get wet. NBD

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It doesn't strike me as something anyone needs help with. I guess if we were all on our way to a ball.

 

It's hot outside, you get warm. It rains outside, you get wet. NBD

 

It sounds as if you would politely refuse my offer.  But many people do prefer not to get wet.  So I offer the option and people are often grateful.

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It sounds as if you would politely refuse my offer. But many people do prefer not to get wet. So I offer the option and people are often grateful.

I would belligerently decline 😄

 

(Kidding, of course)

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