Only me Posted June 10, 2017 Share Posted June 10, 2017 My daughter is moving out next week and is moving in with her boyfriend 1200 miles away. I've posted about the situation before. It's been a tough year with our relationship but it's gotten better. I won't get into details but we weren't happy with the situation at first. I have always believed that you didn't move in with someone until you are married. She is almost 25 so it's her decision and I've come to accept it. I don't condone it but she seems very happy so I'm happy for her. I would like to buy them something for their new apartment and will be sending it there in a week or two. I have no idea what to get. He is a bit older and has been living on his own awhile so he seems to have most of the basics. Actually he was living with friends so I'm not sure how much stuff was his. His parents bought them a living room set and a few more things so between that and stuff he already has they say they don't need anything. We have only met him once so I know very little about his tastes. I also figure we will hold off on a bigger gift until they get married (he is saving for a ring) but I definitely want to give them something. I am unable to go out shopping since I recently had major back surgery and I'm recovering. I will have to buy it online. i find this difficult since I can't really browse stores looking for ideas. I would appreciate ideas. I'm hoping to spend 50-100 but it can be on more than one thing. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gardenmom5 Posted June 10, 2017 Share Posted June 10, 2017 amazon - and they deliver. pots, pans, (just one decent quality one in a useful size.) bake ware, cooling racks knives, cutting board casseroles/serve ware I'd already purchased dd's christmas present the christmas she got engaged . . but it was a queen duvet set (and dsil had a queen bed. he'd been living on his own. she was a starving student who owned little.). and to think she told me she'd only need a twin . . . . and gift cards may be boring - but they may realize there are things they'd find useful of which they're not yet aware. dd did a lot of "we need this" . . but dsil - didn't cook. it's quite sad how much he "didn't cook". 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Anne in CA Posted June 10, 2017 Share Posted June 10, 2017 A really high quality set of stemware, even if they don't drink wine it is so nice to have something really good to toast with even if you are using Martineli's. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
happi duck Posted June 10, 2017 Share Posted June 10, 2017 Cute disposable plates etc and gift cards for takeout. Flowers delivered. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Loesje22000 Posted June 10, 2017 Share Posted June 10, 2017 New / fresh bath or kitchen towels? It is one of the things I am frugal on. I still use our towels from when we were students :blush: 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
displace Posted June 10, 2017 Share Posted June 10, 2017 (edited) If they say they have everything I'd take them at their word and get something decorative: a framed picture or saying, home related. Maybe a fun gift like a fondue set? Edited June 10, 2017 by displace 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lmrich Posted June 10, 2017 Share Posted June 10, 2017 A welcome mat 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted June 10, 2017 Share Posted June 10, 2017 ikea gift card Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ktgrok Posted June 10, 2017 Share Posted June 10, 2017 (edited) Do they use Amazon a lot? I think an Amazon Echo or Dot would fall into that price range, and be something they probably don't have. I LOVE mine, if only for the ability to tell it to put stuff on my shopping list. More a fun thing than practical. Otherwise a gift card to a grocery store local to them? Moving inevitably means restocking the fridge and pantry a bit in my experience. If this was the daughter going to Florida, Publix is our store of choice here :) If nothing else, Publix subs are the best. A friend's mom always gives the same thing, it's a "person" made out of a mop, bucket, and a bunch of cleaning supplies. You couldn't ship it that way, but could send (via amazon) a package of cleaning supplies, although he may already have that stuff. Edited June 10, 2017 by ktgrok 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
marbel Posted June 10, 2017 Share Posted June 10, 2017 What about a picnic basket like this one on Amazon? Or, more elegant, this outfitted picnic tote from Crate and Barrel? 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted June 10, 2017 Share Posted June 10, 2017 Good kitchen knife Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HollyDay Posted June 10, 2017 Share Posted June 10, 2017 (edited) amazon gift card....they can pick out what they want or need. You could send them a big amazon pantry type box with necessities such as pantry supplies. Everyone needs flour, sugar, salt, napkins, paper towels, etc. Not very original or even fancy, but if they are on a limited budget, it should be appreciated. IF you know what they need or want, such as everyday glassware, everyday china, placemats, bedding, throw blankets, towels, etc, that would be fancier. Just recently, one of dd's friends moving into their own apartment, wanted a tea kettle and ground coffee and various teas. That was a fun box to put together. Edited June 10, 2017 by HollyDay 4 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Myra Posted June 10, 2017 Share Posted June 10, 2017 I usually give a cook book, some cute oven mitts & hand towels, PLUS a fire extinguisher! 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
catz Posted June 10, 2017 Share Posted June 10, 2017 (edited) When I really have no clue I go to consumables and maybe with some fun kithen gadgets. Like a gourmet food basket. When they marry, they can register for stuff that is their style that they don't really have. It sounds like they are serious! I hope it goes well for them! :) Edited June 10, 2017 by WoolySocks 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
teachermom2834 Posted June 10, 2017 Share Posted June 10, 2017 I have been thinking lately about this. I have been married 21 years and I have very little left from shower/ wedding gifts. Three things have endured: a large plastic cutting board I use constantly, a card table, and a couple of beach towels. They certainly didn't mean much to me at the time but now I think about my wedding every time I use them. A good can opener is the kind of thing you don't always want to buy yourself but is so nice to have. 5 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KungFuPanda Posted June 10, 2017 Share Posted June 10, 2017 I'd send a token gift, like a candle, and an amazon gift card so she can get what she needs. She'll inevitably stumble upon either not having something she deems necessary, like a waffle iron, or he'll own something she wants to replace like cheap knives or ratty towels. 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
J-rap Posted June 10, 2017 Share Posted June 10, 2017 I like the IKEA gift card idea that someone suggested. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
zoobie Posted June 10, 2017 Share Posted June 10, 2017 Everyone needs a cast iron skillet. :) 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Baseball mom Posted June 10, 2017 Share Posted June 10, 2017 I'd send a token gift, like a candle, and an amazon gift card so she can get what she needs. She'll inevitably stumble upon either not having something she deems necessary, like a waffle iron, or he'll own something she wants to replace like cheap knives or ratty towels. This 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bettyandbob Posted June 10, 2017 Share Posted June 10, 2017 Kitchen gadget or small appliance you know she uses, along with favorite recipes or cookbooks. Grater Zester garlic press Good knives + cutting board Cake pans Frosting tips and bags Rice cooker Pressure cooker Counter top grill Tailor it to how you know she cooks and eats and get a matching cookbook. If she doesn't cook at all, I'd go with towels or cleaning supplies. Then after she's been there a few months, at the next gift giving occasion I'd fish around to figure if they've started cooking and find ways to build up kitchen stuff. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
aggieamy Posted June 10, 2017 Share Posted June 10, 2017 Kitchenaid mixer? It will last forever and everyone needs one. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gardenmom5 Posted June 10, 2017 Share Posted June 10, 2017 Kitchenaid mixer? It will last forever and everyone needs one. well, a KA hand mixer would fit in her budget. and I got one of those too. it's nice you can buy replacement beaters/accessories for the handmixer too. get the 9spd. the low speed is actually . . . low. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kroe1 Posted June 10, 2017 Share Posted June 10, 2017 A year's supply of birth control? I know I am tacky, but, that stuff is expensive. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
school17777 Posted June 11, 2017 Share Posted June 11, 2017 What about asking your dd if there is something that she needs that you can gift her in that price range? That way she gets exactly what she needs and not something that may end up as clutter. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
brett_ashley Posted June 11, 2017 Share Posted June 11, 2017 A year's supply of birth control? I know I am tacky, but, that stuff is expensive. Do you even Obamacare, bro??? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Only me Posted June 11, 2017 Author Share Posted June 11, 2017 amazon gift card....they can pick out what they want or need. You could send them a big amazon pantry type box with necessities such as pantry supplies. Everyone needs flour, sugar, salt, napkins, paper towels, etc. Not very original or even fancy, but if they are on a limited budget, it should be appreciated. IF you know what they need or want, such as everyday glassware, everyday china, placemats, bedding, throw blankets, towels, etc, that would be fancier. Just recently, one of dd's friends moving into their own apartment, wanted a tea kettle and ground coffee and various teas. That was a fun box to put together. I might do the Amazon box of pantry items and then send something a else a little fancier. I found a really nice pitcher at Crate and Barrel. I think anyone would like it and find it useful for every day or for company. They also both have birthdays coming up in July so I can send more then too. I completely forgot I started saving up gift cards awhile back for Target etc so I can do that too I wish I knew her boyfriend better. I would hope he wouldn't somehow take it wrong me getting the necessities for the pantry. I don't want him to think I don't think they can manage it by themselves. My daughter doesn't cook but he does somewhat. On the other hand if his parents are buying them furniture then I think I could do this. I just know spices etc are expensive and I would have loved that when I was first married. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ailaena Posted June 11, 2017 Share Posted June 11, 2017 A year's supply of birth control? I know I am tacky, but, that stuff is expensive. I would call you practical, not necessarily tacky :p But there are also plenty of generic brands that fall in the $4 range at target, or wherever. Anyways, when I met bf he was an adult who had been living on his own for something like 15 years and he only had two towels. And one was ratty af. And it's Florida, right? I'm seconding towels or beach towels for them, and sending you hugs :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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