New venting thread

[Beaniemom]

I couldn't find the other thread and I need to vent! I just read an e-mail from my girl's Girl Scout leader. The troop is supposed to go camping this weekend. It's a young troop so half the girls are young enough that parents are required to go. The e-mail said there was room for the girls and the 3 adult leaders in the cabins that were rented but all the other parent's had to figure out their own accomadations. I am not a tent camping person. I agreed to go because dd7 was so excited and has been asking for the past 2 years when she would get to go camping with Girl Scouts. DD10 is staying home to go to a party. To make it even more annoying I asked the leader if there was still room for the 2 of us becuase we found out the day after the deadline that my husband would be home this weekend so we could go. She could have said "sorry it's full" and we would have done something else but she said "sure there's room". I am so glad we are no longer doing Girl Scouts next year. 

[Rebel Yell]

So wait a minute here... You're required to go, but won't be staying with your child? What's the point? How can you supervise or chaperone if you aren't onsite?

[gaillardia]

...and thus we see why she started a venting thread. 

Thank you, I was going to start my own but will pile on here.

 

Do I have to wash my sheets every day if I have chiggers? I've never had them before EVER which is really weird considering every place I've gone in warmer weather and lying on the grass and playing in leaves and running through fields. Little buggers. 

Right now I'm okay and they aren't itching much. It reminds me of chicken pox or poison ivy and I know it is neither.

 

I'm mad about work too, which I am hating right now. I can't talk about it because it would no longer be anonymous. How fast can I take notes? Not as fast as you talk. Where is my tutorial? Sarcasm. Crappy attitude. Not mine, but I think I know my place now. UGH! And don't forget any of this, but if you do, ask. Okay, does that include when we are loaded to the hilt with customers and nobody has time to show me the way? I can't be much more specific.

I am mad when I come home from work and I gripe and complain. I'm not used to be treated like I'm dumb. Passive aggression?

 

[Word Nerd]

Chiggers are the worst! I got zillions of bites (at least it felt that way) at a camp when I was in high school because they had everyone sit in the grass while waiting for group photos. To this day I don't remember much at all about that camp except being absolutely miserable.

 

I don't get why parent chaperones are needed when you can't stay with the girls anyway.

Edited June 7, 2017 by Word Nerd

[itsheresomewhere]

(insert every bad word here) ground hog. You couldn't eat a few plants but no you had to destroy all 24. And you are my giant sunflowers. Don't make me go Bill Murray on you.

[bookbard]

I hate it when people say "sure that's fine" when it isn't! So frustrating.

 

I have no idea what chiggers are. They sound awful.

 

My vent - freaking hopeless certain people I host on a Wed. No other group causes me the stress of these bunch. Let's face it, it's probably two families who are hopeless at controlling their kids while everyone else is lovely. If you cannot stop your children spreading mess all over the place, don't bring them. Or at least offer to clean up afterwards - at least apologise!!! 

[itsheresomewhere]

 

I am trying to start something for a specific age range and my advertisement/ email says that with allowed ages. For the low of Pete people don't email me and tell me it is unfair that little johnny who is 4 can't join. And to the lady who emailed me asking if I planned to have female appropriate activities at it, It is a gender neutral group with specific gender neutral activities. What more do you want?

[gaillardia]

I am trying to start something for a specific age range and my advertisement/ email says that with allowed ages. For the low of Pete people don't email me and tell me it is unfair that little johnny who is 4 can't join. And to the lady who emailed me asking if I planned to have female appropriate activities at it, It is a gender neutral group with specific gender neutral activities. What more do you want?

I like the way you worded this part, "For the low of Pete people don't email me..." I know you mean for the love of Pete, people, don't email me."

 

For those who don't know about chiggers:

They are tiny red spider-like mites. I used to see them all the time on our sidewalk and front porch concrete and never had a problem! 

 

http://www.webmd.com/skin-problems-and-treatments/prevent-treat-chigger-bites#1

[creekland]

I remain stymied with my in-laws Alzheimer's situation.  I can't stand problems when I see a way to fix things (or help things) and they don't get done.  FIL is 89 and caring for MIL who has severe Alzheimers at this point.  She can't be left alone.  She remembers next to nothing.  We've told FIL he needs to get steady help because neither us nor BIL can be there full time (we both live 4 and 2 hours away respectively) and he doesn't want to put her in a home.  He resists.  So... last visit we find out she'd been wandering again at night.  Police were called.  And returned her to him.  Then he'd left her in a car while he went to a dr visit.  She got out and wandered.  A nurse found her - and returned her to him.  He's fallen and severely injured his knee - can't move it in certain directions, very painful, needs a walker, but won't get it looked at because he's afraid doing so will mess up a heart stent procedure he needs this Friday.  So now he's not really mobile either.   :banghead:  :banghead:  :banghead:

 

They need help.  I know that.  SIL knows that.  Hubby knows that.  BIL won't engage in a conversation about it.  FIL resists (except when family can come).  Money is not an issue.  Silly me would have thought Powers That Be in society would have helped by insisting on it considering what's gone on, but no, no they don't.  (sigh)

 

And we won't even get into what her "life" is like at home with just FIL.  :glare:

 

I hate being powerless to do anything (except when we are there, then I can do limited amounts - like change the TV to old time shows instead of news that continually focuses on terrorism).

[Pink and Green Mom]

I had the perfect vent yesterday but couldn't find the thread.  And now I cannot even remember what the vent was.  Damn you, age 46.

[Teacher Mom]

I have a dog. You invite yourself to my home. I vacuumed and cleaned  in the two hours notice that you gave me. I put my dog in her kennel. I then listen to you go on and on about the ONE tuff of dog hair you found. Yes, I know you have allergies, but I didn't invite you. Yes, I know you are terrified of dogs, but I didn't invite you. No, under no circumstance will I re-home my beloved dog. If you were not important to my husband, I would have kicked you out SINCE I DIDN'T INVITE YOU!

[MysteryJen]

My vent is to the marginally incompetent and greedy people who flipped our house: we know you didn't know what you were doing, we know you used the cheapest materials possible, we know you laid sod over rocks, weeds, and random construction materials, we know you didn't bother to insulate certain area. We know and have told everyone we know, including multiple realtors.

 

The only bright side is we also know you lost thousands and thousands of dollars on this house deal. So maybe flipping is not for you?

[lllll]

nm

Edited July 11, 2017 by tentwelve

[Annie G]

Creekland, I am living through the same situation you are, except MIL in addition to the advanced demential  has TWO kinds of lung cancer that are no longer treatable. She is in Real Pain and yet FIL and SIL don't want to give her any pain meds because they will probably make her constipated. So they let her sit there in excruciating pain.  And when we last visited, I gave her a pain pill and she had a pain free day. And they got mad at me.

We leave Saturday for another visit- they live 1100 miles away and this is the 6th trip we have made this year. Don't p*&& me off, people, I'm the only respite you get since you won't allow any outside help. 

[Twigs]

:grouphug:  :grouphug:  :grouphug:

[Cecropia]

Spent a bunch of my birthday money on a state-of-the-art squirrel proof bird feeder, my last gasp effort at thwarting them.  All appearances are that the squirrels can't get to the seed despite their best efforts... I've watched them try.  But every morning I am waking up to a completely (COMPLETELY) empty feeder when it was full the night before.  I just can't win :mad:

[creekland]

Creekland, I am living through the same situation you are, except MIL in addition to the advanced demential  has TWO kinds of lung cancer that are no longer treatable. She is in Real Pain and yet FIL and SIL don't want to give her any pain meds because they will probably make her constipated. So they let her sit there in excruciating pain.  And when we last visited, I gave her a pain pill and she had a pain free day. And they got mad at me.

We leave Saturday for another visit- they live 1100 miles away and this is the 6th trip we have made this year. Don't p*&& me off, people, I'm the only respite you get since you won't allow any outside help. 

 

I honestly don't understand some people and it literally drives me bonkers to have to sit there and watch it all going on.  Yes, I get that they won't remember anything, but can't they at least have as nice a life as possible in the present?  What's not obvious about that?   :grouphug:

 

I know I'm more bothered about it today (when we aren't even there - just returned late Monday) because my own health issues have me fuming here at home today too.  (sigh)  It's the same deal with knowing something to do (duh, use tests to check into them!), but being unable to do it (we minions have no power over that, so if doctors say no "it's nothing" then we're stuck living with "nothing" even if it's painful, frustrating, and mentally/physically tough to take on some days).

 

It's a good thing we don't have a dog... (proverbial "kick the dog" day)  I am trying to stay sane for the humans around.  The cat opted to go out this morning.  Smart cat.

[jen3kids]

Creekland, I am living through the same situation you are, except MIL in addition to the advanced demential  has TWO kinds of lung cancer that are no longer treatable. She is in Real Pain and yet FIL and SIL don't want to give her any pain meds because they will probably make her constipated. So they let her sit there in excruciating pain.  And when we last visited, I gave her a pain pill and she had a pain free day. And they got mad at me.

We leave Saturday for another visit- they live 1100 miles away and this is the 6th trip we have made this year. Don't p*&& me off, people, I'm the only respite you get since you won't allow any outside help. 

 

My mil refused to take her painkillers because they made her constipated.... Well, you see that huge bottle of prune juice in the fridge?  The big bag of prunes in the cupboard? The bottle of Miralax on the counter?  Yes, all those things you insisted I buy for you because you were constipated.  The ones that went unopened for an entire week of your visit....   

 

 

Sorry, no sympathy from me.  I guess I'm mean that way :)

 

 

My own vent from today: people who drive slowly in the left lane - move over!!!!!  I don't care that you are going the speed limit.  

[Annie G]

I honestly don't understand some people and it literally drives me bonkers to have to sit there and watch it all going on.  Yes, I get that they won't remember anything, but can't they at least have as nice a life as possible in the present?  What's not obvious about that?   :grouphug:

 

 

Our last trip was three weeks ago when SIL called and said MIL was in so much pain they couldn't get her out of bed. They CUT HER PAJAMAS OFF to change her because she was wet. We told them to call 911 and have her checked out. They refused. We drove 1100 miles because SIL said she was unable to bring herself to take her mom to the doc. So we showed up and they pitched a fit because we wanted to take her to the ER because in addition to the pain she had a raging uti and constipation that was completely out of control- on the verge of causing her real injury.   Two days later (and many fights) we got her to a doctor.  Got her treatment, drugs prescribed, etc. So we came back home because dh has a job, ya know...only to find out they aren't giving her the pain pills and aren't having the uti properly checked out. 

 

Why can't they see that treating her symptoms will make her feel better and is the humane thing to do? What is wrong with these people????    

 

I told my brother in law that they are neglecting MIL and that SIL is being selfish to put her fear above MIL's needs. And she's not speaking to me because of it.  Dearie, that's the best gift you can give me. g

[creekland]

Why can't they see that treating her symptoms will make her feel better and is the humane thing to do? What is wrong with these people????    

 

I'm trying to figure out reasons too.  Are they too afraid of the unknown?  (Not wanting to step out and get help?)  Or do they simply not want to spend the money even though it's not an issue finance-wise?  (It's "good enough.")

 

I do so much better understanding things with reasons that make sense.  In this case, none of the reasons I can come up with make sense.  (sigh)

 

It's a big part of the reason why I'm not going to get old if not able to "live" making my own decisions, etc.  I've seen how too many folks treat the old - even relatives they love.  I think it's too hard on them and they get hardened - then they can't even see what they are doing.

[regentrude]

Do I have to wash my sheets every day if I have chiggers? I've never had them before EVER which is really weird considering every place I've gone in warmer weather and lying on the grass and playing in leaves and running through fields. Little buggers. 

Right now I'm okay and they aren't itching much. It reminds me of chicken pox or poison ivy and I know it is neither.

 

No, you don't have to wash your sheets after chigger bites. Just wash yourself when you come in from outside to get rid of any chiggers that hitched a ride. They don't infest your house or bedding, and they don't dig into your skin and live there, as some people mistakenly believe.

I am surprised you already have chiggers where you live; here in MO, chiggers don't make their appearance until late summer. Are you sure thats what it is?

Edited June 7, 2017 by regentrude

[Annie G]

I'm trying to figure out reasons too.  Are they too afraid of the unknown?  (Not wanting to step out and get help?)  Or do they simply not want to spend the money even though it's not an issue finance-wise?  (It's "good enough.")

 

I do so much better understanding things with reasons that make sense.  In this case, none of the reasons I can come up with make sense.  (sigh)

 

It's a big part of the reason why I'm not going to get old if not able to "live" making my own decisions, etc.  I've seen how too many folks treat the old - even relatives they love.  I think it's too hard on them and they get hardened - then they can't even see what they are doing.

 

In our case it's both a fear of the unknown and fear of outsiders. SIL is afraid to officially hear bad news so she avoids things. Like we had an appointment set up w a specialist to diagnose MIL's dementia and SIL cancelled it and took her to her primary doc who declared that MIL is just a little forgetful. (I don't actually believe that's what the doc said, but that's the story). Last week MIL needed a PET scan to see what's going on with the cancer. Protocol before that is low carb for 24 hours. SIL didn't bother to tell FIL that and neglected to tell him about the appointment until the morning of. That's her way to either not get good results or hope that MIL can't get going fast enough to make the appointment. And she changed her oncologist from one less than a mile from her house to one 90 minutes away. Fear. And selfishness. 

 

They are all afraid of outsiders, and seem to think everyone is either out to rob them or will kill MIL because they don't know what they're doing. So not only no outside help or hospice, they rarely even allow a plumber or someone to come in. They recently had to because the plumbing was completely clogged...and they were all shocked that it was a good experience. 

 

I understand that it's hard. But it's the MOST hard on MIL. Because ya know, she's the one who is dying.  

[Annie G]

Spent a bunch of my birthday money on a state-of-the-art squirrel proof bird feeder, my last gasp effort at thwarting them.  All appearances are that the squirrels can't get to the seed despite their best efforts... I've watched them try.  But every morning I am waking up to a completely (COMPLETELY) empty feeder when it was full the night before.  I just can't win :mad:

 

My dad is going through this and it is driving him crazy.  He's 85 and he's obsessed with trying to figure out where the seed is going and how during the day the squirrels can't get it but somehow at night it's being emptied.  If you figure it out, please post- I would love to be able to solve this for Dad so he can move on to another obsession. g

[Annie G]

My mil refused to take her painkillers because they made her constipated.... Well, you see that huge bottle of prune juice in the fridge?  The big bag of prunes in the cupboard? The bottle of Miralax on the counter?  Yes, all those things you insisted I buy for you because you were constipated.  The ones that went unopened for an entire week of your visit....   

 

 

Sorry, no sympathy from me.  I guess I'm mean that way :)

 

 

My own vent from today: people who drive slowly in the left lane - move over!!!!!  I don't care that you are going the speed limit.  

 

Last month I picked up son in law from O'Hare in Chicago and he drove us to my house...90 minutes away.  He stayed in the left lane the ENTIRE time. It drove me crazy. 

 

FIL and SIL are so incompetent managing MIL's constipation.  Like you, we bought the prune juice and miralax and the doc orders said how much of each EVERY DAY so we put those orders on the fridge and dh asks them every single day if they have given it to MIL. They wait until it's at critical stage and then give her half a dose of miralax.  And since it's so much work to get her to the bathroom, they also restrict fluids.  SIL is convinced that oatmeal caused mil to be constipated. So she gives her store bought cookies for breakfast.  Poor MIL cannot care for herself at all and is at their mercy.   I'm 100% convinced my 8 year old granddaughter could provide better care. 

[Arctic Bunny]

Reading all this has created my vent: Why do people treat animals better than their family members? All of that is so sad, you guys. I'm sorry, how horrible to see it and not be able to change it.

[creekland]

In our case it's both a fear of the unknown and fear of outsiders. SIL is afraid to officially hear bad news so she avoids things. Like we had an appointment set up w a specialist to diagnose MIL's dementia and SIL cancelled it and took her to her primary doc who declared that MIL is just a little forgetful. (I don't actually believe that's what the doc said, but that's the story). Last week MIL needed a PET scan to see what's going on with the cancer. Protocol before that is low carb for 24 hours. SIL didn't bother to tell FIL that and neglected to tell him about the appointment until the morning of. That's her way to either not get good results or hope that MIL can't get going fast enough to make the appointment. And she changed her oncologist from one less than a mile from her house to one 90 minutes away. Fear. And selfishness. 

 

They are all afraid of outsiders, and seem to think everyone is either out to rob them or will kill MIL because they don't know what they're doing. So not only no outside help or hospice, they rarely even allow a plumber or someone to come in. They recently had to because the plumbing was completely clogged...and they were all shocked that it was a good experience. 

 

I understand that it's hard. But it's the MOST hard on MIL. Because ya know, she's the one who is dying.  

 

Yikes!  It sounds like the "sane" folks in your situation - aren't.  I guess at that point there is no reasoning going on at all - not outside of the conspiracy theory type anyway.

 

I really feel for your MIL.

[Terabith]

I would be tempted to call Adult Protective Services.

[Katy]

...and thus we see why she started a venting thread. 

Thank you, I was going to start my own but will pile on here.

 

Do I have to wash my sheets every day if I have chiggers? I've never had them before EVER which is really weird considering every place I've gone in warmer weather and lying on the grass and playing in leaves and running through fields. Little buggers. 

Right now I'm okay and they aren't itching much. It reminds me of chicken pox or poison ivy and I know it is neither.

 

I'm mad about work too, which I am hating right now. I can't talk about it because it would no longer be anonymous. How fast can I take notes? Not as fast as you talk. Where is my tutorial? Sarcasm. Crappy attitude. Not mine, but I think I know my place now. UGH! And don't forget any of this, but if you do, ask. Okay, does that include when we are loaded to the hilt with customers and nobody has time to show me the way? I can't be much more specific.

I am mad when I come home from work and I gripe and complain. I'm not used to be treated like I'm dumb. Passive aggression?

 

I second not having to wash your sheets everyday.  Also, watch the bites closely - there's a strong possibility at this time of year you got dear tick larva (and lyme disease), not chiggers.

 

No, you don't have to wash your sheets after chigger bites. Just wash yourself when you come in from outside to get rid of any chiggers that hitched a ride. They don't infest your house or bedding, and they don't dig into your skin and live there, as some people mistakenly believe.

I am surprised you already have chiggers where you live; here in MO, chiggers don't make their appearance until late summer. Are you sure thats what it is?

[Word Nerd]

The A/C is set so low I have to go outside to warm up even though I've been wearing a jacket all day. I would play a teeny-tiny violin for myself but I can't feel my fingers.

[Annie G]

I would be tempted to call Adult Protective Services.

 

I understand this thought- but it's a bit more complicated than it sounds. She is never left alone, they are doing the best they can do...it's just their own fears and insecurities are holding them back.  They are slowly making progress accepting her condition, but it's baby steps. In the meantime we go once a month for 7-10 days and do the best we can while we are there. 

 

Last time they admitted they are overwhelmed and started to accept the idea that they will need help. They do a lot of things right, but of course the things that stand out are the things they are not handling well.  Hopefully next week's visit will bring them closer to accepting reality. 

[Annie G]

The A/C is set so low I have to go outside to warm up even though I've been wearing a jacket all day. I would play a teeny-tiny violin for myself but I can't feel my fingers.

 

I admit that I laughed.  But maybe your eyes are frozen and you won't be able to read this so you won't know I got a much needed chuckle. 

 

I hate being cold in winter but being cold in summer is just cruel. 

[Miss Tick]

Spent a bunch of my birthday money on a state-of-the-art squirrel proof bird feeder, my last gasp effort at thwarting them. All appearances are that the squirrels can't get to the seed despite their best efforts... I've watched them try. But every morning I am waking up to a completely (COMPLETELY) empty feeder when it was full the night before. I just can't win :mad:

We've had raccoons do this. Usually I eventually find big, burly, not scared of me in the least raccoons casually hanging out at my unintentional seed buffet. <<Side eye>>

[school17777]

When you buy a package of hearts of romaine lettuce that is supposed to be tripled washed and ready to eat and it is actually a lot of the big dark leaves that have sand of them and not a lot of hearts actually in the package.

[itsheresomewhere]

My dad is going through this and it is driving him crazy. He's 85 and he's obsessed with trying to figure out where the seed is going and how during the day the squirrels can't get it but somehow at night it's being emptied. If you figure it out, please post- I would love to be able to solve this for Dad so he can move on to another obsession. g

An old tray used in cafeterias. Drill a hole in the middle and turn it upside down. Put it about a foot above the feeder at an angle.

[Tap]

My dad is going through this and it is driving him crazy.  He's 85 and he's obsessed with trying to figure out where the seed is going and how during the day the squirrels can't get it but somehow at night it's being emptied.  If you figure it out, please post- I would love to be able to solve this for Dad so he can move on to another obsession. g

 

 

Spent a bunch of my birthday money on a state-of-the-art squirrel proof bird feeder, my last gasp effort at thwarting them.  All appearances are that the squirrels can't get to the seed despite their best efforts... I've watched them try.  But every morning I am waking up to a completely (COMPLETELY) empty feeder when it was full the night before.  I just can't win :mad:

 

Mice, rats or opossums are possibilities.

[Penguin]

I ran into someone at a party whom I barely know and had not seen in a long time...eleven years, apparently. Because the last time she saw me, I was going through breast cancer treatment. 

 

And what does she ask me at the party? Not, how are you or how is the family but So, are you healthy?

 

Let's see...if I am going through a cancer recurrence, I just might not want to talk about it at this party. And if I have been cancer-free for the last eleven years, I might not have appreciated thinking about the breast cancer at this party.

 

 

[City Mouse]

My DH left yesterday for a week long trip- really a vacation to visit some friends without the rest of the family (that part is okay in our family). he left about noon yesterday to drive to the Denver airport( 4 1/2 hours).

 

I find out this morning from reading his Facebook post, that he did not leave Denver until this morning. His flight last night got canceled. The airline could get him on the flight tonight, but the would have meant he would miss the baseball game he was planning to attend today, so he paid $200+ (He says, but I can't believe it was that low) to get a last minute flight on a different airline early this morning and he will lose the "miles" that he had used to buy his ticket on the other airline as they will not refund "miles".

 

I had to call him this morning to find all this out. I assume that he did not bother to tell me because I would have insisted that he miss the ball game and wait for the flight that would not cost any more money.

 

He knows that "we" are seriously trying to pay off our very large credit card debts, and I only agreed to this trip because he had the frequent flyer miles to go for like $50.

[gaillardia]

No, you don't have to wash your sheets after chigger bites. Just wash yourself when you come in from outside to get rid of any chiggers that hitched a ride. They don't infest your house or bedding, and they don't dig into your skin and live there, as some people mistakenly believe.

I am surprised you already have chiggers where you live; here in MO, chiggers don't make their appearance until late summer. Are you sure thats what it is?

yes, pretty sure. My daughter has had them too and got them over a month ago while camping out, sitting outside, etc.

 

It's not like poison oak or ivy which spreads mercilessly and itches all the time; and not like chicken pox which spreads all over the body and itches like ya wanna kill somebody. 

 

Where do you think I live? I'm in Texas. http://citybugs.tamu.edu/2014/10/01/late-chigger-season/ this is an older article, but I think I've got all the specs for it. Spring, above 60 degrees (OH YEAH), rainy lately, in the woods and fields (yes, I was dumb) and just so happened to hit a patch of chiggers. I usually wash my clothes in hot water and take a scouring shower after being out in the wild, but I didn't this time!!!

 

I have never had chiggers, kind of crazy considering my travelings in the brush. 

What else would you suggest it is? Everyone I know that has seen our legs says yes, that's chiggers.

[gaillardia]

I second not having to wash your sheets everyday.  Also, watch the bites closely - there's a strong possibility at this time of year you got dear tick larva (and lyme disease), not chiggers.

that sounds horrible. 

[gaillardia]

http://jamanetwork.com/journals/jamadermatology/fullarticle/404031

 

Katy: I don't think I or we have deer tick larvae or deer ticks at all. It doesn't look like this at all. (See link above). THAT IS SO HORRIBLE, the case history given and how long it took them to realize what she had. UGH. I appreciate your input though! I think I can safely rule that out.

 

What we have is more like this: http://www.healthhype.com/chiggers-mite-bites-rash-pictures-treatment-eradication.html

 

The infestation area looks more like a pimple after a few days. The itching doesn't bother me as bad as it bothers the kids, and there are treatments for it. Showering, calamine, etc. 

[bzymom]

Dd needs surgery in a few days for a badly broken arm. Stressful but manageable.

 

Not manageable is spending my day, while at work (where I AM expected to be, you know, WORKING) fielding eleventy phone calls from the CT scan center and surgical center and doctors office informing me that her health insurance company has stated that insurance was terminated for all employees of her fathers employer effective 5/1! 😳😡. And phone calls and texts to and from her father while he tries to get answers from his employer, who seems to be trying to cover up that they failed to pay the premiums, despite collecting them from employee paychecks.

 

I am trying not to lose it.

[gaillardia]

Dd needs surgery in a few days for a badly broken arm. Stressful but manageable.

 

Not manageable is spending my day, while at work (where I AM expected to be, you know, WORKING) fielding eleventy phone calls from the CT scan center and surgical center and doctors office informing me that her health insurance company has stated that insurance was terminated for all employees of her fathers employer effective 5/1! 😳😡. And phone calls and texts to and from her father while he tries to get answers from his employer, who seems to be trying to cover up that they failed to pay the premiums, despite collecting them from employee paychecks.

 

I am trying not to lose it.

:grouphug:  :grouphug:  :grouphug: to you and all here who need it. Today is my day of gratitude. Things are better for me and I hope the best for everyone. :mellow:

[Penguin]

Dd needs surgery in a few days for a badly broken arm. Stressful but manageable.

 

Not manageable is spending my day, while at work (where I AM expected to be, you know, WORKING) fielding eleventy phone calls from the CT scan center and surgical center and doctors office informing me that her health insurance company has stated that insurance was terminated for all employees of her fathers employer effective 5/1! 😳😡. And phone calls and texts to and from her father while he tries to get answers from his employer, who seems to be trying to cover up that they failed to pay the premiums, despite collecting them from employee paychecks.

 

I am trying not to lose it.

:grouphug:  There is no good excuse for an employer to behave that way. I truly hope there is just an administrative glitch about the insurance.

[Word Nerd]

Late spring is not too early for chiggers.

[creekland]

Dd needs surgery in a few days for a badly broken arm. Stressful but manageable.

 

Not manageable is spending my day, while at work (where I AM expected to be, you know, WORKING) fielding eleventy phone calls from the CT scan center and surgical center and doctors office informing me that her health insurance company has stated that insurance was terminated for all employees of her fathers employer effective 5/1! 😳😡. And phone calls and texts to and from her father while he tries to get answers from his employer, who seems to be trying to cover up that they failed to pay the premiums, despite collecting them from employee paychecks.

 

I am trying not to lose it.

 

UGH!  I think I'd be losing it.  I hope it all works out.   :grouphug:   Does the employer have enough assets to pay for their mistake - without affecting her father's job?

[bzymom]

Employer is a sleazeball. I am sure this is not an accident. (And it is a CPA firm 😮)

 

Trying to keep somewhat calm and wait for them to fix it. I would like to file a complaint with the State, but he needs this job so all I can do is pray.

 

But my fury is blinding.