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Good thoughts appreciated - dd is in hospital again :(

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(Insert eye roll here)

 

ETA - of their treatment to your DD, not to you posting!

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:grouphug:  :grouphug:  :grouphug:

 

Here's hoping it's a shorter stay. I'm sorry this is happening.

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I'm sorry that your role as a very caring carer isn't being recognised, Sadie.

 

Thinking of you and your daughter.

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Keeping you and you daughter in my thoughts and prayers and hoping that the treatment being provided will be compassionate and therapeutic. Many hugs to you during this difficult time.

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So sorry, esp with Mothers Day today and having one chick away from you. Really hope things turn around quickly. 

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I'm sorry that your role as a very caring carer isn't being recognised, Sadie.

 

Thinking of you and your daughter.

 

Thank you Pegs. 

 

I don't know whether I am just over-sensitive (likely) but I really do feel like we get treated like dummies on the psych ward, when we're not getting treated with suspicion. 

 

I am not really used to this, as my own medical experiences and specialists (in a different area) are AWESOME - my specialist loves to hear about homeschooling, and always ask me about my studies, and generally treats me like I am a decent, intelligent human being. I wish he was also a psychiatrist!

 

Oh well. It doesn't matter really, so long as they are on top of best practice treatment for depression (and the hospital has a good rep for that.) 

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Thank you Pegs.

 

I don't know whether I am just over-sensitive (likely) but I really do feel like we get treated like dummies on the psych ward, when we're not getting treated with suspicion.

 

I am not really used to this, as my own medical experiences and specialists (in a different area) are AWESOME - my specialist loves to hear about homeschooling, and always ask me about my studies, and generally treats me like I am a decent, intelligent human being. I wish he was also a psychiatrist!

 

Oh well. It doesn't matter really, so long as they are on top of best practice treatment for depression (and the hospital has a good rep for that.)

For whatever it's worth, mental health professionals caring for me have had mixed responses to the fact that I HS DS. Generally the psychs who treat me like I'm a bit dim are the most suspicious of my motives. Personally, I think it reflects poorly on their abilities to think flexibly and to build rapport with intelligent women (this last point seems to really freak some people out (?!)).

 

I try not to take too much of it on board. Of course, that's easier said than done at times of high stress and emotional vulnerability.

 

I've also met some psychs who've been really respectful of me as a thinking and feeling person, making well-founded decisions around the wellbeing of myself and my child. It's not all bad all over. My guess is that you've just got unlucky. Again, I'm sorry.

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Hoping for a speedy stabilisation for your dd Sadie and open-minded psychs  :grouphug: :grouphug:

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Just saw your OP, Sadie. Sending lots of good thoughts speeding across the miles. I hope your DD is home soon with a regime that helps. How lucky she is to have such a loving, supportive family.

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:grouphug:  I'm sorry your daughter is going through this again.  My 19yo is talking about asking for a med change and I fear a similar experience.  

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:grouphug:  I'm sorry your daughter is going through this again.  My 19yo is talking about asking for a med change and I fear a similar experience.  

 

I hope your dc's med change is smooth and successful!

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I am not going to visit today. I do feel a bit guilty but 1. I'm trying to look after myself, and taking a day off is good for me, good for the sibs and 2. I'm trying not to inadvertently reinforce hospital through spending hours there every day.

 

Dd can ring me if she wants to; it just feels a bit weird to be going a day without visiting. 

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I am not going to visit today. I do feel a bit guilty but 1. I'm trying to look after myself, and taking a day off is good for me, good for the sibs and 2. I'm trying not to inadvertently reinforce hospital through spending hours there every day.

 

Dd can ring me if she wants to; it just feels a bit weird to be going a day without visiting. 

 

NO GUILT! She could probably use a break anyway. A nice chance to breath.

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NO GUILT! She could probably use a break anyway. A nice chance to breath.

 

Yeah, even though she perks up quite a lot after a visit, it's still a lot of energy to expend. Plus, today is Monday here, and the art, OT and exercise groups start up, so she'll have stuff to occupy her time. 

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I'm sorry, Sadie, and am remembering you and your daughter in my thoughts. Hoping that today is a good one for you both. Sorry about the unhelpful response about homeschooling. I've read your posts over the years and have seen how you pour yourself into your children. You are a good mom.

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What is currently really, really annoying dd....when she sees a new consultant or registrar, and they get all 'ooh, interesting....no wonder you are anxious in the real world' about homeschooling.

 

She says they are always very suspicious and leap straight to the  'kept isolated in the basement by an abusive/neglectful/smothering mother'. And it's always the mother! Don't know how I could be both neglectful and smothering, but anything is possible in a psychiatrist's head, apparently.

 

Even though she hasn't been homeschooled for the last FOUR years, she says they spend way too long on it, and she has to be super assertive about it not being relevant to her current situation or treatment. 

 

She is also annoyed that they spent quite a while explaining to her that the transition to young adulthood is tumultuous, because her brain hasn't finished growing yet...like her IQ went down upon admission or something. This is the kid who was studying college level psychology at 14. She understands the development of the PFC.

 

Besides that, all was OK yesterday. It's probably a good sign she has the energy to be annoyed. 

 

Other silver lining - sib 1, who dealt last time by completely ignoring the whole thing, is reacting in a somewhat more compassionate way. The bar was low, but oh well, better to jump it than not. Sib 2 is sending me with long, complex jokes to 'cheer dd up', which is sweet, if ineffective.

 

Good on sib 1 (and 2). 

 

Sounds like her psychiatrists have been reading too much Freud.  Or have mother issues of their own.  Or just don't understand how someone who had a somewhat different experience than their own in one aspect of life can possibly be ill for any other reason than that different experience.

 

I hope it gets better soon.

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I am not going to visit today. I do feel a bit guilty but 1. I'm trying to look after myself, and taking a day off is good for me, good for the sibs and 2. I'm trying not to inadvertently reinforce hospital through spending hours there every day.

 

Dd can ring me if she wants to; it just feels a bit weird to be going a day without visiting.

When my dd was in the hospital, it was too far to visit daily. They didn't allow visits on Tuesday or Thursday anyway.

 

(((hugs)))

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