zoobie Posted June 15, 2017 Share Posted June 15, 2017 I'm horrified by the road blocks to receiving mental health care and the hoops you're having to jump through. I hope your DH is able to get treatment ASAP. You're a rockstar. :grouphug: 7 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NorthwestMom Posted June 15, 2017 Share Posted June 15, 2017 Memory impairment is a symptom of bipolar disorder; I think it is likely that your husband does not in fact remember a lot of what happened during his recent manic phase--it was never encoded into long term memory. This is so true that I want to re-post it to emphasize it. :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Retired Posted June 15, 2017 Share Posted June 15, 2017 Memory impairment is a symptom of bipolar disorder; I think it is likely that your husband does not in fact remember a lot of what happened during his recent manic phase--it was never encoded into long term memory. Yeah my dh has big memory gaps of events if they are major episodes. He does remember some of the milder but wants us to ignore it. THen other times he will apologies and have some recognition of his behavior. He will also say i'm exaggerating his behavior. I figure out for us years ago was to record events for playback. It was eye opening for him and the therapist . THe only way I got him therapy was recording on my old "huge VHS" recorder" his behavior /speech. He refused help. We had a intervention so to speak. I dont' know how things are handle now days. I was dealing with this 25 years ago. 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Melissa in Australia Posted June 15, 2017 Share Posted June 15, 2017 Hugs Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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maize Posted June 15, 2017 Share Posted June 15, 2017 Yeah my dh has big memory gaps of events if they are major episodes. He does remember some of the milder but wants us to ignore it. THen other times he will apologies and have some recognition of his behavior. He will also say i'm exaggerating his behavior. I figure out for us years ago was to record events for playback. It was eye opening for him and the therapist . THe only way I got him therapy was recording on my old "huge VHS" recorder" his behavior /speech. He refused help. We had a intervention so to speak. I dont' know how things are handle now days. I was dealing with this 25 years ago. I have recorded stuff as well; haven't had to use it yet but when I'm the only witness to profound irrationality and personality changes I figure it is best to have proof. 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Joyofsixreboot Posted June 18, 2017 Share Posted June 18, 2017 Prayers for you. It is so hard to get help. Our mental health system is btoken. I hear your frustration. Again, prayers. Sent from my SAMSUNG-SM-G900A using Tapatalk Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BlessedMom Posted June 21, 2017 Share Posted June 21, 2017 (edited) You are on my heart today! (((((((Hugs & Prayers))))))) Edited June 21, 2017 by BlessedMom Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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Moonhawk Posted June 23, 2017 Share Posted June 23, 2017 (edited) So, a peetering out update, for those of you who have reached out, thank you, and those who have been following and supporting, thank you. I have been talking to IRL people but I've found the support here in some ways more helpful. Wedding ring reappeared a couple days before Father's Day. He has been pretty upbeat about everything, affectionate, nice, etc, for about 95% of the time. But, still hyper-effected by negative anything. We had a brief discussion where he did apologize "for everything" and said he wished he had never done any of it. Seems to have a memory of what happened generally but none of the emotional memories. You know that book you were required to read in high school but kind of rushed and didn't particularly like? That's his level of memory and emotional involvement. He says he hasn't had any inclination to act out except for after one conversation where I started to describe - very generally, no detail or belaboring - why I wasn't exactly happy with him going to the class where he sees the other person. He was surprised, shocked, "how would that be an issue?" Then kind of got upset and said he didn't want to think about it or talk about it anymore, he didn't want those thoughts entering his brain again. After that he's been a bit more sedate, and I hope it didn't do too much damage to his stability. So, I'm not going to push anything and just enjoy this level of recovery/normalcy until he is on medication and more removed from volatility. I don't think his caseworker has returned his calls yet re: psychiatrist, though, and so I have been pushing a bit on this. I also called the caseworker, but idk if he did get back to DH and I just don't know about it. For myself, my appt for a caseworker is early (edit) July, then they will set me up with a counselor :\ So a while to go still for that. Continuing to see priest and Stephen Minister. It's been good, though, I have been able to start to rebalance every day life. A lot of stuff has piled up these past few months that I now have to deal with. But one thing at a time, it's actually a relief to have "run of the mill" problems. Who'd've thought I'd be happy to need to deal with mice in the attic, lol. Edited June 23, 2017 by Moonhawk 24 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mysticmomma Posted June 23, 2017 Share Posted June 23, 2017 Glad to see an update. Still praying. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted June 23, 2017 Share Posted June 23, 2017 That's a very positive update overall! I'm disappointed in the level of care he is receiving though. Praying about that and your own mental wellbeing too! Thank you for keeping us in the loop so we can pray for your family :grouphugs: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
displace Posted June 23, 2017 Share Posted June 23, 2017 Praying for you to have strength. I really hope he gets on successful meds soon. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AnnE-girl Posted June 23, 2017 Share Posted June 23, 2017 Continuing to pray for you and your family. I hope he is able to receive more of the care he needs soon. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Joyofsixreboot Posted June 23, 2017 Share Posted June 23, 2017 Continuing payer. Remember just because he is "back to normal " doesn't mean you gave to feel that way. Sent from my SAMSUNG-SM-G900A using Tapatalk 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Seasider Posted June 23, 2017 Share Posted June 23, 2017 Thanks for update. I'm glad you are having a near-normal stretch. I will pray you have a real chance to catch your breath. I also hope that you will be able to formulate a plan of action in case there is a next time, so you don't have to endure such a rough experience. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BlessedMom Posted June 24, 2017 Share Posted June 24, 2017 Thank you for the update. My thoughts and prayers are still with you and your family. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
maize Posted June 24, 2017 Share Posted June 24, 2017 I'm glad you are getting a breather, and hope he gets medication soon. Please keep taking care of yourself; this is a marathon you are running. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gardenmom5 Posted June 24, 2017 Share Posted June 24, 2017 hugs. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Melissa in Australia Posted June 24, 2017 Share Posted June 24, 2017 Hugs Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Catwoman Posted June 24, 2017 Share Posted June 24, 2017 Still praying for you and your family! :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Joyofsixreboot Posted June 26, 2017 Share Posted June 26, 2017 Just thinking of you today. Sent from my SAMSUNG-SM-G900A using Tapatalk Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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