Guest Posted March 20, 2017 Share Posted March 20, 2017 This is very interesting. If boy's brains are taking so long to mature, why are we giving them so much adult responsibility long before this? Not that I'm asking for you to answer. This just opens up a huge can of questions for me. I actually think that while this is a fairly complex answer, there are some things that have been true in the past that are not anymore but that provided support for a maturing male. And we are also in territory we haven't traveled before, and without the past supports, we don't know where to go with this innovation. Heaven knows, the people who yell STOP! LET'S THINK about this! are often disregarded as cranks or luddites. But maybe...it wouldn't have been a bad thing to stop and think... However, we have kept a lot of the old "markers" for maturity, and also, at some point, there is *physical* maturity that seems to indicate an accompanying emotional/spirtual/developmental maturity. So drinking at age 18 or 21, college or job and self-sufficiency at 18, voting at 18...the maturity *markers* remain the same. About 20 years ago I had a conversation with a colleague at work whose son was a-wander at 18 (and this wasn't about gaming...). My friend lamented the fact that there were fewer places for young men to go "get mature" than when he himself was 18. He said that doing military service in ages 18-22 was one really good option, as *could* be college (but some kids aren't the college-type). He said his son needed structure and there just wasn't much that provided that in our modern world. I thought it an interesting observation. I do want to point out that I am musing here, and not speaking with the same voice as in the other posts in this thread. It's just....musing. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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