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My husband has had horrific health problems for over decade. It has been quite a rollercoaster of crises.

 

And his mental health has gotten progressively worse. This last year has been-over-the-top. There have been horrible outbursts and then he doesn't remember them. I've begged and pleaded with him to be evaluated. 

 

We had a horrible, horrible weekend of him alternately talking about how he's losing his mind and blaming us.

 

Then he decided that he is losing his mind so badly that we went to the ER, and they did a CT scan and sent us home with a psychiatric crisis. I guess I can't blame them. They're pretty limited on what they can do.

 

He decided to move out, and by then I was shot. I told him go ahead. He's been threatening that for months. So he packed up and left. I have his keys, and we even signed a separation statement as recommended by the lawyer I saw several months ago.

 

He called me just awhile ago and made sure I knew that he had arrived safely and gave me his room number.

 

I told him that I hope that he still goes to his Tuesday appointment which was to be a dementia evaluation, but that I am not coming.

 

I don't know what to pray for here but I am TIRED. The teens and I are doing fine. The therapist we've been seeing completely predicted this, and we'll go see her sometime this week or the next.

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:grouphug:  This all must be very draining and difficult.  I wish there were ways we could make it better, but at least know we're here for you to vent to and hold on to.  

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I am so sorry. You have been a stalwart companion under unimaginably difficult circumstances. I will pray for peace and safety all around.

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:grouphug:  So sorry that you are going through this, can't begin to imagine.

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I can't say I know how you are feeling, but I went through a marriage, separation and divorce with a man who had mental health issues.  I do know it isn't fun, it isn't easy and it can have a severe impact on the people around him.  So take care and  :grouphug:.  And know that you aren't alone.

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:grouphug:  This all must be very draining and difficult.  I wish there were ways we could make it better, but at least know we're here for you to vent to and hold on to.  

 

Yes, we have a lot of support. I called several local friends.

 

My beloved aunt actually called as we were preparing to go to the ER because she had a "feeling" that it was a very bad day for me. Tonight she listened to the whole story and offered to fly out, but it's a long flight for an 80 y.o. I told her not to at this point.

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I'm so sorry. I'll pray for you and your family.

 

As others have already said, we are here if you need to talk or to vent, or if there is anything else we can do to help you.

 

I think it took a lot of courage on your part to let him leave, and right now, it sounds like it's the best option for you and your kids.

 

:grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug:

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:grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug:

 

Dementia can make people mean and it's so hard to watch that happen to someone you care about.

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Living with a spouse with mental health issues is very very difficult.  Lots of prayers for you and your kids.  <3

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Yes, we have a lot of support. I called several local friends.

 

My beloved aunt actually called as we were preparing to go to the ER because she had a "feeling" that it was a very bad day for me. Tonight she listened to the whole story and offered to fly out, but it's a long flight for an 80 y.o. I told her not to at this point.

What a sweet aunt!

 

I am so sorry for your troubles. I feel terrible for all of you. But I know you must feel peaceful to have the drama stop for now.

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Helping someone who has mental health problems AND possibly dementia must be unbelievably hard.  I am sending strength and peace to you and your kids.

 

:grouphug:  :grouphug:  :grouphug:

 

 

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I'm so sorry you're having to go through this.  Praying that you will continue to have courage and wisdom to make decisions for what is best for you and your kids, and also praying that your dh can find some help.   :grouphug:

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I am glad you have support from family and access to professional help as well. I am sorry it has been such a difficult road. Hopefully he will get some help.

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