Wee Pip Posted February 12, 2008 Share Posted February 12, 2008 It suddenly dawned on me that 7yo dd might be a perfectionist... Is this even possible? She's the last person on earth that I'd ever consider a perfectionist. This is going to sound awful, and I feel terrible saying it...her workmanship has always just been crummy. Bad handwriting, careless, doesn't want to do schoolwork, seems to struggle with basic stuff. I mean, some days I start to wonder if she's LD. There isn't really anything I can "pin" on being an LD thing (other than some letter reversals, but this year she's starting to recognize which ones are reversed and correct them). Math is a struggle. I took it down to a very basic level, have very low expectations for her, and its still taking forever - she's getting answers right and understanding concepts. But somehow, it just seems hard. Writing. Anything. For spelling - write 1 sentence using a spelling word. She hates this, and we wrestle over it. She writes the shortest sentence possible. Sometimes I give her the sentence to write. Its driving me crazy. If I call her to better quality work, she's devastated! I'm just so frustrated. We do about 1 hour or less of bookwork per day, and that's it. Math, spelling, grammar, and handwriting. She says she hates to write because she can't spell. Or that she doesn't make it sound exciting like an author does. She seems very frustrated with her schoolwork. I have no idea what level to put her in in anything. She's just sort of floating out there in space as far as ability goes. It dawned on me that maybe she's actually a perfectionist in disguise. You know...I can't do it nice, so I'll just do it crappy. I can't write a novel so I won't even write a sentence. And then if I correct her, it just seems to confirm what she believed all along, "see, I knew I couldn't do it right". Do you think this is what it is? If so, how do I teach her? I know my getting frustrated isn't helping. Right now, she makes To Do lists and menus and occasional letters to us - so I know she can write! She's not an avid reader (yet). She really wouldn't do a whole lot beyond barbies and dolls if I didn't do some formal ed with her (in other words, she doesn't seem to be a self-propelled learner). She refuses to do things that seem remotely educational (like, she won't play Leapster or computer games higher than a K level). Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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