angelica Posted December 23, 2016 Share Posted December 23, 2016 My mans dad and step mom live in a million dollar home and have all they need. They love wine, their dog, and her kids. We are not close with them and really only see them on Thanksgiving and Christmas. Her kids are now 22 and 26, the sons wife just had a baby in June, and the younger one is still in college and "poor". His step bro got married last year and we felt very excluded when they were talking about it at Thanksgiving. We've been together since the age of 16 so I've seen the dynamics change over the years and things have always been weird. He got 2k towards a car at 17 and a year later both kids got new cars. They couldn't "afford" to pay for any of his college tuition but they foot the bill for the youngest, room and board as well. I'm sure they were secretly happy when I got knocked up during my last year of college and he decided to drop out of school to work full time. When I was his step sisters age I was pregnant, working ft and paying for all my own shit. I managed to graduate debt free. So anyways, last Christmas his dad took us all out to the garage to see matching miatas, one for him and one for his severely overweight step bro who can barely squeeze into it. His stepbro isn't even a car guy! Imagine my guys face when he saw his stepbrother had the same car as HIS own dad. My heart broke that day for him.He's an only child so my theory is she just wants to push us away. The car his dad gave 2k towards is the exact year as the car his dad had when he was little and he's slowly been modifying it since like 2007. His dad seems to not even care and he's reached out to him to work on it with him many times. So it sucks knowing he's working on a car with his step brother. Anyways, last year we did $75 white elephant gifts so we had to shell out $150. His step siblings participated but we learned later that their mom bought the gifts so they could participate but not have to spend money. This year there's no white elephant thing and so now we are expected to buy for everyone coming. It will just be my dhs dad and his dads side of the family, plus the 2 of step kids. Grandpa and his longtime girlfriend (85) Dad and stepmom (late 50's) Aunt and Uncle (50's) I think we'll just do a picture for great grandpa and some chocolate. He requested pictuers at Thanksgiving and he'll appreciate them so we will gladly give them. I have two 4 packs of reusable glass straws. I use mine everyday so I thought would be a nice gift since they have everything, but dh says that's too cheap. I'm at a loss of what to add to that to make it not so half assy and "weird". I thought of doing a bottle of organic wine too but straws and wine? I won't give them family pictures because in the past they didn't seem to care and then we spotted them in a box in his dads office. His aunt/uncle are foodies/cookers and their favorite gift last year was matching yeti waterbottles. They gushed about how it helps them drink more water, and so to me glass straws makes sense. Step siblings will get a giftcard and little something for their baby. I hate gifts for the sake of gifts but there is no way around this. We're always appreciative of what they give us but at the end of the day it's just more stuff and they like to give the kids big stuff so it's annoying but of course our boys love it. Sorry this was so long, I am just a little stressed and to make matters worse its my guys 32nd birthday so even having to spend mental energy on this today sucks. Please help!! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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