Anne in CA Posted July 26, 2016 Share Posted July 26, 2016 For one, no one in my family thought I could home school, or that home school in general was a good idea. Now everyone admits it made my kids better people and that I did a good job. DD just colored her hair blonde, which everyone said was a bad idea but it turned out amazing... Taking the kids on mission trips to third world countries freaked people out, but it all turned out well... 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ann.without.an.e Posted July 26, 2016 Share Posted July 26, 2016 I was also thinking homeschooling 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted July 26, 2016 Share Posted July 26, 2016 Living in an RV with our six kids and traveling around the country for over a year. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JustEm Posted July 26, 2016 Share Posted July 26, 2016 Dating/Marrying my dh. On paper it looked like a terrible idea. He was in the process of a divorce when we met and became friends. My mom was very concerned when we started talking daily and hanging out as friends. She was convinced we'd fall for each other and it would end in a terrible heartbreak. Well she was right about falling for each other. We started dating right before his divorce was finalized and 3 months later were engaged. my sister was strongly opposed to the engagement and it caused quite the rift for a few months. 4 months later we eloped and dh's sisters both expressed their disapproval. Over 8 years later and we're even more in love and stronger. What people couldn't see is that we spoke extensively about what we wanted for the future. We were on agreement on everything. We also spoke extensively about dh's previous marriage and how it changes him, what caused it to fall apart, and saw those things weren't an issue for us because we were already on the same page. No one thinks it was a mistake anymore. At least as far as I know. 4 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mysticmomma Posted July 26, 2016 Share Posted July 26, 2016 Breastfeeding Cosleeping Going back to school Weight loss surgery Homeschooling 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RootAnn Posted July 26, 2016 Share Posted July 26, 2016 Marrying DH and living apart from DH while he was in the military (while we were married). The communication skills we developed while apart helped once the kid noise & chaos started...and continued. Quitting my job & moving a month before Baby #2 was born. Staying home with the kids. My co-workers were all convinced I'd go batty at home. Everyone thought making so many changes right before having a baby was a terrible idea. My mom & aunt have come around on DH. They think he hangs the moon now. Since we made it through those first few years apart, no one probably even thinks about it anymore. We're the longest married pair of the five of us. Three others have divorced. I don't really talk to my old co-workers anymore, so I have no idea what they think of me still staying at home. Most of them would probably be shocked that I'm homeschooling - except for the one co-worker whose kids were all homeschooled. :lol: 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AnnE-girl Posted July 26, 2016 Share Posted July 26, 2016 I started dating my husband less than three weeks after his six year relationship/engagement ended. Everyone said it was a bad idea and he needed more time or our relationship would just be a rebound. We were married two and a half years later and we celebrated 11 years in May. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cecropia Posted July 26, 2016 Share Posted July 26, 2016 Homebirth. All of our relatives thought we were completely nuts and tried very hard to sway us to the hospital model. And we were in one of the most homebirth-unfriendly states in the nation, with zero collaboration or support from the medical community (actively prosecuting midwives for practicing medicine without a license, while there were no out-of-hospital alternatives offered). The midwives we hired were underground midwives. But I had my first two at home successfully! 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jewellsmommy Posted July 26, 2016 Share Posted July 26, 2016 Marrying my dh at 17.5. We have been married now 19 yrs and gotten through many things that are biggies for most marriages -bankruptcy, infertility, severe illness of a child etc. Pumping exclusively because I couldn't make breastfeeding work. I was told that I wouldn't be able to do it. I was able to keep it up for 8 months. I was happy with that. Co-sleeping/family bed -she did eventually move on to her own bed :tongue_smilie: 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mamiof5 Posted July 26, 2016 Share Posted July 26, 2016 Cosleeping Homeschooling (Starting our 5th year, some family members still think it's not a good idea. They might never get over it 😂😂) Rushed move to a different country (decision thought of, taken, packed and moved in 3 days)...have never been back. That was 17yrs ago 😉 Tonight's improvised dinner...turned out good 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lawyer&Mom Posted July 26, 2016 Share Posted July 26, 2016 Rushed move to a different country (decision thought of, taken, packed and moved in 3 days)...have never been back. That was 17yrs ago 😉 Wow. That sounds like an interesting story! 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
goldberry Posted July 26, 2016 Share Posted July 26, 2016 Married my DH at 19. He was 25, no education, living in an apartment with 3 other guys. ?? We just celebrated 30 years! :blushing: He is an amazing man... 10 years ago we picked up and moved to Colorado... just because we wanted to live here. It was rough (DH lost his job during the recession and was unemployed 2 years) but we stuck it out rather than moving back to the Dallas area. So happy! We never stopped loving it! 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mamiof5 Posted July 26, 2016 Share Posted July 26, 2016 Wow. That sounds like an interesting story!It was God's plan. I'm not a risk taker, and I despise moving. Leaving a country??? Nope, no thanks. Everything was so quick, and I'm always amazed how it worked out. The idea was to go for 6 months, a year max. 😠Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Farrar Posted July 26, 2016 Share Posted July 26, 2016 I was also going to say my marriage. Dh fell off the wagon two days before the wedding. It almost didn't happen. Literally as it was happening I kept thinking, well, I love him, but this is probably a huge mistake. But - hey - turned out great! (And he's been sober for 18 years now.) I can't say homeschooling or co-sleeping or homebirthing... I got a lot of good support around those decisions. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Crimson Wife Posted July 26, 2016 Share Posted July 26, 2016 Marrying 2 weeks after my college graduation and a month shy of turning 22. When I announced our engagement my junior year, you'd have thought I was announcing plans to rob a bank by the reaction of my family. My parents especially objected because he is the only serious relationship I've ever had and they thought I needed to "sow my wild oats" as a young adult before settling down at a "proper" age (~30). :glare: Usually college-aged daughters are disappointments to their parents for being too promiscuous but apparently I was a disappointment for being too s*xually conservative and actually wanting to marry my college sweetheart and guy I lost my virginity to. 4 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LisaKinVA Posted July 26, 2016 Share Posted July 26, 2016 Food Fundraisers -- because we're selling something people already were planning to buy (breakfast/lunch), we had a captive audience, and it was better and faster than what was available on base. We make 2-3x the amount of money in the same amount of time. People felt they were too expensive (because we had to front $200+ to net $1000, felt it was more effective to run a $500 car wash over 6 hours which cost us about $25). They all shut up finally after I raised $5,000 in 2 events and less than half the time commitment. Conversely, the other group I was raising money for has raised a whopping $30 on their events, which I have said were bad ideas (poor planning, implementation, lack of advertising). Yet, the fundraising chair is patting herself on the back because the kids are having so much fun -- and there are more important things than raising money (ahem...not when your JOB is to raise $12 grand so the team can function!!) Guess which group has approached me to help dig them out of their very big, and growing deeper, hole??? 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LucyStoner Posted July 26, 2016 Share Posted July 26, 2016 Getting married at 21. We didn't give anyone any time to express their opinion. We just got married and then told them. We are coming up on 15 years so clearly it wasn't a flight of passing fancy. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
frogger Posted July 26, 2016 Share Posted July 26, 2016 Wow, I can't think of anything that everyone was against. I can think of things that a few people thought was out there but really I was allowed to just do whatever and no one argued. That is interesting since I did so many things that society in general tells you not to do like marry at 18, home birth, homeschool but really haven't had much to battle. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
*Lulu* Posted July 26, 2016 Share Posted July 26, 2016 Homeschooling Having a third child Going across the country for college 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
waa510 Posted July 26, 2016 Share Posted July 26, 2016 Does my whole life count? ;) I seem to do things completely differently than my family of origin, friends, or my in-laws. It's getting to the point where they almost expect me to do the 'weird' thing so when I do there isn't this big shock or uprising. They may have also learned by now that I don't listen! But let's see.. Breastfeeding Homebirth for 2dd Moving to Japan Homeschooling Getting a tattoo Living anywhere but FL Joining a UU church Naming my kids weird names Getting married at 20 to an Army guy Having kids at 21 and 23 Going to college for Psych and not for law or med Buying used cars Living in a racially diverse area Staying at home I'm sure there's so much more. :thumbup1: I'm happy with all those choices though. I think you (collective you) need to make the decisions that will make you satisfied with your life and forget the haters. Too many people are afraid of making some terrible, irreparable decision but so much of your life can be changed. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Donna Posted July 26, 2016 Share Posted July 26, 2016 Marrying my husband before finishing my degree Co-sleeping Breastfeeding Homeschooling Having a 3rd child My daughter playing traditional Irish music...according to my family she should be playing Bluegrass because she's an American. (Didn't matter to them what genre of music she loved.) 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DawnM Posted July 26, 2016 Share Posted July 26, 2016 Huh, I have gotten flack for certain things, but never enough grief to think that "everyone" thought it was a bad idea. Homeschooling, yes, people were opposed. Many thought i would never marry. The good thing about getting married later, people are just happy you are finally marrying. Only ONE person didn't like my husband, but her reasons were STUPID (she said he was too quiet and I should marry someone more gregarious.) Whatever, she was a bit jaded after a failed relationship at the time. We have been married 21 years. Homeschooling, yeah, some people had things to say. Now they actually say the opposite. My biggest critic in the family has one child who has done some hard time and another who hadn't been able to keep a job for more than 3 months, so, whatever. Quitting my job. That was a hard one. I still have some regrets myself, but it needed to happen to homeschool my special needs child. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
alisoncooks Posted July 26, 2016 Share Posted July 26, 2016 No one ever told me, but I'm pretty certain everyone thought I'd drop out of college when I got married at 19. But since I'm contrary, I finished in 3.5 years with a 4.0. :p We celebrated 16 years this summer. My parents were a bit dubious about the whole birth center/midwife thing. Best decision ever. 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MyLittleBears Posted July 26, 2016 Share Posted July 26, 2016 Marrying a man 10 plus years older than me at age 22. Best thing I ever did. :wub: Homeschooling 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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Spryte Posted July 26, 2016 Share Posted July 26, 2016 I can't really say "no one" thought anything would turn out well. It feels like my life has been one crazy ride, that's taken a lot of courage, but I've always had support from someplace. Not family. I could list volumes of things that certain family members didn't think would turn out well. But certain other family members have always been supportive, so that makes up for it a bit. :) Moving out at 17, getting a job and apartment - I wasn't sure that would turn out well, but had no choice. Moving cross-country, alone, at 21, without knowing anyone in my new location, to go to school. Anthropology - that wasn't deemed useful enough, what a waste of time/money. American Studies ("and what the heck is that?! What will you do with it?!"). Fostering my dear friend/mentor/college prof's son when she died. Getting married to someone who had a child from a previous relationship. Homeschooling, co-sleeping. Adopting (again) when we were 40, listening to the chorus of "you're too old" and feeling the anger about that, ouch. There's more, but the overwhelming theme is that the non-support came from one particular group. I have always had the support of other family members and the family-friends that I've chosen. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted July 27, 2016 Share Posted July 27, 2016 (edited) Having kids and getting married. Sifted out the chafe REAL QUICK around those two decisions. Then dh joining the military. Some thought I was crazy for supporting him on that because they were sure he would wash out. Ha. Excellent, wash out, tomato tomato. After the "having kids" thing there wasn't anyone left to tell me what a bad decision homeschooling was :-D (To be clear, Homeschool is going swimmingly and it is overtly obvious that it was a great choice. Just teasing about the haters who gonna hate hate hate) Edited July 27, 2016 by OKBud Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Carrie12345 Posted July 27, 2016 Share Posted July 27, 2016 Not marrying my firstborn's father. Thank goodness I had more sense than that! Having so many kids. Not using pain meds during labor. Raising my kids without religion. Homeschooling. Homeschooling high school. (That one hasn't been proven yet, but I'm confident.) Letting my kids play Pokemon Go. :lol: :lol: :lol: 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted July 27, 2016 Share Posted July 27, 2016 Leaving college and getting married YOUNG to an older man. It took a bit but even the most staunch, vocal opposition admitted to me a few years back that I had an amazing marriage and they couldn't have picked a better spouse for me in a million years :D Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Janeway Posted July 27, 2016 Share Posted July 27, 2016 Homeschooling, my marriage, my children, my career (and lack of) 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Carol in Cal. Posted July 28, 2016 Share Posted July 28, 2016 My first job. It was a coop engineering job, and people thought that I would drop out of college once I started enjoying earning money of my own. So ridiculous--I can't believe anyone ever thought I would not finish college. That was my One True Goal since about age 5. After 6 1/2 months I went back to school as planned, only with enough money to bag the ridiculous commute. My grades improved, and I had a tremendous resume boost. And my first house. It was a little two bedroom, one bath home built in the 1940s. What I really wanted was a Victorian, but this was the best I could manage at the time. It was, naturally, in an older neighborhood, with lots of charm and trees. The house had tall ceilings and hardwood floors and was unique on the block (all of them were. No cookie cutter 'little boxes' there.). BUT. It wasn't near the better employment areas, and I could have gotten a 4 bedroom/2 1/2 bath modern house near where I worked for the same price. Everyone said I was nuts, that my old neighborhood was topped out in housing price and buying the newer, bigger home would be a far better investment. I did not care. I figured that if I were going to impoverish myself to buy a house on my own, and not be able to afford to go anywhere else for quite a while because of it, that I'd better at least like the house itself, because I was going to be spending a lot of time there. Ha. I kept it for 7 years, during which time it doubled in value. And, more importantly, I was happy there. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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