FlockOfSillies Posted February 12, 2008 Share Posted February 12, 2008 I don't even know how to begin. I'm just so discouraged right now. I don't know if it's the new baby, or early puberty, or just fallen human nature, but my Goose is driving me nuts. DD8 has "selective ADD" -- plenty of mental focus available for making party hats, or butterfly wings out of sheet after sheet after sheet of 8.5x11 paper, or carefully rolling and taping paper napkins around our eating utensils while the food is getting cold and the rest of the table remains unprepared; but when it comes to work, fuhgeddaboutit. She can take great pains to make a craft "just so," but she can't remember that her middle name ends in "-ara," not "-era." A couple of weeks ago she misspelled BOTH her first name and her middle name. Please, just shoot me now. Why am I homeschooling?! If I don't sit right there with her for the entire school day, the work won't get done. And it takes all day because she's so easily distracted and slow in her work. And then she has the gall to wail, "I don't get any free time!" when the neighbor kids come over and she can't play with them. It doesn't matter how many times I remind her that she spent her free time already. My dd doesn't realize it, but she's holding all of us hostage. I've tried keeping the neighbor kids away until she's done, but that just punishes my littles (ds6 and dd4) because she'll take the whole afternoon to finish. Since I have to sit with her, I can't get anything else done around the house. I can't get the littles to do any work because they require supervision. Almost every surface in my home is a Flylady Hot Spot. I'm tired of living out of laundry baskets, embarrassed every time my mom (bless her heart) tells me to bag up the clothes and send them to her house, and frustrated that my infant is rapidly outgrowing her bassinet while the girls' bedroom is still not ready for her to move in. (I need to empty and remodel the office so TBOM can have his own room.) I have tons of games and puzzles and fun stuff that I want to do with my kids -- the kind of stuff that I thought homeschooling would give me the time and flexibility to do -- and I can't do any of it. It brings me to tears just to think about it. DH is doing the best he can to help. He's had a few days off lately, and he's sat with her to make sure she gets her work done, even if it means staying up late to finish what wasn't completed that day. She's in 4th grade now and I really want to have a fixed end time for my school day, leaving the day's unfinished work be "homework" due the next day. But I need to come up with a system that holds her accountable for getting the work done that night. If things keep up at their current pace, we won't have finished anything even close to what I consider a full year's worth of work. We homeschoolers like to talk of "working at the student's pace," but right now she's working at a snail's pace. It has helped me a lot for dh to see for himself what I have to deal with. He's been great about suggesting changes and restarting our incentive system. We're planning to take our old chore cards and add school subjects to the mix, complete with cards for "wiggle breaks." He's really pushing for us to get a cleaning lady. He's also contemplating telecommuting one day a week to help with some of the teaching. I want so badly to do right by my girl. She is so bright, but she is also my most challenging child to parent. I've tried really hard this year to be more encouraging and less critical, to say "OK" more often, instead of reflexively blurting out "No" at every opportunity. More often than not I've failed miserably. So please, if you've BTDT, or if you have practical tips on how to manage all this, send them my way. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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