Adoptive parents: Finding Dory

[JessReplanted]

A friend offered to take my girls to see this today. That would be great - but I've seen the warning going around FB about how this movie could be rough for kids who were adopted. Can anyone chime in? My daughter was very effected by Tangled, and now I try to be very sensitive about this.

 

Thanks!

[JonesinIndiana]

I can't help you because we've not seen it. My girls are older and I don't know that we will be seeing it any time soon. They've heard what the story line is and we will probably see it on DVD in our home, where they will feel more comfortable with an uncomfortable subject.

 

We had to stop watching Despicable Me because the little girls get taken back to the orphanage. Fortunately, we were at home watching it and I had told them before there was a part that might bother them. When that part came, my little one refused to continue. I assured her that was ok. We had a good discussion about her feelings. She was able to see it about 9 months later.

 

I think if your child had a difficult time w Tangled and the issues that movie brought up, then I would not be in a rush to see Dory in a theater. JMO

 

 

ETA: I would NOT let a friend take your children to a movie that may bring up very difficult, big feelings.

Edited July 3, 2016 by JonesinIndiana

[alisoncooks]

I saw this review last week.  It might help?

 

http://www.adoptionlcsw.com/2016/06/finding-dory-adoption-movie-review.html

[Pronghorn]

My fifteen-year-old adopted daughter saw it recently. She was not triggered by it but did cry, a rare thing for her to do at a movie. She says some kids might get triggered.

[Mama Geek]

I saw it but don't have adopted kids, I would probably wait to see it with adopted kids at home, unless they are very settled and don't blame themselves.  Dory got lost because of forgetting where she lived due to her short term memory loss.  When she finds her parents they didn't blame her and welcomed her back with open arms.

 

My 6 year old really liked it but like I said was not adopted.

[DawnM]

My 12 year old saw it and didn't mention it at all.  But he has not had adoption issues, so take that FWIW.

[anmom]

My adopted daughter is asking to see this...following to see responses.

[ebrindam]

I think most of what has been said about this movie being a trigger issue for adopted children is blown up. I saw this movie and thought it was a beautiful story. Child with intellectual disability has supportive, loving, caring parents. She gets lost. She blames herself, but is told by her friends that she was not at fault. She is not adopted. She finds and makes good friends who become her chosen family (Nemo and Marlin). She reunifies with her parents, who have never stopped looking for her, and they reiterate that it was NOT her fault. She and her parents, and her chosen family Nemo and Marlin, live happily ever after. 

[GoVanGogh]

We just saw it yesterday and I didn't make any adoption connection at all. Reflecting back on it now, I still don't. That said, i was very unpleasantly shocked on how prevelant Dory's short term memory issues were batted about throughout the story. DS has memory issues due to cp and I have PTSD from his birth issues. I wish I had read reviews before we went. I likely would have vetoed us (me) going.

[bettyandbob]

I thought the movie was more about disability. I took my ds who has intellectual disabilities. I never thought there was an adoption angle to this.

[JonesinIndiana]

The review that was posted was very thorough. It explains the adoption connection even though Dory isn't adopted, for those of you who would like to learn more.

[Spryte]

The review that was posted was very thorough. It explains the adoption connection even though Dory isn't adopted, for those of you who would like to learn more.

Yes, thanks to the PP who posted the review. Very helpful!

[scbusf]

I have 2 DDs from China and we will not be seeing it in the theater. We will probably rent the DVD when it comes out. Both of my girls have anxiety issues - one DDs anxiety comes directly from the time she spent in an orphanage. She, in particular, is very sensitive to issues about her birth family. She frequently asks who her China mommy is, if we can go visit her, why her China mommy left, etc. So I'd rather watch the movie at home where we can pause it and answer questions.

Edited July 4, 2016 by scbusf