Polite Behavior Book/Curriculum?

[wendyroo]

Peter, understandably due to his diagnoses, does not naturally learn appropriate behavior via observation or modeling.  Now that he is school age he is more and more often running afoul of societal expectations.  Last week we were at a homeschool park day and out of the blue he picked up and drank from a random cup off the picnic table.  

 

He needs acceptable/expected behaviors laid out in black and white, but when I try to do so he tunes out...perhaps because he is embarrassed or feels under attack no matter how calmly and matter-of-factly I address the issue?

 

He does better with books that clearly outline appropriate behaviors in specific situations.  He enjoyed You Are a Social Detective, and we are reading through the Social Stories book, but we need a lot more than that.  We need something that goes through the nitty gritty:  don't barge in on someone in the bathroom, don't randomly leave the table mid-meal, say you "need to use the bathroom" not "I need to poop", don't rummage through cabinets when you are a guest, etc.

 

Any suggestions?

 

Thanks,

Wendy

 

 

[OneStepAtATime]

Might any of these help?

 

http://childrensbooksguide.com/behavior

 

http://www.weareteachers.com/blogs/post/2015/09/15/15-must-have-books-for-your-social-emotional-library

 

https://www.linguisystems.com/products/product/display?itemid=10354

[Targhee]

Manners by Aliki Simple illustrations and situations with text appropriate for young kids.  I take the time to talk to the kids about illustrations, asking them to tell me what is going on, what people must be thinking, etc.

365 Manners Kids Should Know Is very informative and has a new manner/nuance/situation for every day of the year. I don't know about your DS, but perhaps it is a bit too old? Maybe better suited for 10-15?

[Targhee]

Might any of these help?

 

http://childrensbooksguide.com/behavior

 

http://www.weareteachers.com/blogs/post/2015/09/15/15-must-have-books-for-your-social-emotional-library

 

https://www.linguisystems.com/products/product/display?itemid=10354

I really like Do Unto Otters - that is a fun book

[eternalsummer]

Ack, I dunno, maybe we will look at some of these books too!  None of mine have these diagnoses but everyone except the 11 year old does all of those things on a regular basis (or has to be watched like a hawk to keep them from doing them).

[kbutton]

https://www.amazon.com/Dude-Thats-Rude-Manners-Learn%C2%AE-ebook/dp/B002KYHZAM?ie=UTF8&btkr=1&ref_=dp-kindle-redirect

 

There are others that go with this book as well. One of the authors (Verdick) has a child on the spectrum, I believe. She also wrote a book aimed at kids ages 8-13 with ASD. https://www.amazon.com/Survival-Autism-Spectrum-Disorders-Parents-ebook/dp/B00RUS32TQ?ie=UTF8&qid=1465179357&ref_=sr_1_6&s=digital-text&sr=1-6 

[PeterPan]

Ack, I dunno, maybe we will look at some of these books too!  None of mine have these diagnoses but everyone except the 11 year old does all of those things on a regular basis (or has to be watched like a hawk to keep them from doing them).

 

You don't have to have autism to benefit from social skills instruction.  :)  Michelle Winner developed her materials because she realized she had to provide the instruction no matter what the label was (autism, adhd, sld, nvld, whatever).  Similarly, the ps will add social goals to an IEP, irrespective of label.  So if you're seeing the need, yes, do it!  :)

[KSinNS]

Great list. We loved Do unto Otters too. When he is older R&S English has excellent lessons on answering the phone, making introductions, and being a good conversationalist. A bit preachy but very clear. Also Social Rules for Kids.