Anyone here a minority adopted into a white home?...touchy subject so trigger warning

[Ottakee]

I know this might be a touchy subject so trigger warnings here.

 

 

 

 

 

 

I am interested in some feedback and groups where minority individuals (people of color) who were adopted into white families speak openly about their situation, experiences, etc.  HONESTLY, I want to learn.  We are a sorta family like this but not totally.  Our 3 adopted are Native but only oldest ds was raised Native before he came to us.  Dh is native though and I am part native.  We currently have a Hispanic foster son who is 12 but he was raised in both cultures.  I know that is different than someone who is black, Asian, Indian, etc. that was adopted by a white family.

 

If you feel ok sharing here, I would love to hear what your family did that was good, what the could have done better, if you feel stuck between 2 cultures, etc.  Share only as much as you feel comfortable.

 

If you know of any facebook groups, etc. that address this I would love to know about them.  I know of one but it is quite hostile to white parents. 

[tm919]

I was adopted from South Korea as a baby, one of the many Korean children adopted in the 1970s. I never felt stuck between two cultures because I was not really raised in Korea, BUT I know there has been a movement of adoptees (of my age, those that came over as young children like I did) to go back to Korea so many feel differently.

 

Now that I'm thinking of it, we lived in an incredibly Caucasian town, yet our very Irish-French family interacted with Asian families from other towns quite a bit... I never really thought about it. I guess I assumed that my parents just liked those families, but there could have been another element to it. I still have some of the childhood gifts (wall scrolls, dolls) those families brought me back from various parts of China. I always felt treasured by them, even though it kind of weirded me out when someone would want to set me up with their son. Maybe that was something my parents did especially right.

 

Edited May 11, 2016 by tm919

[Ottakee]

tm919......thanks for sharing.  I like to hear the good and the bad.  The facebook group I am a part of is very anti international adoption, etc.  I certainly don't always agree with them on many issues but I did want to learn various perspectives on things.

 

We just want to do the best we can for our foster and adoptive children in all areas.....including race and culture issues.  We are trying to exposure our kids to people of various cultures and races, etc.

[Excelsior! Academy]

I will be watching this thread as we are adopting minorities and while minorities ourselves our appearance doesn't reflect our minority status.

[Ottakee]

I will be watching this thread as we are adopting minorities and while minorities ourselves our appearance doesn't reflect our minority status.

If I am understanding you correctly, that is about where we fit.  I am more Caucasian than Native but dh is more Native than Caucasian.  He though is often thought to be Hispanic.......good at times, not so good at others.  In our area sadly often times the Natives and Hispanics don't get along.

 

While, esp. my dh is a minority and more of a minority than black, Hispanic, Asian, etc. in our area, many people rank him "higher" than those other minorities..............really, I am not trying to be offensive, just truthful for our area.

[Ottakee]

Just bumping up to see if there are any others that are willing to share or pm me.

[OneStepAtATime]

I wonder if you might get more responses if you took this to a private chat group.  Set up the group under the social groups, set up the privacy settings, then ask here if anyone would like to join.  Keep all settings at maximum privacy so it cannot be seen or searched from the internet.  People can respond here that they want an invite or they can send you a PM to keep it even more private.  You can delete the group later after you have had discussion or you can keep it if you feel it is of some benefit to the members.