dirty ethel rackham Posted April 25, 2016 Posted April 25, 2016 (edited) After a day or two of PMS exacerbating my regular "life is hard" blues (because, frankly, it is) I found out that my ex-SIL(brother's ex-wife) passed away after a long battle with cancer and that the wake was today. I was very nervous about attending this because my xSIL and I were not on good terms. (Her daughter did not invite me to her wedding, but invited lots of cousins and their "plus ones." ) But my nephew and I are close so I knew I had to be there. So, after trying on 4 different outfits to see what still fit after my 3 months on the couch and that wouldn't look too terrible with my post-op shoe for my injured ankle, I settled on a nicer pair of yoga pants and a flowey blouse (that had a major static cling problem.) Well, my worries were for nothing. There was no tension. Only tears, memories, and laughter. My niece hugged me and we cried. The prayer service was beautiful. Dh was a little broken up - he was closer to my xSIL than me (no bad blood there) and he lost his dad 9 months ago. The one good thing about wakes and funerals is that I get to see people that I wouldn't ordinarily see. My other brother's family came in for the funeral since the two SILs were close friends. We decided to go out to dinner with them. Our 22yos was supposed to meet us there. Our plans came to an abrupt end when we got a text that he was in a car accident on the way. Ds is OK. A passenger in the other car had minor injuries, but did go to the hospital. He was turning left and didn't see the oncoming car in the glare - a silver car - man those jump out of nowhere. The axle is likely broken and the transmission may have been knocked off its bearings. This may mean total loss. Then we found out that ds only has liability since the car is only worth $5k. (He just bought the car used about 6 weeks ago.) Trying to remain unemotional about that part even though we would have made a different decision about covereage. He is an adult and this was his first car that he bought. I get to watch my son do all those "adulting" things like talk to the police and insurance. ETA: I am so thankful that he is ok and that there weren't any serious injuries. Edited April 25, 2016 by dirty ethel rackham 1 Quote
elegantlion Posted April 25, 2016 Posted April 25, 2016 (((Hugs))) you've had so much. I'm glad he was okay. 1 Quote
shanezomom Posted April 25, 2016 Posted April 25, 2016 You have got to be exhausted. What an emotional roller coaster. Hope you can take care of yourself tomorrow. Quote
dirty ethel rackham Posted April 25, 2016 Author Posted April 25, 2016 And ... it gets worse. I went to do my regular wound care and some adhesive stuck to a scab on another wound that we thought was doing really well. I had noticed more pain, but I thought it was a bandage bothering it. Well, the scab came off and I discovered puss under the scab and a hole in my foot. So, I have an infection right over where one of the screws was inserted into my heel. I can't really tell if I actually have much tissue over the screw. It is gross. I actually let a few f-bombs fly in front of my family (those are usually uttered in the car by myself or under my breath in the shower.) Good thing I see the surgeon tomorrow and the wound clinic on Tuesday. Quote
Frances Posted April 25, 2016 Posted April 25, 2016 You are in my thoughts during these difficult times. I hope things start looking up for you and your family very soon. Quote
mamiof5 Posted April 25, 2016 Posted April 25, 2016 I am really sorry for everything! Your ex-SIL, your ds's car accident, the infection in your wound...everything!!! Recovering from surgery hasn't been easy for you, the last thing you needed was more stuff to deal with. Will keep you in my prayers!! Quote
J-rap Posted April 25, 2016 Posted April 25, 2016 After a day or two of PMS exacerbating my regular "life is hard" blues (because, frankly, it is) I found out that my ex-SIL(brother's ex-wife) passed away after a long battle with cancer and that the wake was today. I was very nervous about attending this because my xSIL and I were not on good terms. (Her daughter did not invite me to her wedding, but invited lots of cousins and their "plus ones." ) But my nephew and I are close so I knew I had to be there. So, after trying on 4 different outfits to see what still fit after my 3 months on the couch and that wouldn't look too terrible with my post-op shoe for my injured ankle, I settled on a nicer pair of yoga pants and a flowey blouse (that had a major static cling problem.) Well, my worries were for nothing. There was no tension. Only tears, memories, and laughter. My niece hugged me and we cried. The prayer service was beautiful. Dh was a little broken up - he was closer to my xSIL than me (no bad blood there) and he lost his dad 9 months ago. The one good thing about wakes and funerals is that I get to see people that I wouldn't ordinarily see. My other brother's family came in for the funeral since the two SILs were close friends. We decided to go out to dinner with them. Our 22yos was supposed to meet us there. Our plans came to an abrupt end when we got a text that he was in a car accident on the way. Ds is OK. A passenger in the other car had minor injuries, but did go to the hospital. He was turning left and didn't see the oncoming car in the glare - a silver car - man those jump out of nowhere. The axle is likely broken and the transmission may have been knocked off its bearings. This may mean total loss. Then we found out that ds only has liability since the car is only worth $5k. (He just bought the car used about 6 weeks ago.) Trying to remain unemotional about that part even though we would have made a different decision about covereage. He is an adult and this was his first car that he bought. I get to watch my son do all those "adulting" things like talk to the police and insurance. ETA: I am so thankful that he is ok and that there weren't any serious injuries. Sorry for everything. :grouphug: The same thing happened to my then 22-year-old dd two years ago with her car and finding she had no collision insurance. She was turning left, too, into a busy street full of traffic. I'm so glad he is okay though. I hope your foot recovers quickly! Quote
Tap Posted April 25, 2016 Posted April 25, 2016 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: That was much more than just one days worth of crud! Hope tomorrow's appointment goes well and while the discovery of puss is not good, at least you can now start to get on top of it instead of it festering longer. (((for his car)) and I hope he doesn't hurt to much tomorrow. Quote
fraidycat Posted April 25, 2016 Posted April 25, 2016 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: Sheesh, it is just one thing after another for you this year, isn't it? I really, sincerely, from the bottom of my heart hope that all the dark clouds are done for you and yours for a long, long, loooong time and it is nothing but silver linings, sunshine, and rainbows from here on out!! :grouphug: Quote
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