JAWM - When life gives you lemons, the other party doesn't get to take credit for the lemonade!!

[elegantlion]

Feel free to add your own version of the above as I know I'm not alone. Had to spend some time with "other party" yesterday who proceeded to tell me they were glad I was pursuing my "passions" and that almost made all the lemons they created worth it (in different words, sort of).

 

If I had not been driving I might have just walked away before I smacked them. I love being in college, I adore history and I'm actually good at studying history. HOWEVER!!! This is not what I had planned for this juncture in my life. I wanted to be working part-time, finishing the novels I have drafted, and finishing homeschooling ds in a positive manner instead of the hurry up and graduate manner we ended up doing. 

 

I could not believe the passive-aggressive, selfish view that they could somehow take credit for my batch of lemonade!!! :cursing:  :cursing:  :cursing: 

 

So if you are getting lemons, here's what is supposed to be a fabulous lemonade recipe.*  http://allrecipes.com/recipe/32385/best-lemonade-ever/

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

*disclaimer: I know nothing about making actual real lemonade  :lol:

[J-rap]

Not the same situation, but this would be mine:

 

"When life gives you lemons, stop telling me I can make lemonade with them!"   :)

 

 

 

BTW, I LOVE mint-lemonade, and this recipe with mint and ginger looks especially delicious!

 

http://www.epicurious.com/recipes/food/views/fresh-mint-and-ginger-lemonade-200546

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

[marbel]

Ugh!  People like that drive me crazy.   I hope you feel confident that you made your own lemonade despite that individual's "help."

 

ETA:  I like to keep some simple syrup and lemons around in the summer.  Then we can make lemonade to taste, by the glass.  If I need a lot of lemonade...  I buy it.  :-)

Edited April 3, 2016 by marbel

[Kfamily]

Aww, I'm sorry. :( That's so frustrating! I can relate to the feeling, but with different circumstances.

Edited April 3, 2016 by Kfamily

[nd293]

After that conversation is be tempted to skip the lemonade and go make some limoncello!

 

http://www.thekitchn.com/how-to-make-limoncello-cooking-lessons-from-the-kitchn-197694

[Guest]

For real. I get the impression some people think that in the saying, "when god closes a door he opens a window" they think THEY are the god character, and also that you dont need any doors if you have enough windows.

 

((()))

[Crimson Wife]

:thumbdown: :thumbdown: :thumbdown: :thumbdown:

 

It is one thing to include a compliment on how well the ex is coping as part of an APOLOGY for causing the life upheaval. Quite another to pass it off as an "isn't it great?" thing without acknowledging the role the individual played in causing pain. :mad:

 

I've heard some awkwardly phrased "sorry your daughter is going deaf but hey, it's great you're finally going back to school and will have a 'real' career!" but at least there was the attempt made to acknowledge the lemons.

[Amira]

Give them a nice paper cut and pour lemon juice on it?

[KungFuPanda]

Feel free to add your own version of the above as I know I'm not alone. Had to spend some time with "other party" yesterday who proceeded to tell me they were glad I was pursuing my "passions" and that almost made all the lemons they created worth it (in different words, sort of).

 

If I had not been driving I might have just walked away before I smacked them. I love being in college, I adore history and I'm actually good at studying history. HOWEVER!!! This is not what I had planned for this juncture in my life. I wanted to be working part-time, finishing the novels I have drafted, and finishing homeschooling ds in a positive manner instead of the hurry up and graduate manner we ended up doing.

 

I could not believe the passive-aggressive, selfish view that they could somehow take credit for my batch of lemonade!!! :cursing: :cursing: :cursing:

 

So if you are getting lemons, here's what is supposed to be a fabulous lemonade recipe.* http://allrecipes.com/recipe/32385/best-lemonade-ever/

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

*disclaimer: I know nothing about making actual real lemonade :lol:

 

WOW! I'm hearing "Aren't you glad I bombed your city? This new one you built is really nice. You should thank me." What the . . .

Edited April 3, 2016 by KungFuPanda

[Laurie4b]

The only person who gets to reflect on silver linings or lemonade is the person who suffered/is suffering. Bystanders, not just cause agents, do this as well. "If x (bad thing) hadn't happened, you wouldn't be able to do y (good thing.)"  Saying stuff like that minimizes x. And how do they know that there wouldn't have been an alternate path to y?  Any dots that they want to connect are fine. By-standers should just be happy alongside the person when the good things come and sad alongside the person with the bad things.  Let people find their own silver linings/lemonade.

 

But if the cause agent of the pain says it, that's just  :thumbdown: .  

 

 

[Lady Florida.]

Wow. As my grandmother would have said, "OtherParty has some gall". :grouphug:  

[VaKim]

Wow! How brazen!

 

I saw something the other day on Facebook. It said something like, "If life does not also give you water and sugar, that lemonade is gonna be pretty nasty."

[Valley Girl]

Wow! How brazen!

 

I saw something the other day on Facebook. It said something like, "If life does not also give you water and sugar, that lemonade is gonna be pretty nasty."

 

Filing this one away for those moments when I need a snappy comment and my mind blanks. This is fabulous!

[Rosie_0801]

I could not believe the passive-aggressive, selfish view that they could somehow take credit for my batch of lemonade!!! :cursing:  :cursing:  :cursing:

 

Well, if the other party is useless and wimpish enough to be unable to make lemonade even if three glasses and a jug of the stuff were sitting on the bench in front of them, what else can they do to cope with life?

 

:ack2:

[Anne in CA]

I am soo with you on this one.

[elegantlion]

To go with my lemonade, I finishing off the peanut butter &  chocolate ice cream. It's yummy. 

[Danestress]

I can hear my mother saying, "well, he has the nerve of a fiddle factory."

[Carol in Cal.]

What a .... (I can think of several ways to fill in that blank.  They all apply.)

[Ausmumof3]

The trouble is to make decent lemonade you need some sugar and some bubbles unless they're fairly sweet anyway...

[trulycrabby]

I hope you told him what an a$$hat he is. :mad:

[myfunnybunch]

Yeah.

 

:grouphug:

 

My storm cloud, raining on my parade person told me recently, "You need to look on the bright side." There is no bright side if the cloud is constantly blocking the sun, bozo.

 

I should just take my parade elsewhere. Perhaps to the bright side.