Since so many of us have lost parents and miss them terribly...

[Halftime Hope]

I was standing at my counter this morning, wishing I could talk to my mom and share something fun with her. 

 

What is something you wish you could tell your parent?  It doesn't have to be big or profound or earthshaking, just something that you know would make their day, were they still alive.

 

Mine (the thought which prompted this thread):

 

Mom, you'd be tickled pink to know that your cornbread recipe was a hit with a family I shared it with.  I made it to go with a meal after a hospital stay, and the big double recipe was gone in one sitting, eaten by them and all the people coming in and out of their house!  The daughter of the family, recent immigrants from Cuba, asked for the recipe, Mom.  I'd thought you'd get a kick out of that!

 

[Edited to make more sense than my first post.]

Edited March 31, 2016 by Halftime Hope

[Night Elf]

I lost my dad when I was 21 and we lived in different states so I didn't really get to know him as an adult. I'd love to tell him I have fond memories of being a little girl and him making me feel so special. He always told me I could do anything I wanted to do and that I was very smart. That's always stayed with me.

[Faithr]

My parents died years ago but I still miss them every day and dream about them a lot.  They just show up in my dreams, often not even the point of the dream, they just happen to be there.  But I can see them so clearly and hear their voices.  

 

I wish my mom could have met my youngest dd.  She was born after my mom died.  It was on the same hospital floor but instead of going left to the room down the hall where my mom died, I went straight ahead into the labor and delivery hall.  The whole time I was having my dd I kept thinking my mom died just around the corner from here last year.  It was sad and yet I felt like my mom was with me somehow.  I make it a point to tell my dd a lot of stories about the grandmother she never knew.  Maybe one day in heaven they'll recognize each other!

[RebeccaS]

I know it's not quite the same, but I lost an aunt who was like a mother to me.  She supported my fostering when my own parents didn't.  We had our little guy placed with us as a foster placement when she died.  I'd love to tell her that he ended up staying after all and we love him to bits.  Really, I'd give anything to just see her one more time.  

[Kristie in Florida]

"My baby has your eyes."

 

 

 

Okay, now I'm tearing up.

[Annie G]

Mom always worried that she wasn't a good enough parent. I wish I could tell her that she was a fine mom and that the choices we kids made as adults aren't a reflection of her parenting. We just sometimes do dumb stuff. 

 

Also, I wish I could acknowledge how hard she must have worked to keep my dad in check.  I don't think he changed when Mom passed away, I think he was always a jerk but she kept him in line.  Thanks, Mom. It's hard accepting what a true jerk he can be but it's easier to deal with in my 50's than it would have been as a child. 

 

And lastly I would just want to tell her one more time that I love her. 

[HRAAB]

I wish my parents could see what an awesome mom their oldest granddaughter is and her beautiful children. Family was the most important thing for my parents, and I know this would make them so happy.

[mom2att]

I don't have anything specific or earth-shattering that I'd like to share, just the general day-to-day life things that my mom has missed. In the 18 months since she's been gone, my boys have gotten taller than me, my daughter has finished her second year of college, and my sister has welcomed her 4th and 5th grandchildren, with 2 more on the way. My mom loved being a part of everything with her family, and every day I think of something I'd like to share with her.

[ErinE]

I miss you.

[ScoutTN]

Yesterday would have been my Dad's 84th birthday. He died 19 years ago and I still miss him and think of him often.

He never met my Dh or my kids, his only grandchildren.   :crying:

[Night Elf]

There are still good people down here.

 

That doesn't mean we can't miss the ones who have left. That's normal.

[Mothersweets]

:crying:  You guys have me tearing up but in a good way.

 

My mom has been gone for 33 years and I so wish she could have met my dh and children. She would have been a wonderful grandmother. 

 

My dad has been gone 9 years. He was a reader and I wish I could share the Master and Commander book series with him - he would have loved it.

[marbel]

My mom died in 2002; Saturday would be her 100th birthday!

 

I still think of her a lot.  I think of my dad (died in 1991) too, but not as much. My mother and I had a great relationship.

 

Still, I wish I could apologize for times I was impatient with her.  I wish she could see my kids, who were so young when she died.  She was almost 40 when I was born, and I was 41 when my first was born, but my older siblings had their kids at "normal" ages, so she had a lot more time with those grandkids than with mine.

 

For a long time after she died, I would think "I have to call mom to tell her about---nope."  Those times were hard.  It's still hard. 

 

[Halftime Hope]

My mom passed away two years ago, but it's still very fresh, as we were so close!  Dad has been gone only a few weeks, but at least I have video of him on my phone. 

 

I'd take mom out to CA, and we'd go visit a waterfall or two with dd -- mom loved waterfalls, and surprisingly, dd seems to have inherited that gene.  :001_wub:

 

[Joker]

My dad has been gone 16 years. I mostly would just love to see him with both dds. He was so crazy about my oldest but she was only a few months old when he died.

 

I also would love to hug him. He gave the best hugs.

[OneStepAtATime]

I wish Dad were here to swim with the kids (lifeguard in his youth) and share stories about history with them. He was a great storyteller and loved history.

[catz]

My dad died a year ago in April.  I miss him in many ways, but this way makes me giggle.  He would have LOVED to rant and rave and discuss the election cycle this year.  Having him around would make the whole mess a bunch more tolerable!  :lol: :001_wub:

[happi duck]

"Hey Mom! I finally get the shower thing!"

 

"Hey Dad! We're starting a compost bin!"

 

I miss my parents so much.

[earthyfamily]

I was pregnant with my third and last child when my mom died. When she died, we weren't sure if I was going to miscarry or not (subchorionic hemorrhaging for the first 20 weeks).  It always makes me sad that she never knew that DD was carried to full time and is now a sweet 12 year old.

Not exactly on topic, but I miss my mom's voice. I can't remember what it sounds like 12 years later now. I wish I had a recording of it. :( It's very odd to me that I can't remember because we talked nearly everyday and I can still remember my dad's voice (he died 5 years ago).

[Miss Mousie]

Posting without reading -

 

Just yesterday I "pointed out" to both of my parents that their daffodils were starting to bloom in my yard. 

 

 

 

[Miss Mousie]

My parents died years ago but I still miss them every day and dream about them a lot.  They just show up in my dreams, often not even the point of the dream, they just happen to be there.  But I can see them so clearly and hear their voices.  

 

 

Me too!  I *love* it when they show up in my dreams.  My dad in particular is always funny.  My mom can be just there sometimes.

[MooCow]

You were right Mom. :)

[LucyStoner]

If my mom were alive she would only be 62 this May. She died of a cancer at age 55. I can't even begin to list the things that I tell her everyday in my head.

 

We would really love to have her here with us. She would have loved to see her grandkids grow up. 6 of her 7 grandkids were 7 or younger when she died. My younger son and one of nieces were just 5 months old. I like her to see that my youngest got her wit.

Edited March 31, 2016 by LucyStoner

[Lady Florida.]

:grouphug: Hugs to all who are missing one or both parents.

 

My father died when I was 14. It's been almost 46 years. I never had an adult relationship with him so I don't really know the kind of things we'd talk about if he had lived.

 

My mother on the other hand, has only been gone almost 8 years (in an odd coincidence both died in the month of June). We called each other all the time over little things and I still think I want to pick up the phone and tell her something. The other day when I heard that Patty Duke died, I thought of how whichever one of us heard it first would have called the other and said, "Did you hear that Patty Duke died?" It's all those little insignificant things that I still want to talk to her about. 

[mamiof5]

Not sure if my dad is alive. Would love to see him and say "I forgive you".