Entropymama Posted March 4, 2016 Share Posted March 4, 2016 For those following my little drama, my dad passed last June. I have been in only sporadic contact with my stepmom since then - not because I don't like her, quite the opposite, but because it's so danged hard to call and know my dad won't answer. And then have to talk about stuff, which I don't do well. The whole thing is a big, emotional mess. The last time I called was Christmas and I haven't gotten up the courage to face the emotions since. I called her last night! It was great! We cried! I feel so much better now. 30 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tsuga Posted March 4, 2016 Share Posted March 4, 2016 That is really brave of you. :grouphug: I may have already expressed my condolences, but I am sorry about your loss. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MinivanMom Posted March 4, 2016 Share Posted March 4, 2016 I am so happy you were able to make the call, and it went well. And I am so sorry for your loss. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
catz Posted March 4, 2016 Share Posted March 4, 2016 My father died last year too. I find for myself often the anticipation of something is worse than the actual thing. :grouphug: I'm glad you called! 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Suzanne in ABQ Posted March 4, 2016 Share Posted March 4, 2016 Yeah, sometimes we put so much emotional energy into "thinking about calling" that we make it much harder on ourselves. Sometimes its better to just stop thinking and make the call. So easy to say, and so hard to do! I'm glad you and your step-mom had a healing conversation. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Entropymama Posted March 4, 2016 Author Share Posted March 4, 2016 Thanks guys! It's been a huge blessing to have these boards to come to. You guys are awesome. WoolySocks, I hadn't heard that. I'm so sorry. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
goldberry Posted March 4, 2016 Share Posted March 4, 2016 I'm glad you did that. MIL remarried and was an amazing grandma to both her own and her new husband's grandkids. Very close with them all. When her husband died, his side of the family had such a hard time with it, because of the reasons you are describing, they basically abandoned her. They wouldn't come to the house any more, at all, because it was too painful. They didn't call often, because the didn't want to be reminded. So, MIL lost not only her husband, but also an extended family that she had basically adopted as her own. It has been very hard on her. You did the right thing. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rachel Posted March 5, 2016 Share Posted March 5, 2016 Oh I'm glad you called. I'm sorry for your loss. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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