I have mentioned how I hate being in limbo, right? (Update in original post!)

[Jenny in Florida]

Update:

 

I'm out of limbo!

 

Details in my most recent post here: http://forums.welltrainedmind.com/topic/587074-small-in-the-grand-scheme-but-if-you-can-spare-a-few-good-thoughts/?p=6865321

 

However, the short version is that I got the job I really wanted. They officially offered it to me today. I'm still a little bit in shock, but so relieved to be done with job hunting! I start training next week.

 

Thanks for listening to my whining and venting and for the sympathy and good wishes!

 

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I had two job interviews last week. One I thought went reasonably well, and the other (for the job I thought I really wanted) was distinctly not great. Managers at both places told me I could expect to hear from them one way or the other in about two weeks. So, yes, technically, we're still within that window.

 

Oh, and I should mention that I also traded phone calls and e-mails for two weeks with a temp agency I've worked with before. In theory, we were in the process of setting up training so I could do six weeks of nearly full-time work, which would have fit rather neatly into my existing schedule and provided a nice remporary boost to my poor, suffering bank account.

 

Because last week's second interview felt so yucky, I made my peace with the idea that I wasn't going to get an offer from that place, but I figured I had a really decent chance at the other one.

 

Meanwhile, the temp agency has stopped responding to my calls. 

 

In fact, my phone hasn't been ringing at all.

 

So, of course, I have gone back to frantically sending resumes and online applications to employers.

 

Then I got a follow-up question from the manager at the preferred job. 

 

Then I found out she is checking my references.

 

Today, I was barely able to focus on anything. The fact that I might still need to wait for another week before I hear anything definite from either of the places I interviewed is making me crazy.

 

And then, of course, there's the fact that our son's 18th birthday is coming up in three weeks, and we wanted to do something really cool for him (equivalent to what we did for his big sister), but the drop in my income is putting a rather big crimp in that plan (as in, we can't manage it without putting a big chunk on the credit card we've been working extremely hard to pay down). 

 

Don't get me wrong: I don't need either/any of these jobs to keep the wolf from our door. However, over the last year, we have kind of gotten used to what I was making, and now that I gave up the other part-time job and my primary gig is being very stingy with hours, I'm feeling pretty stressed. 

 

Argh, would I like this job hunting thing to be over!

 

 

 

 

 

Edited March 2, 2016 by Jenny in Florida

[Laura Corin]

It's hard.  During Husband's multiple job searches we have always had to remind ourselves that completing the hiring process is usually much more important to us than it is to the companies: it's usually buried in a manager's in-tray under more pressing requirements.

 

Good luck!

[myfunnybunch]

:grouphug:

 

I know, it really stinks to have to wait for that phone call! Hang in there.

[fraidycat]

Limbo sucks! I hope you here good news soon.

[Jenny in Florida]

Just in case anyone is following my saga:

 

Yesterday, I got the official "thanks but no" e-mail from the place at which I thought the interview went well. This was the lower-paying job with the less attractive scheduling, but I truly thought I had a very good chance at being offered the job. And I was more or less considering it my fall-back if/when the other place turned me down. So, it shook me quite a bit to get that rejection.

 

I haven't heard from the folks at my preferred place since they asked for an additional professional reference last week. (I had listed only one, because one of my current employers has a policy of not providing references beyond verifying employment dates and such, and I didn't think it was worthwhile to list more than one person from the same employer. So, I had to scramble a bit to come up with another name, but I did, and she thanked me for getting back to her so quickly. So, it felt like that went well.) With every day that passes since our last contact, I get more convinced they are not going to offer me the job.

 

I've sent out applications and resumes to a bunch more places in the last week and haven't heard a peep from anyone.

 

The temp agency person still hasn't called me back.

 

Don't mind me. I'm just floating around here in limbo . . .

[fraidycat]

:grouphug: I'm sorry. :(

[Tsuga]

I'm sorry about the first job, but checking references is good, right?

 

I wish you good luck and sorry about limbo.

[MercyA]

Hope you get the news you're hoping for soon!  :grouphug:  :grouphug:  :grouphug:

[NorthwestMom]

I hope that everything will at least resolve one way or the other for you. I also HATE being in limbo. :grouphug:

[elegantlion]

Limbo sucks, I'm sorry. 

[ktgrok]

Ugh, so sorry!

[TravelingChris]

I hope you get a job soon.

[myfunnybunch]

Rats. Crossing my fingers and toes and eyes for you. Waiting stinks.

[Acadie]

It's so hard! You just never know what's happening on the other end. Sometimes what seems like a sure thing with all good signs does not come through, and sometimes you hear nothing from an organization that calls you with a great offer out of the blue.  

 

Would it help at all to think of this phase not so much as a job search but a spiritual practice? One where the goal is for you to keep putting yourself out there and remaining open to the kind of life and work the universe is calling you toward. If you meditate, do yoga, or workout, get your zen on!

 

Thanks for sharing your journey here. I'm looking for very part-time writing gigs now, and will be in your shoes in a few years, wanting and needing to move to another level with my work. It's heartening to hear how other people navigate their own processes.

 

Amy

[LibraryLover]

I know you will find something. You have a lot to offer!

[Jenny in Florida]

Thanks again, everyone.

 

I went to my endocrinologist today to follow up on my wonky thyroid (the issue that was supposed to be resolved by the radioactive iodine ablation I did almost a year ago). He made the mistake of asking me how my employment situation is (because we've chatted about it during past appointments), and he seemed a little taken aback when I began to laugh just a little bit hysterically.

 

It doesn't help my general mood that my most recent lab work shows the RIA hasn't actually worked. I mean, I knew I was still having symptoms, but it was not a happy thing to see the numbers in black and white on the lab report. Since the doctor is still hoping to avoid surgery, I'm going back on the methimazole (you know, the medication they told me was not safe to stay on long-term in order to encourage me to do the RIA?) while we "wait and see" whether the situation finally resolves itself in another six months or so.

 

More limbo. Yay.

[Lilaclady]

Hoping things turn around soon for the better. You have been quite resilient through this and it is encouraging.

[Guest]

That sucks on multiple levels. I can handle all sorts of stress but the waiting room/limbo/paper purgatory isn't one of them. That's a lot of disappointments and weirdness in a short period of time and frustration is absolutely warranted.

[Tsuga]

Man oh man. I am truly sorry. I would go have a good cry in your situation. Not forever but for like an hour or two. Limbo IS hard and here you are just floating in medical and employment limbo. Ugh.

[Arcadia]

:grouphug: Good luck!!!

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[mominco]

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