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I am looking for books with characters that dd can relate to...  

 

Maybe books with a coming of age theme?  Maybe books with characters who overcome family upheaval (divorce)?  Maybe books with strong girls as a main character? 

 

You know the kinds of books I am talking about - those that change the way you see life and yourself, especially during those middle school years.  Those books that you call a friend and help create a sense of self.  

 

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I would look at the recs on A Mighty Girl under the Life Circumstances tab. From there you can choose a myriad of different specifics that you'd like a book to touch on. There's also good reads' listopia...tons on coming of age books lists or lists about strong female leads.

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Seconding I Capture the Castle (obviously as I named my blog after it!).

 

Traveling Pants and all the Joan Bauer books are also good suggestions. Also some of the Sarah Dessen books. How about Every Soul a Star by Wendy Mass?

 

At that age, I was obsessed with everything by Madeleine L'Engle, but especially A Ring of Endless Light and Camilla.

 

Some girls that age, if they're fantasy types, get super into the Tamora Pierce books. I think you were mostly asking about "real world" books, but there's a real value in escape books too and I think a lot of kids this age want nothing more than serious good and evil fantasy in order to work out their ideas of what's right and wrong in the world. Warning, there is some very ungraphic s*x in some of them as the characters reach young adulthood. I like to advocate for them though because one of the cool things Pierce did was create female characters who all choose different paths with romance and s*x.

 

In that fantasy vein, the Young Wizards series is another that's right for this age.

 

 

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Everything by Rebecca Stead.  When You Reach Me, Liar and Spy, First Light and Goodbye Stranger. Perfect for girls this age, coming of age, thinking about your identity and how you are going to be in the world.  Shannon and I just finished reading Goodbye Stranger and it was really a wonderful book.  I'll ask Shannon for more suggestions when she wakes up.

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I will say my absolute #1 for that age and issues would be The Wee Free Men and the Other Tiffany Aching books!!

 

Ocean at the End of the Lane, Coraline, I would say the Percy Jackson books (lots of missing and dysfunctional family stuff and both female and male protagonists), anything Judy Blume, Wise Child, The Secret Life of Bees, and Cinder. 

 

My teen daughter said Hunger Games, The Rithmatist, Little Women, A Year Down Yonder, A Tree Grows in Brooklyn (check for maturity), Sweetness at the Bottom of the Pie, The Golden Compass (coming of age, parents), Gregor the Overlander (main boy protagonist but lots of girls).  She wants to reiterate that Little Women is one of THE best books ever and her first recommendation here. ;) She also agrees with Tiffany Aching books, Coraline, Percy Jackson, 

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I second Dicey's Song... that one and Homecoming were two that really helped me at that age.

 

I Capture the Castle is definitely one of my favorites too.

 

Two of my favorite protagonists!

 

I swore there were old threads listing books with favorite female protagonists - I would love to hear everyone's favorites.  

 

I got Dicey's Song from the library today.  Should I have gotten Homecoming instead, as that is the first in the series?  

 

I Capture the Castle is on hold and I will likely read Little Women aloud next week.  I also picked up Every Soul A Star by Wendy Mass.  

 

Thanks all!

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I swore there were old threads listing books with favorite female protagonists - I would love to hear everyone's favorites.  

 

A few older threads that might be of interest ~

 

from 2010, Book ideas for 11dd - strong women

 

from 2012, Books for 12 year old girls

 

from 2008, Book recommendations needed: for 14 year old young lady

 

from 2008,  What books are your 12 yo daughters reading?

 

Regards,

Kareni

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I would go to your local library and look up books that are biographies about girls/young women.  Of course they will be inspiring, because that's why they were made into books.  Real life books trump non-fiction.  But I do love A Tree Grows in Brooklyn.  :)

 

 

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The Breadwinner (Ellis). The Shakespeare Stealer (Blackwood) has a memorable female character. All-of-a-Kind Family (Taylor).

 

Spunky heroine: Dealing with Dragons trilogy (Wrede).

 

Possibilities: The Fault in Our Stars (Green) has some possibly too-mature themes. The Book Thief (Zusak)?

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A few older threads that might be of interest ~

 

from 2010, Book ideas for 11dd - strong women

 

from 2012, Books for 12 year old girls

 

from 2008, Book recommendations needed: for 14 year old young lady

 

from 2008,  What books are your 12 yo daughters reading?

 

Regards,

Kareni

 

How did you do that?  Find those archived threads???

 

I remember so many of them.  So many book ideas I got from you and Eliana and nmoira (sigh).

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I would go to your local library and look up books that are biographies about girls/young women.  Of course they will be inspiring, because that's why they were made into books.  Real life books trump non-fiction.  But I do love A Tree Grows in Brooklyn.  :)

 

Actually, I know she will love books like I am Malala and those like it!

 

Thanks for the reminder. :)

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How did you do that?  Find those archived threads???

 

I'd remembered recommending Tamora Pierce books in the past on similar threads.  On the search page, I entered

 

Find words: Tamora

 

Find author: Kareni

 

Search in: Live content (initally) and Archives (later)

 

 

Regards,

Kareni

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I'd remembered recommending Tamora Pierce books in the past on similar threads.  On the search page, I entered

 

Find words: Tamora

 

Find author: Kareni

 

Search in: Live content (initally) and Archives (later)

 

 

Regards,

Kareni

 

Who knew??!!

 

Now I can spend all day looking at threads from the old board!

 

Thank you ever so much!

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An Old Fashioned Girl is by the same author as Little Women but is more coming of age/figuring out who you are-ish.

Christy is good

A Girl of the Limberlost ditto

Personally I'm a believer in girls reading boy books and boys reading girl books.  Any story about heroic behavior and kids growing up through facing challenges would be helpful at this age.  That would definitely include LOTR.  There is no harm (and actually a great deal of good) in a girl identifying with the values and decisions of someone like Frodo or Aragorn, even though they are male.  Ditto Harry Potter.

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A Little Princess

Understood Betsy  (we still laugh at the "dreaded chores")

maybe Heidi (Get the full version, which goes beyond Heidi's return to the mountain and into Clara visiting her and her grandfather's restoration with the village.  A lot of editions stop at about the half way point.)

 

Not exactly what you're asking for, but Swiss Family Robinson really spoke to me about resourcefulness and joy in adversity.

Surviving the Applewhites

 

Shadow Spinner

 

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Don't know if she read Little Women yet. It's old fashioned, but got me through that tough time.

 

 

An Old Fashioned Girl is by the same author as Little Women but is more coming of age/figuring out who you are-ish.

 

 

Was just going to add this one to the list. I read and re-read all of LMA's books in junior high and high school, but an Old Fashioned Girl is my all-time favorite, though I dearly love Jo too. I related to Polly a lot though--wanting to fit in, not fitting in, figuring out that compromising one's values to fit in is not worth it... and I loved the growth in the characters over time, even characters you didn't think would change--and then also seeing that some people don't change as well. A lot of depth in that book. 

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