Melissa in Australia Posted August 23, 2015 Share Posted August 23, 2015 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bzymom Posted August 26, 2015 Share Posted August 26, 2015 I am praying for you and your Squishy, for permanence and peace. Please keep us updated, and know many thoughts are with you during these days. :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cintinative Posted August 26, 2015 Share Posted August 26, 2015 Praying for you! We love so deeply and intensely those who we are given to care for--I can't even imagine your feelings right now. Please know you are being prayed for. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
goldberry Posted August 26, 2015 Share Posted August 26, 2015 Any updates, Pamela? 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
applethyme Posted August 27, 2015 Share Posted August 27, 2015 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mom25girls Posted August 27, 2015 Share Posted August 27, 2015 I've been praying for you and wishing that I could think of something that could somehow bring you peace.I can't. I'm so sorry that you're going through this ...again. Praying that your wee one stays home and that you have many years to love on him. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
abba12 Posted August 27, 2015 Share Posted August 27, 2015 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pamela H in Texas Posted August 27, 2015 Author Share Posted August 27, 2015 Thanks y'all. Still no word. The CASA worker was going to call them yesterday. I don't know if that happened or what happened with it. My guess is that 1) she wasn't able to call, 2) she wasn't able to get them, 3) nothing big happened because of it. Its gonna be a process, I'd guess. Hopefully a fairly short one. 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Melissa in Australia Posted August 28, 2015 Share Posted August 28, 2015 :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
No More Perfect Posted August 28, 2015 Share Posted August 28, 2015 Still thinking of, and praying for, you! :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
displace Posted August 28, 2015 Share Posted August 28, 2015 Hugs and 😓 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
idnib Posted August 28, 2015 Share Posted August 28, 2015 :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
*Lulu* Posted August 28, 2015 Share Posted August 28, 2015 Just seeing this today- (((Pamela))) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
QuirkyKapers Posted August 29, 2015 Share Posted August 29, 2015 O my word! I remember what happened with Monkey! I am sorry that this is happening again. :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mommy22alyns Posted August 29, 2015 Share Posted August 29, 2015 Praying for you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pamela H in Texas Posted August 29, 2015 Author Share Posted August 29, 2015 CASA talked to them. They didn't ask what was next but CASA told them CPS would be in contact with them. CASA did tell them his issues, specialists, and therapists. She also said that he is doing so well because of us. So we wait. Thanks for all the support still :) We send so many kids to where they are supposed to be; but SOME kids are *supposed to be* here! Squishy most certainly is supposed to be here. Family is family and blood isn't the only way to make a family. 7 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ottakee Posted August 29, 2015 Share Posted August 29, 2015 CASA talked to them. They didn't ask what was next but CASA told them CPS would be in contact with them. CASA did tell them his issues, specialists, and therapists. She also said that he is doing so well because of us. So we wait. Thanks for all the support still :) We send so many kids to where they are supposed to be; but SOME kids are *supposed to be* here! Squishy most certainly is supposed to be here. Family is family and blood isn't the only way to make a family. The waiting is so hard. You are right, there are many kids we let go as that is what is best for them, but there are some that really need to stay. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KungFuPanda Posted August 29, 2015 Share Posted August 29, 2015 I'm so sorry. Didn't know about Monkey's rad diagnosis. Do you get frequent updates about her? I'm really praying that Squishy gets a happier resolution. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RioSamba Posted August 29, 2015 Share Posted August 29, 2015 Prayed for all of you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Melissa in Australia Posted August 30, 2015 Share Posted August 30, 2015 :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pamela H in Texas Posted September 18, 2015 Author Share Posted September 18, 2015 UPDATE: My lawyer contacted the CPS supervisor to ask what is happening regarding the out-of-state relative. Basically, the CPS supervisor also contacted them after court and they still haven't shown any real interest in pursuing placement (and it has now been 4 additional weeks since court). My lawyer asked if that means we can proceed with the adoption. The supervisor was unsure. She thought maybe they needed to get the judge's permission in order to do so. So that was my lawyer's update she left on my voicemail yesterday (I didn't catch the phone). I called back and left a voicemail in reply. I told her I thought two things should happen: 1) The supervisor should just straight up ask the family if they have any intention on pursuing placement of Squishy. If they say no, then we're in the clear and can just go about life. 2) If she can't get a straight answer, then a hearing should be requested for the judge to make a ruling or give direction. The next scheduled hearing isn't until FEBRUARY which would be ridiculous to wait for. I think the family probably originally called regarding the new baby (biomom is preggo). They didn't push the issue originally because they were talking about an unborn child. They accidentally caused this hoopla about Squishy. Maybe then they had some interest but between his "issues" and the fact that we've had him so long (so can fight for him), they don't really care to pursue placement of him. But they don't likely realize they are holding up his permanency by not being upfront and clear that they aren't interested in pursuing placement of him. Anyway, so we wait. 7 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
creekland Posted September 18, 2015 Share Posted September 18, 2015 Thanks for the update. Best wishes on a positive outcome. Your thoughts sound quite reasonable. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
abba12 Posted September 18, 2015 Share Posted September 18, 2015 This.... sounds like a positive update. I'm so very hopeful it is. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ottakee Posted September 18, 2015 Share Posted September 18, 2015 I just hate that limbo land. It is so hard not knowing all what will happen and waiting on a very slow court system. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pink and Green Mom Posted September 18, 2015 Share Posted September 18, 2015 I really don't know how you do it. I wish I had that sort of wherewithal. You are amazing. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Laurie4b Posted September 18, 2015 Share Posted September 18, 2015 So sorry. :grouphug: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Scarlett Posted September 18, 2015 Share Posted September 18, 2015 Praying for a sensible outcome. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pamela H in Texas Posted October 20, 2015 Author Share Posted October 20, 2015 UPDATE: Caseworker came yesterday. She has been contacting the relatives weekly, unable to get an answer about whether they are going to pursue placement of Squishy or not. I really do feel for them. Can you really deny a child, the child of your brother? And yet, they get that he has been here for 15 months, that we can provide well for him, that we can do all the therapies, the surgery, etc. We have also offered openness (seriously, a child cannot have too many people loving them and what did the extended family do wrong?). Anyway, the supervisor has said that they can give the family til the end of the month. That will make it just over 3 months from their initial call--a good faith try to give them an opportunity to make a decision. It also gives them an out. They don't *have* to say no to trying to get him. They can just let time run out. And they will STILL get the call about the new baby (I will badger the new baby's caseworker like crazy until that call is made because I'm not going to be sitting in THIS position a year from now about yet another child!). Nov 2nd, if they haven't said otherwise, the caseworker will send off our subsidy paperwork. We will have missed the deadline to make it for National Adoption Day. Our lawyer says to keep her in the loop, that maybe she can pull some strings. We'll see. We actually have another little hiccup to slow things down slightly. Our agency is closing AND we moved. So our current agency is doing the update on our homestudy from our move so the caseworker will have a homestudy done within 30 days and that is accurate for the subsidy negotiation. But our new agency will do the official homestudy for the adoption itself. She said that she can come do it on the 1st or the 7th depending on when she gets the files from our current agency. If it was done the 1st, we may well be able to push through for National Adoption Day if the subsidy negotiation is done in time. We'll just have to see :) Anyway, so that is the update :) 17 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Okra Posted October 20, 2015 Share Posted October 20, 2015 Good luck! Hopefully everything will settle down soon! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Heatherwith4 Posted October 20, 2015 Share Posted October 20, 2015 Thx for updating! Praying everything goes smoothly. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SproutMamaK Posted October 20, 2015 Share Posted October 20, 2015 Good luck! Less than 2 weeks to go until you'll have an answer... I'm sorry you've had to live in limbo for this long already, but you're in the home stretch now! Hoping you can get the homestudy done on the 1st and have everything ready in time for National Adoption Day! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
idnib Posted October 20, 2015 Share Posted October 20, 2015 Thanks for the update! Continuing to hope for a good outcome. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
scholastica Posted October 20, 2015 Share Posted October 20, 2015 Praying for you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post Pamela H in Texas Posted October 20, 2015 Author Popular Post Share Posted October 20, 2015 TIME TO THROW A PARTY!!!!!!!!!!! Caseworker called! Uncle decided it was in Wyatt's best interest to be adopted by us! This gives us two extra weeks to get it done so though we missed the subsidy deadline, still very possible with a string or two pulled. So goal is Nov 21st! I cried and cried. I know it was so hard for Uncle to do. But I'm so thankful they put our sweet baby first! So so so thankful today :) Benjamin Wyatt will be officially ours soon! YAY! 118 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Slache Posted October 20, 2015 Share Posted October 20, 2015 Oh, now I'm crying too! Congratulations! Our whole church was praying and will be thrilled to hear! 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Word Nerd Posted October 20, 2015 Share Posted October 20, 2015 Uncle decided it was in Wyatt's best interest to be adopted by us! Fantastic! :hurray: 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ethel Mertz Posted October 20, 2015 Share Posted October 20, 2015 I vote this the best news of the Hive! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
El... Posted October 20, 2015 Share Posted October 20, 2015 That's fabulous! I'm so glad to hear that! 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Spryte Posted October 20, 2015 Share Posted October 20, 2015 Wonderful news!!!! 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sharpie Posted October 20, 2015 Share Posted October 20, 2015 That is wonderful news!!! Absolutely thrilled for you and your son!!! Congratulations!!! :hurray::party: 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pink and Green Mom Posted October 20, 2015 Share Posted October 20, 2015 What wonderful news for your family! Congratulations!! :party: 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HelenNotOfTroy Posted October 20, 2015 Share Posted October 20, 2015 What wonderful news! So happy for your family. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RioSamba Posted October 20, 2015 Share Posted October 20, 2015 PTL & Congratulations!!! 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Anne in CA Posted October 20, 2015 Share Posted October 20, 2015 That makes my whole day! I am so happy for you! 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Heatherwith4 Posted October 20, 2015 Share Posted October 20, 2015 Hooray! 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Eagle Posted October 20, 2015 Share Posted October 20, 2015 :party: Congratulations!!!!!!!!!!!!! :party: 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
umsami Posted October 20, 2015 Share Posted October 20, 2015 Congratulations! What wonderful news. I was adopted 47 years ago this November. My parents said they took me home right before Thanksgiving. :) 9 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ktgrok Posted October 20, 2015 Share Posted October 20, 2015 So happy!!!!! 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cinder Posted October 20, 2015 Share Posted October 20, 2015 Awesome news!!! 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Runningmom80 Posted October 20, 2015 Share Posted October 20, 2015 WOO HOOO!!!!! 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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