DawnM Posted March 31, 2015 Share Posted March 31, 2015 We have a woman who used to be a friend. I say that because she has done some very bizarre things this past year (or we just started noticing it this past year) and we keep our distance. Anyway, last year she said she started a Twitter account for her 11 year old daughter. SHE posts on it as if she is the girl. We found out now that she has started a FB account for her daughter too and it looks very much like she is doing the same thing......posting as if she is the girl (the style of writing and the mannerism are exactly like her own.) But she is posting things like, "I did this very wonderful thing today and Mommy was so proud of me and told me so." or "Mommy made me a special meal today and I felt so special and loved." The girl is 11, not 2. I find the entire thing very odd and creepy. Am I just reading too much into it because I truly don't care for the mother? 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ravin Posted March 31, 2015 Share Posted March 31, 2015 That is wierd and creepy. I don't know about Twitter, but on FB you can report the account as invalid (created for child actually underage, being used as alter ego for parent who has her own FB account). 23 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DawnM Posted March 31, 2015 Author Share Posted March 31, 2015 That is wierd and creepy. I don't know about Twitter, but on FB you can report the account as invalid (created for child actually underage, being used as alter ego for parent who has her own FB account). I am not sure I can prove it. And the child may know.....they are a weird overbearing family and the dynamics are strange. And would they know I reported it? They know I have reported them to someone else. She was so enraged and has a blog where she talks about me (and some others who upset her.) She doesn't know I can see the blog and at this point it is a source of entertainment because she is so off the rails. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
zoobie Posted March 31, 2015 Share Posted March 31, 2015 That poor girl. 7 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BlsdMama Posted March 31, 2015 Share Posted March 31, 2015 Incredibly weird. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Heatherwith4 Posted March 31, 2015 Share Posted March 31, 2015 Definitely weird. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hjffkj Posted March 31, 2015 Share Posted March 31, 2015 Yes it's weird. I'd report it Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SKL Posted March 31, 2015 Share Posted March 31, 2015 It does sound a little ... unstable. I could kind of see starting a fb account for a tween to sort of help them transition into the world of social media, considering it's inevitable they will use it on their own soon enough. But the content would be something both the kid and parent would want their peers seeing. What you have written above does not sound like anything an 11yo would want to say to her peers. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SKL Posted March 31, 2015 Share Posted March 31, 2015 I don't think I'd report it based on what you have written. I'd just hope the girl takes a little more creative control over it soon. :) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PrincessMommy Posted March 31, 2015 Share Posted March 31, 2015 Wow, sounds like a great way for this mom to sabotage any friendships this girl may have. How sad. And yes, I think it's very weird... taking helicopter parenting to a new level. 10 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
J-rap Posted March 31, 2015 Share Posted March 31, 2015 That's very bizarre, and I think her daughter is in for a rough ride. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Word Nerd Posted March 31, 2015 Share Posted March 31, 2015 Yes, it's very weird. I think it would be an overreaction (i.e., being a busybody) to tattle to Facebook about it, though. 3 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
catz Posted March 31, 2015 Share Posted March 31, 2015 Somehow I think the teen years might not go super well in that house. That is completely bizarre. 6 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hikin' Mama Posted March 31, 2015 Share Posted March 31, 2015 Beyond weird. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ravin Posted March 31, 2015 Share Posted March 31, 2015 It's not a court of law, just reporting to FB. As far as I know, FB reports are anonymous with respect to the knowledge of the person being reported on, and I haven't read the burden of the fine print as to where FB considers the burden to lie, but probably on the person with the possibly-invalid account. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SKL Posted March 31, 2015 Share Posted March 31, 2015 I dunno, someone reported me on fb for using a fake name, and I know who that person was. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dmmetler Posted March 31, 2015 Share Posted March 31, 2015 Definitely weird. Having said that, IS the account the child's? We have social media pages for DD's blog/reptile education campaign, and I'm actually the administrator on them (and the about me page states this). Nothing goes on those pages without my approval. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fraidycat Posted March 31, 2015 Share Posted March 31, 2015 That poor girl. I feel sorry for her and any siblings she may have. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Seasider Posted March 31, 2015 Share Posted March 31, 2015 Yes, yes it is really weird. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
*Lulu* Posted March 31, 2015 Share Posted March 31, 2015 Weird might be an understatement. 8 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jean in Newcastle Posted March 31, 2015 Share Posted March 31, 2015 On of the verge of pathological esp. in combination with some of the other stuff you've said. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lang Syne Boardie Posted March 31, 2015 Share Posted March 31, 2015 Weird and possibly criminal. Is she friending her dd's friends through social media, or meeting new people posing as her dd? People shouldn't do the same thing that child predators do if they don't intend to be seen as child predators. 9 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
poppy Posted March 31, 2015 Share Posted March 31, 2015 Maybe she's doing it for grandparents- I know people who have facebook accounts for their cats and their infants. It's wildly inappropriate to do it for a tween/teen, no question. But maybe that is the reason behind her choices? 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Seasider Posted March 31, 2015 Share Posted March 31, 2015 Maybe she's doing it for grandparents- I know people who have facebook accounts for their cats and their infants. It's wildly inappropriate to do it for a tween/teen, no question. But maybe that is the reason behind her choices? If it's for the grandparents, the girl is old enough to post her own content,in her own words (despite it being against fb rules to have an account at that age). 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OneStepAtATime Posted March 31, 2015 Share Posted March 31, 2015 Agree with all the other lovely posters above. Weird. Creepy. Inappropriate. Odd. Super strange. Poor kid. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DawnM Posted March 31, 2015 Author Share Posted March 31, 2015 ok, good, I am not alone in thinking this. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DawnM Posted April 1, 2015 Author Share Posted April 1, 2015 Oh my. Now she is posting (on her own page) about where she works (she teaches) and is bashing her students on FB and telling others how she "put them in their place." UGH. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
*Lulu* Posted April 1, 2015 Share Posted April 1, 2015 Oh my. Now she is posting (on her own page) about where she works (she teaches) and is bashing her students on FB and telling others how she "put them in their place." UGH. That is 15 pounds of bad judgement in a 5 pound sack. 14 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jean in Newcastle Posted April 1, 2015 Share Posted April 1, 2015 It's hard watching a train wreck in progress. 5 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HS Mom in NC Posted April 1, 2015 Share Posted April 1, 2015 Very weird. Usually people who want to keep the grandparents up to speed have a blog or they have their OWN FB page like the rest of us where we post a few photos and write few lines about them in our own names as our own selves. Tibbie beat me to it, but if she's posing as a minor and inviting other minors as friends, law enforcement might investigate if they find out. I'm not assuming she's a pedophile, but plenty of pedophiles do that to contact potential victims. She's at the least a very foolish person. Choosing to praise herself in her child's name is very bizarre behavior. "She who praises herself is a chorus of one." Doing it in her child's hijacked "voice" hints at some sort of emotional/mental instability. 5 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DawnM Posted April 1, 2015 Author Share Posted April 1, 2015 and why, why, why do people LIKE her statuses and say, "you have such a good Mom" or "You are blessed to have your mom" Or on this last rant about her college students on the mom's last post, please post: "You are teaching them a lesson they never learned at home. Good for you!" Are the people posting replies just as Bat Cr*p Crazy as she is? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Word Nerd Posted April 1, 2015 Share Posted April 1, 2015 That's what they make the hide feature for. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DawnM Posted April 1, 2015 Author Share Posted April 1, 2015 That's what they make the hide feature for. I can't. I just can't.......isn't that awful! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rebel Yell Posted April 1, 2015 Share Posted April 1, 2015 and why, why, why do people LIKE her statuses and say, "you have such a good Mom" or "You are blessed to have your mom" Or on this last rant about her college students on the mom's last post, please post: "You are teaching them a lesson they never learned at home. Good for you!" Are the people posting replies just as Bat Cr*p Crazy as she is? I wonder if all of the "friends" replying are even MORE fake accounts she has created to back her up. :ack2: 5 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DawnM Posted April 1, 2015 Author Share Posted April 1, 2015 I wonder if all of the "friends" replying are even MORE fake accounts she has created to back her up. :ack2: Huh, I hadn't thought of that. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kristi26 Posted April 1, 2015 Share Posted April 1, 2015 Definitely crazy and weird. On a different note, since the anticlimactic end to the "missing friend" thread, this one is shaping up to take its place as lovely entertainment. :lol: 6 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LucyStoner Posted April 1, 2015 Share Posted April 1, 2015 Talk about living through your children. Extremely inappropriate, creepy, weird, the whole tamale of just freaking wrong. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TranquilMind Posted April 1, 2015 Share Posted April 1, 2015 We have a woman who used to be a friend. I say that because she has done some very bizarre things this past year (or we just started noticing it this past year) and we keep our distance. Anyway, last year she said she started a Twitter account for her 11 year old daughter. SHE posts on it as if she is the girl. We found out now that she has started a FB account for her daughter too and it looks very much like she is doing the same thing......posting as if she is the girl (the style of writing and the mannerism are exactly like her own.) But she is posting things like, "I did this very wonderful thing today and Mommy was so proud of me and told me so." or "Mommy made me a special meal today and I felt so special and loved." The girl is 11, not 2. I find the entire thing very odd and creepy. Am I just reading too much into it because I truly don't care for the mother? That is strange. No 11 year old would write like that. Somebody had better check to see that her daughter is ok. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Seasider Posted April 1, 2015 Share Posted April 1, 2015 Ha! I thought Catfish, too! DawnM, have you seen that documentary? If not, you might enjoy it right about now. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
I talk to the trees Posted April 1, 2015 Share Posted April 1, 2015 That is 15 pounds of bad judgement in a 5 pound sack. :lol: Must remember this one! Mark down another "Yes, that's really weird" vote. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lizzie in Ma Posted April 2, 2015 Share Posted April 2, 2015 No, it's creepy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PinkInTheBlue Posted April 2, 2015 Share Posted April 2, 2015 Ok, that's super bizarre. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NotSoObvious Posted April 2, 2015 Share Posted April 2, 2015 I learn about the weirdest things on this board. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ravin Posted April 2, 2015 Share Posted April 2, 2015 Oh my. Now she is posting (on her own page) about where she works (she teaches) and is bashing her students on FB and telling others how she "put them in their place." UGH. I would be sorely tempted to take screen shots of all the school stuff and send it to the principal. 6 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bolt. Posted April 2, 2015 Share Posted April 2, 2015 It's really strange. The other possibilities and motives speculated above are all possible. It also might be in a (slightly) less weird way, perhaps the 11 year old is being "taught" to use social media by being told what to write by her mom. Maybe they are doing some kind of character development plan through mandatory posting on gratefulness? (Maybe DD is being passive aggressive and posting *exactly* what she is told to post, nothing more, nothing less.) Ie: Mom: "OK, dear tell me 3 things you are grateful for today." DD: "Nothing. I don't know." Mom: "Can't you see I made you supper?" DD: "Yeah." Mom: "Aren't you grateful?" DD: "Sure. Whatever. It's good." Mom: "You should feel special and loved!" DD: "Fine. Thank you for supper. I feel special and loved." Mom: "You should put that on facebook. You should post cheerful grateful things." DD: "What should I put?" Mom: "That your mommy made you a special meal today, and that you feel special and loved." DD: "Fine. 'Mommy made me a special meal today and I felt so special and loved.' I did it. Can I go now?" Mom: (Arrrrrrg! Why isn't this working???) 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Suzanne115 Posted April 2, 2015 Share Posted April 2, 2015 Weird and Creepy - My almost 13 year old would be mortified if I did something like that. I feel bad for her daughter. Suzanne Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HS Mom in NC Posted April 2, 2015 Share Posted April 2, 2015 I would be sorely tempted to take screen shots of all the school stuff and send it to the principal. I wouldn't be surprised at all if there’s a policy for school employees about what they are and are not allowed to post on FB as it relates to students and colleagues. I also wouldn't be surprised if the principal wanted to know if this kind of thing was going on with one of his employees and students. I have a cousin whose husband posts on FB complaints about their son's ps teacher. It's ridiculous. Even if the complaints are legitimate, it's something to discuss with the teacher and principal, not something to comment on in social media. So it goes both ways. 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest submarines Posted April 2, 2015 Share Posted April 2, 2015 It's really strange. The other possibilities and motives speculated above are all possible. It also might be in a (slightly) less weird way, perhaps the 11 year old is being "taught" to use social media by being told what to write by her mom. Maybe they are doing some kind of character development plan through mandatory posting on gratefulness? (Maybe DD is being passive aggressive and posting *exactly* what she is told to post, nothing more, nothing less.) Ie: Mom: "OK, dear tell me 3 things you are grateful for today." DD: "Nothing. I don't know." Mom: "Can't you see I made you supper?" DD: "Yeah." Mom: "Aren't you grateful?" DD: "Sure. Whatever. It's good." Mom: "You should feel special and loved!" DD: "Fine. Thank you for supper. I feel special and loved." Mom: "You should put that on facebook. You should post cheerful grateful things." DD: "What should I put?" Mom: "That your mommy made you a special meal today, and that you feel special and loved." DD: "Fine. 'Mommy made me a special meal today and I felt so special and loved.' I did it. Can I go now?" Mom: (Arrrrrrg! Why isn't this working???) Something like this was my first thought as well. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
December Posted April 2, 2015 Share Posted April 2, 2015 Just wondering, how can you be sure that it isn't the 11 year old posting? I mean, that would be really weird too and might possibly hint to a very strange family dynamic, but how do you know for sure it is the mom and not the 11 year old? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
katilac Posted April 3, 2015 Share Posted April 3, 2015 Weird, sure, but I wouldn't report anything . . . unless you're confident you can out-crazy her. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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