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I upped my step goal from 3000 to 6000 steps. I have gone through some really bad fibro flares in the last month because of it. Conventional medical opinion is that you should slow down and rest if you have a flare. (Which I have always done in the past) but this time I gritted my teeth and walked anyway.

 

Also I am testing my bloodsugar 5x a day. Fasting and two hours post prandial for three meals and one snack. I have been making food choices based on my bloodsugar numbers. My numbers have been coming down.

 

I have also been stocking up on those “Sargento Balanced Break†snacks with are a small amount of cheese and trail mix for snacks. It’s premeasured for me and includes protein.

 

 

Hooray for improvements!  I often will get those same Sargento thingies to take along as small meals when I need to eat at a DD's activity (like long art days or long Aikido evenings).

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You know, saying "ignore this thread" to this group is like saying "don't push the big red button!" 

Homeschoolers.     They always think the rules don't apply to them.

Coming out of my long time lurking because I couldn't ignore this thread..  :leaving:

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I funeraled yesterday.  I hate funerals, but I show up because it matters to the loved ones of the deceased.  The wife of the deceased is my friend whom I haven't seen in several months since our schedules simply haven't coordinated.  When she's ready we will get together again. 

 

This is the first time I have also participated in the long line of cars following the hearse to the cemetery.  In other states where I lived the hearse and a few funeral home vehicles containing closest family were escorted, but not all of the rest of the attendee's vehicles.  Most everyone stopped and pulled over to the shoulder, even the traffic on the other side of the (not divided) road.  We did have one very short incident that left me wondering -- an ambulance with lights and sirens went past going the other way.  The rules here are everyone (going in both directions, unless the road is divided) pulls over for ambulances, and it seems to be the same rule for funerals processions.  Our procession didn't pull over (and it was led by a police car) and neither did the ambulance -- we just all kept driving.  I will have to inquire further as to what is expected in such situations.

 

Since DD13 went to Aikido last night and was thinking of staying for both classes (kids' and adults') I stopped on my way home and picked up Arby's for DD16 and me.  DH and DD13 ended up not staying that late at Aikido, and got their own supper on the way home.

 

Starting at bedtime last night my gut started complaining.  I have been vehemently refusing to get sick since before we left CO.  This might be an objection to last night's supper, or it might be me starting to succumb to something (now that I have a little more time to spare).  This morning my gut is unhappy, I have nothing in the house I actually want to eat, and I feel like someone kicked me in a kidney.  

 

We are supposed to have Park Day today (a Valentine's Day one), and light rain possible during it.  Tomorrow is now predicted to get quite stormy.  I told the kids this morning we need to start having class time again, but I don't wanna.  I might assign them stuff I want them looking at over the weekend, leave them to the rest, and curl up on the sofa.

 

I wish I had some homemade chicken noodle soup, with Grandma Dommie noodles (a recipe in DH's family, for handmade noodles).

 

 

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Back from art. Much paint was splashed on paper, and good fun was had by all. My new apple picture is coming along nicely and everyone got a kick out of the apples to peppers painting story.

 

ETA: It's a Paint-Po Booyah!

 

 

Any chance you can share an image of that painting?

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PPS for Angi. The stoopid bone broth might be helping with the weight too because I drink it (yes, still) at night and the high protein might keep my sugars stable overnight.

 

 

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I have some store-bought bone broths/stocks in the pantry.  Maybe I can mock up some soup from those.  I have some good veggies to put in it....

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He came to Dad's yesterday and we talked. I caved. We're home. It's probably a mistake to believe him, but maybe he is taking this seriously? I probably sound like a fool. Maybe I am one. Please don't hate me.

 

 

:grouphug:  :grouphug:  :grouphug:   I certainly don't hate you and I understand going back.  I probably would have gone sooner.  Others will have better advice than I do.  Hold him to the counseling.  We love you and we're here for you.    

 

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Are you making it yourself? I’ve never thought it was oily, but I refrigerate it and skim off the hard layer of fat from the top before I use it.

 

 

This can also be done with store-bought.  Pour the stuff into a wide-mouthed container or a bowl, chill it, then pull off any fat.

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Bookie, if you are going to try to make this work I suggest that you require a mental health evaluation for him and compliance with any treatment indicated.

 

I don't know enough of your situation to know what similarities and differences there may be, but I'll tell you a bit about my marriage.

 

My Dh has some great qualities; we share similar values, religious perspective, family and life goals. At his best he is gentle, sincere, funny, and humble.

 

But he struggles with chronic anxiety and depression, and they can turn him into a demon. Irritability is the most common symptom of depression in men, and from my perspective it is a huge symptom of anxiety as well. When his brain is not functioning correctly he is emotionally volatile and can be verbally and emotionally abusive towards me and the children.

 

I'm still married to him because he doesn't want to be that way AND because he has been willing to do what it takes to take care of himself so that his illness does not constantly sabotage our relationship. We've had many dark moments over the years, but as long as he keeps working with the doctors and therapists we have more good periods than bad.

 

We go to counseling together at this point, not really as marriage counseling but more as therapy for him with me as support person and occasional reality checker (sometimes the therapist needs to know stuff beyond what Dh perceives or volunteers).

 

He did a sleep study a couple of years ago and using a BiPAP machine so that he gets decent sleep helps immensely.

 

He has been on medication for 15 years. He still wishes he could do without but every attempt to wean off so far has resulted in a fairly rapid deterioration right back to suicidality (which was where he was before starting medication).

 

With counseling and medication and support he has been able to stay functional, hold down a job to support the family, and be a decent husband and father.

 

Its not ideal, it leaves a lot on my shoulders, but we have a positive marriage relationship and he has a mostly positive parenting relationship with the kids (this part depends on me doing most of the actual heavy lifting of parenting and being firm about boundaries when he is on edge).

 

I've been deeply impressed by his willingness to keep fighting this battle.

 

I'll delete this later so please don't quote.

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Me too!  And I would have done something about it a long time ago but dh and I disagree what that something is.  I want a maintenance free shower stall.  He wants to replace tile and glass with...... more tile and glass.   :blink:   Because that's really going to solve the problem.   :rolleyes:    :D

 

 

The shower/tub surrounds in the Hampton Inn hotels I've stayed at are Corian, like my kitchen counters.  I like Corian.  I have been eyeing those, thinking that would be very helpful at home (no grout lines, just silicone seal at the corner seams where the walls meet).  The hotels' surrounds come stamped with a nice design, too, so they have some of the appeal of tile without the grout.

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Wally just knocked over the step stool (collapsed flat and leaning against the kitchen wall) and kept going with it taking a ride. Silly robot.

 

 

Well, his namesake does like to collect stuff....

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My jerk cat tried to kill me today. I was trying to give him the medicine that makes him less of a jerk and he lured me closer and closer to the stairs. Then the murderous fiend bolted down those stairs taking me with him. I fell like a 2 year old, hitting every step and rolling the whole way.

 

But he didn’t succeed and now we aren’t friends. He won’t even take treats or catnip from me like I’m the one who tried to kill him! I have a few nasty bruises and my back hurts but considering the fall, it’s amazing how undead I am.

 

And this was after Baby didn’t sleep last night until 7:30am today, and before Starbucks wouldn’t give me my cherry mocha, DD insisted on getting in trouble, and a defective water bottle leaked and made it look like I peed my pants in public. 😢 It hasn’t been the best day.

 

 

:grouphug:  :grouphug:  :grouphug:

 

Perhaps your DH should dose the cat for a while.  

 

My cat took her medicine (in tuna) yesterday morning just fine (per her usual schedule, since she gets a daily dose of Cosequin that way), but didn't eat last night's dose for some reason.  This is her antibiotic.  If she isn't going to take it I'll have to cram it down her throat, plus it will be longer before the cone comes off.  I must explain this to her today.

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Maybe a closet--it's not like I'm all that prolific. :D

 

 

Gallery.  Closets don't have good light.  And you keep painting, so we need space for future acquisitions.

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Go Critter! It’s yo birthday! Woot woot! *imagine me doing the cabbage patch*

 

 

:confused1:   What is "the cabbage patch"?  All I can picture is that Spud image squishing up into fat cheeks and talking like a Muppet.

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Nope.

 

Also:

 

Currently taking applications for a stay at home parent. Must be able to drive kids aged 8 - 14 to 12 different activities. Also be able to simultaneously tutor 3 - 5 different math levels, three instruments, four world languages, attend performances for said activities, set up and maintain the family calendar, and clean the house while I'm working. Also join the PTSA and help people sort tee-shirts and sharpen pencils and set up the class valentines party among other things. Social butterflies and people who like to do random home improvements such as re-caulking the bathtub highly preferred. Must not eat a lot or demand vacations however, because this is a high cost of living area and we can't afford another non-working adult. College education highly desired as you should be a great example to the children and well-educated enough to guide them through a rigorous high school education and to college. Salary: $0. Benefits: Might be able to get you on the company insurance. Condescension from society at large guaranteed but I will really value your priceless contribution to our family. By priceless I mean, you won't get paid and you also will sacrifice the last bagel if we run out, because you put the kids first.

 

Seriously though... help.

 

 

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He came to Dad's yesterday and we talked. I caved. We're home. It's probably a mistake to believe him, but maybe he is taking this seriously? I probably sound like a fool. Maybe I am one. Please don't hate me.

 

I worry about you, but I don't hate you.  :grouphug:

 

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Bookie,  :grouphug:  :grouphug:  :grouphug:  :grouphug: .  Keep checking in here.  Keep getting the apartment ready at your Dad's house, and consider keeping some cash funds and some clothing and things over there (quietly).  Work for the best, but have contingency plans in case things go worse.

 

Listen to the advice here.  We come from different backgrounds, but often there are similarities in how to manage things.  We will never judge you, and we ask that you don't judge yourself (and don't accept other people judging you).  We are rooting for you.

 

 

Maize,  :grouphug:  :grouphug:  :grouphug: !  Thank you for sharing.

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Amazon Prime sucked me into a show called The Expanse.  Then it said I had to pay to watch any of it past Season 1.  DH remembered listening to the first book of the series on Audible, so now I have bought the first 3 books in the series -- I ordered paperback, thinking they would be small, but these are soft-cover of hardback size.

 

I might curl up on the sofa and read a bunch today.

 

Though my brain does say I need to make a phone call or two....  about something....

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He came to Dad's yesterday and we talked. I caved. We're home. It's probably a mistake to believe him, but maybe he is taking this seriously? I probably sound like a fool. Maybe I am one. Please don't hate me.

 

No one hates you. We love you and care.  :grouphug:

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:grouphug:  Bookie. Nobody hates you, honey. You're doing your best, and that's all anybody can do.

 

 

 

Mr. Whitehawk is going to the doctor later to see whether he has the flu. I've had COFFEE and I'm off to do the things.

 

 

 

It's a love-and-care BOOYAH! for the ITT. :001_wub:

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Good Morning!!!!

 

COFFEE!!!☕ï¸â˜•ï¸â˜•ï¸â˜•ï¸â˜•ï¸â˜•ï¸ ( but I had to wait for it because I forgot to push the button last night before I went to bed😩😩)

 

Friday!!ðŸ‘ðŸ‘

 

Nothing going on today!!ðŸ‘ðŸ‘ðŸ‘ðŸ‘

 

Critter’s having a fish fry?? I’ll be there!!

 

((Bookie)) You hang in there, gal!! We got your back, no matter what.

 

Whitehawk, hope Mr. Whtehawk has a successful dr. Appt. and feels better soon!!

 

((Maize))

 

Spud, you need to video yourself doing that cabbage patch dance so we can all see what it looks like. 😜😜😜

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I may or may not have danced around the room squealing after I recovered from the shock.

 

ETA: Requestabooyah!

 

I got a request in my box,

I jumped clean out of both my sox,

I sent the pages out the gate,

Now I get to write and wait.

 

https://www.christiesrealestate.com/eng/lifestyles/private-islands

 

No pressure, Critter. No pressure.

 

 

 

greedy.gif

 

 

 

Opps! No, wait! That's not the one!

 

Here. Here's it is. teehee.gif

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We classed.  I did more than get them resuming MCTLA -- basically we checked in on all subjects going to date, and looked at what we need to do to prepare for a "normal" school week starting Monday.  I also told both to check with their Dad this weekend about their math.

 

An hour more and I can make a phone call or two to be productive on the Dad Project.  The rest of the time I get to curl up with a book, maybe nap.  I'm calling off Park Day for us today.

 

 

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He came to Dad's yesterday and we talked. I caved. We're home. It's probably a mistake to believe him, but maybe he is taking this seriously? I probably sound like a fool. Maybe I am one. Please don't hate me.

 

:grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug:

 

No judgment. Just love. I'll pray that everything works out well for you and the littles.

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Capsule Wardrobe (Youtube link)

 

Basically:

 

Divide your clothes into groups for each season -- spring, summer, fall, winter

 

Choose a couple of basic colors to build from -- black, navy, brown, etc.

 

Choose accent colors that look good on you based on skin tone, hair color, etc.

 

Get rid of everything else.

 

 

 

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I was awake from 2:30-6:30.

 

Thank you for sharing with me. Yes, that is a lot like what it is around here, except he hasn't been willing to do anything. He says he is now, that coming home to an empty house and spending a night alone is the reality check he needed, and he's willing to take it seriously. He's contacted a therapist already and made an appointment for marriage counseling for us for next week. I will also insist he have a mental health evaluation and a full physical and do what's required. He says he will. I want to believe him. I do not want to break up our family. I will leave again, if necessary. Dad says he's cleaning the apartment "for next time."

To be honest, when Reader couldn't breathe due to smoke and dander and dust, I panicked. He showed up soon after. I don't know what would have happened if it hadn't been that progression of events. Doesn't matter, because we are where we are, but I'm being watchful.

Thank you for the support.

You're a good mom.

 

  

Capsule Wardrobe (Youtube link)

 

Basically:

 

Divide your clothes into groups for each season -- spring, summer, fall, winter

 

Choose a couple of basic colors to build from -- black, navy, brown, etc.

 

Choose accent colors that look good on you based on skin tone, hair color, etc.

 

Get rid of everything else.

 

 

 

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What do I do if my only pair of pants has holes in the upper thighs and I don't look good in anything between November and March?

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What does it mean to capsule your wardrobe?

I pared it down to only things I love and actually wear. I ended up with 44 pieces that all go together to make outfits.

 

I now have:

16 tops

9 bottoms (5 pants, 3 shorts, 1 skirt)

7 jackets/cardigans (this is probably too many considering I live in Texas, but I like options)

2 dresses

10 pairs of shoes

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I turned Autocorrect off on my phone and I am so much happier. At least now if I make a mistake it is my mistake and not autocorrect swooping in to change things as I hit send.

 

 

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My autocorrect is not Christian.
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itired.

 

I got the oil changed in my car and endured the waiting room with TV and music going at the same time.  I came home and and medicated with ibuprofen and a coke.

 

I also found out that for a reasonable rate I can rent a 2018 odyssey next time I need service.  Yeah baby!  :drool5:  :drool5:  :drool5:    

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DS last night:  Mom, I'm eleven.  My brain needs some down time to process all of this stuff.  I think I need an iPad break.

 

 

 

:lol:

 

 

What does he think happens at 47? 😂😂😂

 

 

I don't know!

 

 

 

DH just texted, "There is a very crabby bear in the schoolroom that has to write 5 paragraphs."  :nopity:

 

 

Trust me, he should save all his Ipad breaks for when he's 47.  He's going to need them more then.   :laugh:

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