mom@shiloh Posted March 12, 2014 Share Posted March 12, 2014 about inappropriate touching. Some things have come to light recently in our community which have reminded me of this. Even in families who were very vigilant about keeping an eye on their children, some unfortunate things have happened. Just a reminder. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
umsami Posted March 12, 2014 Share Posted March 12, 2014 Good reminder. There was an article in the Daily Mail (yeah…I know) about a Mom who casually decided to talk to her 3 year old daughter…and found out she was being abused. Quite a shock. I like the UK's PANTS acronym. http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-2577342/Ron-touched-Mothers-horror-casual-conversation-three-year-old-daughter-revealed-sexually-abused-family-friend.html#ixzz2vbwwYqTq "Rachel explains: 'I hadn't thought about talking to Hannah about abuse before as she was only three-years-old and I didn't think that it would be something that would happen to us. Not long after hearing about the NSPCC's Underwear Rule, I was putting some cream on her where her pants had rubbed and thought it would be the perfect opportunity to talk to her. 'I said: "Where your pants cover; that area is for you. No-one else can touch this area." I expected her to just say OK but she said "Ron puts his fingers up there."' P is for... Privates are private Explain to your child that no one should ask to see or touch their private parts. Sometimes doctors, nurses or family members might have to. Explain that this is OK, but that those people should always explain why, and ask your child if it's OK first.A is for... Always remember your body belongs to youLet your child know their body belongs to them, and no one else. No one has the right to make them do anything that makes them feel uncomfortable. And if anyone tries, tell your child they have the right to say no.N is for... No means noMake sure your child understands that they have the right to say "no" to unwanted touch - even to a family member or someone they know or love.T is for... Talk about secrets that upset youExplain the differences between "good" and "bad" secrets. Phrases like "it's our little secret"are an abuser's way of making a child feel worried, or scared to tell someone what is happening to them. Good secrets can be things like surprise parties or presents for other people. Bad secrets make you feel sad, worried or frightened.S is for... Speak up, someone can helpTell your child that if they ever feel sad, anxious or frightened they should talk to an adult they trust. This doesn't have to be a family member. It can also be a teacher or a friend's parent - ChildLine. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mom@shiloh Posted March 12, 2014 Author Share Posted March 12, 2014 Thank you. That is an excellent tool. It sickens me that it can happen so quickly and so young. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
maize Posted March 12, 2014 Share Posted March 12, 2014 Thanks for the reminder. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ashfern Posted March 12, 2014 Share Posted March 12, 2014 I was just thinking that I need to do this. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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