Dmmetler Posted November 13, 2013 Share Posted November 13, 2013 At exactly the same time as hers-and at a house, so it wasn't exactly a limited venue. I declined. Sigh.... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Catwoman Posted November 13, 2013 Share Posted November 13, 2013 Wow. The other mom sounds like a real peach. It's not like she didn't know about your dd's party. :glare: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
*Lulu* Posted November 13, 2013 Share Posted November 13, 2013 That makes the other situation a bit clearer. Very sad, but good to know. ((Hugs)) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Seasider Posted November 13, 2013 Share Posted November 13, 2013 Wow, isn't that about a week after the other girls got theirs? Sorry. It is a sad life lesson for your daughter. Hugs to you both. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MysteryJen Posted November 13, 2013 Share Posted November 13, 2013 I am sorry. You always hope that people would be better than that. Hugs to your daughter, her birthday party sounds like the best one anyway. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest submarines Posted November 13, 2013 Share Posted November 13, 2013 It's so hard to imagine there are people like this. And I don't even think it's the kids, it must be the parents who are the driving and the perpetuating force. Beyond disgusting. I'm so sorry. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dmmetler Posted November 14, 2013 Author Share Posted November 14, 2013 I didn't even bother to tell DD about the message today-not worth it. We're SO done with dance at the end of this year-either we'll find another studio, or I'll let her add another tumbling class-she likes that better anyway. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Catwoman Posted November 14, 2013 Share Posted November 14, 2013 I didn't even bother to tell DD about the message today-not worth it. We're SO done with dance at the end of this year-either we'll find another studio, or I'll let her add another tumbling class-she likes that better anyway. I think you're making the right choice. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Anne in CA Posted November 14, 2013 Share Posted November 14, 2013 I feel for you. This whole situation is rotten. You are doing the right thing to teach your dd to move on with her social life. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dmmetler Posted November 14, 2013 Author Share Posted November 14, 2013 DD's mentor e-mailed me. Some of her other research students (college and grad students) want to help make DD's day special. Apparently, these young women have had enough mean-girl experiences in their life to be angry on DD's behalf. I don't know what they've had planned-but I know that if her science teammates just show up, it will mean a lot to DD. And it means a lot to me that these girls, most of whom don't work directly with DD (DD does her research mostly locally, and submits her numbers, but has only met with the whole team a couple of times) are being so sweet. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Seasider Posted November 14, 2013 Share Posted November 14, 2013 DD's mentor e-mailed me. Some of her other research students (college and grad students) want to help make DD's day special. Apparently, these young women have had enough mean-girl experiences in their life to be angry on DD's behalf. I don't know what they've had planned-but I know that if her science teammates just show up, it will mean a lot to DD. And it means a lot to me that these girls, most of whom don't work directly with DD (DD does her research mostly locally, and submits her numbers, but has only met with the whole team a couple of times) are being so sweet. What a lovely example for your dd. This is what REAL friends do for one another. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
readwithem Posted November 14, 2013 Share Posted November 14, 2013 DD's mentor e-mailed me. Some of her other research students (college and grad students) want to help make DD's day special. Apparently, these young women have had enough mean-girl experiences in their life to be angry on DD's behalf. I don't know what they've had planned-but I know that if her science teammates just show up, it will mean a lot to DD. And it means a lot to me that these girls, most of whom don't work directly with DD (DD does her research mostly locally, and submits her numbers, but has only met with the whole team a couple of times) are being so sweet. This made me smile. Beauty out of ashes. Hope she has THE BEST birthday ever. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
readwithem Posted November 14, 2013 Share Posted November 14, 2013 I didn't even bother to tell DD about the message today-not worth it. We're SO done with dance at the end of this year-either we'll find another studio, or I'll let her add another tumbling class-she likes that better anyway. Would it be possible to go ahead and switch now or over the Christmas break? If she prefers tumbling anyway - what is the purpose of continuing with dance till the end of the year? I understand wanting to keep commitments - but what about cutting your losses? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Catwoman Posted November 14, 2013 Share Posted November 14, 2013 I'm so glad to hear that they are doing something special for your dd. I'm sure it will mean a lot to her, and I know it means a lot to you, too. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest submarines Posted November 14, 2013 Share Posted November 14, 2013 DD's mentor e-mailed me. Some of her other research students (college and grad students) want to help make DD's day special. Apparently, these young women have had enough mean-girl experiences in their life to be angry on DD's behalf. I don't know what they've had planned-but I know that if her science teammates just show up, it will mean a lot to DD. And it means a lot to me that these girls, most of whom don't work directly with DD (DD does her research mostly locally, and submits her numbers, but has only met with the whole team a couple of times) are being so sweet. Wonderful. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KungFuPanda Posted November 15, 2013 Share Posted November 15, 2013 Would it be possible to go ahead and switch now or over the Christmas break? If she prefers tumbling anyway - what is the purpose of continuing with dance till the end of the year? I understand wanting to keep commitments - but what about cutting your losses? I agree. I'd finish the semester and let the holiday shows (assuming they exist) be the ending point. The new year seems like a natural time to switch and there will likely be other kids making a change at this time so DD might not be the only new kid. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dmmetler Posted November 15, 2013 Author Share Posted November 15, 2013 Would it be possible to go ahead and switch now or over the Christmas break? If she prefers tumbling anyway - what is the purpose of continuing with dance till the end of the year? I understand wanting to keep commitments - but what about cutting your losses? We're paid up through April, including pretty heavy deposits on recital. Since it's really not the class that's at fault (and the instructor has been keeping the party talk to a minimum even before this whole thing happened-she pretty much keeps the girls busy and sweating the entire time (it's a street jazz/hip-hop class)), and there will only be one class after the two parties both happen before a week off (and after that the Holiday stuff starts taking over). I'm thinking we can last out the year rather than fight with the studio to try to get money back. They don't do a mid-year recital, only an end of year one. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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