QueenieReighn Posted June 25, 2013 Share Posted June 25, 2013 I'm curious if there are any good curriculums out there for boys about modesty. I would especially love any suggestions for young boys, but older boy ones will be checked out and possibly used too. Thank you for the help! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Elfknitter.# Posted June 25, 2013 Share Posted June 25, 2013 Modesty fir boys as in don't let your butt crack and undies show? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kiwik Posted June 25, 2013 Share Posted June 25, 2013 Or as in don't tell everyone how great you think you are? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SarahW Posted June 25, 2013 Share Posted June 25, 2013 You mean a book that teaches: Don't pull down your pants and show all of your friends your thingy? Don't pee outside right in front of people? Don't hold your crotch every time you're nervous talking to someone? :bigear: :bigear: :bigear: :rofl: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ktgrok Posted June 25, 2013 Share Posted June 25, 2013 Wouldn't this just be part of every day conversation? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mysticmomma Posted June 25, 2013 Share Posted June 25, 2013 Huh? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Walking-Iris Posted June 25, 2013 Share Posted June 25, 2013 Get dressed before you play in the backyard. And pull your pants up in the bathroom. No walking down the hall with your pants around your ankles. Especially when there are visitors. Just two that I need to remind my 5 year old about. Really it wouldn't surprise me at all that someone wrote a book about it somewhere, but is it necessary? I don't see why. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mohini Posted June 25, 2013 Share Posted June 25, 2013 There's this. I've never used it - but thinking of getting it. http://www.christianbook.com/squire-scroll-tale-rewards-pure-heart/jennie-bishop/9781593170790/pd/170793?item_code=WW&netp_id=351975&event=ESRCN&view=details Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Farrar Posted June 25, 2013 Share Posted June 25, 2013 Some things are normal growing up things that don't require curricula. Just sayin. I have no idea about the age of the OP's kids, but for my 8.5 yos, it's only within the last year that, despite lots of reminders, they have grown any internal sense of modesty whatsoever. I think it's rather natural for little boys to want to run around naked. I don't think that's immodest, it's just youth. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kathryn Posted June 25, 2013 Share Posted June 25, 2013 I don't understand. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mergath Posted June 25, 2013 Share Posted June 25, 2013 I agree with everyone else. Also, please tell me you're not looking for a curriculum that will teach your boys about why girls need to be modest or whatever. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Miss Marple Posted June 25, 2013 Share Posted June 25, 2013 The only modesty issue I've had with 4 boys is that the youngest likes to wear tank tops with large arm holes and thinks it's OK to wear them to a restaurant/dining room. I think I've finally convinced him that hairy pits are not something others wish to see at while dining. Anything that would be in a curriculum would, I think, be geared to older kids rather than toddlers. Toddlerhood was the time my boys were the most immodest. The went around without bottoms in the summer while potty training and often relieved themselves on the trees in the yard. In our defense, we live on 60 wooded acres and I always put bottoms on them when we had company. :) I'm curious about what you are hoping to gain from a curriculum....most people have their own "family values" when it comes to issues of dress and those are easily passed on to the kids without a curriculum. I guess I could see something like this being used with a teen who was resistant to the family rules of dress, but I'm at a loss to recognize the benefit for a young child. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
foofoobunny Posted June 25, 2013 Share Posted June 25, 2013 Wow, if you don't agree with what the op wants to teach her kids, stay out of the thread. I think it's nice she wants to teach her kids modesty. I don't have any ideas for a curriculum. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
amazzie Posted June 25, 2013 Share Posted June 25, 2013 It seems that modesty -as far as the don't run around naked or pee where people can see you modesty- is something that boys and girls develop. My nine year old son is very aware of being private about private things, but my four year old has no qualms about exposing herself. And it doesn't matter how many times we tell her to not pull her dress up in the store or wait until she gets to the bathroom to disrobe! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PinkyandtheBrains. Posted June 25, 2013 Share Posted June 25, 2013 Not knowing what is meant, it is hard to suggest anything. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SilverMoon Posted June 25, 2013 Share Posted June 25, 2013 I'm not sure where to go with that one either. Without a better description of what you're looking for, I'd say that one doesn't exist. Try making a list of what specifically you want your boys to learn, then make a point to focus on one each week. Make sure they have honorable heroes to look up to. King Arthur, Robin Hood, Grandpa, scout leaders, pastors, family friends, and such. Read fairy tales and chivalrous adventures. (Narnia, Hobbit, etc.) For what it's worth, maturity was all my older two boys needed. Somewhere they figured out wearing just underwear out of the house wasn't socially acceptable all on their own. They think it's tasteless to have ones britches at half mast with skivvies hanging out for all to see, and they both know how to wear belts appropriately. The role models they strive to be like are true gentlemen. (The youngest boy is two, and still merrily oblivious to anyone noticing he's only wearing a pair of skivvies. I'm just glad he had those on.) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MyLittleBears Posted June 25, 2013 Share Posted June 25, 2013 How young are you thinking? I don't have any recommendations for really little guys. As a mother of three 3 boys, I can tell you there were times (toddlerhood) I could barely keep clothing on them and I was okay with it. I just made sure they were dressed for company or going out. They do get more self aware as they get older. For older guys, maybe some of the books from Sandi Queen might interest you. She has a lot of character building books if that's what you are looking for. We especially liked From boy to man for talking about bodily changes and such stuff. They also have a book for younger kids about guarding your eyes. Not sure if this is what you're looking for but it looks really cute. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TracyP Posted June 25, 2013 Share Posted June 25, 2013 Yeah, it is really hard to understand what the OP is looking for, but if we are making a list... Don't take your pants and undies off until you are in the bathroom. Don't put your hand down your pants while singing in front of the church. :lol: Seriously, I don't think there is a curriculum for this stuff. Maturity makes a huge difference. As they get older you can discuss what is proper dress for different situations in your family. Not modesty, per se, but as your boys get older you might be interested in something like George Washington's rules of civility. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cricket Posted June 25, 2013 Share Posted June 25, 2013 Go through the book of Proverbs? I've seen these people at our homeschool convention but I don't know anything about their materials. http://www.generationsofvirtue.org/ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ecclecticmum Posted June 25, 2013 Share Posted June 25, 2013 Hmmm....I don't think I have heard of one that does that, but if there is, and its bright, colourful, and lots of silly pictures, advise me, because I would want it too (we use lots of Social Stories I write up on Word with pictures pulled from the internet). We have the crotch grabbing when needing to go to the toilet problem here as well as other ones. Because "modesty" is not something I think of all the time with him (here we are with a gender inequality thing here, because I am always preaching about modesty to my eldest) I keep forgetting to do up Stories regarding that. Mine are mostly about respecting your toys, being nice to siblings, playing gentle with animals, whisper voices etc. I as thinking Pearables for Boys, Little Contenders for the Faith, and Queen Homeschool stuff, but I'm not sure if any of that covers "modesty", its all character, and well-rounded, nice, training, in character quality, but as for issues of modesty, you would have to check out the individual curriculums. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
QueenieReighn Posted June 26, 2013 Author Share Posted June 26, 2013 Thank you for these suggestions. I think I have many leads of books that will support the everyday reminders. Sometimes they just don't 'get it' from Mom and Dad and a book helps. :-) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jess4879 Posted June 26, 2013 Share Posted June 26, 2013 This falls into character building & virtues, so you might check into curriculum like that. I find that female modesty is addressed far more often than male modesty, sadly. Sometimes having a book or curriculum IS what gets through to kids. My kids have always been told not to pick their noses. They know it's impolite and just plain gross. It wasn't until we covered germs in science, however, and they realized exactly what boogers are that they stopped picking their noses entirely. So yes, as several people commented, it was something that we covered in every day life, but it took a little something extra to really get through. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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